Self-Mastery: Learning how to not be affected by others

Many of us spend our whole life a slave to the attitude, behaviors, and opinions of other people. We’re in a constant form of reaction from one moment to the next, beings jerked around like a puppet on strings, often crushed by a rude comment. If someone is hateful or sarcastic in some way towards us, it can throw us into a tailspin that can last for days, weeks, or even months. Someone with a bad attitude that’s also aggressive can outright terrify us, especially with all the mass shootings being staged and publicized around the world. Most people spend their entire life being shaped and determined by other people and the rules of society, usually without any direct awareness of how it’s happening or the reason why. Many people have completely lost touch with their soul and their real power to create in their life, and don’t even realize it.

One of the most basic forms of empowerment comes from a fundamental understanding of psychology and what it is that drives people’s behaviors. By coming to understand what drives other people’s behaviors, we can gain a better understanding of our own behavior in response to them. We’re all only capable of “bringing out in others” more of what’s “like us”. Whatever qualities we embody and express outwardly act to stimulate and bring out those same qualities in others as a natural response to us. Energetically, we’re always vibrating the same state of mind in everyone we interact with. We’re always in the process of mentally and emotionally influencing others to become more like us by how we perceive them and treat them accordingly.

Anyone who has been beat down and criticized as a child, either grows up to beat others down with the same type of criticism and mental attitude, or they remain super sensitive to anyone who has an attitude of criticizing them. The act of criticizing produces an equal and complementary reaction. The effect produced is always an expression of what caused it. There are no exceptions to this rule. The confusion tends to come when we only look at one side of the equation, instead of recognizing that everything operates as a whole pattern. All patterns form as a “dynamic” that’s holistic in nature and played out unconsciously through our basic perception, attitude, conditioned tendencies, and automatic behaviors.

Most people when being criticized or dealing with a sarcastic or mean person, focus almost exclusively on the person they perceive as doing it “to them”, rather than focusing on what’s happening inside of them as their own reaction. All energy, which is what emotional expression is, exists in a fundamental state of polarity as complementary opposites that move in-sync with each other. Anger, for example, provokes either and equal or greater response of anger, which escalates and intensifies it, or it causes a fearful response that backs down and becomes submissive. Any emotional response, whether sympathetic or antipathetic, nurtures and sustains the anger/emotion because both people are cooperating with each other in co-creating a joint reality out of the “active force” of anger. Any “reaction”, which comes in an immediate and automatic fashion that matches the energy being projected, is a basic form of control. Anytime we’re reacting, we’re being controlled by whatever it is we’re reacting to. The easiest way there is to control someone is through their emotions and the sensationalized realities they create internally.

 Every human being develops their own “mental paradigm” based on their formative conditioning. All of our initial conditioning takes place while we’re in a primarily unconscious state, and acts to literally “program” our subconscious as the “model” of reality we form from it. All of our values, beliefs, preferences, and initial (developmental) memories are instilled in us as kids through our family dynamics. As we become adults our basic personality and way of perceiving others and the world around us has been firmly established and we simply continue to live out of the same perceptions, tendencies, and relationship dynamics that we were a part of as kids. We continue to view the world and others the same way we were taught. In psychology we say that “we become one of our parents, and we marry the other one”. Whatever type of relationships was modeled for us as kids and that we played an active role in, becomes the same type of relationships we enter into and maintain romantically, socially, and professionally. We play out the same ideas over and over with different people and situations.

These dynamics become the themes that serve as a metaphor for our life. They usually involve ideas around our self-esteem (image of ourselves), such as not being good enough, not being worthy, not loved or wanted, being stupid, bad, ugly, and so on, which is why they ultimately serve as self-fulfilling prophecies that we wrap our identify around as adults. We “become” whatever we’ve been programmed psychologically to become by what we were told, heard being said about us, and how we were treated by those we cared about the most. These life themes become what we refer to psychologically as “core beliefs” that are like the nucleus of our mental model and spawn all of our other beliefs as being correlated to the same basic idea.

Dissecting Our Experience

In order to really grasp the significance of this idea, let’s take a moment and examine how it is that we create our experiences. While we tend to think that others are capable of doing something “to us”, when we examine the process closely, we can realize that we’re actually the one doing it to ourselves. We are in fact the sole creator of all our “experiences”. This idea is often confused as being our “reality” in the objective sense of what happens outside of us, when in fact how we experience what happens to us is an internal process that we perform and conduct “on” ourselves using our mind. Creating our experiences comes initially as an “unconscious process”, which means we do it naturally without any “direct awareness” of the fact that we’re actually the one doing it to ourselves. Due to the naturalness of the process, it usually completely eludes us. Yet in order to gain control over our own natural and unconscious processes, we have to form an understanding of them as a mental concept. So let’s turn our full attention inward and become aware of how we form our reactions to others.

When someone says or does something that’s offensive, hurtful, sarcastic, or mean, something that’s designed to get a rise out of us and place us in their control, we experience it as an intense internal stimulus that comes as an “emotional charge”. Once you experience the emotional stimulus, you instantly associate it to a memory where the same type of emotion and behavior was involved. Through association to a past event of the same kind, the same emotion and state are awakened and made active in you, bringing it out in you as a natural reaction. Your mind interprets “this” to mean the same thing as “that”, and you react in the present with the same emotional behavior as the past. We then act out the same behaviors and dynamics, and begin telling ourselves the same type of story about what it means about them and us in relation to them.

The story we tell ourselves as our thoughts and internal dialogue follow the same theme as our memory of the past. Emotions are always associated to memories we formed while in the same emotional state. Emotions are what drive and produce all of our natural and automatic behaviors. We’re most naturally and easily made to behave in certain ways through our emotions. Emotional memories give our subconscious the “pattern” it needs for producing automatic realities and behaviors that don’t require any thought, appraisal or decisions.

When we live out of our emotions we live out of the memories and conditioning of our past and continue to create more of the same type of experiences. We repeat the same patterns with the same type of people and relive the same type of experiences in new ways over and over. As we create our experiences, we simultaneously identify with them, and shape ourselves “through” our experiences. We once again replay the broken and worn out record that says we’re not good enough, worthless, stupid, not wanted, loved, blah, blah, blah, and due to the fact that we produce an “experience of ourselves” out of the emotional charge, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

From a purely psychological perspective, we only “react” to and feel hurt or threatened by those who are conditioned to the same type of dynamics as we are, and therefore naturally play the role necessary for acting it out. Whenever we’re triggered by someone’s behavior towards us, it’s actually providing us with a mirror to learn how to see things in ourselves that we’re normally not fully aware of. It’s showing us where we’re still living out of the illusions and pain of the past that we never came to terms with, identified accurately, or put to rest. It’s still alive and active within us because we haven’t gained any real awareness around it that brought self-realization. Due to the fact that we still maintain a belief around it as being true, we continue to faithfully act it out over and over with the right people.

A person’s attitude and behaviors stem from their mental paradigm and psychological complexes, and in reality, have nothing to do with us. When someone calls us stupid, it doesn’t mean that we are in fact stupid, but shows us that they were made to feel stupid as a kid growing up, and are now compensating by trying to make others feel stupid in order to somehow elevate themselves above them. The lower they make someone else, the higher they become in comparison. They’re unconscious beings who are used to verbally attacking others in the same way they were verbally abused. Their opinion, perception, attitude and conduct only serves to “reveal” who “they are” and says nothing meaningful about us . . . unless, of course, we let it.

When we take what others say and do personally by internalizing it, we actually believe what they’re saying and accept it as being true about us, especially if we grew up being called the same names. The reason we “react emotionally” is because we’re used to it and we’ve been treated that way in the past. When we react by being hurt or offended, we’re actually agreeing with them and may secretly feel it’s somehow true. That’s what a reaction is. We know how to play a role in the reality they’re creating, and so we cooperate by participating in making it real. For example, if you know you’re not stupid or dumb, and someone calls you that, it has no effect on you in the most basic sense; outside of the fact that you may think they’re being rude. Nothing gets stimulated internally and there are no memories of the same type that are necessary to produce and automatic and immediate reaction. Anytime we react to being called a name it’s because deep down inside we think it may be true.

Self-Observation and Realization

In order to understand this psychological process, simply observe your own reactions from a neutral and unbiased standpoint. Start by finding a place and time where you can have privacy, and sit calmly and fully relax. Then recall an event where you felt hurt or upset by something someone said or did to you, and reflect on it in slow motion. Slow it down and review it step by step. Recall what was said or done, how it was said or done, what attitude, emotions, and behaviors were involved, and what it was regarding. Then turn all of your attention inward and focus exclusively on your own internal process.

Recall the emotional charge as it entered your body, and notice where in your body it lodged and stimulated you. Notice the nature of the stimulus by describing it in sensory terms. Was it sharp and stabbing, did it give you a sinking feeling, or did it cause you to feel afraid or scared? Notice what emotion was activated in you, and while refraining from going into a reaction again or telling yourself a story about it that justifies your right to react the way you did, just notice and witness what you’re thought process was and what it seemed to be about.

Allow yourself to notice what it brought up for you. What memory of the past started playing out in the background of your mind. What is it that you begin telling yourself about what it “means”? Then allow a natural chain-of-association to form as any other related or similar memories or scenario’s that it acted to prompt. Notice and become aware of anything that arises in relation to this event. Resist the tendency to repress it in any way, explain it away, or justify your right to be hurt or upset, and just observe your own internal process from a neutral and unbiased perspective. Then allow yourself to realize that you’re actually the one “creating” the state of being hurt or upset. No one is thinking your thoughts or feeling your feelings for you. You’re actually the one “doing it” to yourself by how you’re using your mind and body. It may feel as if you can’t help it (which is what unconscious means), but just notice and watch what’s going on inside of you.

Once you gain true self-awareness around what’s happening and why, and you bring what’s happening unconsciously into conscious awareness, this awareness alone neutralizes its effect. At the same time, you can become aware of what it is in you or about you that you need to heal and transform. All true healing is psychological in nature, and comes only by shedding light on the hidden aspects of your own psyche. We naturally act to heal ourselves by becoming aware of the patterns as memories we incurred as children that are continuing to act out in our life by forming all of our natural perceptions and reactive behaviors. Through awareness of the fact that we’re the one creating the reality of our memories, we dissolve them, and they no longer play out in an automatic fashion. We can be around the same person doing the same thing, and it no longer bothers us. We perceive it in a matter of fact way and no longer engage with them in co-creating that reality for ourselves.

As a general practice, if you do this process of self-reflection anytime you’re being triggered into a reaction of some kind, it’ll help you to become self-aware and resume conscious control of yourself and what it is you’re acting to create. You can begin healing yourself and taking back your power to create in a more aware and responsible manner. As you begin neutralizing your emotional reactions to others and the events of your life, you take back control of your own life. As you start remaining calm and clear headed in relation to others, you can begin developing skill in using your mind and imagination in a more deliberate and purposeful way. As you begin creating from a conscious and self-aware state, you take over the process of facilitating your own growth and development. You take back and begin utilizing your soul’s ability to create yourself from a fully awake and aware state and in whatever way you want and decide to.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Developing a Moral Code of Conduct as the Practical Application of Universal Law in Order to Regulate Yourself

  One of the most profound practices that have been largely abandoned in our modern era is the practice of developing a moral code of conduct as standards that we hold ourselves to as the means for governing ourselves through all kinds of situations. While many have been taught to adopt the moral values laid down for them by others as “rules for living their life” in order to be a “good person”, it’s actually something that we all do for ourselves based on how we want to be. This is because only we are truly responsible for how we live our life and who we become by way of our own actions. Only we can decide what’s right and wrong for us in terms of our perceptions and the behaviors that result from them, and how we act within our own life to create. As sovereign beings born with the ability to create ourselves, only we are responsible for whom we become as an individual.

       There’s currently a gross misconception being cultivated around all ideas of what it means to actually discriminate and use our ability to make accurate evaluations as somehow being prejudice, because these ideas are only being viewed from a negative context with a specific agenda in mind. One of the primary differences between what we call our lower and higher nature comes as our ability to think for ourselves and make our own decisions as to whom and how we’re going to be. This doesn’t come as making a decision as to what ideas formed by others we’re going to choose to accept as our own so we don’t have to figure stuff out for ourselves, but rather through our ability to reason, analyze, and evaluate ideas in order to see what their morality is in terms of the actions and outcomes they produce. The foundation used for creating our own moral values comes through our ability to both recognize and comprehend universal laws and apply them intelligently to our everyday life as the means of creating ourselves and determining the path our life takes.

         Many people look to religion and the laws of society as the means of acquiring ready-made moral values, and we all acquire the moral values of our family through our formative conditioning as children. Many have been taught by religion that we’re not born moral beings, but rather born into a life of sin as our lower, animal nature of pure instinct. Where our greatest challenge is resisting our own impulses and being seduced into doing things we don’t really want to. Yet the idea of a moral code used to monitor your own behavior originated in a much more objective and intelligent form as guidelines that we created for ourselves through the recognition, understanding and conscious application of Universal Laws. Laws are what unify multiple dimensions of feelings, thoughts, emotions, and actions to produce a single reality in order to consciously create at the spiritual or energetic realm of pure consciousness. It’s a tool used for developing ourselves to a higher level of consciousness as the use of absolute truth inherent in the Laws and Principles themselves.

       If we look at the story of Moses and how he acquired the 10 Commandments, we’ll realize that he originally received the 10 primary universal laws that were engraved on sapphire tablets. But when he descended from the mountain to deliver the Universal Laws as a means of guiding the people, he saw that they we’re engaging in “pleasures of the flesh” and were not capable of receiving (comprehending or utilizing) the laws. This made him angry and broke the original tablets and went back up the mountain where he then translated the laws into commandments as “rules” engraved on ordinary stone that could be given and blindly followed by those who didn’t have the ability to understand higher laws and use them as the means of governing themselves. He then tried to lead them out of slavery (metaphor for ignorance) where they were being governed by others through the inability to comprehend higher knowledge, where they wandered aimlessly in the desert for 120 years, still unable to guide themselves.      

       What we think of as our spiritual nature is of a substantially higher level of consciousness that has the ability to create itself by way of the practical use and thorough understanding of higher laws of the mind, which are used to shape our morality. All spiritual development comes as moral development that’s produced through our ability to decide for ourselves what’s right and wrong, and based on our decision willfully direct our own actions as the means of creating ourselves. All universal laws provide us with the keys to operating our own mind-body system as the means of creating ourselves by way of our own hand. The higher soul is bestowed with the creative capacities necessary to govern and direct its own growth and development. Who we become is something that only we can determine through our own perceptions, decisions and actions.

       How we choose to live our life, what beliefs we buy into and how we conduct ourselves as a result, is constantly reforming us as a direct correspondence and determines “who” and “how” we become by way of our own actions. We’re not required to “believe” in higher knowledge in order for it to be true, because it’s always true in every situation in terms of how things operate, whether we’re aware of it or not. Our moral code is what we use to direct our behavior and use in order to remain fully conscious in situations that normally render us unconscious or tempt us in some way. Unconsciously we simply live out of whatever morality we we’re taught and trained to as children that comes more as feelings rather than a clear thought process. We engage in activities of various sorts without ever really questioning it in terms of “what type of person” we become due to our actions. Consciously, we form our moral code of conduct out of our understanding of Law that provides us with intuitive instructions for how to create ourselves at both the conscious and subconscious levels. We use the higher capacities of our mind to create ourselves from a fully conscious and self-aware state.

        As a higher soul bestowed with self-awareness, realization, the ability to choose for ourselves, and the will to actualize our choices, we are all fully responsible for our own conduct and who we become by way of our own actions. We can never rightfully blame someone else for our own misgivings and bad decisions, even when we were persuaded, seduced, or emotionally enticed in some way. Once we realize what universal law shows us in terms of how we act on ourselves to shape ourselves by producing the events of our life through our decisions as to what we cooperatively participate in and what we don’t, we’re provided with a powerful set of tools for shaping ourselves as a moral and intelligent being.

       The idea of stepping fully into our power as a sovereign being capable of guiding our own actions through intelligent decisions can become even more confusing through the misconception that after we die we’re going to be “judged” by some higher being and then eternally punished for all of the mistakes we made while unaware of what we were doing. Many people buy into this idea even though it defies reason and has no real purpose. The only being that’s going to judge us after we leave our lower nature (body consciousness) is our self (higher-self) on a higher plane that comes as more of a “life review” that allows us to see the results of what was in fact “cause and effect relationships”. We review our life in terms of the growth we incurred through active use of our higher capacities and the results we created while caught up in emotional illusions of some kind. Our life review brings awareness to the karma we created that sets the basis for the lessons to be learned in our next life. It shows us how we created ourselves out of fundamental errors in our thinking and being.

Primary Universal Laws of Creation

       To begin this journey into a fully conscious and self-aware state, we have to look at the most primary law of creation, often referred to as the “parent law” or the “sexual principle” that forms the very foundation for all life in the entire material world. This is the Law of the Dyad, also called the Vesica Pisces or “womb of the universe”. This is the point where all things come into being, and where all things of the spirit are transformed. Our spirit as our higher soul is eternal in nature and already exists in a self-created state that evolves itself based on whatever it enters into relationship with that’s of a similar nature. Naturally, when we’re talking about a higher plane and the aspect of ourselves that reside naturally on that plane, we’re referring to the mind and our energetic nature that’s void of a physical body, and is what incarnates into the body as the means of experiencing itself by how it expresses using the body. This is the aspect of ourselves that has no beginning or ending within the material world because it originates on a higher plane (dimension) that exists outside of time and space.

The Vesica Pisces birthing reality

          The Vesica Pisces is formed by the regeneration of the Monad that then separates from itself and projects outward in order to form a perception of itself as another. The Monad is represented by a sphere of energy as a field of information that’s polar (electromagnetic) in nature and both expands and contracts (principle of respiration) at the same time within the same space. It forms the experience of the self (within the body looking out) and the outer reality of the self, which are both produced simultaneously by the same mind and soul on different levels and scales. The same pattern (vibratory frequency) is used to create both (inner and outer) as a kind of metaphorical theme that’s sets the (outer) stage necessary to act out certain ideas allowing the opportunity to gain new realizations regarding who’s the one actually creating both. All reality as we’re capable of knowing it only comes through our perception of it. We perceive others and the entire outer world to be “like us” in nature because our mind is what’s creating it all as a projection of known and unknown aspects of ourselves.

        As multidimensional beings, once we enter into a body we have both a lower nature, which is unconscious and instinctively driven through emotional states, and a higher nature that’s intelligent and intuitively driven, and always utilized through various forms of self-control and our ability to regulate ourselves by harmonizing both of our natures as the means of self-creating. Energetically, we only resonate with what’s of a similar nature to us, and whatever we enter into and maintain a relationship with through shared qualities we become more like in terms of the qualities being actively expressed and how we’re being as a result. As we absorb the consciousness of another through the interaction that takes place, we blend with it and begin vibrating in harmony with them, conducting ourselves in a similar manner. They act to stimulate qualities in us that we then use to express and create through the activities that naturally ensue from them. Because this is all happening at the unconscious level, meaning naturally and automatically without our direct awareness, we don’t always realize what’s going on and how it is that we’re being transformed by the consciousness of another.

       As we participate in the same type of behavior, we produce experiences of our self that transform our identity to be more like that of the person influencing us. All actions produce a correlating reaction of the same nature. Through our conduct we draw specific and immediate consequences to ourselves through another fundamental Law of Cause and Effect. Like always acts to produce more of what’s like itself. Whatever we align ourselves with and become like in attitude and behavior, we use to shape ourselves by modifying our original vibration to form a new pattern as our mental paradigm (shaped out of experiences). Whenever we engage in the same activities of another, becoming more like them in nature, we simultaneously form a similar destiny. Whatever energy we take on as a perception that produces certain types of behavior, determines who we are and the path our life takes by how it serves to organize the events of our life as a dynamic, interrelated series of correspondences. The same act, undertaken for different reasons, still produces the same ripple effect as the consequences of our actions and what they mean about us.

       All of reality evolves out of the Parent Law of the Dyad as a new combination (relationship), and is what forms the Triad as its offspring. The Triad represents the reality of the new combination (inner and outer, self and another) formed within the mind and imagination that gives rise to the electromagnetic field as a vibratory frequency for forming an equivalent outer reality of the same nature. Our inner model forms our perceptual lens that we look through in order to perceive the outer world to be of the same nature as we are. All ideas formed in our imagination provide us with a preview of the reality they’ll create, and when played out as a whole experience or scenario, will give us insight into the reality they’ll produce as a series of consequences. Whatever we participate in creating through our actions create not only our outer reality and life situation, but also our inner reality and experience of our self. It’s not what we say that matters, but rather what we do. Our actions always reveal us as they serve to define us.

       Out of the Triad, birthed within the womb of the Dyad as a passionate conception, the Tetrad is formed as a “mirror image” or reflection of the Triad. Whatever we imagine with vivid sensory detail we create as a template for producing as an actual experience of reality. This is how we seed the subconscious with an idea that we want it to create as an outer reality of the same nature. On the spiritual plane of the mind and soul thought itself as an imagined experience of reality is the same as action on the lower, material plane. It’s how we produce something out of nothing. All ideas made into an internal reality within the mind are produced by the soul, and act to express the diverse matrix of ideas that make up the soul as a mental paradigm or vibratory frequency. This is why it’s not enough to simply refrain from taking action on ideas, but rather not forming them in the imagination to begin with, because we’re still actively creating ourselves spiritually by way of our own thoughts by becoming “one in spirit” with the idea. Any thought dwelled in passionately is being gestated and grown and will eventually be expressed outwardly through actions of some kind.

       The Law of Vibration shows us that all things that are of a similar nature vibrate in harmony with each other and are compatible in terms of co-creating. Whatever frequency we vibrate at, forms our internal nature as a specialized pattern or theme, and determines what we resonate with in the world around us. As we begin resonating with a similar frequency, we are drawn into it and it into us (sympathetic induction), where we mutually influence each other and form a new vibration as the combination of shared qualities. There’s no such thing as being influenced by someone who’s vastly different from us. When we’re stimulated by (form a natural reaction to) people and ideas that we perceive as being of a completely different nature than we are it’s because they’re appealing to unknown (denied and repressed) parts of us that we haven’t been able to successfully integrate and bring into expression in an appropriate and acceptable way.

       What we deny and repress, and eventually become unaware of having, still form a natural part of our outer environment and serves to mirror back to us our own hidden aspects. All denied and repressed (disowned) parts of us came by way of how we judged ourselves as being “bad or wrong” somehow, usually according to how we were taught to judge ourselves by others, and allow us to once again access those parts of ourselves and make new decisions as to how we’ll appropriately incorporate them into our natural behavior as the means of expanding our ability to self-express in new ways. All repressed parts of ourselves came by how we accepted the values and beliefs of others, rather than consciously deciding for ourselves. As we accept the morals of others as our own, we create ourselves by way of their decisions and perceptions, and shape ourselves to be like them. When we do this, we’re living out of our lower nature that lacks true self-awareness of the ability to think for ourselves and create ourselves based on our own conclusions, evaluations, and decisions about the morality of things.

       While most of us have been taught that certain actions and behaviors are always bad and should always be refrained from, the fact is that all behaviors are specialized in nature and appropriate within the right context. Our behavior is only inappropriate when used in the wrong way and for the wrong reason, or when it doesn’t produce the outcome we intended to produce in doing it. All actions create realities as consequences within the material plane and are undertaken for a specific reason. Whenever we react to someone else’s actions, we become the “effect” and create out of an unconscious state. Violence is considered good or bad based on the reason it’s being employed and situation it takes place in. If it’s initiated as the means of hurting someone or taking something from them that’s rightfully theirs, then it’s wrong, bad, and destructive. If it’s used to defend ourselves and our loved ones against the aggressive acts of another, then it’s appropriate, good, and the right thing to do.

Making up Your Own Rules for Creating Yourself

       As higher, sovereign and creative souls, we have the natural capacities of our higher mind to create ourselves in a willful and deliberate manner. By understanding the universal laws that govern the higher and lower planes simultaneously through natural processes, we can gain the means for developing our own moral code of conduct. We can design our own system of values that we use to regulate ourselves from a fully conscious perspective. We can become clear on what our standards are that we use to evaluate our relationships in terms of what we want to blend with and become like in nature. We can decide from a clear state of mind, unclouded by emotions and conditioned issues, what qualities and characteristics we want to embody and use to create ourselves and our experiences. We can realize that in every moment we’re making all our decisions by asking ourselves one primary question, “who am I?” How am I going to be in this moment and in relationship to this idea?

       Our moral values involve “qualities” as states of mind that we embody as a “way of being” and use as the means for self-expressing. They involve ideas like honesty, loyalty, integrity, compassion, kindness, generosity, courage, respect, devotion, justice, honor, and so on. Developing a moral code comes by thoroughly thinking about what you know to be right and wrong as your own conscience, and setting guidelines for yourself as standards that you don’t violate under any circumstances. They’re the rules you make up for yourself that prescribe to righteous behavior. They define the type of person you’re creating yourself to be and provide you with the means to do it. They’re what you use in situations where you’re being emotionally triggered into unconscious behaviors, or are being tempted in some way by something you know you don’t really want to do because of who you’ll become by doing it. They provide you with moral guidelines as standards for yourself that you use in making all your decisions as to what you’re going to participate in by becoming it. A moral code provides you with the means for regulating yourself and consistently evolving yourself to a higher level of understanding.

How to Create Moral Values as the means of Directing your Lower Nature

        What we refer to as our lower nature is our body consciousness as our subconscious mind. All perception and natural behaviors are produced by the subconscious, which is also the same mind as the collective unconscious that governs the entire material world of Nature. The subconscious acts as a passive receptor for the suggestions and commands of the higher, conscious mind, which acts to seed it with the reality it wants to use as the means of creating itself. The subconscious doesn’t know the difference between an actual reality and an imagined one, because they’re both actually created in the same way through the faculty of the imagination as described in the Law of the Dyad.

       Our subconscious doesn’t have the ability to make decisions as the means of directing itself, and when not being willfully directed by the conscious mind, creates out of memory, instinct, and illusions formed through emotional states. It doesn’t know how to process a “negative”, or being told what “not to do”, and works to create whatever “picture it’s given” as the reality it’s being directed to create. For this reason all guidelines have to be stated in the positive as what “to do” and how to be, and not in terms of what not to do. As you’re forming an image in your mind of what you don’t want, it simply sees the image as a directive and acts to create it in an automatic fashion without a conscience. It’s only the conscious, self-aware mind that has the ability to decide what it wants to create and how wants to be outside of the conditioned and instinctual nature of the body.

       For this reason, all ideas given to it as an internal representation for creating, have to be formed as “what to do”, what quality to employ in place of automatic behaviors, and how it wants to be as an experience of itself. We shape our identity by how we exist in relationship to everything else. The relationship we form not only exchanges energy and ideas with another, but also gives us a sense of ourselves as a particular type of person. As we act either consciously or unconsciously to create our experiences, we simultaneously create ourselves by way of how we associate and identify with them. Whatever quality we’re embodying as a means of expressing and experiencing ourselves, determine who we become as a soul and what type of experiences we act to naturally create more of.

Understanding the Nature of Relationship and our ability to Discriminate

       Naturally, the type of person we become through our own conscious acts also determines the nature of our relationships and what we act (decide) to attract, repel, and transform. If we decide, for example, that we’re going to be a loyal person, it doesn’t mean that we stay loyal to those who aren’t loyal themselves, or remain loyal to those who turn their back on us during difficult moments, or outright betray us somehow, but rather maintain the ability to discern the difference, and end our relationship with them when we realize they don’t warrant our loyalty. When we realize that they are of a poor character, or have different values than we do, we also realize that our continued relationship with them will only stimulate and bring out in us the same type of attitudes and behaviors, creating more experiences of disloyalty. If you’re truly a loyal person, then you won’t willingly maintain a relationship with a disloyal person. If however, you’re creating an illusion of yourself as being loyal by contrasting and being hurt by a disloyal person, you’ll maintain the relationship in order to continue acting out the drama involved, which is what you’re really using to create yourself.  

        If honesty is a moral value for us, and we’re in relationship with someone who is dishonest and has values that justify lying, then we don’t argue to try and change them or make them see their faults (according to us), but simply acknowledge their tendency to be this way, and end our relationship with them as a result. Like always produces and acts to create more of what’s like itself. Whatever morals we set for ourselves, sets standards and guidelines for what type of relationships we naturally form and maintain with a sense of awareness. If we value honesty, yet tolerate lying, and are willing to stay in relationship with a dishonest person, then our value as a standard for ourselves becomes dishonesty. Whatever we tolerate and allow through the relationships that we maintain in a consistent fashion sets the standards as a type of experience and moral character that we use to create ourselves to be of a similar nature.

       If we realize we’re doing this without direct awareness of what we’re doing and why, then it provides the mirror for us to look at parts of ourselves that are operating in us unconsciously. It shows us where there’s conflict between the unknown and chosen parts of us. It shows us how we’re working against our self in being able to make conscious decisions for how we’re going to be and what kind of person we are. If we choose honesty as a moral value that we use to direct all of our own behavior, that means that even in the moments when we find ourselves tempted to lie for whatever reason, we make our self be honest instead. We use it to discipline ourselves and hold ourselves to our code of honor as an honest person. We use it as the means for guiding ourselves in moments when we’re triggered into an unconscious state as an emotional reaction or where we feel tempted because of the nature of the situation at hand that ultimately results in being dishonest.

         Even in the event that we find ourselves being dishonest for some reason, we can self-reflect on what caused it, and make the necessary corrections to our own actions. If you can justify your right to be dishonest (telling a white lie so you don’t hurt someone’s feelings) and therefore give yourself exceptions to your own rule, then it’s not an actual “moral value” or true standard. In this case you can either use it to correct your own perspective and perception of the situation or you can eliminate it as a moral value. This doesn’t make you wrong or a bad person for being dishonest, it’s simply how you’re choosing to conduct yourself as a certain type of person, and reveals your willingness to create an illusion in place of what you know to be true. As you make a decision to allow yourself to be dishonest, you’ll naturally attract people who are also dishonest (where it’ll be accepted as part of the relationship) and co-create situations that are based on lying. Either way, it’s how you’re using your own will to create yourself as the type of person who participates in creating whatever reality results from it.

The Unified Nature of Things

       Likewise, when we set a standard for ourselves as being honest, especially to ourselves, we use that anytime we find ourselves in a situation where we’re being tempted to lie, and force ourselves instead to be honest. All values exist as a “system of values” (rather than independent of each other) that all play off of and are interdependent with each other. One produces and acts as complementary to the others. In being honest we demonstrate integrity, which is honorable, warrants respect, and makes us trustworthy. Likewise all people who are honest and therefore have integrity also command our respect and we come to trust them. If we’re willing to lie in the right situation, then we lack integrity, are not trustworthy, and are seldom respected by others once they realize we’re lying. So our moral values and standards, like our beliefs, exist in a unified state as a dynamic system. One value produces, validates, and maintains all of the other ones through the relationship they form with each other. Just as our beliefs are formed out of a whole system of interrelated beliefs that together form all of our perceptions and how we interpret the events of our life to give them meaning.

       Whatever values we hold and the standards we set for ourselves as the means of governing our own conduct through our higher nature, becomes the most prominent means of creating our self from a fully conscious state. It’s how we step outside of our conditioning where we were created by others while in a predominantly unconscious state, and act on ourselves to transform ourselves to a higher idea. All spiritual development comes through our moral development and our ability to be self-determined through our own choices and actions. It comes through our ability to form correct perceptions of ourselves by the mirror others provide, and make actual decisions about how we’re going to be in relationship with everything else. It comes through realizing who we are and how we’re being in the most ordinary sense. We’re able to let go of the illusions we were conditioned with through our upbringing, and step into the realm of self-awareness where we realize we can direct our own mind and actions in a deliberate and precise manner by using our will to discipline ourselves in acting out our decisions. When we wake-up in the midst of the reality created from an unconscious state and begin seeing things in a new light, we become clear on the fact that in every moment we’re making the decisions as to who we’re going to be, and begin consistently imposing a direction on our life as the one who’s consciously creating our own destiny.     

Dr. Linda Gadbois

The Art of Setting Goals and Manifesting your Dreams

Setting goals and “dreaming” is one of the most primary ways we use our mind to create realities. While “task oriented goals” are relatively easy, as they only require us to direct our attention and perform remedial acts, producing entirely new experiences as realities requires more skill because it’s done by how we use different aspects of our own mind to program other aspects. Our mind has what we can think of as three primary aspects that are always performing different functions while working together in unison to produce the same reality. What we refer to as “reality” is created both internally and externally as a unified experience that’s metaphorical in nature.

We often feel confused around the idea of what we call the “same reality” being literal as an exact match, where it “shows up” just as we imagined it, when in fact it actually comes as a correspondence to our imagined idea as the same “type or kind” of reality that’s composed of different elements. The mind works out of patterns as themes that allow an idea to be applied and adapted to various situations to produce a modification of the same overall idea. So how the reality of an imagined goal formulates and shows up may be different, but it serves to create the same basic type of experience.

The key word here is the idea of a “type of experience”, rather than an exact event. We have to formulate the goal as an experience of reality, focusing primarily on the “feeling” we’re striving to get from the reality of the goal, then let go of all control as to how it formulates within our given conditions and circumstances. We create an idea as a symbolic, metaphorical idea that we use as an “organizational mechanism” (vibratory frequency) for organizing the elements available in our present environment to be of the same nature, and be organized to create the same type of experience.

Designing Mental Programs

All mental programming designed to produce an actual experience of reality, comes by way of the conscious mind programming the subconscious mind. The subconscious is different than the conscious mind in the sense that it’s always present in the moment, is experiential in nature, emotionally driven, and creates out of preexisting memory. What unifies all aspects of our mind into a cohesive singularity is “state”. Our state of mind is what also acts to adjust the chemistry of our body to “match” that state, as well as what acts to adjust and organize the events of the outer world. The “unified mind” that we all exist as a part of, commonly called the “collective unconscious” or “mass consciousness”, is the subconscious aspect of the mind that we share with all of Nature as the instinctually driven mind that governs the entire material world of both the body and its outer environment.

What we refer to as our conscious mind, which can also be thought of as our self-aware mind that forms our outer awareness, is abstract in nature, always consumed in the illusion of time and hardly ever present, and is what forms our verbal thoughts and internal dialogue that’s always talking to ourselves about things. This is the aspect of the mind that gives things meaning then tells a story about them based on the meaning. The conscious mind of outer awareness has the ability to discriminate, analyze, and evaluate situations in order to make conscious decisions. It works in-sync with the subconscious by acting as the “gatekeeper” of the subconscious and decides what to “let in” and what to “keep out”. It also has the ability to “seed” the imagination of the subconscious with an idea it wants to create as an outer reality, but they speak different languages, and so it has to form an idea and directive for the subconscious as a “direct experience” of an idea that replicates a memory, coupled with a positive state and emotion.

The Power of State

What acts as the “unifying field” or mechanism between all aspects of the mind is the “feeling state” we exist in as our perspective and basis for creating experience. This idea is probably the most confusing for people in understanding how to formulate the reality they desire to create and experience through what we imagine to be a form of prayer or be requesting and asking for it. If we exist in a state of “wanting” what we don’t have, we’re creating an “experience of not having”, and we’re actually “programming” our subconscious to create more experiences of wanting. It’s the experience we’re “in” as a state of mind forming a perception that acts as the directive for the subconscious mind.

This is due to the fact that the subconscious is feeling and experience oriented, rather than abstract and time oriented. Whatever feeling we live out of and maintain as an inner experience and emotional state “is” what we’re connecting to all around us and acting in an organized manner to create more of. The subconscious has no concept of time and simply operates to create material reality based on using memory to create more experiences that are of the same nature as the memory. The subconscious doesn’t exist in time and doesn’t have the ability to focus on “being without something” that it needs to seek and try to get outside of itself in the outer world. This means that it’s “present in the experience of not having”, and acting on our behalf to create more of the same type of experiences, because this is the actual command we’re giving it.

The outer world is always a direct correlation and reflection of the inner world, because they’re both created as an extension of each other within the same mind. We do not exist as separate from our environment, but rather as a coherent part of it. What we experience as reality is based on our own perception of it, which comes from our mental paradigm as our “model of the world”, used as a dynamic system for interpreting what we perceive to be outer events to give them meaning as the way of “experiencing” them. The experience of something comes as the feeling sensations that produce emotions and an “inner reality” that acts as a “representation” we use in place of actual events. We “reshape” the outer elements to produce the reality that matches the inner feelings and emotions, reforming them according to our model used for perceiving them.

       As we reform the elements of the outer events of life to match our ideas about them, we form them into an internal reality as a representation that becomes our “memory of them”. All memory is produced in the imagination as a personification of an outer, object reality, and then replayed in the imagination as a way of continuing to form reality as our perception, and create more realities of the same nature as our memories. This is because the subconscious, which is the “group mind” of mass consciousness, has to have a set-pattern as a kind of theme or metaphor for producing both an internal reality and corresponding external reality of the same nature. The subconscious needs a “memory of reality” in order to produce an “experience” of reality. The subconscious can’t tell the difference between an “actual memory” and an imagined one, because they’re both created the same way, in the faculty of the imagination. In order to give the subconscious a pattern and directive for creating, we have to form it into a virtual memory as an experience of it, as if it’s already real.

What makes a “real memory” different from a made-up one, is that the one created from a real life situation came as an actual experience that had a strong feeling, vivid and intense sensations, and a strong emotion as the “self-organizing mechanism” that gave it meaning and shaped it into a story of some kind. Actual events, which are subliminally shaped through natural unconscious states, contain all the key components for shaping as a “mental record”, which, when recalled and replayed, contain all the emotional sensations and instant story-line for producing an immediate experience of the same nature and kind. Our entire experience of reality is based on an incredibly diverse and dynamic matrix of interwoven and integrated memory. Our mental paradigm as a dynamic (living) holographic pattern (frequency) is a “reality generating machine”, much like a computer simulation or video game where everything is being produced in a progressive manner moment by moment through our perception of it formed out of memory.

       The “connecting factor” that forms the basis for and that generates and maintains all reality, is “feelings”. Whatever reality as an experience we produce by imagining it, acts to express a feeling, amplifying and reproducing it, and serves to give us more of that same feeling. If we form a wish or goal from a feeling of lack and scarcity, from a state of “not having it”, while we think we’re giving the subconscious a verbal command to produce or find it, the real directive being received by the subconscious is to produce more of the same feeling as an experience of the outer reality. We’re actually forming a goal around the experience of “deprivation and lack” at the subconscious level.

This is a very important factor to realize in using your own mind to create within the material world. Thought as we know it, as verbal words we speak to ourselves internally, is a product of the self-conscious mind of outer awareness. The thought and “intelligence” of higher planes of consciousness (regardless of what we call it), is what acts to organize and orchestrate the material plane of phenomena, and comes intuitively as feelings. Within feelings are whole realities as experiences that produce more of the same feelings. The governing force of the mind and the reality it creates and perceives, both internally and externally, comes as feelings that act to systematically produce matching thoughts and emotions.

Goals as Mental Programs

In order to produce a goal as a means of creating reality, rather than performing a simple task, it has to be formed into an “experience of the goal” as an actual reality. We have to form it in our imagination in full sensory terms as being “within it” having the experience of it. We have to first produce the reality internally in order to connect with, match, and perceive the same type of reality externally. All perception of the outer world is formed as the correspondence to the internal representation formed in the imagination. The same pattern as a theme or metaphor is played out on different scales and levels simultaneously. The entire material world, which is constructed of light by the mind, is produced by the Higher Mind of the Soul, of which both the subconscious and self-conscious are functional aspects within the lower plane and are what is used to produce, experience, and maintain the entire phenomenal world. In order to work within the material plane in a truly creative fashion, we have to work by way of the laws that govern the mind that’s acting to create it. Two complementary aspects brought into harmony produce a functional third.

We produce our goals as imaginary realities by developing them as actual scenarios in full sensory terms, while also creating our experience by what we’re telling ourselves about them that give them meaning and form a story-line about them. We picture it in our mind while asking ourselves . . . what am I seeing? Then imbue it with visual details that are rich in terms of colors, textures, and qualities. Then ask, what am I hearing? While filling in the experience with any sounds, activities, or other people talking. Then, what am I feeling or touching? Smelling? Tasting? While filling in details of sensations of touch, smell, and taste. What am I feeling as emotional sensation? What am I telling myself about it as internal dialogue and thoughts? And so on, until you develop a detailed sensory experience that acts to invoke a very positive emotional state.

Emotions Motivate Action and Behavior

The subconscious is emotionally driven and motivated by the two primary emotions of either pleasure or pain. It moves towards and into anything it deems pleasurable or pleasant, and away from or avoids anything it perceives as painful or unpleasant. It’s very important that the visualization of our goals as an experience act to naturally produce positive, compelling emotions in us. If feelings of fear, apprehension or discomfort arise from our goals, we have to resolve them at the same time as a means of developing our vision, or they’ll act as a natural means of self-sabotage. Because fear is such a strong and compelling emotion, it can take on a life of its own, and sends the message to the subconscious that this type of situation (our desired goal) will cause fear as a result, and the subconscious will act to avoid, resist, and counteract it as a way of preventing it from happening.

Spiritual Basis of Desire and Fear

From a purely spiritual, soul-oriented perspective, which is always based on growth by realizing and overcoming limitations, all of our true desires as the dream for our life are directly associated to our greatest fears, and require us to step into and resolve our fears in order to willfully create. This factor can be confusing for many because there’s a general misconception that’s being widely taught as the belief that “what’s meant to be” comes with ease as a harmonious and synchronistic unfolding of congruent events. While this is true at the unconscious level of karmic patterns repeating in a systematic fashion, when we assume the position of “consciously creating” in a precise and deliberate manner by breaking habitual patterns of established realities, we have to operate according to a higher set of laws that are polar and causal in nature to the laws of the lower plane, which come in an automated fashion without our mental initiation.

When we step outside of automated processes, which create out of fears as much as they do desires (whichever one is strongest), we encounter a kind of paradox that acts to keep our current life situation stable and maintains it in a consistent fashion. As we set goals to accomplish things that are outside of our normal reality, we encounter both the positive and negative aspects at play within the same reality. In order to create something new and alter the existing pattern of reality, we have to not only develop and embellish the positive aspects, but we have to also realize and dissolve the negative emotions that will serve to counteract and prevent it.

How we Sabotage Ourselves

Whenever we act against our own desires as a means of destroying opportunities, ruining key relationships, or producing destructive behavior, we have fears and beliefs operating at the subconscious level that we haven’t identified that are stronger than our desires. We are often our own worst enemy and what acts in our own life to destroy our dreams and ultimately produce our own demise. When fear is stronger than desire, it becomes the dominant state that we create our experience out of. What we fear we simultaneously think about and imagine, programming our subconscious with the reality of our fear. All behaviors come in a completely natural fashion without our direct awareness, and whenever emotions and intellect clash, emotion nearly always wins because it’s what’s driving all subconscious activity to produce us and our reality.

The Creative Power of Beliefs

Because our mind is what produces our perception of reality and all of our natural behaviors based on our perception, we act in an unconscious manner to faithfully produce the reality of our beliefs. Whenever we have a belief that contradicts or counteracts our desire for something, we use the desire to produce the reality of our belief instead, which prevents us from being able to accomplish it. Our beliefs “appear real to us” because they’re an inherent part of our perception, so we usually don’t realize that they’re actually something that we made-up, or was given (taught) by someone else that we accepted as being real and therefore true. Because we don’t truly realize the power of our own mind to create our reality (perception), we don’t realize that our beliefs aren’t “real”.

       We form limiting beliefs around our desires and dreams that require dissolution through self-awareness and realization, and the deliberate use of our ability to willfully correct our own false illusions. Usually, even when evidence is provided that contradicts and therefore proves our beliefs to be false, we’ll deny it or argue against it in favor of our beliefs. This is because our beliefs are not singular in nature but are formed out of a “belief system” as our mental paradigm that all support and validate each other through a cohesive experience of reality. As we transform what seems like a single belief, we undergo a paradigm shift that systematically transforms all beliefs that relied on it in order to be “real”.

This can and does act to turn our perception and experience of reality completely around. We all have a story built around our beliefs that shape us according to them, and when a core-belief (one formed through our formative (childhood) conditioning) is transformed, it transforms our identity by way of the reality it creates that we use to experience ourselves, that can often cause a form of identity crisis. This experience is what’s been traditionally referred to as “soul liberation”, because the beliefs used to structure our reality are a form of self-induced limitation. While limitations of various sorts are necessary to express something in a specific manner, and as the means of developing an idea by giving it detail, when they prevent us from becoming a certain “type of person”, or from producing a certain type of experience, they act to prevent self-expression as growth in the most basic sense of the idea. What kind of limitations we impose on ourselves determines what we are capable of creating using our soul, mind, and will.

Ecology Check – Creating Harmony

Another potential problem we have is that we set goals for one area of our life that conflicts with, undermines, or causes problems in another area of our life. When this happens we form inner conflict around them, associating pain and suffering with them, or the experience of having to “give up or lose” something we value in order to have or achieve them. Because the subconscious is the aspect of the (unified) mind that creates reality, it avoids and sabotages our goals, or acts to keep us in a constant state of inner conflict. Again, it’s the “state” we’re in and the “experience” that acts as the “program as a reality” for the subconscious to create more of.

For this reason, all goals should be developed in a way that’s congruent and harmonious with all other areas of our life, or if you’re acting to change behaviors, make sure you identify when and in what way the new behavior is appropriate and desired, and when it’s not. This requires moving an idea from a generalized state to a detailed and specific state by developing it in your imagination. Goals as standards exist in all areas of our life, and have to always be harmonious with each other in order to accomplish and maintain them. A financial or professional goal shouldn’t act to prevent or go against a health or relationship goal. Whenever intentional goals clash, it has a destructive nature and puts you in a constant state of inner turmoil and tearing you apart by having to let go of one area of your life in order to achieve in another area. All goals should be integrated harmoniously with all other goals and standards by adapting and modifying them accordingly, and should always produce a positive emotional state as the “imaginary experience of them”.

All Goals should be Self-Oriented

All true goals should only involve you in order to achieve and produce. They shouldn’t require the participation of anyone else specifically to achieve as a joint reality. If goals require the cooperation of others in order to create, they should be discussed, set as a joint experience, and developed as a group. Any goal as a reality that’s not already a part of your everyday life requires you to make an inward change in order to produce outwardly. It requires you to give your own subconscious mind a program as a virtual memory to create an outward reality of the same nature. All goals come as our ability to willfully create an experience of them both inwardly and outwardly as an actual scenario or event. The only people who can actively and naturally participate in a playing a part in them are those who have similar goals or who are already a natural part of the reality we’re acting on ourselves to create.

There are many articles written on the nature of goal setting, most of which are the offspring of conventional thought that’s been made popular, which state that it’s only goals that are written down and remembered that tend to come true. And while this is certainly true, it’s actually only the initial steps to actually creating the reality of your goals. As we write them down, we further develop them by making them detailed and specific, which becomes the basis for setting the intention to create them by visualizing them. All true creation that produced a brand new situation and experience began as a dream in the imagination. As souls, we are all programmed with our destiny through the dreams we naturally hold for our life that we’re born with and come natural to us. We all form ideas in our mind as kids of the type of characters that we want to be like and we develop those same characteristics in ourselves by “pretending to be like them”. We act out the same stories as an identity that has specific qualities and characteristics, and we “program ourselves” with those imagined realities as a way of “becoming”.

Setting the Criteria for Evaluating the Accomplishment of a Goal

As you visualize a goal that’s set as a “reality” (not as acquiring an object or performing a task) and begin moving into it, it can become easy to lose sight as to whether or not you’re making real progress, or at what point you have actually accomplished your goal as an outcome of reality. We have to form realization around what it is that will provide us with evidence of our goal becoming an actual reality. At what point will we realize we’ve accomplished it? What is it in our outer environment as an event or situation that will let us know? This is critical because all imagined realities that act as a template and program for creating, are symbolic and metaphorical in nature, and when they’re produced as an actual reality, may be quite a bit different than the way we imagined it. For this reason, we have to identify and become quite clear on the “feeling” the reality was designed to give us.

All experience is only designed as the means of producing a feeling in us by way of that reality. It’s the feeling that gives us a sense of ourselves inwardly that forms the basis of the memory we create of it as a result. The events themselves, or the specific set of circumstances that take place as our outer situation are irrelevant in and of themselves, but merely set the stage necessary for us to create a specific type of experience out of them. It’s the experience we create from the material reality that shapes us in terms of our identity. The outer events themselves are neutral in nature and lack meaning outside of the one we give it as a means of experiencing it. As we create our experience, we relate and associate with it, forming a “sense of ourselves” within and “as” our experience, which serves to shape us as an individual. By identifying the feeling the goal is designed to give us, we can form a clear idea as to when we have accomplished our goal as an outer experience that provides us with a certain inner feeling.

Overview:

We create our reality in an intentional manner by how we use our conscious mind to program our subconscious mind. Our subconscious is intuitive in nature, and requires an idea as a metaphorical pattern that it uses as a form of instinct to create a corresponding outer experience. Our subconscious is the material mind that we share with the entire natural world, that has no ability of its own to discriminate and evaluate, decide, or willfully (going against habitual tendencies) act out an idea that’s apart from its outer environment, and needs to be “seeded” with an idea in the form of a memory for creating as an outer reality of the same nature. It’s only by first producing the reality inwardly that we can then produce it outwardly.

All goals for new creations have to be resistant free and harmonious with our mental paradigm in order to achieve, because it’s our paradigm that produces it. We have to identify all fear and negative emotions associated with it, and any other areas of our life it will conflict or act to undermine and ruin. We have to realize any core beliefs we have that will prevent it or act to sabotage it. We have to develop it as a reality from “within the experience of it” as an already existing reality. Form it from the position and perspective of already “having it”.

The Steps for Creating a Vision of Our Goal:

  • Decide on what you “want” and set the intention for creating it.
  • Integrate it with all other life goals and standards for living as a way of developing it into a specific and detailed reality that’s congruent and coherent with your existing model.
  • Recognize any fears, negative emotions, conflicts, and limiting beliefs associated with it that arise naturally in response to the thought of it, and set a series of smaller goals as the means for transforming them.
  • Develop the goal as an actual experience of reality by giving it full sensory detail – seeing, hearing, feeling, smelling, tasting, and what you’re telling yourself about it.
  • Develop your internal dialogue as your “story about things” and yourself in a way that’s congruent and forms positive emotions and feelings about yourself.
  • Form a strong desire for it by making it very compelling and associating only positive emotions to it.
  • Once developed the way you want it, replay it over and over several times until it becomes a natural thought that can be instantly recalled just like a memory.
  • Write it down or record it, then review and visualize it every morning before you start your day, throughout the day when you’re in a relaxed state, and every evening before you fall asleep.
  • Set the intention to take some form of action towards it that day as a smaller set of goals that form an “action plan”.
  • As you go along and your actions begin producing results, evaluate those results to see if they’re in alignment with your desired outcome, and make any adjustments necessary to your action plan. Keep doing this until you produce the results you desire as a certain type of experience.
  • Form a strong realization around how you will feel when you’ve accomplished your goal and use that as the means of measuring it’s completion as an outer series of events that become a natural part of your experience and identity.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

 

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Mind-Body Medicine: Developing a more Effective Style of Practicing by Employing Psychological Skills

One of the most common mistakes we make when practicing medicine of any kind, is that we take a system that operates as a whole unit and we separate it into parts, and then proceed to treat only one part as if it’s independent of the system itself. We separate the mind from the body and approach the physical ailment in purely material terms without any awareness of what psychological and emotional effect we’re creating through our attitude and approach. Yet, just as all “behavior” comes as the product of emotions and thoughts, all biological processes and activities are also produced and influenced by the mind that serves to operate the body and give it life. Nowhere is this more readily demonstrated than in what we call the “placebo effect” which has been employed in numerous different ways and clearly demonstrates the power of the mind as beliefs has in producing distinct and specific effects in the body.Another fundamental error we make in how we approach things tends to come from our own belief-system and paradigm in terms of healing itself, and what our true capabilities are and role is as doctors and practitioners. There’s a distinct difference between the idea of “healing” as opposed to curing, managing symptoms, medicating, repairing and fixing, and removing or replacing parts. True healing is when the body heals itself and is a function of how the mind works to naturally direct and instruct the body to perform and produce natural biological processes. In this sense, all “healing” is a form of “self-healing”, and only the patient can heal themselves. As practitioners however, we can identify and help remove whatever is acting to cause the problem, and employ psychological skills along with medical knowledge to help facilitate a process as an “experience” that will work subliminally with the mind of the patient to help engage them in the mental process necessary for healing themselves. This ability requires a different type of skill and can be “performed” through our normal demeanor and way of talking with someone. As with all things, it’s all about how we enter into relationship with others and act to directly influence them as a result.In order to create the proper experience necessary to be effective, every aspect of the process a patient undergoes has to be taken into consideration. In this article however, I’m only going to address the actual interaction and experience with the doctor or Practitioner. You have to always keep in mind that the outcome produced in any situation comes as the result of constant impressions the patient is forming as they go along that they use as the means of drawing their conclusions as well as provides them with ideas that are “designed to convince”. A convincer is whatever provides a form of evidence as to the credibility and competency of the doctor that gives and instills the firm impression that we know what we’re doing and can be trusted to help them in whatever way they need help. People are always making constant mental and emotional evaluations as they go along in an experience, and the more congruent and consistent the overall experience is, the more faith is created in the competency of the doctors and the establishment as an organization.

The most fundamental way to work with someone psychologically is by creating the proper relationship as an emotional state that establishes trust, while planting the proper thoughts and suggestions for them to develop by continuing to think about them, which work together to form a belief about what’s going to happen and why. Our beliefs shape our perception and experience of reality, and serve to produce the physical equivalent as an analogy and correspondence of the belief. This is clearly demonstrated in various applications of a placebo of some kind where the mind produces the physical effect of whatever it believes the placebo will produce. This process and effect is greatly enhanced by explaining in detail what effect they can expect from something, which is really providing them with instructions on “what to create”.What the placebo experiments have also shown is that they’re much more effective when the Practitioner also believes in the placebo, or believes that whatever they’re telling the patient is true and correct. This is because we’re always producing body language and subtleties in our tone of voice and how we’re saying things that the patient picks up on subconsciously and knows we’re not being truthful, lack confidence in what we’re saying, or aren’t sincere somehow. What this means is that you have to first of all realize the power of the mind to direct and heal the body, and develop a true knowledge and practical understanding of psychological principles and how they work in order to skillfully employ them as part of your style and in a convincing manner.If you honestly feel that you’re doing something wrong in what you’re saying or how you’re being, it’ll show, and you won’t be effective in using it. Just as the placebo requires belief in order to work, so does our performance that’s acting to instill the belief in someone else. We’re always working by way of the same psychological principles in everything that we do and say, whether we’re instilling negative ideas or positive ones. The only difference is whether or not we’re conscious and aware of what we’re doing, or if we’re doing it in an unconscious and haphazard way. Whether we’re simply “giving” our beliefs to another as a form of diagnosis, treatment, and prognosis, or if we’re changing our language and how we say things in order to produce the most positive mind-set possible in effectively dealing with any situation.

Employing psychological skill always comes through the relationship we form and how we communicate or express ourselves and ideas within the context of that relationship, and what outcome we’re trying to intentionally create. Communication isn’t just verbally through the words we’re speaking, but something we do with our whole presence and body. It’s something that comes by way of a performance with our “state of mind” and how we’re being, with our body language and gestures, the tone and quality of our voice, the rate and rhythm of “how” we’re saying something, and the actual words we’re using. The words we use when talking to someone tend to form the basis for the reality as internal representations they form in their mind, which acts to elicit an equivalent emotional response that forms the “meaning” the idea has, which form the basis for how they experience it. The meaning things have and the experience they create are what provide the basis as a form of instructions for the subconscious mind to create as a physical equivalent. If they belief that healing is going to take place as the result of your consultation and guidance, then there’s an excellent and greatly increased possibility that it will.The first thing we need to decide in any situation is what our intention is, what outcome we have a desire to produce, and what the purpose of our communication is. Then we ask ourselves how do we need to “become” and “how do we need to say” whatever it is we’re going to say in order to influence and lead them to that as a natural conclusion? In the case of setting an intention of helping facilitate a natural process of healing as a belief that healing is possible and going to take place as a result of our interaction with them, then providing them with the proper thoughts, emotions, and instructions, we have to formulate a kind of plan for what would produce the necessary effect. We’re always working in any situation through a relationship of “cause and effect”, or stimulus that produces a like response in everything we think, say, and do. So what relationship do we need to form to produce a natural effect? What’s the best possible way for us to approach a situation in order to produce the most positive, appropriate, and beneficial outcome for the patient?The basic principles that are involved in giving a person “suggestions” by how we communicate with them, that serve to plant the proper idea in their mind that they will continue to think about and develop long after our encounter, is to first create a relaxed and receptive state as an atmosphere of trust and safety, achieved through rapport as a feeling of infinity by becoming “like them” in personality and demeanor, and talk to them in a way that forms the desired ideas in their mind. By educating and instructing them on what to do and why, while constantly checking to make sure they understand what you mean, and then recap and summarize as a means of concluding, we can greatly increase compliance through a willing cooperation. Always present everything in as positive terms as possible while placing a special emphasis on “what to do” as actions for them to take, instead of only telling them what “not to do”. The subconscious mind doesn’t know how to process a “negative idea”, because it works only by forming a picture in the mind of what you’re saying, and the picture formed “is” the instructions as to what to do or what idea to produce as an experience. If you tell them not to do something, they have to picture what it is they’re not supposed to do, which serves as directive to the subconscious.

Don’t ever “diagnose” or give a condition a name or label unless you have to, because they’ll research it as soon as they leave, find out all about it and produce the symptoms involved even when they didn’t originally have them. They’ll literally manifest the disease through their belief that they have it. A diagnosis is the most prominent way we create a belief in the patient where they begin to systematically produce new symptoms because of it. There have been cases where people were “misdiagnosed” for some reason, who literally went on to produce the disease they were misdiagnosed with. There have been similar cases where patients were misdiagnosed with a terminal illness and told how long they had to live, and died on the very day they were told they would, only to find out afterwards that their diagnosis was a mistake, and they never had the disease until they were “told” they did. It was the diagnosis that “gave them” the disease as a belief in it. These cases are classic examples of the power of belief to manifest the physical conditions of the belief.The Process for Employing Psychological Skill in Communicating:Keep in mind that every aspect of the whole process as an “overall experience” is creating an “impression” of some kind that your patient is using as the means of evaluating and assessing the situation to draw a final conclusion as a summation that creates their belief about you, your staff, and your organization. That the outcome produced and the effectiveness of any treatment, procedure, or process is based primarily on the “relationship” formed between patient and doctor. This will not only increase your effectiveness considerably in truly helping people heal, while building your reputation as a doctor, but will also create patient loyalty and referrals. There’s no better way to grow your Practice than through long-term relationships build on successful cases and the Patient referrals that come as a result. As a professional your reputation is everything.Self-Preparation:
  • Set your intention for a desired outcome firmly in your mind as the basis for the rest of the process which will come as a synchronized series of correspondences.
  • Realize the “state of mind” or mood you need to embody as the nature and quality of your “energy”, and intentionally form it. The number one way we influence anyone is through our “presence” and they “feel” being around us. The minute you walk into the room you create a “first impression” that’s sets the pace for the rest of the experience.
  • Develop professional etiquette that has a personalized quality to it. Demonstrate manners, be courteous and kind, and always convey a sense of sincerity and true concern, while also being professional in your demeanor and general behavior.
  • Always dress in a professional yet casual manner that conveys professionalism, intelligence, a sense of authority, well-groomed in every way, and where your patients are able to easily establish you from the rest of your staff. First impressions are nearly always formed on appearance and presence alone before you even open your mouth to speak.
Creating the Proper State as the Basis for the Experience:
  • The most direct means you have of influencing the patients “state” is through your own presence. The minute you walk into the room they’re “reading” your energy as a form of anticipation of what’s to come.
  • By helping them to relax and feel comfortable with us we create a feeling of trust and safety, which is necessary in order for them to be receptive to us. By being cordial and friendly we make a personal connection with them that sets the foundation for the rest of the interaction.
Establishing Rapport:
  • The most natural form of “trance induction” there is that we engage in routinely without being aware of it comes through establishing “rapport” with someone. Rapport is also a form of what we call “charisma”, which is a magnetic type of energy that naturally engages people and causes them to feel attracted to us.
  • Rapport is established by mirroring or “becoming like” the other person in nature. Synchronizing with them as a form of entrainment, where we take on the same type of body posture, demeanor, language, and basic personality. We don’t need to do this in an exact way, but more in a general way where we seem familiar to them and they can easily relate to us, which helps them “like us” and feel relaxed and comfortable in dealing with us. Again, familiarity breeds comfort and trust. We like and trust people who are like us.
Formulating Suggestions as Education and Instructions:
  • You want to gear all communication to “normal language” and use layman terms. Avoid using medical terminology that only you understand. Use analogies and metaphors to explain ideas, compare ideas to everyday ideas that are of a similar nature, and use visuals or models of some kind if necessary or appropriate. Patients can only participate in a cooperative manner if they understand, if they feel confused they won’t know what to do or what it means exactly, and so they won’t be able to fully cooperate.
  • Anytime that you’re having them change something, or stop doing something, discuss and establish with them what to replace it with or what to do instead. We don’t ever really break habits, but rather we transform them into new habits that produce new results that are more beneficial in nature.
  • Explain to them what the thing you want them to stop is doing to harm them, and how they’ll benefit by doing whatever it is you’re recommending with relative detail. This helps them to imagine and think about things in a way that make the change easy. As we “explain things” we are literally teaching them how to think about them in the proper way in terms of the benefits and results it’ll produce, and giving them a form of “instructions” on what to create through the belief it forms in their mind. Placebos are always much more effective when we tell people what they’ll produce. The subconscious mind doesn’t have the ability to discriminate or make decisions, so it has to be given instructions on what to do and how to do it in order to create it as a natural outcome.
  • Formulate a plan for transformation from the current state to the desired state through what the patient is willing to do and can do within their current lifestyle and situation. Always customize plans to the unique needs and preferences of the patient to reduce resistance, ensure compliance and elicit full participation.
Check for Understanding:
  • Frequently ask if they have any questions.
  • Have them recap the plan of action and what you decided together to ensure that they understand it as a step-by-step plan and remember what was said.
Summarize and Conclude:
  • Briefly explain what you “expect to see” on their next visit in terms of progress based on the agreed changes and faithful implementation of the plan you formed together. This reestablishes the results it will produce and puts it within a time-frame. Expectation is a form of belief as to what will occur and become established through the process implied.
  • If appropriate, briefly describe what the “healing process will look like” in terms of time-frames and the stages involved in healing.
  • Thank them and conclude in a friendly and personable way that’s sincere.
Follow-up Visits:
  • You want to begin any follow-up or continuing visits for the same problem by briefly going over what you had agreed to last time and ask them “how did it go?” Hear what they have to say about the progress made and if they encountered any problems and have any questions. Discuss and answer all of these before performing the new exam.

It can also be very beneficial to simply learn how to change our language regarding things. I’ve heard doctors often make comments like “there is no cure” for this problem or disease, which sets the belief in the patient that there’s no hope or nothing they can do, and of course isn’t an entirely accurate statement no matter what it’s in reference to. We could just as easily reframe that by saying “we haven’t found a cure for this yet, but we’re working on it and making new discoveries everyday”, which is not only a more accurate statement, but gives the patient a sense of hope that a cure does exist and may be discovered at any time. Hope is a very important key to ensure active and enthusiastic participation. You can also follow that up by saying, “but here’s what we do know about it that helps . . . . “, or “here are some things you can do that will help  . . . “, then explain what those things are and describe in what way they will help or what they’ll help with (pain, slow the progress, remedy a symptom, etc.).By learning psychological principles and how to utilize them through our style of performance and communication, we can develop effective ways to work the patient’s own mind to help them heal themselves naturally. We can provide them with the means for producing necessary lifestyle changes. We can learn how to work with the “whole person” instead of fragmented parts of them. Many illnesses and diseases have healed mysteriously in a spontaneous manner, and many cancers go into spontaneous remission for no apparent reason. Most illnesses, disease, and cancers are psychosomatic in nature and have an emotional, psychological, and spiritual component to them which is actually “causal” in nature. Many physical ailments are due to lifestyle issues and habitual behaviors of some kind that are ultimately emotionally and psychologically driven. By working with the whole person instead of just the physical aspect we can help set the premise for changing habits and transforming areas of their life that are producing health problems of various sorts. We don’t need to be both a Physician and Psychologist in order to do this, we simply have to have a good understanding of the psychological principles involved and how to apply them in a practical way to our enhance our personal style for practicing medicine.Dr. Linda GadboisProfessional Development and Entrepreneurial Consultant

Creating a Vision Board – “Visual Mapping of a Desired Reality as a Series of Goals”

Many of us have heard that any goal that’s written down has a greater chance of being actualized than one that’s not. And while this is true, the way the mind naturally creates realities is through imagining them as actual experiences. By creating a reality out of a goal, we form an internal representation as a conceptualization of that goal as a possibility, which makes it believable, while giving us a mental template for perceiving it and acting it out. Psychologically speaking, we can only “do” what we can first imagine. We are only capable of behaviors that we can “see ourselves” doing. Imagining an idea is a prerequisite for creating it as an outer experience.

When we form a sensory reality of a goal “as if” it’s real and already happening, we give the subconscious mind (responsible for all behaviors) a “program” as a form of virtual memory which it uses in place of actual memory and acts to automatically create it. When we envision a reality, we are setting a pattern as a request that says . . . give me more of this. We program the mind to seek it out and recognize what is of the same nature and can be used to create a similar experience in our environment. At the same time, when envisioning a desired reality, we sense ourselves in that experience, and identify with it. This not only hones our vibratory frequency to that reality as a state-of-mind, but also programs the mind to seek it out through a form of resonance. It magnetizes the idea internally as a guidance system that moves us towards its fulfillment, and draws the elements of its fulfillment to us.

Anytime we create an internal reality around an idea, we form a dynamic series of associations to that idea as a variety of experiences inherent in the potential the idea holds for us, that causes us to recognize ideas of the same nature, though they may appear different than we imagined, and can spawn a series of coincidences that when followed or investigated, form a pathway for creating more of the same type of experiences. You want to vary how you imagine a goal as a reality to ensure that you don’t get stuck on only one possibility for how it could show up. You want to release any attachments you have to needing it to be something specific, but rather concentrate on the feeling the idea represents, and allow a chain of association to arise out of it as a reality. Any formulated experience is based on the “feeling” it represents and has to come by way of whatever is available in your immediate environment as a way of manifesting in your everyday life. How it shows up will be based on the elements in near proximity to you that are of the same nature and can be used to co-create the same type of experience. Though it may vary in appearance, the feeling it gives you will be the same. If you get set on it needing to show up or appear in a specific way, you may miss it when it actually comes as a variation.

When setting a goal of any kind, notice the feeling associated with that goal, what the goal represents in terms of the type of experience it will give you, and then allow realities as possibilities to naturally emerge as a free-flowing chain of association that amplifies the feeling by creating more of it. Then, when the feeling is amplified, become aware of how it feels in your body, concentrate on it and seat it. This feeling as a distinct movement in your body that acts as a stimulus is not only your beacon, but also your homing device. It’s your means of recognizing in your environment what’s of the same nature and acts to stimulate you with that same feeling, which will lend itself naturally to co-create experiences that will express and give you more of that same feeling. The feeling (vibratory frequency) is the common denominator. The inner realities as images that invoke specific feelings are simply potentials of that feeling that help you recognize the idea in it’s various forms and as clothed in many different ways, making it appear different. An internal feeling creates a certain type of experience as a living reality in the external world.

As a general rule of thumb, whatever your vision as a goal of some kind is, should never involve other people, or require them to be apart of it in order to manifest it as a reality. The accomplishment of all goals should lie exclusively within your power to create. Because a goal of any kind ultimately represents a desired experience of some sort as a feeling, if you dream of having a certain type of experience with a specific person, and the true reality is that the experience they’ll bring you will be quite different than you imagine, then they are not of the same vibration and do not represent the fulfillment of your desire. You won’t be able to attract them with your vision. They won’t have a “role” in acting out the same type of reality with you. Instead, concentrate intensely on the feelings of the desired reality, and be as open as possible to whatever form it will come in. Release attachments to needing it to show up in only one form, and be open to completely new and often surprising alternatives.

To form a vision board, create an over-all plan for the coming year, and break that plan down into a series of goals as a step-by-step process necessary to create the over-all goal as a desired reality. Imagine the goals as experiences, and what image symbolizes or represents it, or what words or sayings are associated with it. Find pictures, words, sayings, or objects that symbolize all the goals necessary to create the ultimate outcome, and arrange them in an artistic and pleasing way on a piece of poster board or foam core. Then use it as a visual meditation, by imaging the ideas associated to the pictures, or by forming visions from the words and sayings. Whatever is on your board acts as the stimulus for a series of realities around the actualization of your goal as if you are experiencing it. As you meditate, form and associate very positive emotions around and towards your vision. Fall in love with it. As you imagine it as real and happening, stimulating very positive emotions in response to it, infuse it with love and a deep sense of gratitude and give thanks to the Universe for making it possible. Make this a regular, if not daily practice.

Dr. Linda Gadbois
Consultant for Personal Transformation