How to Release and Erase Memories of People and Events

Memories are something that only exist in our mind as a mental construct and replay over and over due to the intense emotion associated with them. All of what becomes actual memory that we can vividly recollect in emotional detail years later comes from significant emotional events (SEE) that had a powerful impact on us in some way. These events and the memories we formed of them served to change us in the most fundamental sense, and as we continued to live out of them, they served to shape our identity and “who” we became because of them.

Memory and emotion are always connected due to the fact that the event caused a strong emotional reaction in us, and those emotions served to shape the nature of the experience we formed as an interpretation of some kind. Our “experience” doesn’t come as an objective recollection of the event itself, but how we processed and internalized it as a means of creating our experience of it. As we internalize an intense event, we make it “mean” something by the story we tell ourselves about it in an attempt to put it in perspective as a means of trying to make sense out of it. We take an existing reality as a strong emotional event and reprocess it to form a new version of it as our interpretation that gives it personal  meaning.

The meaning we give something as the means of experiencing it forms the basis for the storyline we begin telling ourselves that serve to shape us as a person. We create our identity out of the memories we constantly play out in one way or another as the means of producing more of the same type of experiences. They become thematic templates for producing instant interpretations as our perceptual lens and filtering system. They give us a form of referencing system to instantly interpret all new and similar type of events to mean the same thing. As we walk through life we’re always assessing and summing up situations by looking through the thematic filters of our past memories by saying “this means the same things as that”. We consistently shape the present to be a continuation of the past and a means of predicting the future.

We walk into any situation with preconceived notions and expectations of what’s going to happen, and we use a dynamic series of mental and emotional filters to only notice, abstract, and rearrange the information in a way that creates the experience of our expectations. We’re always saying to ourselves . . . this means I’m not wanted; that means I’m not loved; I’m not good enough; people can’t be trusted; life’s unfair; I can’t ever get ahead, and so on. We interpret any number of behaviors or actions to mean the same thing as those same types of actions meant to us in the past. Our memories provide us with a template for producing a congruent and consistent experience of reality that follows a major theme.

Because emotion is the key factor in forming all significant memories, it also acts as the “hook” that keeps us compulsively attached to them and that serves as a “trigger” for activating them. As we’re triggered emotionally we produce an immediate reaction that doesn’t require us to think about it in order to form a new appraisal. All reactions are instant and produce unconscious actions in us. We instantly access and replay the emotion, mindset, and behaviors of the memory being activated. As we’re triggered emotionally we literally go unconscious and act out of a delirious state.

Anytime we’re overly emotional or “sensitive” to the emotions being projected by others, we live our life out of memories of the past as automated patterns and create while unconscious and not utilizing our higher capacities to create in a self-aware, well thought out and intentional manner. Emotionally reactive people are unconscious in the most basic sense and are constantly being controlled and determined by whatever it is they’re reacting to. Their whole life is determined by and becomes a replay of their formative conditioning.

Subconscious and Self-Conscious Mind

What we refer to as our subconscious is the creative aspect of our mind that forms our experiences of reality. It’s the “passive” aspect of our mind that’s “receptive” in nature; while the self-conscious aspect is “active” and self-aware, and has the ability to “give direction” to the subconscious as a way of forming new patterns of interpretation and behaviors. The subconscious is “experiential” in nature, which means its “programmed” with pictures, images, and scenarios that it uses as a metaphorical template for perceiving reality and producing all of our natural behaviors that come in an automatic way without us having to think about them.

The subconscious is emotionally driven and prompted to take action based on impulses and strong emotional charges. It works to create our entire experience of reality and ourselves out of memories of experiences that are emotionally intense. We literally “act on ourselves” to program ourselves for creating reality based on memories we form and continue to live out of, and the emotional states they naturally act to produce and maintain. Anyone who lives out of memories of their past is literally delusional. They’re living a life of illusions that they themselves are creating without direct awareness of what they’re doing.

The Power of Identity

The truly elusive and compelling thing about our memories is that we’ve actually “used them” as the means of shaping ourselves by way of them. As we had impacting experiences and tried to make sense of them by explaining them to give them meaning, we simultaneously identified with our own imaginary experiences. As we form an internal experience in our mind as the “meaning” of events, we “sense ourselves” within our own self-created experiences, and we make it mean the same thing about us. Whatever we tell ourselves about why something happened and what it means about another person or the way life is, it also means about us in relationship with it, and we begin identifying with our own story about things.

As we shape our identity out of our self-created memories and story about things, we need to keep telling them in order to know who we are. We replay the same scripts over and over in our mind. For this reason giving up our story can be quite difficult. This is especially true when we’re not clear on what story we want to tell in its place. Often when we give up our story or lose what we’ve shaped ourselves around, we don’t know how to “be” different. In order to tell a new story, we have to give up our memories of the past and develop new ways of being. Without a distinct sense of purpose and direction this can seem a bit daunting and overwhelming.

We become so used to living out of an automated state over time that having to actually make conscious decisions, select new ideas, and develop ourselves in new ways can seem dry causing us to struggle with motivation in maintaining them, especially when compared to the intensity of our emotional past. It’s the emotions attached to an idea that makes it compelling and infuses it with a sense of passion and drama. Emotions act like drugs in our body, altering our state of mind, and when their maintained in a habitual manner, become addictive, causing us to literally crave them.

In order to take over the process of conscious self-creation we have to exercise the higher capacities of our mind to create in an original fashion. This requires not only truly deciding to let go of your past conditioning, but also deciding how you’re going to be instead. What kind of person are you going to create yourself to be and what kind of story are you going to tell by how you live your life? And then, once you make those decisions you have to learn how to intentionally utilize your imagination in order to both instruct your subconscious to release and let go of memories while simultaneously replacing them with new ones. You have to learn how to use your conscious, self-aware mind to direct and guide your subconscious on what to create as a new idea.

Because your subconscious operates out of memory as imaginary experiences, you have to develop new ideas as actual experiences that are vivid in sensory terms. You have to create what you want as a form a “virtual memory” that provides your subconscious with a pattern to produce natural characteristics and behaviors out of. You have to practice embodying new ways of being as a means of training your body to new behaviors. You have to give your subconscious new emotional memories and form new habits through consistent and repetitive practice.

As you let go of past memories you have to replace the void it creates with new ones, or you have to “re-imagine” existing ones to form a new experience of them. If you leave a void, your subconscious will automatically draw something in as a means of knowing what to do. The subconscious can’t make decisions as to what to use as a means of creating and relies solely on memories as habitual patterns and tendencies. It’s “seeded” with suggestions from the conscious mind that it then converts into a reality in the imagination and uses for creating an outer reality of the same nature. The subconscious is symbolic in nature, which means that all imaginary experiences intentionally produced as a desire for creating as an outer reality, are utilized as thematic ideas. So it won’t produce the exact same reality the way you imagined it, but rather adapt the idea to the current situation and environment to produce a corresponding version of the same idea.

Power of the Imagination

While many people believe imaginary processes are an illusion and not “real”, they’re actually the means for not only giving the subconscious direction for creating as an actual experience, but also the means by which we direct the forces of the natural world. As we think, we imagine and direct energy into the “forms” of our thoughts, giving them life inside of us. All “actual memories” are in fact created by “re-imagining” an event, and are established as a modified version based on how they’re interpreted, and consistently replayed in the imagination. All imaginary processes are how we use our conscious mind to communicate with and direct our subconscious, which uses them as “symbolic ideas” for creating as an experience of a similar nature.

Another common mistake people make is in thinking that memories aren’t created “in” or by the imagination, but are an actual recollection of objective events, that they equally interpreted in a neutral and objective fashion. Yet memories are based on how we “formed our experience” of events based on the emotional state we were in at the time and as an “interpretation”. We reform the elements of an event in our mind as the means of telling a story out of the emotion we were feeling. Then the memory is recalled and replayed in the faculty of the imagination, forming our perceptual lens as an instant interpretation, and as the means of producing more experiences of the same kind, while altering the memory to some degree every time it’s recalled based on how it’s adapted to the current situation to produce a variable. Memories are actually “living creations” of the soul itself and they consistently undergo an evolutionary process through adaptation and modification.

Due to the fact that the subconscious is emotionally motivated to perform certain actions, if we have a fear or apprehension around letting go of or erasing memories, it’ll either hang onto them out of a fear of letting go, or it’ll create an experience that’s scary, stressful, and fear based. The emotion itself “is” the directive for the subconscious to create “as” an experience. The image used is just the pattern as a process, and the emotion is how that pattern is shaped into an experience. The pattern is simply what’s used to express the emotion attached to it as the reality that invokes more of the same emotion. The subconscious naturally moves into anything that’s presented as being pleasurable, and away from anything that’s painful. So if change is presented as a hard or painful struggle of some kind, the subconscious will avoid it at all costs, and work to sabotage any willful effort to accomplish it.

The scope of this article is the process of letting go of memories and not the instruction on how to create new ones, which I have written several other articles on, and can be accessed by using the search feature on my website. If you’re feeling the least bit apprehensive or unsure of yourself in choosing to let go of your past in order to create a new you, then you should spend some time exploring the nature of your attachment to your story of the past and wait until it becomes an exciting and liberating idea. Letting go of the “known” in favor of the “unknown” can be terrifying to those who are new to the idea of conscious self-creation. There’s a great sense of security in familiarity and staying in your comfort zone, even when it’s been traumatizing and painful.

Letting go of the Past – the Process

Once you’ve decided to honestly let go of your past story and feel excited about creating yourself anew, you can start by selecting the memories you want to erase. These can either be ones that were incurred with a specific person or a certain type memories usually represented by a phase or period in your life. You want to become clear on which ones they are because it requires a hypnotic state and an imaginary process where you have to use your conscious mind to direct your subconscious on what to do. If you’re uncertain or vague in anyway, you’ll lose your thought process as soon as you become totally relaxed.

Once you’ve decided, you want to make sure you fully abstract the “life lesson” the memories held for you in terms of what they helped you to realize so you can retain that knowledge and not repeat past mistakes.

Meditative  Process:

  • Get into a comfortable position, either sitting upright in a chair with both feet flat on the ground, preferably touching, relaxing your hands on your lap or thighs, palms down; or by lying down flat on your back with your neck well supported, legs straight and feet touching and hands relaxed palms down on either your chest, abdomen, or thighs. It’s important that your spine is straight and you create a “closed system” energetically.
  • Get comfortable, then close your eyes and turn your full attention inward and start by focusing on your breathing. Take a couple of long, slow, deep breaths to relax, and mentally scan your body for any discomfort, making any adjustments necessary to produce a comfortable feeling. Then relax your breathing to a normal, rhythmic motion.
  • You want to “talk to yourself” as a means of walking yourself (subconscious) through an intentional process, telling yourself why you’re doing what you’re doing as a form of verbal instructions (directing the process involved).
  • Breathe in relaxation, exhale all tension and stress, and with each breath you feel your body relaxing.
  • Place your attention on your feet – picture your feet or center your attention on the sensations in your feet, and tell them to relax . . . then feel them relax. Once relaxed, move your attention up to your calves, tell them to relax, and feel them relaxing . . . do this all the way up your body to the top of your head, until you’re fully relaxed and somewhat unaware of your body.
  • Have a sincere and brief conversation with your body about how good it feels to relax . . . the more you relax the better it feels, and tell it that this is a “safe space” that’s created by you, and it’s okay to just relax and let go. . .  . speak to yourself with a firm yet comforting and soothing voice.
  • Connect with your higher source of power . . . imagine a sphere of beautiful white light directly above your head. Feel it’s love and warmth as a very pleasurable sensation, then mentally ask the light to enter you, or draw it down intentionally, and feel it as it completely fills your head, saturating your brain with a beautiful white light, soothing and comforting you . . . as you continue to pull it down into your throat, filling your throat area, then down into your chest . . . abdomen, and legs, and down to your feet. As you feel your body filled with the beautiful, warm sensation of the light, feel it’s protection and comfort, and reaffirm that this is a safe place and it’s ok to just let go and go deeper and deeper down . . . down into a peaceful feeling of calm relaxation . . .
  • Then picture the person (or event) the memories are associated with, and tell yourself that you’re going to abstract from your body all the energy and etheric substance or aka from the various organs and parts of your body they’re located – the body holds memory as emotion – tell your subconscious to become aware of all the sensations within your body associated with this person.
  • Place your attention on the sensations, and imagine them as a form of liquid light and visualize yourself using your hands to enter into and pull out the fluid-like energy of the emotion and memory from your organs and muscles . . . .  
  • Do this every place you feel the sensations of the memory, while accumulating it and rolling it into a ball.
  • Once it’s been surgically abstracted and formed into a ball of liquid light, tell yourself to find the aka (etheric) cords attached at the heart center, and cut them using  a dagger or knife. Imagine doing it and see it as disconnected completely from all parts of your body and as a ball of light in your hands, then mentally thank this person in a sincere manner for the lessons they served to teach you, and let go of the ball sending it back out into the universe to be recycled so it can benefit someone else.
  • Watch it floating in front of you and being projected away until it completely disappears into the dark. Tell yourself it’s gone forever and bid it farewell.
  • After it’s completely gone imagine a hand whisking your energy field briskly, clearing out all residue, then seal your aura and body with a bubble-like shield of light, telling your subconscious that it can’t ever come back in and will be deflected back out into the universe. That you’re protected and safe . . .
  • Sense your body free of the emotional sensations while telling yourself how good it feels. Create an anchor for this state as a picture or word that you use that will instantly produce the state and can be fired at will.
  • Introduce the new memory you want to replace it with, associating the emotional trigger of the old memory to the new one. Wait until you get the new memory just the way you want it, and then replay it over and over in your mind until it comes automatically in complete form.  Then produce the emotional feeling of the old memory while instantly playing the new memory in its place. Do this repeatedly until it becomes natural.
  • In order to conclude the session, say to yourself . . . “and so it is, and so must it be”. And slowly bring yourself back into conscious awareness while telling yourself that you’ll wake alert and feeling better than ever . . . .

Most hypnotic processes only require one session, depending on how deep you go and how proficient you are at processes of deep meditation that utilize guided imagery, and your confidence in guiding yourself. If it doesn’t work with one session, simply repeat until it becomes permanent. Change produced by subconscious programming can often be a bit tricky to realize because it comes by simply “forgetting”. You lose awareness of the memories because you no longer think about them, and can go weeks or even months before it dawns on you that you haven’t thought about it in a long time. When you do think about the memories, you do it in a very detached and matter of fact way, with absolutely no emotion. As you realize that you haven’t thought about it for a while, you forget about it again, and never think about it unless there’s a direct association. It’s no longer compulsive or emotionally painful, and you no longer dwell in it uncontrollably.

Dr. Linda Gadbois  

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The Chakra System Provides us with a Model for Using our Mind to Heal our Body

The Chakra system of the subtle body gives us a “model for creating” from a dual perspective as the movement of energy that’s both descending as spirit into matter, and matter ascending back into spirit. The creative process works from both angles because it’s the continuous flow of the same thing. When energy as vibration is descending from a higher plane, it comes in a unified form that divides and propagates as aspects of itself that form stages of development as a kind of growth process of an idea becoming a material form and reality. There are no “individual or independent” operations slated to each chakra as many believe, but rather a unified idea that steadily takes on physical properties and becomes something specific as an actual material reality. It’s the system through which an idea manifests as an equivalent physical correspondence or analogy. What originates as an archetype or “ideal” is a form of prototype or general template as more of a theme, which holds the infinite potential of that idea as a wave-form (crown chakra has a thousand petals), enters into the individual mind and body system, where a form of natural selection takes place that accesses certain aspects of potential that correlate with it, and through a series of interference patterns as a process of adaptation based on the unique relationship that thematic idea forms with the individual character that’s acting as a vehicle for it to come into an actual form of expression, it’s modified, and the wave is “collapsed” around one possibility (limitation is imposed), which is brought into expression to produce the reality as its physical form. The crown chakra is where the idea, which has already penetrated and been absorbed and inducted into the mind as the subtle energy field that surrounds and in-forms the body, as a “whole idea” that contains all aspects required for creating in a unified manner, enters the body.  It’s received into the 3rd-Eye of the sixth chakra as an inspired vision or imagined reality (similar to a memory) that has both optical and audio properties (6th chakra is represented as two petals). It comes as an imagined thought that’s accompanied by an inner voice. As the voice speaks a vision is formed as the meaning of the words spoken as a material reality. This inner voice (5th chakra) and imagined reality becomes the basis of what we call “thought”, which when beheld and dwelled in, forms feelings as sensations as it descends into the heart center. These feeling sensations of the imagined idea act as a form of vibratory programming for the subconscious mind of the body, and is what “connects us” to that same type of reality in everything around us in the material world of formation.

       The potential reality as an imagined, sensory and life-like reality produces emotion as the chemistry of the body as it descends into the solar plexus, which adjusts the biological body to the same “state” (vibratory quality) as the idea. The emotions are produced as a reaction to our visual thoughts, and unlike the feelings of the heart that are felt both inside and out as a connection to the material world outside of us, emotions are felt with intensity within the body as a strong stimulation that’s arousing and brings the body into an active state in response to the thought. This strong arousal and pronounced activity within the body takes place as the emotion enters the sexual-generative center of the second chakra, which is creative in nature, and what produces action as behaviors of some form as it enters the root chakra, and acts to bring the idea into expression as an experience by producing an effect as the reality of the thought. Once an idea is acted on, it steadily manifests as not only our inner reality, but also our outer reality. This is how ideas become rooted in reality as the personal creation of those who serve as the vehicle and conduit for actualizing them. Because this process begins in the brain, the point in the body where ideas are received in full sensory terms, then broken down and distributed to the body itself for manifesting, the brain is attributed as being what “generates” the ideas as a primal form of consciousness. Yet all material form only acts as a passive receptor and instrument for consciousness, which operates it by informing, instructing, and animating it. Consciousness, like everything else that emerges from it, is dual in nature as both a passive and active component. Matter is the passive aspect of consciousness that acts as a form of “shell” or dead form for spirit to inhabit and give life to as a “living being” with a personality and subconscious mind. So the body is the means through which creation takes place as the active expression of consciousness (the Soul). This same process as an infinite flow of energy that forms a kind of “feedback loop”, which allows the soul to witness its own creation, takes place through a form of reverse engineering. In the ascending flow of energy from the lower to the higher mind, a behavior or action of some kind arouses and stimulates us with a strong emotion, which then produces a feeling sensation as a form of reflection that activates a memory as a visual and verbal idea that provides an “automatic pattern” for creating as a reality. In this orientation and movement, the emotion and feeling produce the imagined thought, instead of the imagined thought producing the emotion and behavior. One originates as a conscious and willful movement, the other originates as an unconscious and automatic movement. Both are equally creative in nature and serve as correspondences to each other because our thoughts are what create the programs as memory of the subconscious mind. These programs habituate us to emotions that keep us in an aroused state, forming the basis for what affects us and causes an automatic, knee-jerk reaction as an emotional charge that makes us go unconscious and act in an automatic, thoughtless fashion.

       All of our reactions, ultimately, come as the result of how we’ve consistently programmed ourselves over a period of time with our own thoughts that formed our memories as a product of our conditioning. Our memories are formed by how we interpreted events through emotional perceptions as the reality we formed around them based on what we told ourselves about them that gave them the meaning they have. All things only mean what we make them mean by the story we tell ourselves about them. This process of feelings that are received from the environment that act to prompt an emotion as an active arousal, which in turn produces an automatic behavior, is how the instinctual realm of the plant and animal kingdom operate. When we bypass the intellectual capacity as the ability to reason, discriminate, and form our own interpretations as a function of the conscious mind, and live instead out of emotions that form illusions as memories that produce automatic behaviors in us, we live in much the same manner as an animal out of a primarily unconscious state. The intelligent capacities of the Higher, creative Mind, represented by the three upper chakras (voice, vision, idea, and will), has the ability to work through, direct, and ultimately program the lower, subconscious mind of the body, represented by the four lower chakras, all of which are physical in nature, and more specifically the lower three, with the fourth  heart chakra being what bridges and acts as a pathway between the higher and lower planes, and the inner and outer of the material plane. Information is received from the higher plane of archetypal ideas as original thought from the crown and head, forming a vertical motion of up and down, whereas information from the “same plane” (material plane), is received through the heart, and forms a horizontal , as a back and forth, inner and outer movement. When we only live out of our feelings and emotions, stimulated from outer events, others, or in response to thinking as memories of some form, we bypass the intellectual capacity and live out of an unconscious, auto-pilot state of being controlled and determined in much the same way a puppet is operated by a series of strings, or in a remote control fashion, with others constantly being in control of the remote.

        The model laid out as a creative process by the chakra system as a hierarchical structure, provides us with the key and method for employing to work in a conscious and deliberate manner with our own subconscious mind and body to alter and transform our physical body and reality. The subconscious mind doesn’t have the ability to generate and produce reality as an “original creation”, but relies instead on memory which it uses as the basis for creating more realities of the same nature and kind. A memory acts as a preformed pattern or theme that’s used as a template to produce fractal patterns of the same nature as a replication or consistent type of story that produces the same type of experiences over and over, varied only by the uniqueness of the circumstances, situations, and relationships being used to create them. It simply plays out the same ideas over and over in a habitual manner, and produces and maintains the condition of the body as its equivalent and of the same nature and condition. Whatever story we tell ourselves about our self and life, we become in form. Our mental paradigm is what produces all of our perceptions, which is an interpretation that we use to create our experiences that then determines how we behave, and simply acts in all situations to generate more of it self. It’s only modified from its habitual tendencies through the introduction of an original idea, that’s delivered in its original state as an imagined reality and inner voice, that “gives it” a pre-made idea as a virtual memory that it can use in place of an actual memory to produce the reality of the idea by “becoming it” in body and actions. In this same fashion, the subconscious of the body, often referred to as the heart, can be given direction on what and how to manifest based on visualization of the process desired as a reality and by talking to it, explaining the process and how it works, and how it’s going to benefit from it. A sense of pleasure and positive emotion needs to be connected to the idea as what the reality will naturally produce. Thought as an idea (replicates a memory) must be translated into the feeling and emotion that’s the equivalent of the idea because it’s what actually produces the behavior or motivation (arousal) of the subconscious. Emotion is the motivating force as the chemistry of the body that forms all of its biological processes. Emotion comes as the stimulation of the Endocrine glands – the master of which is the Pineal and Pituitary body that act together to regulate all others as a unified operation – that produce hormones as messengers that alter the “state of the body” and activate certain processes by turning some aspects on while turning others off, in much the same way DNA operates. It’s only through coherence of the brain and heart (conscious and subconscious) as an idea and its emotional equivalent that manifestation and transformation naturally takes place.

       A thought that’s not properly translated through a sensory reality that produces the emotion of the idea, doesn’t manifest because it doesn’t work to alter and regulate the chemistry of the body to produce the actions necessary. It’s only an idea imagined as a full sensory reality that’s “felt as being real”, that provides a process or operation for transformation as a form of instructions or direction that invoke an emotional response as altering and producing the physical equivalent as the production and distribution of hormones that transforms how the body regenerates itself. It produces the chemical messengers as the information and instructions necessary to alter DNA sequences and neuro-pathways that change how the body regenerates and performs. While we tend think that what we call “reality” is something that exists separate and independent of us, the fact is reality results from our perception of it. How reality “appears to us”, what we see and comprehend and what we don’t see or fail to recognize all together, is based on our ability to perceive and conceive of it. While we also tend to believe that perception is a product of our brain or heart, in fact, we perceive with our whole being, with both our mind and full body as a unified state and cohesive system. Just as we think with our whole body, in which every organ of our body produces neurotransmitters, and performs different aspects of thinking and perceiving, we also perceive the outer world through the lens of the inner world. Whatever ideas we “program” ourselves (subconscious and self-conscious) with, shape our paradigm, which produces an equivalent and corresponding outer reality as its expression and personal creation. Every individual perceives the same objective reality in a unique, different, and individual way. It’s only by changing our mind and body through the introduction and development of new and original ideas that we reprogram our subconscious to be able to perceive those ideas as a natural part of our outer reality. By changing ourselves, our whole world changes accordingly. Dr. Linda Gadbois Integrative Mind-Body Medicine Consultant and Spiritual Mentor

Forgiveness – The Key to Spiritual Healing

The most basic principle that’s operating all the time, in every aspect of life, is that whatever we “blend with energetically” (mentally, emotionally, or physically) we “take on” and integrate as a form of “shared” consciousness. We usually take on other people’s energy due to the fact that it impacts us in some way. The nature of the impact it has on us determines what type of story we start telling ourselves about it as a way of making it mean something. As we give meaning to our experiences we begin building our identity around and by way of them. We’re always in the process of shaping ourselves by way of what we think about, dwell in obsessively, and give life to inside of us by replaying it over and over in our mind as a memory. As we co-create an experience with someone or an event of some kind, we form an interpretation of it through our very “perception” of it. As we think about something creating an inner reality out of it, we’re simultaneously creating our “self” through that reality by identifying with our own self-created experiences.

How we interpret something gives it the meaning and significance it has for us, and forms the basis for what type of reality we create in our mind that replaces the “actual” objective reality with a “subjective” one, making it personal. Reality itself, as events, behaviors, dramas, situations, conditions, and so on, have no meaning in and of themselves, but merely become the basis for forming meaning by how it’s interpreted by the individual perceiving it as a means of “experiencing it”. While we can reasonably conclude that we don’t create or manifest other people or outward situations, we absolutely create “how we perceive and thereby experience them”. Our experience of reality is a personal creation formed exclusively in our mind as the natural creative power of our soul.While we can have a tendency to think that other people “make us” feel and think the way we do, if we turn inward and observe our own mental processes, we’ll discover that we’re the only one that’s actually “producing” our own inward experiences.

All of our experiences that have a significant emotional impact of some sort, become our primary memories as interpretations of the events of our life. As we create our own memories, we simultaneously create ourselves by way of our own creations. The memories we accumulate over a period of time become “themes” out of which we create all of our present experiences to be of the same nature and meaning as our past experiences. This “theme” as a certain “type of meaning” forms the basis for our perceptual lens that we consistently look through in order to see the same thing in everyone and everything by how we interpret it. As we consistently form the same type of  experiences over and over, we continue telling the same type of story about things, and create a consistent and congruent version of reality as a result. As we perceive and experience the outer world by processing it internally through the commentary we form around it as imaginary thoughts,  we create a “sense of ourselves” through our own story, and shape ourselves by way of it.

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Vibration as a Life Theme and Attraction Factor

Whatever we continue to give life to by replaying memories over and over, we continue to use to define ourselves, and we “tune” and magnetize ourselves to that theme as a life-drama, where we’re constantly attracting to us more of the same type of experiences while also being attracted to them. This “attraction factor” isn’t a product of the conscious mind, per say, but rather of the subconscious mind, which means it’s energetic and instinctual in nature, based on vibratory frequency and operates in our life without our direct awareness. Whenever we meet someone of the same vibratory frequency who will naturally act to co-create more of the same type of experiences, they stand out, we notice them, and have a pronounced reaction to them. Due to the attraction we feel towards each other, we naturally begin gravitating towards each other, and eventually end up in an actual interaction of some sort where a relationship forms – as a friend, colleague, companion, lover, etc. – and we act together to form a joint experience of the same thematic nature that we share in common.

The meaning we give things, like the mind itself, is 3-fold in nature, and creates on three levels and scales simultaneously. Whatever meaning we give something forms the story we tell ourselves about it, which means the same thing about others, the way the world is in general, and about us in relationship with it. As we perceive and form an interpretation of other people’s attitude, actions, and behavior, we’re perceiving ourselves through or by way of that same interpretation. As we perceive others to be a certain way, we simultaneously perceive the world to be the same way as a larger version or as the stage necessary for it to all take place. All of reality is created out of “thematic patterns” that we use to form the drama of our life as the means of acting out certain ideas in order to gain new realizations by way of them. We only “learn” from experience, and so we act to create our own curriculum that provides us with the type of experiences we need in order to either resolve karma or bring a new sense of awareness to our own hidden tendencies.

As we form “generalizations” about the meaning of life it serves to form our expectations and what we naturally look for in all future situations. We form mental and emotional filters that skew our ability to accurately see in an objective manner. We only “see” and respond to what matches our model of the world and what we go into a situation expecting, and fail to recognize what doesn’t. All the while, because these are our own creations as our thoughts and emotions, we’re forming ourselves to be of the same nature and likeness, as a response or defense, and as an interaction where our themes are always playing out at the unconscious level. In every situation that we’re a part of, we play a vital role in co-creating that experience. Our perceptions form our “criteria for judgment”, and are used equally to judge ourselves through our perception of ourselves within our own story about things. As we judge another to be “bad” in some way, we create an image of ourselves in contrast to them as being “good”. As we feel deceived or betrayed by someone, we simultaneously create an experience of being a victim, usually by perceiving ourselves as being honest and trustworthy.

So when we enter into a relationship or become a part of a situation, where natural events and behaviors take place, and we filter them through our mental paradigm and interpret them to mean something so we can experience them through a story-line, we act “on ourselves” through another or greater reality, and continue shaping ourselves through a primary form of self-expression produced by our mental paradigm as a filtering system. Through mental and emotional filters, we sort through and select only some of the elements involved in any situation, while completely excluding and ignoring others. We embellish and accentuate some aspects, while downplaying and explaining away others. We decide what to emphasize based on the means we’re shaping it to, and by completely reorganizing and reformulating it to tell the story we want to tell about it as a means of creating a certain type of experience of ourselves. We create a personal version of what happened and why, that we live out of as a means of using it to define and determine us as a certain “type of person”. This doesn’t mean that the other person isn’t in fact doing whatever it is that they’re doing, it simply means that we are playing a central role in creating “how” we choose to experience it and how we participate and respond as a result.

Because this is a natural function of our mind, and we do it automatically without intentional awareness, we form an idea that others are doing it “to us”, instead of “cooperating and naturally participating” in helping us do it to ourselves. Relationships we form with others provide the basis for acting out certain types of drama that are self-perpetuating at the subconscious level, and act as a mirror for allowing us to see what’s operating in us that we’re unaware of. Not as singule events within larger ones, that we grab onto and begin obsessing over as what we imagine we need to forgive in the other, but as dramatic life themes that we’re always in the process of playing out in all areas of our life without actual awareness of what we’re doing and why. So to think that someone “did something to us” that we’re having trouble moving past because we can’t seem to let it go and continue dwelling in it as a form of suffering and mental anguish, and fashioning ourselves by way of it, is a self-created illusion that becomes delusional.

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We are the sole creator of all of our experiences. We attract to us the fulfillment of our own thematic dramas in others and the conditions and circumstances that are ideal for playing them out. As we play them out, both unconscious and conscious aspects are at work, and we’re constantly sensing the underlying motives at play, and making constant decisions as adjustments based on what we’re sensing is necessary to keep it playing out. As we sense the underlying motives of others, we realize those same motives in ourselves as the complementary component which is what keeps us drawn in and actively participating in it. We justify things in whatever way allows us to “glaze over”, ignore, or build it into an “agreed upon lie”, and we keep on going with it. We have constant fleeting moments where we instantly sense the truth of what’s happening, and in those moments of intuitive realization we choose to let them slide or justify them somehow and keep on going as if we don’t know any better. We agree to maintain the relationship knowing that in order to do so we have to ignore our intuition, compromise our integrity, agree to ignore or accept things that we shouldn’t, and continue allowing behaviors that are warning signs. The whole time we keep telling ourselves whatever it is we need to in order to negotiate what results in the grand finale. We begin ignoring all the red flags by lying to ourselves and cooperating to build an illusion as a lie in place of what we know inside to be the truth. It ultimately results in betrayal because in order to play a part in co-creating it we had to betray ourselves first.

Then an event of some sort with a strong emotional realization takes place, and shatters the illusion to the point where we can no longer maintain it, and we have to face it. We can’t pretend any more. We can’t call it what we wish or want it to be, but rather have to accept it as it actually is. This moment of shattering a lie, comes as betrayal, disappointment, dishonesty, violence, grief, shame, disgust, and so on, that not only reveals the truth we sensed and negotiated all along, but also as what breaks the bond and creates a disconnect that can no longer be remedied by pretending. In these moments we have to face the truth, but the truth is not what we think it is, the truth is coming face to face with the truth about ourselves. The realization that we we’re sensing what was going on all along and chose to negotiate away our integrity and lie to ourselves in order to maintain it and willingly continue playing it out. We come to the false realization that “this type of stuff always happens to me”, because this is the way people are, and the way the world is. Usually, without ever realizing that it came about because it’s the way we are. We were willing to participate by compromising ourselves, not through clear rational thinking and objective observation, but through emotional attachments, inner compulsions, and a strong sense of need that we blindly mistook for love and trust.

The only actual betrayal was to ourselves by our self. The only real dishonesty came by first being dishonest with ourselves. The wounds we encountered were ultimately self-inflicted. The only disgust and hatred was because of what this means about us. But all of this is very hard to accept, and even harder to own, and thereby realize that the only “forgiveness” involved, is our ability to stop projecting onto others, and use it instead to gain self-realization of our own unconscious tendencies. As we begin realizing our own tendencies we can begin working on ourselves to rectify and heal them. The only person that truly needs to be forgiven in our own life co-creations is ourselves, because we’re the ones negotiating its terms within ourselves. Once we begin trusting our own intuition around things and acting based on what we come to realize about others or situations, we then have to “act” based on those realizations without letting others explain them away. We have to stand in our truth with confidence and refuse to accept and allow it. We have to become empowered in our own life.

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To Forgive is to Forget

When we begin “owning” our part in the co-creation of our own life, and act to reveal lies and end relationships that we know will lead to painful outcomes, we begin acting in a way that “prevents” bad experiences. When we use all situations as a mirror into our own unconscious tendencies and work on ourselves to resolve the issue at its root, we start to become conscious creators in our own life. As we can see the karma involved as acting out unconscious tendencies together, we don’t experience being hurt by them and see it more as a valuable lesson that allowed us to see something about ourselves that we were having difficulty seeing. When we change our perspective on things and see them in a different light, we not only realize there’s no need to “forgive” the other person or people involved, but almost feel a sense of gratitude towards them for allowing us to see what we needed to see in order to heal a deficiency in ourselves.

When we’re no longer “hurt” by the actions of others the memory we form of them changes entirely and we don’t obsess over it. In this sense to forgive is to forget, not only the other person involved in the co-creation of a self-produced drama, but also to quit living out of memories that act to ultimately program us to produce more of the same type of experiences in the present. To realize that relationship of all kinds between our inner self and the outer world simply acts to show us parts of ourselves that we’re normally unaware of. To gain knowledge of ourselves as it’s being reflected back to us by others as an interaction that’s of a “cause and effect” nature. To see in ourselves our own methods for negotiating away our morality in favor of a desired illusion about things. To be able to realize our own motives for “selling our soul” to another, submitting and allowing ourselves to be controlled by agreeing to remain unconscious in order to maintain the relationship. Whatever we dwell in with strong emotions, and replay over and over in our mind with emotional intensity, we shape ourselves to be like and “tune ourselves energetically” to that type of reality, where we subconsciously produce more of the same type of experiences. When we resolve the issue within our own character instead of continuing to focus on the other, we transform it, and no longer think about it. We know when we’ve truly forgiven someone because we get to the point where we hardly ever even think about them anymore, and when we do, it’s in a “matter of fact way”, that has no emotional charge.

Putting it in Perspective

Everything we perceive as happening to us, is actually happening “by us”. We are always creating our experiences by how we look at, interpret, and cooperatively participate or contrast and refuse to participate. We’re only attack-able or able to be hurt to the exact extent that we attack and hurt ourselves by not being willing to see the true reality going on beneath the surface, and therefore never learning from our own experiences. All experience is designed to bring self-awareness that allows for deeper realizations around the awareness. To perceive needing to forgive another for what they did to you, is showing you that you’re choosing to remain unconscious of your own creative power and the part you played in creating things. We are always the main creative force in our own lives and others only “do to us” what we act to “create internally” in relationship with them.

When we learn to use all of our experiences as a mirror where we remove our focus from the other person or event, and examine ourselves in relation to them, we become more aware of our own internal processes and what it is that’s motivating those processes. We can come to realize how we negotiate and manipulate situations as a way of both consciously and unconsciously co-creating them. We can come to realize in very definite terms, that the very people we imagine we need to forgive for the pain and suffering they caused us, we should actually thank for the realization they allowed. We can come to realize the truth about ourselves and begin embracing our creative power to effectively bring what we were previously unaware of into the full light of day, where we can begin working to correct it, not by attempting to change the outer situation or the other person, but by transforming the inner situation producing it. In the spiritual sense of the mind and soul, those who cause controversy and serve to challenge us in very distinct ways, are “worthy opponents” that cooperate in creating the joint experiences necessary for us to learn by. As we learn, and we apply what we learn to create, we grow, develop, and strengthen our character as the means for spiritual healing.

Dr. Linda Gadbois 

Integrative Health Consultant and Spiritual Mentor

 

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The True Nature of Healing: “Transformation that Evolves us to a Higher Level of Creativity”

fibanaci man Personal transformation is when we take something that has fully manifest in the physical realm, and return it a fluid like creativity. When we stop growing and become stuck in repetitive dramas as life patterns, we stop evolving, and in many instances, begin devolving or actually regressing. Evolution is a continuous creativity as growth that undergoes a steady form of transformation by way of stages of growth through “life situations” that are the means of playing out patterns as thematic dramas that are a story of some sort. These patterns are often the result of what we call our “issues” or unconscious tendencies. We stay stuck in our issues by continuing to act them out through a variety of relationships, and in all areas of our life, and for this reason they become “life themes” as our life story. They usually involve ideas like not being wanted, not being loved, being abandoned, betrayed, rejected, deceived, feeling inferior, and so on. Our whole perceptual model is developed around them, or by way of them, so that we perfectly attract into out life what’s ideal for acting them out. Life themes are holistic patterns that have several roles in that pattern necessary to act it out as a joint-creation. We are not conditioned to just one role in the pattern, but to the whole pattern where we can play any role in it, and often act to switch back and forth between roles. We act to initiate the behavior that sets the pattern into motion as an activating mechanism in others, then fully participate in whatever role we naturally fall into through the nature of the relationship, then experience it as being done to us by others, while often not owning our own part in its creation. Our conditioning trains us to an interactive dynamic as a thematic pattern that acts out a certain type of story consistently throughout every area of our life. Part of the reason we can’t see this is because we are only partially conscious or aware of what we’re doing, and when we are in other aspects of the pattern, we’re experiencing it from a different perspective where we’re telling ourselves something different about why we’re doing whatever it is we’re doing, and so it seems different. The reason we have for doing whatever we’re doing, makes it “about” something else, and as a result, we don’t see it for what it actually is as a part of the same interactive pattern. For example: If we’re always feeling “unwanted”, we form a kind of perceptual filter that can interpret any kind of behavior to “mean” we’re not wanted. It’s the perceptual theme that structures and organizes our experiences, giving us the same “type” of experiences over and over. We then produce behavior that either causes us to be rejected, or, we act in ways that cause other people to feel “unwanted” or rejected by us, and they respond to us in a like manner, rejecting us somehow, and we have the experience, once again, of not being wanted without ever realizing (or owning) our “part” in creating it. We fail to recognize that we are actually at “cause” in our own life and are always the one creating our experiences. Knowing this, whatever we experience as being done “to us” by another, we can turn and self-reflect by asking ourselves how we may have acted to co-create this, by doing the same thing to them, not in terms of our “reason” or what we told ourselves about what and why we were doing it, but in terms of our actual behavior towards them. So personal transformation as self/life creation only comes by way of identifying our own tendencies and what type of dynamics we tend to play out and create our life experiences through, and becoming aware of aspects of that dynamic that we tend to act out without direct awareness and continue to participate in creating through the type of people we attract, are attracted to, and how we also act to initiate or react to that same idea, that ultimately leads us to acting out the same story leaving us with the same feeling. multidimensional man Feelings as States have Whole Realities Inherent in them: Another way that we can look at this idea is that feelings as a mood, always acts to produce the reality that matches and expresses the mood. Whatever mood we’re in determines what type of things we focus on, look for and think about as imagined scenarios we run through our mind as a form of mental rehearsal. We picture it in a way that makes it mean something, and the meaning determines what type of story we tell ourselves about it, and what emotions we form as a reaction to our own imaginings, that forms the basis for our behavior which creates an outer experience that matches the inner experiences in terms of how it makes us feel. The outer becomes and analogy of the inner state that acts to produce it as an actual experience. Whatever we imagine to be real, and therefore true, we automatically act out by how we behave and how we interact with others that cause them to feel the same way and react in a like manner to our own initiation that willingly participates in co-creating a shared reality as the expression of the mood. Whatever mood we’re in, determines how we experience our daily life. It determines what, in any situation, you look for, notice, abstract, and use as the elements to tell the same type of story, making it a reality. Our mood forms our mind-set, which creates out of that mood, to express and amplify the mood itself. The reality we create, born out of the same feeling, serves to give more of the same feeling. Your life is the way it is because of the mood you most often embody that serves as the channel for expressing the mood by using it to shape your experiences. How you experience your life is a direct reflection of the mood you’re in. Change your mood and your experience changes accordingly. To transform your reality you have to start by transforming your state of mind. In order to do this, we have to work by way of the laws that create our state as a unified field of mind, body, and soul. We have to gain a working understanding of the anatomy of a “state” in order to work with it in a deliberate and intentional manner. Our state of mind is based on three basic components: 1. What we focus on and give our attention to. 2. What we tell ourselves about what we’re focused on that gives it meaning. 3. And our physiology or what we’re doing with our body. By changing what we’re focused on, and the story we’re running through our mind as an imaginary reality, is directly reflected in our physiology. It forms our mental state which becomes the emotional template for shaping our experiences to produce more of the same feeling. If you feel you can’t change your focus or the stories you keep running through your mind, work with your physiology instead. Change what you’re doing with your body. These three aspects are always in alignment with each other, and by changing any one; you change the other two automatically. 3 selves Allow yourself to notice that moods have distinct behaviors associated with them. Our body is always expressing or directly reflecting our state of mind. Depression and melancholy have very specific types of behavior associated with them, such as tired, wiped out, lazy, no energy, sitting slumped, keeping the room dark, sleeping a lot, isolating yourself, and so on. Likewise, a happy mood also has behaviors associated with it – energetic, active, excited, using a lot of gestures, laughing, giggling, a lot of facial expressions, talking, and so on. For example, if you’re indoors, in artificial lighting, sitting down and feeling tired, just the act of going outside and going for a walk will shift your state of mind, and you’ll naturally feel more uplifted, energetic, and happier, and what you think about and how you feel will change to match the positive state. It’s impossible to feel sad while laughing. The “jogger or hikers high” is a biological fact. When we exercise our body produces endorphins, which are not only an internal form of morphine, which acts as a pain reliever, but also induces an elevated state of mind. It puts you in a positive frame of mind and makes you feel happier. The Power of Affirmations One of the easiest ways to change our state of mind and what we’re focused on is through a process called auto-suggestion, which is a form of self-hypnosis based on using affirmations as suggestions that you form realities out of by imagining them. The proper use of affirmations is to intentionally refocus your mind and use your imagination to create an inner reality of the affirmation as if you are experiencing it. By repeating it with intensity, forming it as an imaginary picture or scenario while infusing it with sensations, you create it as an experience that becomes a form of virtual memory that acts to give your subconscious mind a pattern for producing natural thoughts and behaviors. Whatever we concentrate on with intensity, builds that thought up into an instant reality that programs the subconscious mind to act it out and attract it in the environment. Affirmations are designed to give a positive command to the subconscious mind in the form of a living concept as a reality that can be used in the same manner as an actual memory. By imagining an idea in sensory detail while infusing it with strong positive emotions, we also tune ourselves to that vibration, modifying our overall vibratory frequency which acts as a tuning device or magnet for attracting more of the same vibration as the elements that are ideal for creating more of the same type of idea. Through the act of imagining it, we imprint it on our mind like a form of template that forms our perceptual lens that sees only what matches it or is of the same idea. The mind, as an energy field conceives of ideas as patterns for creating personalized realities. We can intentionally design the patterns we want to “hold” and create out of by imagining them “as if” they are happening, as real experiences. The subconscious mind which controls all behavior and extends from the body several feet into our immediate environment, is programmed by memories as “significant emotional events” that provide it with a pattern to create out of by connecting with the appropriate elements of that same idea all around us, and using them to structure more of the same type of experience. Memories of various sorts, whether actual or virtual, give the subconscious mind automated patterns to create out of in an ongoing and automatic fashion. The largest part of our life is being created and conducted at the unconscious level, meaning, without our direct awareness or conscious (deliberate) intention. While we are preoccupied with thinking, and often not present, we are acting out unconscious automatic behaviors that are creating our outer experiences through a constant and ongoing interaction. By using affirmations to produce internal realities made real with strong feelings and sensory details, we act on ourselves to program our own mind with the type of reality we want to create. This is the most basic form of transforming ourselves from the inside-out. It creates a paradigm shift as a modification in our programming that spontaneously produces an equivalent outer experience of the same type of idea. While this “imagined idea as an actual reality” acts as a form of universal template, how it shows up as an external experience depends on what it (the mind) has to work with in the immediate environment in order to form the same type of pattern. How it shows up is hardly ever like we imagined it, but more as an analogy to it, or of a corresponding (like) nature. It’ll be the same type of idea produced and acted out by different elements. How it appears may be different, but it’ll be a similar reality as an experience. Because an affirmation is based on how we use our imagination to produce what “we want”, there are rules to creating affective ones. Creating an Affirmation: 1. Form it as a positive statement of what you want to experience as a form of command. 2. Stated in the present tense. 3. Spoken (internally or externally) with strong emotion and intensity. 4. State it in a sentence or rhyme, that’s easy to remember and has a rhythmic beat to it, like a poem. 5. Imagine your statement as an actual reality, as the experience of it. 6. Infuse it with sensory details – what are you seeing, feeling, hearing, touching, smelling, and what are you telling yourself about it? 7. Create the experience in such a way that it produces strong positive emotions that make it compelling. The best time to say or imagine affirmations is during the time when you’re naturally in a hypnotic state, when you’re between waking and sleeping consciousness. At night, right as you’re falling asleep, and first thing in the morning as you wake. These are the times when we’re conscious enough to intentionally introduce a thought< while our subconscious is still active and readily accepts the command as an actual memory. pentad The Secret to Affirmations: Affirmations should always concern the spirit, soul, and body. They should be designed to work on the self, and never involve anyone else, or in an attempt to manifest material objects or situations. By involving others we attempt to violate their choice and free will, and act “on them” through self-interest or selfish means which may not be in their best interest. Sometimes the situation we imagine will give us a certain type of feeling from the experience it produces, won’t serve to give us that feeling at all, so imagining it in that context while focused on that feeling is a contradiction. We should never set goals or wishes that require the cooperation of other people to fulfill. They should always be about us, about a feeling we desire to have, and are within our own power to create through our own actions. They should be designed as a way of “reprogramming” ourselves to new ways of being, perceiving and behaving. For example: eliminating or transforming habits and addictions, ennobling our character, transforming negative traits into positive ones, developing good health, promoting and developing talents and abilities, being successful, and so on. If wishing for a relationship, don’t place a specific person in it, but rather concentrate on the feeling you want to have through the relationship while making the individual neutral or symbolic. Wishes that have nothing to do with ones own personality can’t be realized. All programming is self-programming. Only work with one at a time, and don’t switch until it’s been fully realized to the desired level. The trick to learning how to manifest with the mind, is learning how to “concentrate thought” and build-up ideas as realities that become substitute memories that act to “rewire your neurology” according to those virtual memories. By changing your neurology, you’ll change your experiences and what and who you attract as a “match” to you. Do not work with multiple ideas at once, scatter your energy, or get distracted and move on to other ideas before that one has fully manifest as an essential part of yourself. The magic of transformation comes by way of will as concentrated and intensified thought. Concentrate fully on a single idea repeatedly until it takes hold and becomes a part of your daily experience. Once it’s manifest to the desired level, then you can work on another one. Dr. Linda Gadbois Integrative Health Consultant and Spiritual Mentor   Save