Personal transformation is when we take something that has fully manifest in the physical realm, and return it a fluid like creativity. When we stop growing and become stuck in repetitive dramas as life patterns, we stop evolving, and in many instances, begin devolving or actually regressing. Evolution is a continuous creativity as growth that undergoes a steady form of transformation by way of stages of growth through “life situations” that are the means of playing out patterns as thematic dramas that are a story of some sort. These patterns are often the result of what we call our “issues” or unconscious tendencies. We stay stuck in our issues by continuing to act them out through a variety of relationships, and in all areas of our life, and for this reason they become “life themes” as our life story. They usually involve ideas like not being wanted, not being loved, being abandoned, betrayed, rejected, deceived, feeling inferior, and so on. Our whole perceptual model is developed around them, or by way of them, so that we perfectly attract into out life what’s ideal for acting them out.
Life themes are holistic patterns that have several roles in that pattern necessary to act it out as a joint-creation. We are not conditioned to just one role in the pattern, but to the whole pattern where we can play any role in it, and often act to switch back and forth between roles. We act to initiate the behavior that sets the pattern into motion as an activating mechanism in others, then fully participate in whatever role we naturally fall into through the nature of the relationship, then experience it as being done to us by others, while often not owning our own part in its creation. Our conditioning trains us to an interactive dynamic as a thematic pattern that acts out a certain type of story consistently throughout every area of our life. Part of the reason we can’t see this is because we are only partially conscious or aware of what we’re doing, and when we are in other aspects of the pattern, we’re experiencing it from a different perspective where we’re telling ourselves something different about why we’re doing whatever it is we’re doing, and so it seems different. The reason we have for doing whatever we’re doing, makes it “about” something else, and as a result, we don’t see it for what it actually is as a part of the same interactive pattern.
For example: If we’re always feeling “unwanted”, we form a kind of perceptual filter that can interpret any kind of behavior to “mean” we’re not wanted. It’s the perceptual theme that structures and organizes our experiences, giving us the same “type” of experiences over and over. We then produce behavior that either causes us to be rejected, or, we act in ways that cause other people to feel “unwanted” or rejected by us, and they respond to us in a like manner, rejecting us somehow, and we have the experience, once again, of not being wanted without ever realizing (or owning) our “part” in creating it. We fail to recognize that we are actually at “cause” in our own life and are always the one creating our experiences. Knowing this, whatever we experience as being done “to us” by another, we can turn and self-reflect by asking ourselves how we may have acted to co-create this, by doing the same thing to them, not in terms of our “reason” or what we told ourselves about what and why we were doing it, but in terms of our actual behavior towards them.
So personal transformation as self/life creation only comes by way of identifying our own tendencies and what type of dynamics we tend to play out and create our life experiences through, and becoming aware of aspects of that dynamic that we tend to act out without direct awareness and continue to participate in creating through the type of people we attract, are attracted to, and how we also act to initiate or react to that same idea, that ultimately leads us to acting out the same story leaving us with the same feeling.
Feelings as States have Whole Realities Inherent in them:
Another way that we can look at this idea is that feelings as a mood, always acts to produce the reality that matches and expresses the mood. Whatever mood we’re in determines what type of things we focus on, look for and think about as imagined scenarios we run through our mind as a form of mental rehearsal. We picture it in a way that makes it mean something, and the meaning determines what type of story we tell ourselves about it, and what emotions we form as a reaction to our own imaginings, that forms the basis for our behavior which creates an outer experience that matches the inner experiences in terms of how it makes us feel. The outer becomes and analogy of the inner state that acts to produce it as an actual experience. Whatever we imagine to be real, and therefore true, we automatically act out by how we behave and how we interact with others that cause them to feel the same way and react in a like manner to our own initiation that willingly participates in co-creating a shared reality as the expression of the mood.
Whatever mood we’re in, determines how we experience our daily life. It determines what, in any situation, you look for, notice, abstract, and use as the elements to tell the same type of story, making it a reality. Our mood forms our mind-set, which creates out of that mood, to express and amplify the mood itself. The reality we create, born out of the same feeling, serves to give more of the same feeling.
Your life is the way it is because of the mood you most often embody that serves as the channel for expressing the mood by using it to shape your experiences. How you experience your life is a direct reflection of the mood you’re in. Change your mood and your experience changes accordingly. To transform your reality you have to start by transforming your state of mind. In order to do this, we have to work by way of the laws that create our state as a unified field of mind, body, and soul. We have to gain a working understanding of the anatomy of a “state” in order to work with it in a deliberate and intentional manner.
Our state of mind is based on three basic components:
1. What we focus on and give our attention to.
2. What we tell ourselves about what we’re focused on that gives it meaning.
3. And our physiology or what we’re doing with our body.
By changing what we’re focused on, and the story we’re running through our mind as an imaginary reality, is directly reflected in our physiology. It forms our mental state which becomes the emotional template for shaping our experiences to produce more of the same feeling. If you feel you can’t change your focus or the stories you keep running through your mind, work with your physiology instead. Change what you’re doing with your body. These three aspects are always in alignment with each other, and by changing any one; you change the other two automatically.
Allow yourself to notice that moods have distinct behaviors associated with them. Our body is always expressing or directly reflecting our state of mind. Depression and melancholy have very specific types of behavior associated with them, such as tired, wiped out, lazy, no energy, sitting slumped, keeping the room dark, sleeping a lot, isolating yourself, and so on. Likewise, a happy mood also has behaviors associated with it – energetic, active, excited, using a lot of gestures, laughing, giggling, a lot of facial expressions, talking, and so on. For example, if you’re indoors, in artificial lighting, sitting down and feeling tired, just the act of going outside and going for a walk will shift your state of mind, and you’ll naturally feel more uplifted, energetic, and happier, and what you think about and how you feel will change to match the positive state. It’s impossible to feel sad while laughing. The “jogger or hikers high” is a biological fact. When we exercise our body produces endorphins, which are not only an internal form of morphine, which acts as a pain reliever, but also induces an elevated state of mind. It puts you in a positive frame of mind and makes you feel happier.
The Power of Affirmations
One of the easiest ways to change our state of mind and what we’re focused on is through a process called auto-suggestion, which is a form of self-hypnosis based on using affirmations as suggestions that you form realities out of by imagining them. The proper use of affirmations is to intentionally refocus your mind and use your imagination to create an inner reality of the affirmation as if you are experiencing it. By repeating it with intensity, forming it as an imaginary picture or scenario while infusing it with sensations, you create it as an experience that becomes a form of virtual memory that acts to give your subconscious mind a pattern for producing natural thoughts and behaviors. Whatever we concentrate on with intensity, builds that thought up into an instant reality that programs the subconscious mind to act it out and attract it in the environment. Affirmations are designed to give a positive command to the subconscious mind in the form of a living concept as a reality that can be used in the same manner as an actual memory. By imagining an idea in sensory detail while infusing it with strong positive emotions, we also tune ourselves to that vibration, modifying our overall vibratory frequency which acts as a tuning device or magnet for attracting more of the same vibration as the elements that are ideal for creating more of the same type of idea. Through the act of imagining it, we imprint it on our mind like a form of template that forms our perceptual lens that sees only what matches it or is of the same idea.
The mind, as an energy field conceives of ideas as patterns for creating personalized realities. We can intentionally design the patterns we want to “hold” and create out of by imagining them “as if” they are happening, as real experiences. The subconscious mind which controls all behavior and extends from the body several feet into our immediate environment, is programmed by memories as “significant emotional events” that provide it with a pattern to create out of by connecting with the appropriate elements of that same idea all around us, and using them to structure more of the same type of experience. Memories of various sorts, whether actual or virtual, give the subconscious mind automated patterns to create out of in an ongoing and automatic fashion. The largest part of our life is being created and conducted at the unconscious level, meaning, without our direct awareness or conscious (deliberate) intention. While we are preoccupied with thinking, and often not present, we are acting out unconscious automatic behaviors that are creating our outer experiences through a constant and ongoing interaction.
By using affirmations to produce internal realities made real with strong feelings and sensory details, we act on ourselves to program our own mind with the type of reality we want to create. This is the most basic form of transforming ourselves from the inside-out. It creates a paradigm shift as a modification in our programming that spontaneously produces an equivalent outer experience of the same type of idea. While this “imagined idea as an actual reality” acts as a form of universal template, how it shows up as an external experience depends on what it (the mind) has to work with in the immediate environment in order to form the same type of pattern. How it shows up is hardly ever like we imagined it, but more as an analogy to it, or of a corresponding (like) nature. It’ll be the same type of idea produced and acted out by different elements. How it appears may be different, but it’ll be a similar reality as an experience. Because an affirmation is based on how we use our imagination to produce what “we want”, there are rules to creating affective ones.
Creating an Affirmation:
1. Form it as a positive statement of what you want to experience as a form of command.
2. Stated in the present tense.
3. Spoken (internally or externally) with strong emotion and intensity.
4. State it in a sentence or rhyme, that’s easy to remember and has a rhythmic beat to it, like a poem.
5. Imagine your statement as an actual reality, as the experience of it.
6. Infuse it with sensory details – what are you seeing, feeling, hearing, touching, smelling, and what are you telling yourself about it?
7. Create the experience in such a way that it produces strong positive emotions that make it compelling.
The best time to say or imagine affirmations is during the time when you’re naturally in a hypnotic state, when you’re between waking and sleeping consciousness. At night, right as you’re falling asleep, and first thing in the morning as you wake. These are the times when we’re conscious enough to intentionally introduce a thought< while our subconscious is still active and readily accepts the command as an actual memory.
The Secret to Affirmations:
Affirmations should always concern the spirit, soul, and body. They should be designed to work on the self, and never involve anyone else, or in an attempt to manifest material objects or situations. By involving others we attempt to violate their choice and free will, and act “on them” through self-interest or selfish means which may not be in their best interest. Sometimes the situation we imagine will give us a certain type of feeling from the experience it produces, won’t serve to give us that feeling at all, so imagining it in that context while focused on that feeling is a contradiction. We should never set goals or wishes that require the cooperation of other people to fulfill. They should always be about us, about a feeling we desire to have, and are within our own power to create through our own actions. They should be designed as a way of “reprogramming” ourselves to new ways of being, perceiving and behaving.
For example: eliminating or transforming habits and addictions, ennobling our character, transforming negative traits into positive ones, developing good health, promoting and developing talents and abilities, being successful, and so on. If wishing for a relationship, don’t place a specific person in it, but rather concentrate on the feeling you want to have through the relationship while making the individual neutral or symbolic.
Wishes that have nothing to do with ones own personality can’t be realized. All programming is self-programming. Only work with one at a time, and don’t switch until it’s been fully realized to the desired level. The trick to learning how to manifest with the mind, is learning how to “concentrate thought” and build-up ideas as realities that become substitute memories that act to “rewire your neurology” according to those virtual memories. By changing your neurology, you’ll change your experiences and what and who you attract as a “match” to you. Do not work with multiple ideas at once, scatter your energy, or get distracted and move on to other ideas before that one has fully manifest as an essential part of yourself. The magic of transformation comes by way of will as concentrated and intensified thought. Concentrate fully on a single idea repeatedly until it takes hold and becomes a part of your daily experience. Once it’s manifest to the desired level, then you can work on another one.
Dr. Linda Gadbois
Integrative Health Consultant and Spiritual Mentor