Relationship Dynamics – “Behavioral Patterns as Life Themes”

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One of the difficulties we tend to have in fully comprehending our true ability to self-create through various dynamics that we act out in relationship with others, is that we have conscious and unconscious aspects of an experience, as well as a tendency to identify with every role in a behavioral pattern, and are moving in and out of them all the time in a completely natural and spontaneous way. We tend to view life as happening “to us”, largely because our fundamental patterns are established through childhood conditioning, when we are only partially aware in our experiences, while associated to the position (role) of having stuff done to us by others while having no real control over the situation. Yet, in reality, we are being conditioned to the behavioral pattern as a form of living drama that we eventually, once we mature and become an adult in the same behavior, we can play any role within the same dynamic, and simultaneously act to initiate the pattern by first doing unto the other what we want (cause) them to do back unto us. We then get to experience it as though once again . . . it’s happening to us.

 
How we are treated by others as children not only teaches and trains us to the actions inherent in the pattern, but also the values, beliefs, and emotional states that the behavior is an expression of. The belief provides the composition as an enactment, the values as what’s important, what’s not and why, and the emotions as the charge or expressive component the behavior is given and the attitude employed in order to effectively act it out. If for example, we are made to feel (told and treated as if) that we’re not important, or were a burden of some form, and consistently treated that way (parents beliefs projected onto us), we form it as a core belief, meaning a primary belief that spawns other beliefs based on it, that acts to shape our life in a powerful way as the central theme of our life’s story that later develops our identity around and by way of it. We then develop an array of behaviors around it as a means of compensating, defending, deflecting, or denying and immediately reacting to it. We are always acting it out and creating it as a consistent experience in some way by how we interpret other people’s behavior and events to make them somehow mean that we are not important or wanted, and recreate the same experience of being rejected once again within our own life in some way.

 
The belief forms a mental filter that we use to perceive everything through that reshapes it through how we interpret it to mean “we’re not good enough”, while also producing the behaviors that causes others to react to us by treating us the way we belive we deserve to be treated. In relationships where rejection is not immediately acted out, we will behave in a way that causes them to feel rejected by us, responding by rejecting us back, or we’ll produce the behavior that is repulsive is some way, producing the natural response of someone not wanting to be with or around us. We then experience being rejected “by them” without direct awareness that we did the rejecting to begin with, or created the behavior we knew would cause them to not like us. We act to perpetuate the very behavior we imagine is being done to us by others.
We are conditioned not to singular behaviors or a specific perspective or role within an overall dynamic, but to the dynamic itself as a thematic story, where we can play any role in it. We attract and are attracted to people, situations, and events that can be used to unconsciously act out the same type of dramas as joint experience that serves to tell the same type of story about us, about others, and they way things are over-and-over again throughout our lives. Whatever role the other naturally falls into, we will play the complementary role. The only way to break this pattern is to become aware of it, realize your own tendencies and part in creating the pattern, and choosing to replace it with new behaviors by consciously reconditioning ourselves to become in character the type of person that can naturally act to tell a new type of story, and attract the proper elements to co-create it as a joint reality-experience.

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As long as we remain in denial, not realizing and owning our part, and projecting and blaming it on others, imagining it’s being done to us beyond our control, and we continue to unconsciously create the behaviors that initiates it as a action-reaction pattern that takes on a life of it’s own, we will remain stuck in its grip, feeling helpless to break-out of our own illusion. Once we can take an objective, dissociated perspective, and see ourselves in the story as an active participant from a non-personal position, we can see fully how we engage in the very behavior we imagine is being done to us, and catch ourselves in the moment when we are about to engage in it through some form of stimulus, because we realize “how” we’re acting to do it. What it is we do exactly that initiates it, while justifying and validating it somehow through the story we tell ourselves about it and through a basic form of self-awareness, we can choose to behave in a different way by interpreting their behavior or the situation in a new way, seeing something different, and breaking the unconscious pattern as a result. We can identifying the feelings as an emotion that triggers an unconscious reaction as defensive behaviors.

 
All healing is only possible by bringing what is unconscious and therefore automatic, into awareness as self-realization. By realizing that we are the sole creators of our own experiences, even as a child, we can realize that the thematic patterns we use to create a consistent story “about” us and our life, resulted from how we interpreted events from the mind and emotions of a child that we continue to use as an adult to live out of the same basic emotional interpretations as an adult. Our inner child becomes the story-teller that continues to shape us from an unconscious perspective for the rest of our life, unless we wake up in the midst of our own illusions, and beginning forming new interpretations from the mind and emotions of the adult. All transformation comes through self-knowledge as self-awareness and the employment of our own mind to recreate ourselves by how we choose to use our imagination to create a sense of ourselves through the stories that we tell about ourselves, others, and life in general. We are always the author (authority) of our own life and the sole creator of our internal experience as the thoughts and emotions we entertain willingly on a regular basis. True self-mastery comes from realizing how we use our mind to create realities, then using it intentionally to create the ones we truly want to tell! The ones that will shape who we are through the telling.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

 

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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Personality, Identity, and Ego – Our Main Tools for Transformation

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The personality, identity and ego have a tendency to be used intermittently, and their actual meaning can remain somewhat obscured or vague. This may be due to the fact that they “emerge out of each other” as a natural growth process of becoming. While our personality is related to our bodily consciousness or subconscious mind, and is developed in a completely unconscious (automatic) and spontaneous way in childhood, our identity naturally begins emerging out of or as an extension of our personality when we move into adolescence, and begin building a relationship with the outside world beyond our close knit family unit, and begin thinking for ourselves. As we begin problem solving and reasoning, and as we begin developing our sense of self by what roles we naturally take on and begin playing in group situations, we begin consciously developing our identity through the choices we make, what we’re willing to experiment with, and by how we feel when having certain kinds of experiences. Though in most spiritual scripture, the term “ego” is the same as “identity”, in our modern usage of the idea, the ego has become associated with forming our identity out of an association to purely material things, and is more accurately referred to as the “false ego” or “alter ego”.

 
Our personality gives us our basic characteristics and tendencies as natural behaviors and way of being in the general sense. These develop naturally as children based on the relationship we form with everything around us and how we’re stimulated through a cause and effect, action – reaction type of process. Once this initial stage of development has taken place, it sets the basis for the next stage of development to spontaneously emerge and begin taking shape. As we form relationships with other people, activities, ideas, situations, and so on, more of our inner self is brought out and expressed by how we interact, what we say and do, what roles we begin naturally taking on, what parts we begin playing in a larger whole, and how we sense ourselves through our own experiences. Some ways of being we like, and so we develop them by moving deeper into them, others we don’t like, and so quit doing them while trying something else. Our teenage years are about experimenting with our ability to create ourselves, and as we approach and move into our twenties, our basic identity is in place as far as how and where we see ourselves, what roles and situations we naturally gravitate towards, and what relationships we natural form through resonance. As we create our experiences, we identify with them, and they serve to shape us in terms of our being.

 
This process of identification continues as we move through life, and the ego is naturally formed as an extension of our identity based on how we begin forming our identity around material aspects that we use to form our self image. As we dress a certain way, we feel a certain way, and form it as a part of our personal style. As we drive a certain type of car, we get a sense of ourselves by way of the car as an image we begin forming of ourselves. The house or apartment we live in is related to a certain neighborhood, social and economical status, racial group, etc., and fashions our self-image even further. As we move through life we’re steadily accumulating material possessions and playing certain roles that we continue to identify with and become the basis of “who we are” as an image we form of ourselves, and we become dependent on them. We enter into various relationships that bring out certain qualities in us, and make us consistently feel a certain way, and we sense ourselves by way of these feelings, and they continue to fashion us.

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This aspect of our identity built out of material possessions and our desire to acquire more, or the need to begin exercising control over others through the status we achieve by way of material possessions, forms what is typically referred to as the ego. The ego is a false identity and self-image that produces a false reality that becomes a delusion, because it’s temporary, always subject to changing, and can be taken away or lost, which would cast us head on into a full fledged identity crisis. We wouldn’t know who we are or what to do without them. It would lead us grasping desperately for any form of security we could find. We would be out of our element, in a brand new position and situation with no memory to fall back on, and no longer possess any real form of power and control. When we identify with the material world, we bond ourselves to the material plane, and become “mortal” in nature in the sense that our “self” dies with the body, and our soul seeks life in another body in order to continue living.

 
In most spiritual traditions the term “identity” and “ego” are considered synonymous, and have essentially the same meaning. Our identity is the faculty we use to function and operate in the outside world as the roles we naturally play. It’s only within Christian or religious applications that we find ideas of “killing or destroying” the ego. In spiritual traditions, every part of the whole is a valuable and necessary part, and plays a key role in the overall development of the soul within the body. Every aspect of being plays a specific role in our whole being. You can’t kill or destroy any one part, without simultaneously destroying or disrupting all parts. The idea around the ego as identification with the body and material world is to “transform” it. We can transform it through intentional use of our mind and what we choose to identify with. Whatever we identify with we align ourselves with and draw on as our basic source of power – our inner self or true being – or an outer source by identifying with material possessions that we use to create an image of ourselves in place of who we really are. We use this false image to present ourselves as being important and superior somehow, not through our “actual” character void of material attachments, but by flaunting and over valuing our material wealth.

 
To transform the ego is to change what we associate and identify with. If we choose instead to identify with our Higher Self, the spiritual world or God, then we move into being one with our true identity that always comes from within and is based solely on “who and how” we’re being in any moment. It doesn’t rely on attachments to the material world, and is a source of strength that we possess no matter what our outer circumstances are. We begin operating out of our center of being in terms of our true nature, which remains consistent and is available to us all the time, and can never be taken away from us by another, unless of course, we allow them to. By always drawing on our inner source of invisible powers, we become associated with our spiritual essence, and nourish our immortal self, which transcends the death of the body and remains intact in the invisible realms of the spiritual plane.

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The secret of our ego / identity is that whatever we associate with, we become like in nature. By associating and identifying with something, we move into it and merge with it, embody the same qualities, and take them on by expressing out of them, creating our experiences of ourselves, and shaping ourselves by way of them. We alter our vibratory frequency by working directly with our identity. Whatever identity we employ and exist out of, determine how we’re being in every moment and what type of story we act to naturally tell. Our identity is our character which forms all of our behavior, and how we enter into relationship with everything else. When we’re getting our identity from outside means, we’re always in the process of trying to control and manipulate them. We form strong attachments to outcomes and how others need to be in order for us to be okay. We’re literally being controlled by the very thing we seek to control. When we shift that mentality, and draw only on an inner source of being, it doesn’t matter what others do, and we have no need to quest after power, because we already possess it.

 
To identify with our Higher-Self is to focus our attention on “states of being” as qualities of consciousness. We embody and become those qualities and express through them to create in the world by how we enter into a new kind of relationship with it, and act therefore to directly influence it. Instead of saying that when I dress a certain way I feel confident, you become confident as a way of being regardless of how you’re dressed. You ask yourself, what does it mean to be confident, how would I feel if I was confident, and how would I act? What would my posture be? How would I think and talk? You develop the idea of what you’d have to be and do to “appear” confident. You then model those behaviors, practicing being that way, which makes you feel that way. If you continue to intentionally model being confident, by pretending to be, it starts becoming natural and not only acts to completely transform how you think and feel, but how you act naturally to influence other people by how it changes your “cause and effect” relationship as a natural interaction that takes place between you. In this way you cultivate that quality within you and it becomes a natural part of you. As you begin feeling, thinking, and being confident in all areas of your life, it transforms your identity by how you sense yourself and what kind of person you are. Whatever you allow to express through you, you become the same as.

 
When we develop ourselves by cultivating inner qualities we synthesize them into our being, and they remain a part of our eternal self. The quality of consciousness we possess creates the nature of our experiences which become the memory that makes up our soul. Our soul is built up and developed by the memories it acquires through the experiences of the body. At the death of the body and the material possessions we acquired, only what is an essential part of ourselves are carried forward and maintained. Our sense of self based on our body and our position and possessions, dies with the body. By identifying with the material world, we resonate with it, maintain a strong connection to it, and fail to ascend. Because we bond with our material identity, we continue to reincarnate on the lower planes of the Earth, and fail to utilize the power of our material existence to grow ourselves internally by consciously developing our character to a virtuous state and a higher level of vibration. When we identify with the spiritual plane, we form ourselves to be like it in consciousness, resonate and bond with it, and naturally ascend to it after we shed our material existence.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Spiritual Scientist and Mentor for Spiritual Growth

 

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The Struggle to find Meaning and Purpose

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As we go through life, we’re always building our life around what gives us a sense of purpose. This usually comes through a relationship of some form, either in the romantic sense, where we build a life together, or when we have children and a family that we love and who counts on us for their well-being and happiness. It can also come from work of some sort that we feel passionate about and that helps others, enriches people’s lives, or somehow makes the world a better place. It can also come from creative work, whether it be art or music of some form, writing, making a beautiful home, cultivating a garden, cooking for our family, or taking care of someone to help them heal and grow. It often comes from being needed, having someone depending on us, or the pleasure and joy that comes from providing and giving to others in need. Whatever it is that gives you a sense of “building your life around” it. Whatever gives you a sense of direction and infuses your life with a deep sense of meaning, where everyday you know what you’re waking up for and what you need to do.
When we find ourselves alone in life, either after raising a family that’s grown up and gone, ending long-term relationships, suffering an illness, disease or disability, we come face to face with the reality of what gives our life meaning, and what serves to motivate us in the most ordinary sense. When we have no purpose, nothing to build our life around, it can leave us feeling empty, drained, unmotivated, and depressed. Things we once enjoyed no longer appeal to us because doing them alone isn’t the same as doing them with a loved one where you share the experience and feel the happiness that comes from giving and connecting, or the companionship of always having family of some sort, whether actual or good friends.
When our roles change in life, and what we once built our identity around falls away or ends somehow, and we no longer know who we are or what we’re meant to do, life becomes meaningless and our purpose muddied and unclear. To work and build something only for yourself, often brings no real sense of pleasure or fulfillment. Being alone and working only for yourself, can bring a deep sense of loneliness that goes way beyond longing to be with somebody and recapturing that sense of connection and affection, but begins to slowly strip away meaning itself, where just motivating yourself in the ordinary sense becomes a constant struggle. You’re left with that “what’s the use” feeling, and you begin steadily isolating yourself, or take on a desperate feeling of grasping for whatever you can get, just as long as you don’t have to be alone. You can begin settling for anything, or considering a relationship that you normally wouldn’t even entertain, while finding that it not only doesn’t satisfy the need to connect and feel apart of someone, but makes you feel another kind of loneliness that’s confusing, because you feel even more lonely when you’re with someone. Or it can cause you to go deeper into your isolation and feeling disconnected from people in general, and begins a long journey of accepting that you’re going to be alone, and trying to figure out how to honestly be okay with it. You accept your fate and slowly disappear into a numbing silence where your own thoughts are your only companion. You take up hobbies, transfer your affection to pets, or delve deeper into your work, and while it doesn’t alleviate the loneliness, it does offer a temporary distraction that gives you something to do while you continue to try and figure out what you’re going to do.
While many people say they don’t want to be needed, be responsible for others, and feel burdened by having to provide for the well-being of others, in reality, those are the things that give our life meaning, and give us a clear sense of purpose and the ability to give to others knowing we make a difference in their lives, and without us, they wouldn’t be okay. When we’re apart of something greater than ourselves, and build our lives around others, we’re motivated in the most natural sense and have a constant feeling of love and affection in our life. True pleasure and contentment come from sharing life with another, and others, and from whatever gives us a sense of responsibility, love and devotion for and towards. As humans, we’re not meant to be alone, and a life well lived is lived in the service of others whom we love enough to make sacrifices. In this sense, sacrifice is the true demonstration of love, and intensifies our feeling of commitment and living a life of purpose and meaning.
If we find ourselves alone in life, and seemingly without a prospect for union, then we devote our lives to others and to a cause that takes the place of family, and gives us a sense of duty, service and purpose. If we know we matter in someone’s life, that we’re making a difference, and that the world is somehow better because of us, than it gives our life the meaning and purpose that we all need. It gives us direction and a sense of accomplishment. It gives us a channel for giving and receiving, for contributing and participating in something beyond ourselves. We’re only truly happy when we feel a valuable part of something greater than ourselves. To live a life of purpose is to live a life of service.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

 

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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The Law of the Triad – Resonance, Sympathetic Induction, and Coherence

The world is a vast soup of energy that’s always stimulating and interacting with itself in others. Each entity or material body contains energy and is stimulating – emanating or putting off a charge – that’s being received by everything around it that contains the same type of charge and therefore “can” receive it, while simultaneously being stimulated by everything around it that’s of the same vibration. Every energy body, which always accompanies a material body, is what we could call “charged” with certain vibrations as attributes and qualities of a distinct frequency, that are always interacting with that same frequency in everything else. We are only capable of being stimulated and our state altered by other energy bodies that are of the same frequency as we are. An outside stimulus can only activate and awaken in us what’s there to begin with. Energies that are of a different frequency than we are, operate out of a different state, and have little or no real affect on us. While they’re still a part of our environment in the typical sense, we view them objectively without any kind of reaction to them. In other words we don’t relate to them and don’t enter into a natural relationship with them.

All energy fields are comprised of three basic forces – active, passive, and neutral. Neutral is the balanced harmony of the active and passive. The active force is masculine, and the passive force feminine. The masculine initiates activity and the feminine responds to that activity in a complementary manner. The active force enters into and activates the passive, bringing it into expression and they exist in the same state as a unified whole or “One” as vibrating to the same frequency. The “charge” of any energy field is based on what elements of its entire energetic make-up are in an active state. Activity, similar to friction and heat, emanates, projects and transmits the active quality into the space around it, infusing it. This active force readily moves into and stimulates that same force in anything within near proximity that possesses that same quality, and can therefore be stimulated by it. The stimulating affect, activates the same quality and calls it forth into outer expression, altering the persons state to vibrate at the same rate. The active force in another awakens the same passive force in us. The passive is capable of receiving the active force, bringing it to life in us. It can only stimulate in anything else the same “quality of consciousness” that it possesses. It can’t awaken what doesn’t exist to be awakened. We don’t ever give people traits they don’t already possess; we simply bring them out in them. You can’t bring out in somebody what’s not there to bring out.

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Objects become charged through induction or sympathetic resonance. As forces are activated in us it reformulates a new pattern as a shift in vibration, changing our state of mind, and we begin vibrating in harmony with them, forming coherence. Our state, whether we realize it or not, is constantly undergoing adjustments based on the energetic interaction going on as a form of relationship we exist in with everything else. We’re affected by it, and it’s affected by us. We’re always blending into and taking on the energetic properties of everything around us. While this happens most prominently in our immediate environment, it also works throughout the larger energetic field of mass consciousness of which we are all apart of, and we connect with those of the same vibratory frequency as we are through a shared consciousness. This connection, through the same laws of resonance and induction, form a gravitational field between us and we begin steadily moving towards each other.

Whatever quality of consciousness we’re charged with to begin with as our soul’s essence and personality, becomes the vibratory basis out of which we form our initial relationships with everything else. Our consciousness as our mental state, determines what we feel a connection to, resonate with, have a natural interest in, and who and what we exist in natural relationships with and gravitate towards throughout our life. Because this vibratory consciousness operates at the subconscious level, and is happening spontaneously all the time, we often live our whole life out of the same frequency, entering into relationships of various sorts only with those of the same mind-set and attitude as we are. This natural process of polarization and resonance can only be significantly altered through conscious use of the mind. While the mind has the ability to control the activities of energetic interactions, because, of course, it exists on the same energetic plane as an energy field, and so works by way of the same laws, we have to know how to operate it in order to consciously create with it. The only way we can begin working with this energetic process is by becoming aware of it, and learning how to use our mind to control and direct energy. For this simple fact, we can only truly grow energetically by learning to manage our own energy field as our state of mind, and work to change our vibratory frequency as our quality of consciousness that’s known through our feelings, thoughts, emotions, moods, and actions.

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Because spiritual (energetic) growth requires conscious abilities and creative use of our will to discipline the normal activities of our subconscious mind which is always working in an unconscious and automatic fashion without our direct awareness, it only comes by way of deliberate action from an awakened state. We have to become aware of what’s always going on at the subconscious level, come to understand the nature of our own mind, and utilize our ability to choose and willfully act out new ways of being. By learning the laws that govern our mind and the energetic world, we can work through our mind to direct, control, and produce the qualities of consciousness that raise our vibratory state to higher and higher levels, bringing us into greater and greater understanding of what we previously didn’t even recognize as existing. We have to wake up and become aware of what’s really going on, and learn how to operate our mind and body to strategically cultivate our own mental and emotional being.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Becoming more Conscious: Learning how to Listen to your Body

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As a society, we’ve been trained to dwell in a vast sea of distracted thoughts and engage in a random, scattered and often in-congruent form of thinking as a part of our daily communications with others. We live the greater part of our life without ever being truly present within ourselves and our immediate outer reality. We look to other people’s opinions and experiences with things and adopt them as our own, often with complete trust that lacks the only form of validation there actually is, knowledge that comes to us through self-realization. The only way we can truly know if something is “true” is through the experience of it.
Our body is always in the process of communicating with us. It’s always responding to the energy around us and how it feels, to what we just ate and the manner in which we ate it, and to what we’re dwelling in as the thoughts that prevent us from being self-aware, and keep us instead always residing in the detached space just outside of our body, and remain, for the most part, completely unaware of how we’re feeling. Yet our body is always in the process of interacting with the world around us in numerous ways, and is always providing us with immediate feedback, all we have to do is learn to calm our mind, focus our attention inward, and become aware of how we feel at any given moment.
While our body is most responsive to our own thoughts and imaginings, which actually act as a natural form of self-programming, it’s also giving us a constant form of feedback on the energy that exists in places, being radiated by people around us, about the emotional state and underlying agenda’s of those we’re interacting with, the quality of the air we’re breathing, and the food we just ate. Our body, which is also our subconscious mind, is a lot like a bio-electric antenna that’s always in the process of broadcasting, receiving, and processing information that exists all around us that we’re always interacting and exchanging energy with at the subtle level that lies just beneath our normal awareness.

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The mind is the electromagnetic field that surrounds, envelops, and permeates your body, shaped like a large revolving sphere of energy that pulsates in a rhythmic flow much like breathing. It unfolds and extends out into your immediate environment and forms resonance (magnetizes) with whatever is of the same vibratory frequency (within an acceptable range) or inner nature as we are, magnetizing and attaching it, then enfolding and sending the information back into our core where it’s “sensed”, and the complementary aspects of the information being received that can be readily conformed to our existing model are synthesized into the overall system, altering it slightly (or sometimes drastically), shifting our frequency as an adjustment, which becomes a new emanation of the slightly altered frequency and any obsolete information is then discharged or pulsated outwards, using some to magnetize new information while discharging others, releasing it to be recycled. This constant flow and exchange is how the inner atmosphere of the body is always being adjusted to match the outer atmosphere as the most basic function of evolution.
This same process of digestion and metabolism that the physical world is always undergoing, also governs the energetic realm of the mind that’s largely thought driven. Just as the molecules of the air we breathe becomes the molecules we use to build our body at the cellular level, which is in a constant state of regeneration, the energy as consciousness that exists all around us, is being magnetically digested and assimilated to regenerate our energetic matrix as our mental paradigm. This usually happens without our awareness because it’s subtle and gradual in nature and comes more as “feelings” that have an emotional quality to them, and when taken on, stimulate those same emotions in us, creating the ideal conditions for their complementary thought-forms. Sometimes this is so subtle that we don’t readily recognize it, and at other times it’s quite pronounced and produces an emotional reaction that can be quite volatile.
The other reason it can seem so subtle that it goes unrecognized is because many people are consumed with the thoughts running through their mind that have nothing to do with what’s actually going on around them, and the imagined scenarios as story lines they’re always dwelling in that render them virtually unconscious to the present. While many bodily changes may be taking place in response to the energy around them, they’re so caught up in the body sensations taking place in response to their own thoughts, and so they fail to recognize them. Because of this tendency to be constantly distracted with thoughts that don’t pertain to the present, much of the information our body is sending us goes ignored, until of course a state of emergency is reached and the body begins communicating in a different language, the language of physical pain, designed to get us to stop ignoring it and pay attention because a crisis is developing that could result in a life threatening event.

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The primary difference between the two complementary aspects of the mind, is that the subconscious-body mind, doesn’t perceive “time”. It’s not distracted with imagined realities that aren’t actually real. The subconscious is always present, always aware of what’s actually going on in its immediate environment, and making adjustments accordingly. It doesn’t create imagined realities of the past or the future that it lives out of in place of the actual present reality. The subconscious is always present, experiential in nature, and emotionally connected to everything around it. It’s interacting with the “actual reality”, and is what produces automatic behaviors, that we do all the time without thinking about them.
The conscious mind is the verbal, language oriented, thought driven aspect of the mind that’s always distracted with its own thoughts about things that hardly ever have to do with the present moment. It’s the “living in your head” thing that most people do that exists “in time” (past and future), and is living an illusion in place of actual experience produced by being present. These thoughts and imaginings, usually as replaying memory, or projecting memory into the future creating a similar scenario as a prediction that forms an expectation of what’s to come, also act to provide the subconscious mind with a form of substitute reality that it perceives much like an actual reality, that programs it by providing it with a form of memory as actual information about the environment that modifies it in preparation for that reality. We are literally always in the process of programming ourselves through our imagined thoughts.
The imagined states we live out of as obsessive thoughts act to keep us prepared for that reality as an expectation that becomes our perceptual filter. The mind, which extends quite some distance from the body, is always gathering information from the environment and sending it back to the body, so the body can “prepare” for what’s coming. It adjusts to the perceived environment that it exists and needs to survive within. By closing down our obsessive thoughts that aren’t of the reality in the present, and turning our attention inward to our body, becoming aware of all the sensations and how we’re feeling, we can use our body as a means of measuring and interpreting everything around us in terms of how it makes us feel. We can sense whether we feel relaxed and calm, being stimulated with a distinct emotional sensation, or stirred with an inner turmoil, or have a sick and queezy feeling as an adverse reaction to something. While our body doesn’t communicate with us in words as verbal language, it does operate according to the law of analogies and correspondences, and if we concentrate on a feeling sensation in our body while in a passive mind-set, a natural mental impression will form as a reality associated to the feeling, which is a form of metaphor for understanding the nature of what’s causing the sensation. Our inner feelings are always interacting with the “inner nature” of everything else, and so reveal to us their “true” nature as their energetic constitution, regardless of what their outer appearance is like.

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When we become present in our life, form an awareness of our body and how we feel, we can use our body as a gauge or a form of navigation system. We can begin to realize what produces a “good effect” and what produces a “bad effect”, and what that’s telling us. We can realize the quality of consciousness present in different environments, in other people, in our relationships, in the air we breathe, in the food we eat and the water we drink. Our body is always giving us feedback about how things feel. All we have to do is become present in our body, form a relationship with it, sense and feel what’s happening within us, and use that information as a guide for what to do and what not to do. Our body let’s us know what to increase and have more of, and what to decrease or eliminate all together. It serves as a guide for what relationships to maintain, and which ones to let go. For what types of food to eat, and how to make health promoting, energizing dietary changes that will leave us feeling good.
Many of what we call illness and disease are actually direct feedback from our body about the lifestyle we’re living, in an attempt to provide us with what we need to make the changes necessary to restore our body to health, and a positive, high energy, feel-good state. For example, lactose intolerance is not something you should take a pill for so you can keep on drinking milk and eating cheese, it’s your body’s way of telling you it can’t digest it, and quit consuming it. Heart disease and hypertension is a condition caused by how you’re living, not only in dietary terms, but also your stress level and habitual emotional state that frames reality in a way that causes you to react negatively to your own thoughts about things. It’s your body’s way of saying you’re emotional thoughts and reactive behavior are destructive and will ultimately end up killing you if you don’t change it. Diabetes is calling your attention to the nature of your diet, and the state of your body in terms of being overweight, or not exercising. You’re maintaining a lifestyle and mental state that’s detrimental to your health. Again, it’s not warranting medication of some kind so you can keep on doing what you’re doing that’s killing yourself, it’s your body’s way of talking to you, providing you with evidence and feedback as direct and immediate affects, that also provide you with the information you need on how and what to change.
By becoming present in our body, and in our life in general, and removing our attention from unproductive emotional thoughts, and instead directing our attention to what’s going on within us and around us, we can realize what our body is prompting us to do by how we feel. When you choose a meal, choose one that you know is nutritious and will create a healthy happy body. As you eat it, think only about how healthy it is, and how you’re eating healthy because you love your body. After you’re done eating, sit quietly for a few minutes, and notice how your body feels in response to what you just gave it. Learn how to dialogue with your body through thoughts that form a strong feeling in your body. The “feeling” produced by your thoughts “is” the communication with your body, it’s an effect in the body as the equivalent of your thoughts. It’s not enough to go through the motions of saying it, you’ve got to mean it! You have to create the emotional expression of what you’re saying to yourself. Thought without feeling has no power to create.

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Likewise, when you go places, engage in activities, or are around certain people, calm your mind, become present and neutral, and notice how you’re feeling and what you’re sensing. Be present with the energy and see what emotional quality it has, and what mental impressions it naturally forms. Don’t force the interpretation or allow your normal judgmental mind to kick in and start running stuff, simply allow yourself to notice it, without needing to change it. Remain unattached to what you’re sensing. Don’t try and explain it or make it mean something, just sense it as it actually is. Then, see it for what it actually is, your body giving you immediate feedback as to the consciousness and energy of the person, people, or activity you’re engaged in. Use that neutral and unbiased information as factual and true to guide your decisions and how you interact. Don’t let your emotional mind come back in and start running your habitual mental script in the new situation, recreating it to mean the same thing.
By learning to relax, control our anxious thoughts always competing for our attention, and directing our attention instead into the present moment, and experiencing things by way of our body and the actual energy and consciousness that’s present with us, we can gain a whole new sense of ourselves and our relationship with life. We can become truly creative in the moment by directing our actions with full awareness and by interacting with what’s actually present with us. We can learn to see people and things as they actually are rather than as we reshape them to be like us through our biased judgments and habitual way of thinking and perceiving that creates illusions in place of reality.
When we walk into any situation with preconceived notions, and our perceptual lens rigidly formed by our judgments, that for the most part rob us of our ability to see others and reality as it actually is, apart from us, and unique unto itself, we simultaneously rob ourselves of the possibility for brand new experiences. By developing the ability to be present in our body and with the people and things around us, we can begin experiencing life and others in a whole new way. We can acquire the information and feedback we need to begin living our life in a much more conscious and aware fashion, and begin creating in a deliberate and precise manner as a result. We can learn how to live in our heart rather than in our head.
Simply begin observing your own mind, your own tendencies, and notice what you tend to think about in an automatic and habitual fashion, and what stories run through your mind that glaze over the present with memories of the past and keep you in a hopelessly distracted state, and recognize what it is that keeps you from being present . . . . and through this self-awareness, start practicing directing your mind to remain focused in the present and forming an awareness of how you’re feeling in relationship to your environment. Learn how to remain aware of your body and tuned into what you’re sensing through your body and what information your body’s always in the process of giving you. Tune out of the imagined reality and tune into the real reality. All opportunities only exist in the present moment. Tomorrow is being created today. You’re only ability to act, is in this moment.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Transformative Coaching

Health and Well-Being

Integrative Medicine

Mind / Body Integration

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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The Transformative Power of Relationships

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As we move through life, we’re always in the process of exchanging consciousness with everything around us. Just as we breathe and take in the air around us, using the molecules attained from it to replenish depleted molecules in our body, and rebuild our body by incorporating them into our molecular structure, we’re also taking in and exchanging consciousness with everything around us through resonance. We experience this exchange of energy as feelings in the indirect sense of just being around something, and as a direct stimulus when an actual interaction takes place. As we interact with someone, they directly stimulate us, and us them. This stimulating effect comes from what’s being activated between us, and brought out in us through the nature of the interaction. Certain qualities as a mood, attitude, and characteristics are called forth by what ever is being demonstrated, and then shaped into a greater pattern as a behavioral dynamic through the nature of the interaction itself as a cause and affect or action and reaction type of drama. We can only form an actual relationship with those who share the same qualities and characteristics as we do and who are conditioned to tell a similar type of story, necessary for the interaction itself, which begins co-creating a specific type of story-line as an ongoing interaction.

 
The people and situations we surround ourselves with, whether intentionally or unintentionally, become the building blocks of our consciousness. They act to transform us by taking on and making active within us whatever qualities we share in common. As these inner qualities are brought into an active state, they’re developed in us through the overall pattern as a dynamic being acted out, and they’re strengthened in us. We are then conditioned to the dynamic itself, and as we experience it we acquire memory of it, which serves as our basic mental and emotional programming. Whatever we have memory of we act out unconsciously in an automatic and natural fashion. As we co-create experiences by playing out certain dynamics, the memory of those experiences adjust and modify our paradigm to include them, and they become a part of our essential being.

 
This transformative quality of our relationships works for good or for bad. They either act to bring out the best in us, or they bring out the worst in us. We either like who we become when we’re with them, or we don’t like who and how we become. They make us feel a certain way, and that feeling is consistent whenever we’re with them. While we experience a range of emotions and feelings when we’re with them through various activities, the overall feeling that takes place forms a theme which remains constant throughout the relationship. The theme of how we feel is produced by the dynamic the relationship takes on. We can feel a deep connection that’s intimate and immediate, where we are valued, appreciated, wanted, desired, and we truly feel love; or we can feel used, not good enough, deceived or betrayed, humiliated, disappointed, where love is replaced by a series of toxic emotions that are painful and only act to reduce us somehow. You can tell pretty early in the interaction what it’s going to be if you’re willing to pay attention and honor your feelings.

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The key to mastering your relationships by seeing them as powerful “self-development tools”, is to remain present in your experiences, and always notice how you’re feeling, and how they’re being. Always remember feelings don’t lie, it’s only the outer appearance of things, or what we start telling ourselves about what’s going on as a means of justifying or denying it that can be deceptive. Words or what people say and do that are clashing with how you’re feeling are the illusion. This idea isn’t about right and wrong, feeling guilt or shame, or placing blame on the other person, it’s simply about recognizing with clarity that what they’re doing and how they’re being with you, causes you to feel a certain way. This feeling inside of you in response to them is what they will continue to bring out in you throughout the entire relationship. The feeling, not the outer behavior, is what sets the pace for the relationship and the theme it takes on by the dynamic that starts playing out.

 
Even when you realize that the feeling you have is about your own “issue”, because of how you were raised, also realize that this relationship is about that same dynamic and will only continue developing that feeling in you, and was more than likely formed because it was about creating more of that same issue, and will continue to be. The feeling and dynamics are a congruent component of a larger pattern, and one acts to stimulate and produce the other. The idea here becomes healing yourself of your “issues” before you get into a relationship. That way you know that the attraction wasn’t based on the shared issue, and you’ll attract and be attracted to a different kind of person who won’t serve to act out the dynamic of the issue with you, simply strengthening it and giving you more of it.

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The key to understanding comes through self awareness and realization. Devote yourself to becoming aware of your own issues and tendencies as “themes” you were conditioned with, and the behaviors you’ve acquired by way of them. Begin recognizing the tendencies you’ve developed that may be making the other person feel the same way as you feel when they simply respond to you in a like manner. For example, if your tendency is to not feel wanted and included in activities, that you act as if it’s an actual fact, may cause you to behave in ways that are stand-offish, distant, cold, or uninterested, that cause the other person to feel unwanted and excluded by you. They then react to you in a like manner and behave in a way that causes you to feel “unwanted and not apart of things”. We build behaviors around our issues as a way of defending or protecting ourselves against them that serve to actually produce them. Self-reflect and gain as much insight as you can into your own feelings and issues, and work on yourself to heal those issues before you look to get into a romantic and intimate relationship.

 
Cultivate in yourself the ability to stay aware of how you’re feeling in any given moment, based on an interaction of some sort. Notice what you’re feeling inside, what part of you it’s appealing to and bringing out, and who you start becoming because of the interaction. What persona do you take on? This shows you what the relationship will naturally strengthen and develop in you. If you simply “hold a feeling”, move into it and become fully present in it, and begin reflecting on it, what you’ll notice is that a whole idea begins playing out in your mind like a memory that’s inherent in the feeling. Regardless of how it plays out in terms of the scenario it presents itself through, the theme or main idea it illustrates is what’s showing you the reality inherent in the feeling. Feelings are an internal response to an outer reality as the experience of it. A inner feeling is always associated to an outer reality. The same types of events give us the same type of feelings. When you see into your feelings, you get a preview of the type of realities they produce, that will only act to give you more of the same feeling. It exists as a kind of circuitry as an inflow and outflow that’s constantly harmonizing and equalizing the inner with the outer.

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As you recognize how you’re feeling with someone, don’t get caught up in feeling bad about what you’re realizing, or making them bad or wrong somehow, where you start compromising your feelings or distorting them through a story you tell about them that makes them mean something, simply observe them in an objective manner “as” they are, and honor them as showing you the truth in a situation. Your inner feelings will always show you in very direct terms the true nature of any situation. It comes through resonance as an energetic interaction, and is neutral in nature. It only becomes subjective and distorted when you begin interpreting it to make it mean something. The interpretation and meaning is the illusion we build around things that prevents us from seeing the truth. The truth doesn’t come with a story attached to it, but as a direct and immediate inner stimulation that makes you feel a certain way. Honor that, and you’ll always be working with the true reality of any relationship or situation.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Evolutionary Relationships

Personal Transformation

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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What is the “Mind?”

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There’s a tendency to refer to what we call the mind as being equivalent to the brain, or the heart, or some invisible undefined term that encompasses them both. If we look at the mind through the concept of Spiritual Sciences and the Quantum model of Subtle energy, we can realize the mind as an energy field that exists in a hierarchical form as smaller, individual minds that accompany all conscious sentient beings while expanding in range and magnitude to larger mind-fields that can reach universal proportions. It’s a series of mind-fields that are nested within greater fields, which like holograms, while varying in size and magnitude, are all of the same nature and operate according to the same sets of creative Laws.

 

The mind of the individual is the energy field that surrounds and envelopes the body in an egg-like essence that we commonly call the aura or electromagnetic field that’s imbued with distinct attributes and qualities that determine how the mind functions at an individual level. It’s the essence as what we refer to as electrified plasma as resonance that informs and animates the body, imbuing it with analogous characteristics referred to as the personality, which becomes the foundation for the identity it takes on through various levels of story-telling birthed as a natural evolutionary growth process. It develops and “becomes” in stages that are the enactment and development of different inherent aspects of the same essence in a sequential manner that first establishes the foundation out of which a spontaneous growth process as actualization takes place of its own volition.

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All of life operates as Laws that evolve through a consistent growth process of becoming fully actualized. This natural growth process is a form of unfolding in a hierarchical fashion, where one phase sets the basis out of which the next is indicated and spontaneously emerges in what seems like an effortless movement. The lower (initial) is the foundation for the higher. Just as our childhood development determines the type of adults we become. They are dependent on each other and operate independently of each other in an interdependent fashion. These planes of existence as hierarchies are referred to as kingdoms or worlds, whole planes nested within greater planes as a unified reality that are ecological. Different aspects that perform different functions yet are of the same entity as a whole interdependent system that expresses by generating a coherent reality.

 

While we can separate and analyze each aspect in order to understand the laws that govern their operation, we must always perceive it in synthesis as being a fundamental part of a holistic operation. Each part has a specialization that’s a crucial part of a whole function. It operates as parts or aspects within a greater mind, just as the individual mind operates as parts of the greater family/group mind, community mind, national/cultural mind, and ultimately universal mind.

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So the mind as viewed from the perspective of Spiritual Sciences as Subtle energy, can be thought of as individual consciousness that is self-aware, self-expressing, and self-creating all at the same time. A single thought process or act creates in a ripple fashion of expanding and including greater mind-fields, which serves to reinterpret them according to the same mind which perceives them to be of the same nature and likeness in terms of projecting our qualities, characteristics, preferences and tendencies onto them, seeing (perceiving) in them only what matches (forms correspondences) us in terms of our paradigm or vibratory frequency.

 

Our mind is a conscious field of energy as our ‘self’ that’s also the perceptual lens we look through in order to perceive everything else. Qualities and characteristics in another that are of the same nature as ours, form resonance with us, causing a reaction of some sort that stimulates us inwardly. They stand out as what we notice, give attention to, and reshape by thinking about them to form a perception of them that’s actually a correspondence to us. The creative ability of the mind is to regenerate itself as a basic means of expression. Perception itself is a form of interpretation that modifies everything as a vibrational match to ourselves in terms of perceiving them through our mental/emotional filters that conforms them to our dominant tendencies as thematic dynamics or prevalent and ongoing story-lines that we mold them into in a way that makes sense. The story we tell about them is the translation that reforms them to be like us in some way. We only see in others what first exists in us, in what is often a hidden or unknown aspect of ourselves.

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Just as the Universal mind exists in a multitude of fragmentation’s as fractal patterns that are smaller minds of the same nature, our own mind exist in three basic aspects that have specialized functions known as the higher-self, the subconscious and conscious mind. The Higher-self is the greater mind-field which transcends into higher-dimensions of pure consciousness, while the subconscious is the body/instinctual (heart) consciousness, and the conscious mind is the brain/sensory consciousness. The Higher-self is what we commonly call the spirit-soul, the subconscious our basic personality, and the brain the creative function that forms self-awareness through it’s identity with the external world that ultimately births the ego as a result, which is the aspect of our identity that’s based on the physical realm of possessions and position, that are ultimately false in nature because they are dependent on external means in order to create a image of itself in relationship with it that are temporary and illusory in nature. All aspects of the mind form a step-down process of conscious energy creating experiences of itself in the physical realm. It’s our inner nature that forms our personality that automatically expresses through our behavior, while the conscious mind creates illusions of itself that often tell a different story from the one that they naturally demonstrate through automatic behavior that they are seemingly unaware of, and therefore assume others are fooled by the same false image that they have created as a means of re-representing themselves to be what they wish they were, instead of what they actually are. They then make the basic assumption that others perceive their false image as well, when in reality, others are only seeing what matches their paradigm as their perceptual lens or the actual behavior a person demonstrates on an ongoing basis.

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Likewise, each vital organ within the body generates an electromagnetic field that has its own level of consciousness and associated functions, which operate as a part of a greater whole. Every single entity pairs off in dual aspects that mimic the electro-magnetic effect of mitosis as regeneration that multiplies in pairs of itself. The mind operates according to the same natural laws that govern all living systems. Duality and multiplicity is the fundamental nature of unity. Just as the body is comprised of billions of cells that all contain the same DNA for structuring and functions, that begin as one then divide and multiply in pairs, while migrating to different locations playing out different roles within the same body which operates as a greater single entity that’s an enclosed system.

 

Our primary consciousness doesn’t perceive the individual cells that make up our body, but only perceives itself as a whole body with a personality and identity that always perceives the world in terms of stories that play out in its mind and imagination and the feeling sensations that stimulate it from within as bodily sensations that form corresponding thoughts and emotions as a result. There’s a constant chain-reaction as a chain-of-association going on all the time, all prompted by an electrical impulse of some sort that comes from invisible forces that surround and interact with us on a constant and ongoing basis. Which ones influence us in lesser or greater proportions are based on the quality of consciousness which forms an equivalent as a vibratory frequency that not only tunes us into the thoughts and emotions prevalent on that plane that are of the same nature, but also determine what we form resonance with as the fundamental component for forming thematic realities that are of a congruent nature. Our energetic frequency as our mind-field determines what we notice in the objective outer world, where we place our attention, and how we reinterpret it as a means of using it as the basic components for telling the same type of stories that we always tell about others and the external world as an expression of our selves.

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Reality in itself as objective, is a perception and projection of the larger Universal mind (original creation), while our subjective reality is a personal creation of our own making that creates our ‘self’ as an expression of ourselves. All perception is ultimately a form of fundamental projection that restructures it through vibratory resonance that shapes it into a new pattern as a variation that’s a co-creation of us, the individual mind, with the greater, universal mind, forming a unified realty that’s unique to us as created by us. The Universal as absolute remains the same and is neutral in nature, allowing us the ability to co-create a separate reality by how we infuse it with meaning of some sort that shapes it into a story of some kind. That story is our signature and is always composed as a reflection of our inherent style. It always has the same theme and style of story-telling, not only in terms of the story itself, but also in terms of ‘how’ we tell it.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Mind / Body Integration

Spiritual Sciences

Alchemy – the Art of Personal Transformation

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
To inquire, click here