Transformational Coaching

Transformation is a form of creation. It’s where we’re taking something that has already undergone the basic stages of creation in the initial sense, and continuing to create it by growing and evolving it into new and higher forms of itself.

All transformation requires the use of our creative ability through the fundamental capacities of choice and free will. We have to first decide what changes we want to make, or what aspects of ourselves we’re going to intentionally develop, form that idea in our imagination as a reality, imbue it with strong positive emotions, then discipline ourselves into new behaviors that actualize those changes as an outer reality. A reality of our own making that we brought about through our actions in and intentional and deliberate manner.

We are all born into this world with a kind of formula for creating inside of us. This formula exists as our dreams in terms of what we love and have an affinity for, and our strengths, talents and gifts that are usually apart of what we love, and weakness and fears that act to prevent us from obtaining what we dream of. Our dream for our life is our navigation system for our destiny as our life’s story as a theme or general idea we’re always naturally gravitating towards. Our strengths and talents are tools for creating the life we dream of, and our weaknesses and fears are what prevent us from achieving our life’s ambition. Love of an idea draws us into it, fear acts to stop us and prevent us from moving into it. These 3 aspects always exist in relationship to each other because they set the natural stage for the lessons that will facilitate our soul’s growth by way of them. Our dream is the overall pattern as a story we tell by living that exists in polarity of positive and negative aspects. Positive expands while negative contracts. One is creative, the other destructive. One facilitates our growth the other sabotages it. This equation as our internal programming shows us in very clear terms what aspects of our character we came here to develop in this lifetime.

Our interests and passions and what we have a natural affinity for as a way of life or our “life’s work†is what we came here to experience as a quality of consciousness that develops and strengthens the aspects necessary to achieve it in us as our character or identity. A certain character is necessary to tell a certain type of story as the natural expression (thoughts and behaviors) of that character. Our strengths are usually necessary to actualize our dream, while our weaknesses prevent us from actualizing it. We have to walk through or confront our fears and weaknesses in order to realize the dream for our life. Our life path is never easy, and always requires us to overcome our fears and weaknesses in order to obtain.

The only purpose of life is to set the stage necessary for us to grow ourselves by using our will to self-create. All growth only comes by striving, consistent effort, and determination. We have to willfully produce our growth through our actions which require us to access the aspects of ourselves necessary to overcome or bring back into balance the aspects being expressed as our weaknesses and fears. Weaknesses, which are always attached to fear, simply show us what we need to work on and what parts of ourselves we need to bring into harmony by counteracting them with the positive aspect of the same trait. Weaknesses are always the basis for addictions, most of which are destructive in nature. Addictions are formed as a coping device for our weaknesses, where whatever we are addicted to we lack the strength to overcome, and so it serves to control us.

All tendencies that form our behavior are natural forces that form whole patterns that exist in polarity as positive and constructive (active) aspects, and negative and destructive (preventative) aspects. All natural forces exist in polarity as opposite and complementary aspects necessary to stimulate each other and bring balance back to whatever is out of balance that prevents the harmonious expression of the whole or greater pattern that they’re both apart of. For example, we can only know ourselves as “courageous†when we encounter situations in our life that make us afraid and tempted to coward, and we choose instead to take affirmative action in spite of the fear. All experience is relative and formed out of how things exist in relationship and contrast to each other.

So weaknesses simply show us where imbalances exist in our psychological make-up and what aspects we need to access, call forth, and develop by using it to turn the weakness into a strength. What prevents us from living the life of our dreams, shows us the lesson we came here to learn. What we love and desire the most, is also what we have the greatest fears around. Our fears are always associated with our loves. Love and fear are opposite forces in the same idea. Love creates a feeling of resonance as desire and compels us towards what we love, while fear repels us and not only prevents us from moving into what we love, but drives us away from it. Both are centered on the same idea (vibration), one attracts and expands the other repels and contracts.

Our destiny, as what we love and feel an intimate connection with is the larger idea for our life that makes both our strengths and weaknesses apparent. We have to step into our fears in order to dissolve them using courage as the driving force behind love. Fear is designed to stop us from taking action and moving forward. Courage is recognizing the fear, gaining realization around it, and choosing to move forward in spite of the fear. Just the act of stepping forward into what we fear, acts to dissolve the fear. Once it no longer serves to hold us back and weaken us, it no longer exists as real for us. Fear, is in reality, an illusion.

“The only thing to fear is fear itselfâ€

“It’s not what happens to us that matters, but how we react to what happens. What we allow to come through us because of what happensâ€

All transformation comes as a form of self-creation, whether consciously by actively pursuing our destiny, or unconsciously by what seems like the blow of fate. Whether we engage in our own development with full awareness and deliberate actions, or through crisis, where we experience it as happening “to us†through means beyond our control. All life crises are simply changes that force us to move in a new direction, take on a new role, or adapt our life to new conditions. When we willingly adapt to the changes, and realize them as the catalyst for growth, we can bring about intentional and deliberate change that uses the circumstances to develop and bring about new aspects of ourselves necessary to rise up and meet the challenges and triumph by way of them. When we see them as happening “to us†and resist them, we let them overwhelm us, feeling powerless in our own life to change them, and we succumb to them, which not only strengthens our weaknesses making them more prominent, but creates a whole new array of other ones as their offspring. The only thing we truly have control over in life . . . is ourselves. While we can’t change other people or the conditions and circumstances of our life, we can absolutely change how we experience them and how we respond in relationship with them to self-create by way of them.

While we are always undergoing a subtle form of transformation through the relationship we form and exist within with all of life, true creativity only comes through awareness, by forming an idea of what you want to create, then embodying the qualities and behaviors necessary to produce it as your reality of yourself. It’s always a question of whether or not you’re aware of how you’re acting in your own life through the story you tell yourself about things, or whether you remain unaware of how you’re actually acting to create yourself all the time by how you interact with life.

Choice, like everything else, is polar in nature, just as our mind exists in a balance of conscious and subconscious states, we’re always either choosing consciously with awareness, or unconsciously without direct awareness through a reaction of some sort. While most of our choices are made in an automatic fashion through natural and immediate reactions of some sort, by becoming present in our lives and forming a awareness around what’s actually happening while recognizing what it stimulates in us that forms our “reactionsâ€, we can become aware of our own tendencies and make new choices in their place that create new experiences.

All healing is a form of transformation as self-creation that brings what is acting in our lives (selves) to create at the unconscious level into conscious awareness. It comes when we shed light into the darkness and see what we couldn’t see before that equips us with the ability to act in ways that transform what was created in an unconscious manner into what’s created through a conscious choice and intentional actions. Personal transformation, also referred to as our second birth or spiritual awakening, is when we become awake and aware in our own life while realizing our power to create ourselves by way of our life circumstances, and begin exercising our higher capacities of choice, shaping that choice into a reality in our imagination, then willfully acting it out to create an experience of it. While resting in the realization . . . that we created it by simply using our mind in a new way.

Dr. Linda Gadbois
Transformational Coach and Spiritual Teacher

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