How to Release and Erase Memories of People and Events
Posted On September 13, 2019
/ Written by Dr. Linda Gadbois
something that only exist in our mind as a mental construct and replay over and
over due to the intense emotion associated with them. All of what becomes
actual memory that we can vividly recollect in emotional detail years later comes
from significant emotional events (SEE) that had a powerful impact on us in
some way. These events and the memories we formed of them served to change us
in the most fundamental sense, and as we continued to live out of them, they
served to shape our identity and “who” we became because of them.
emotion are always connected due to the fact that the event caused a strong
emotional reaction in us, and those emotions served to shape the nature of the
experience we formed as an interpretation of some kind. Our “experience” doesn’t
come as an objective recollection of the event itself, but how we processed and
internalized it as a means of creating our experience of it. As we internalize
an intense event, we make it “mean” something by the story we tell ourselves
about it in an attempt to put it in perspective as a means of trying to make
sense out of it. We take an existing reality as a strong emotional event and
reprocess it to form a new version of it as our interpretation that gives it
The meaning we give something as the means of experiencing it forms the basis for the storyline we begin telling ourselves that serve to shape us as a person. We create our identity out of the memories we constantly play out in one way or another as the means of producing more of the same type of experiences. They become thematic templates for producing instant interpretations as our perceptual lens and filtering system. They give us a form of referencing system to instantly interpret all new and similar type of events to mean the same thing. As we walk through life we’re always assessing and summing up situations by looking through the thematic filters of our past memories by saying “this means the same things as that”. We consistently shape the present to be a continuation of the past and a means of predicting the future.
We walk into
any situation with preconceived notions and expectations of what’s going to
happen, and we use a dynamic series of mental and emotional filters to only
notice, abstract, and rearrange the information in a way that creates the
experience of our expectations. We’re always saying to ourselves . . . this
means I’m not wanted; that means I’m not loved; I’m not good enough; people can’t
be trusted; life’s unfair; I can’t ever get ahead, and so on. We interpret any
number of behaviors or actions to mean the same thing as those same types of
actions meant to us in the past. Our memories provide us with a template for
producing a congruent and consistent experience of reality that follows a major
emotion is the key factor in forming all significant memories, it also acts as
the “hook” that keeps us compulsively attached to them and that serves as a “trigger”
for activating them. As we’re triggered emotionally we produce an immediate
reaction that doesn’t require us to think about it in order to form a new
appraisal. All reactions are instant and produce unconscious actions in us. We
instantly access and replay the emotion, mindset, and behaviors of the memory
being activated. As we’re triggered emotionally we literally go unconscious and
act out of a delirious state.
Anytime we’re overly emotional or “sensitive” to the emotions being projected by others, we live our life out of memories of the past as automated patterns and create while unconscious and not utilizing our higher capacities to create in a self-aware, well thought out and intentional manner. Emotionally reactive people are unconscious in the most basic sense and are constantly being controlled and determined by whatever it is they’re reacting to. Their whole life is determined by and becomes a replay of their formative conditioning.
Subconscious and Self-Conscious Mind
refer to as our subconscious is the creative aspect of our mind that forms our
experiences of reality. It’s the “passive” aspect of our mind that’s “receptive”
in nature; while the self-conscious aspect is “active” and self-aware, and has
the ability to “give direction” to the subconscious as a way of forming new
patterns of interpretation and behaviors. The subconscious is “experiential” in
nature, which means its “programmed” with pictures, images, and scenarios that
it uses as a metaphorical template for perceiving reality and producing all of
our natural behaviors that come in an automatic way without us having to think
The subconscious is emotionally driven and prompted to take action based on impulses and strong emotional charges. It works to create our entire experience of reality and ourselves out of memories of experiences that are emotionally intense. We literally “act on ourselves” to program ourselves for creating reality based on memories we form and continue to live out of, and the emotional states they naturally act to produce and maintain. Anyone who lives out of memories of their past is literally delusional. They’re living a life of illusions that they themselves are creating without direct awareness of what they’re doing.
The Power of Identity
elusive and compelling thing about our memories is that we’ve actually “used
them” as the means of shaping ourselves by way of them. As we had impacting
experiences and tried to make sense of them by explaining them to give them
meaning, we simultaneously identified with our own imaginary experiences. As we
form an internal experience in our mind as the “meaning” of events, we “sense
ourselves” within our own self-created experiences, and we make it mean the
same thing about us. Whatever we tell ourselves about why something happened
and what it means about another person or the way life is, it also means about
us in relationship with it, and we begin identifying with our own story about
As we shape
our identity out of our self-created memories and story about things, we need
to keep telling them in order to know who we are. We replay the same scripts
over and over in our mind. For this reason giving up our story can be quite difficult.
This is especially true when we’re not clear on what story we want to tell in
its place. Often when we give up our story or lose what we’ve shaped ourselves around,
we don’t know how to “be” different. In order to tell a new story, we have to
give up our memories of the past and develop new ways of being. Without a
distinct sense of purpose and direction this can seem a bit daunting and
We become so used to living out of an automated state over time that having to actually make conscious decisions, select new ideas, and develop ourselves in new ways can seem dry causing us to struggle with motivation in maintaining them, especially when compared to the intensity of our emotional past. It’s the emotions attached to an idea that makes it compelling and infuses it with a sense of passion and drama. Emotions act like drugs in our body, altering our state of mind, and when their maintained in a habitual manner, become addictive, causing us to literally crave them.
In order to
take over the process of conscious self-creation we have to exercise the higher
capacities of our mind to create in an original fashion. This requires not only
truly deciding to let go of your past conditioning, but also deciding how you’re
going to be instead. What kind of person are you going to create yourself to be
and what kind of story are you going to tell by how you live your life? And
then, once you make those decisions you have to learn how to intentionally
utilize your imagination in order to both instruct your subconscious to release
and let go of memories while simultaneously replacing them with new ones. You
have to learn how to use your conscious, self-aware mind to direct and guide
your subconscious on what to create as a new idea.
subconscious operates out of memory as imaginary experiences, you have to
develop new ideas as actual experiences that are vivid in sensory terms. You
have to create what you want as a form a “virtual memory” that provides your
subconscious with a pattern to produce natural characteristics and behaviors
out of. You have to practice embodying new ways of being as a means of training
your body to new behaviors. You have to give your subconscious new emotional
memories and form new habits through consistent and repetitive practice.
As you let go of past memories you have to replace the void it creates with new ones, or you have to “re-imagine” existing ones to form a new experience of them. If you leave a void, your subconscious will automatically draw something in as a means of knowing what to do. The subconscious can’t make decisions as to what to use as a means of creating and relies solely on memories as habitual patterns and tendencies. It’s “seeded” with suggestions from the conscious mind that it then converts into a reality in the imagination and uses for creating an outer reality of the same nature. The subconscious is symbolic in nature, which means that all imaginary experiences intentionally produced as a desire for creating as an outer reality, are utilized as thematic ideas. So it won’t produce the exact same reality the way you imagined it, but rather adapt the idea to the current situation and environment to produce a corresponding version of the same idea.
Power of the Imagination
people believe imaginary processes are an illusion and not “real”, they’re
actually the means for not only giving the subconscious direction for creating
as an actual experience, but also the means by which we direct the forces of
the natural world. As we think, we imagine and direct energy into the “forms”
of our thoughts, giving them life inside of us. All “actual memories” are in
fact created by “re-imagining” an event, and are established as a modified
version based on how they’re interpreted, and consistently replayed in the
imagination. All imaginary processes are how we use our conscious mind to
communicate with and direct our subconscious, which uses them as “symbolic
ideas” for creating as an experience of a similar nature.
common mistake people make is in thinking that memories aren’t created “in” or
by the imagination, but are an actual recollection of objective events, that
they equally interpreted in a neutral and objective fashion. Yet memories are
based on how we “formed our experience” of events based on the emotional state
we were in at the time and as an “interpretation”. We reform the elements of an
event in our mind as the means of telling a story out of the emotion we were
feeling. Then the memory is recalled and replayed in the faculty of the
imagination, forming our perceptual lens as an instant interpretation, and as
the means of producing more experiences of the same kind, while altering the
memory to some degree every time it’s recalled based on how it’s adapted to the
current situation to produce a variable. Memories are actually “living
creations” of the soul itself and they consistently undergo an evolutionary
process through adaptation and modification.
Due to the
fact that the subconscious is emotionally motivated to perform certain actions,
if we have a fear or apprehension around letting go of or erasing memories, it’ll
either hang onto them out of a fear of letting go, or it’ll create an
experience that’s scary, stressful, and fear based. The emotion itself “is” the
directive for the subconscious to create “as” an experience. The image used is
just the pattern as a process, and the emotion is how that pattern is shaped
into an experience. The pattern is simply what’s used to express the emotion
attached to it as the reality that invokes more of the same emotion. The
subconscious naturally moves into anything that’s presented as being pleasurable,
and away from anything that’s painful. So if change is presented as a hard or
painful struggle of some kind, the subconscious will avoid it at all costs, and
work to sabotage any willful effort to accomplish it.
The scope of this article is the process of letting go of memories and not the instruction on how to create new ones, which I have written several other articles on, and can be accessed by using the search feature on my website. If you’re feeling the least bit apprehensive or unsure of yourself in choosing to let go of your past in order to create a new you, then you should spend some time exploring the nature of your attachment to your story of the past and wait until it becomes an exciting and liberating idea. Letting go of the “known” in favor of the “unknown” can be terrifying to those who are new to the idea of conscious self-creation. There’s a great sense of security in familiarity and staying in your comfort zone, even when it’s been traumatizing and painful.
Letting go of the Past – the Process
decided to honestly let go of your past story and feel excited about creating
yourself anew, you can start by selecting the memories you want to erase. These
can either be ones that were incurred with a specific person or a certain type
memories usually represented by a phase or period in your life. You want to become
clear on which ones they are because it requires a hypnotic state and an
imaginary process where you have to use your conscious mind to direct your
subconscious on what to do. If you’re uncertain or vague in anyway, you’ll lose
your thought process as soon as you become totally relaxed.
Once you’ve decided, you want to make sure you fully abstract the “life lesson” the memories held for you in terms of what they helped you to realize so you can retain that knowledge and not repeat past mistakes.
into a comfortable position, either sitting upright in a chair with both feet
flat on the ground, preferably touching, relaxing your hands on your lap or
thighs, palms down; or by lying down flat on your back with your neck well
supported, legs straight and feet touching and hands relaxed palms down on
either your chest, abdomen, or thighs. It’s important that your spine is straight
and you create a “closed system” energetically.
comfortable, then close your eyes and turn your full attention inward and start
by focusing on your breathing. Take a couple of long, slow, deep breaths to
relax, and mentally scan your body for any discomfort, making any adjustments
necessary to produce a comfortable feeling. Then relax your breathing to a
normal, rhythmic motion.
want to “talk to yourself” as a means of walking yourself (subconscious)
through an intentional process, telling yourself why you’re doing what you’re
doing as a form of verbal instructions (directing the process involved).
in relaxation, exhale all tension and stress, and with each breath you feel
your body relaxing.
your attention on your feet – picture your feet or center your attention on the
sensations in your feet, and tell them to relax . . . then feel them relax.
Once relaxed, move your attention up to your calves, tell them to relax, and
feel them relaxing . . . do this all the way up your body to the top of your
head, until you’re fully relaxed and somewhat unaware of your body.
a sincere and brief conversation with your body about how good it feels to
relax . . . the more you relax the better it feels, and tell it that this is a “safe
space” that’s created by you, and it’s okay to just relax and let go. . . . speak to yourself with a firm yet
comforting and soothing voice.
with your higher source of power . . . imagine a sphere of beautiful white
light directly above your head. Feel it’s love and warmth as a very pleasurable
sensation, then mentally ask the light to enter you, or draw it down
intentionally, and feel it as it completely fills your head, saturating your
brain with a beautiful white light, soothing and comforting you . . . as you
continue to pull it down into your throat, filling your throat area, then down
into your chest . . . abdomen, and legs, and down to your feet. As you feel
your body filled with the beautiful, warm sensation of the light, feel it’s
protection and comfort, and reaffirm that this is a safe place and it’s ok to
just let go and go deeper and deeper down . . . down into a peaceful feeling of
calm relaxation . . .
picture the person (or event) the memories are associated with, and tell yourself
that you’re going to abstract from your body all the energy and etheric
substance or aka from the various organs and parts of your body they’re located
– the body holds memory as emotion – tell your subconscious to become aware of
all the sensations within your body associated with this person.
your attention on the sensations, and imagine them as a form of liquid light
and visualize yourself using your hands to enter into and pull out the
fluid-like energy of the emotion and memory from your organs and muscles . . .
this every place you feel the sensations of the memory, while accumulating it
and rolling it into a ball.
it’s been surgically abstracted and formed into a ball of liquid light, tell
yourself to find the aka (etheric) cords attached at the heart center, and cut
them using a dagger or knife. Imagine
doing it and see it as disconnected completely from all parts of your body and
as a ball of light in your hands, then mentally thank this person in a sincere
manner for the lessons they served to teach you, and let go of the ball sending
it back out into the universe to be recycled so it can benefit someone else.
it floating in front of you and being projected away until it completely
disappears into the dark. Tell yourself it’s gone forever and bid it farewell.
it’s completely gone imagine a hand whisking your energy field briskly,
clearing out all residue, then seal your aura and body with a bubble-like shield
of light, telling your subconscious that it can’t ever come back in and will be
deflected back out into the universe. That you’re protected and safe . . .
your body free of the emotional sensations while telling yourself how good it
feels. Create an anchor for this state as a picture or word that you use that
will instantly produce the state and can be fired at will.
the new memory you want to replace it with, associating the emotional trigger
of the old memory to the new one. Wait until you get the new memory just the
way you want it, and then replay it over and over in your mind until it comes
automatically in complete form. Then
produce the emotional feeling of the old memory while instantly playing the new
memory in its place. Do this repeatedly until it becomes natural.
order to conclude the session, say to yourself . . . “and so it is, and so must
it be”. And slowly bring yourself back into conscious awareness while telling
yourself that you’ll wake alert and feeling better than ever . . . .
hypnotic processes only require one session, depending on how deep you go and
how proficient you are at processes of deep meditation that utilize guided
imagery, and your confidence in guiding yourself. If it doesn’t work with one
session, simply repeat until it becomes permanent. Change produced by
subconscious programming can often be a bit tricky to realize because it comes
by simply “forgetting”. You lose awareness of the memories because you no
longer think about them, and can go weeks or even months before it dawns on you
that you haven’t thought about it in a long time. When you do think about the
memories, you do it in a very detached and matter of fact way, with absolutely
no emotion. As you realize that you haven’t thought about it for a while, you
forget about it again, and never think about it unless there’s a direct
association. It’s no longer compulsive or emotionally painful, and you no
longer dwell in it uncontrollably.
Linda is a scholar in Esoteric Sciences and holds a doctorate in Spiritual Sciences, and a BS in Clinical Hypnotherapy, along with numerous specialty certifications in various healing modalities. She's a certified Health and Success Coach, NLP Master Practitioner, and Board Certified in Regression Therapy. She's professional writer, artist, educator and Mentor, and offers a wide variety of Mentoring and Consulting Services, along with professional training programs. Her specialties include Personal Transformation, Self-Mastery, Spiritual Sciences, Transpersonal Psychology, and Integrative Mind-Body Medicine. For more info visit our Personal and Professional Services pages in the top menu bar of this site, or email us at: [email protected]