Compassion – The Nature of Perception, Judgment and Self-Realization

While many people perceive compassion as an act or something you do, true compassion is the result of a state of mind that you embody as a way of perceiving others from a non-judgmental perspective. It’s the primary way we come to understand others by “understanding ourselves” in them. It’s an intuitive lens we look through that always seeks first to understand. We only truly love what we understand, and we only understand by being able to relate to that same idea in ourselves, which requires self-reflection. It’s bearing witness to someone else’s experience by looking at it through their eyes and as they are experiencing it, without the need or unconscious tendency to alter it through your judgment, and make it about you by correcting their perception, making it wrong or bad somehow (deeming your perspective more accurate and right), or reforming their experience by reliving it from your own perspective instead.

Whatever state-of-mind as an attitude that we walk through life with determines our approach and how we “see” things, as well as how we interpret what we see to give it meaning, which is what shapes our experience of it. If we have an attitude of judging, of finding what’s wrong or bad about someone or something, then we “see in them” only what warrants judgment. Through our very “perception” of something as a quality of consciousness or way of being, we “stimulate and activate” that same quality in them, bringing it out in them through the nature of our interaction as a joint expression. We can only perceive in others what’s “in us”, because it’s our model that we’re looking through in order to form our experience of them. We never really perceive others or the outer objective reality as they actually exist apart from us, but rather as we remake them through our “experience of them”, that makes them “like us”.

 Mental Paradigm as Our Lens of Perception

Our mental paradigm is constructed over many years through the incorporation of our values, beliefs, memories, preferences, temperament, etc., which together form a dynamic matrix that systematically produce our personal reality. Our personal reality is not the same as the objective reality we all share in common as a part of mass consciousness and the material world, but rather how we reformulate it through the lens of “meaning” that produces how we experience it as a personal creation. We reshape it through a process of resonance as natural selection that turns some aspects on (activates them making them stand out), while turning others off (recede and go unnoticed), where we only notice certain aspects, the ones that match our paradigm, while failing to recognize others altogether. By mentally enhancing, embellishing, or exaggerating selected aspects while downplaying others and leaving out others, we reform it to the same nature as we are as the testimony of our beliefs about it.

We assign everything the same qualities as we ourselves possess by how we interpret them to give the ideas and behaviors being expressed meaning. The meaning we give things forms the story we tell ourselves about them and how we form our experience of them as a result. Each person creates a unique experience of the same idea, event, and set of circumstances, by filtering it through their mental model, conforming and reshaping it accordingly. This is the most fundamental act of resonance, sympathetic induction, and coherence as the primary law of the mind and vibration. As we begin resonating with something, we energetically blend with and “enter into it”, becoming one with it in mind, and by how we act to influence it, we alter it by forming a new vibration that’s a combination of both as a form of offspring, where both ideas begin vibrating in harmony with each other.

The man made concept of right and wrong, and good and bad as our values forms the basis for our judgments and prejudices. In the natural world of instinct, all forces and powers simply exist as attributes and qualities that act to shape characteristics that form natural behaviors. The idea of right and wrong originated as an evaluation of what results as an expression of character that creates by producing phenomena of some sort. The fundamental appraisal of whether or not something is good or bad is usually based on whether it’s creative, constructive, and beneficial, or whether it’s chaotic, destructive, and harmful in some way. All qualities, regardless of their nature, are dual in nature and hold the potential of being good or bad based on the context in which they’re being used. All behavior is appropriate when employed under certain circumstances. Violence, when used in a destructive manner to violate, hurt, or kill for selfish reasons, would be judged (evaluated) as being bad or evil, whereas if that same act of violence was used to protect, defend, or carry out a necessary justice, it would considered good and divine in nature. Same act, different reason and context.

       Likewise, judgment itself is of a both good and correct nature, and a bad or incorrect nature, depending on how it’s being used. The mind is always using its ability to evaluate ideas and situations as the means of making decisions and acting that we call “using good judgment”. In these situations we employ an objective mindset that’s neutral and unbiased, where we openly perceive the nature of people and things involved, then make an evaluation based on what’s being demonstrated and observed, and make a decision accordingly. False judgment, the one most are referring to when they use the term “judgment”, comes as a form of prejudice that we employ beforehand and use as a lens that we look through that alters what we see to match our preconceived judgment of it. We walk into a situation with a preconceived idea or value that they themselves are not demonstrating outwardly, and we form an opinion of them based on the values we’re assigning to them, instead of the ones they actually possess, and use it as a means of interpreting their behaviors or experiences to mean what we want them to mean, rather than what they actually do mean.

Compassion is to relinquish judgment all together and seek instead to only relate and understand. It’s to embody a primary “state of love” as communion. We can only truly love what we first understand. Whatever lens we use to look through, we vibrate at that frequency, and connect to that same frequency in others, stimulating it in them, bringing it out as an active state that then forms the basis of the interaction. We serve to naturally “call forth in others” whatever is actively expressing in us, not only through the nature of our interaction, but just through our “perception of them” as an energetic interaction of stimulus-response, and action that produces a like reaction. Whatever we place our attention on (gaze at), we stimulate and reformulate by awakening certain aspects, while returning other aspects to a latent state. Our consciousness interacts with the “same” consciousness in everything else. We’re always remaking others in our own image and with our own likeness.

To be compassionate, or to more accurately embody a state of compassion, is to withhold all judgment and preconceived ideas and look upon others and the experiences their going through from “their” perspective, while relating to those same ideas in our own experiences, helping you to understand what they’re going through, or what process of realization they’re involved in. It’s to listen to them express how they’re experiencing something, what they’re contemplating, or how they’re stepping into and experimenting with an idea as a means of forming some kind of self-realization through it that will help make decisions based on it. All experience comes through experimentation of some kind that provides the basis for self-realization based on the decisions we make due to what we realize. As we experience something, we’re exploring, tapping into new aspects of ourselves stimulated and brought out through the experience, and learning about ourselves and growing as a result. We’re always learning about ourselves, others, and the way the world is through direct experience and making constant decisions about and for ourselves based on them. If we like how we feel, what we do, and who we become in a situation, we continue into it. And if we don’t, we stop it, avoid it in the future, and don’t act to repeat it. All experience is self-created and provides us with knowledge about ourselves that we use to create ourselves through choice and free will.

        As we enter into relationship with another, and bear witness to their experiences by listening to them as things were for them, while simultaneously tuning into and touching on our own experiences of a similar nature, we relate to them, and by relating to them we understand where they’re at in their learning process. We can understand what part of the process they’re in and maneuvering as a way of creating themselves by way of their own evaluation and interpretation. We can realize that same act in ourselves, and how we formed conclusions based on the same type of idea, while realizing and honoring the fact that they may form an entirely different conclusion, and simply being with them in that process, while gaining a whole new way of perceiving it. By sharing in another person’s experience while relinquishing the need to be right or more correct, and therefore modifying it, we fully engage in it as an imaginary journey that has something else entirely different to show us about new and unexplored possibilities.

Through the practice of witnessing, which is to act as a passive observer and neutral mirror for someone else’s experience by listening intently while imagining it from their perspective as it is or was for them, without changing it through our own values and beliefs (judgments), or commenting on it in any way, we not only help the other person to gain deeper realizations into the lessons of their own experiences, but we also gain the experience as a form of lesson or self-realization for ourselves by way of their experience. We’re offered the lesson without having to live it ourselves, but rather through the experience the “telling” provides, and how we merge into and relate to the experience. When we become one with another by sharing in their experiences, we acquire many more lessons that bring new and varied realizations that serve to naturally shape us through the acquisition.

Whenever we listen to someone else tell their story, or we see them in a particular situation, and we remove all judgment, we tune into that part of ourselves that have had similar experiences or events, where we’ve been in a similar situation, and had the same type of thing happen to us, and we can relate and understand what they’re going through, and we can respond or interact in kind. When we look through the eyes of judgment, we still tap into that part of us that had a similar experience or was in a similar situation, that we deny having and therefore repress and don’t own it, because we judged ourselves while in that situation the same way we’re now judging someone else. Value judgment, for the most part is “taught”, and we usually grow up judging others in the same way we were judged. We literally “do unto others as it was done unto us”. Just as we were taught to feel bad about something we did, or see ourselves as a bad person for being that way or doing what we did, we disown those parts of ourselves, pretending and convincing ourselves were not that way, while building them into our mental model as a filtering system that we look through and project onto others, seeing those same behaviors and judgments in them.

       When we’re judged we’re literally being given the criterion and means for making judgments of other as an interpretation of “this means that”. Whenever someone does this or participates in that, it means this about them, and we perceive them through our judgments just as we were perceived by others who were judging us. We’re not only taught to judge as a fundamental way of perceiving, but given the criterion as our means of applying values that draw natural and consistent conclusions. Because this training comes as part of our formative conditioning and is developed as a subconscious process that forms our fundamental way of perceiving the world, we usually don’t even realize that’s what we’re doing. In this way, all value judgments, in their most basic sense, are a form of self-creating out of an unconscious state of learned behavior.

We often think judgments are the observation of an objective reality secured by a set of “golden rules’. We imagine that these values and rules are fact and true, rather than what they really are, which is something we made up or was trained to by the opinion of others and formed an agreement around by accepting them as our own. We’re given our values and ways of perceiving as behavioral dynamics through our childhood conditioning that we continue creating out of throughout our adult life. The inner child, so to speak, becomes the adult. However we’ve been trained up to the age of seven or eight becomes the core beliefs and mental model that we continue perceiving and creating out of the rest of our life in a natural and automatic manner.

Practicing Self-Awareness and Realization

There are several practices that you can routinely employ as a means of not only gaining self-awareness of what you’re actually doing in any situation, but also as a primary means of cultivating compassion. In any situation where you realize you’re forming a judgment of someone, regardless of what it is (remove all concepts of right and wrong), catch yourself, and turn inward instead and self-reflect. Ask yourself, have I had any experiences of a similar nature? Have I been in a similar situation? Did I explore the same idea at some point in my life? Tap into the same idea in yourself, in your own experience, and use it to relate to them. Give up the need for them to experience it in the same way that you did, or draw the same conclusions based on the same values and make the same decisions, and simply use it to understand where they’re at and what they’re going through as a lesson. Ask yourself . . . am I prone to the same thing? Have I explored and experimented with the same idea? Could this same type of thing happen to me?

As you tap into and touch on that same aspect in yourself, you have the means of relating to them, and understanding them as a result. You have to be honest with yourself and not see the conclusions you drew or decisions you made because of your experiences of the same nature as the means of denying ever having them. Or the idea that if you admit it, even to yourself, that it’ll mean something bad about you (usually the same thing you’re judging the other person with). Many times we judge others as being bad or wrong somehow due to experiences we’ve never had, so of course it’s difficult for us to relate or truly understand, and if we ever do find ourselves in a similar situation, rather than understanding, we usually condemn ourselves in the same manner we’re now condemning them.

If instead, we put ourselves in the same situation, by imagining the same thing happening to us, or listening to their story and experiencing it as it was for them, we gain an understanding of them and ourselves at the same time. We can relate to how they feel, and feel a sense of compassion towards them as a result. By living out experiences with others, we gain insights into ourselves “through” them. We’re afforded the lesson without having to have the actual experience. This is the value of stories, folklore, and myths; we get to learn through someone else’s experience. Nowadays we get much the same thing out of watching movies and reading novels.

Summary:

Whatever state of mind we possess and cultivate at any given moment, become our perceptual lens, and we only “see” in everyone and everything what matches it. If we look through the lens of judgment, we see only what warrants judgment, and we remain disconnected from those same aspects in ourselves. As we judge others, we simultaneously judge ourselves in the same manner. We shape ourselves and others according to our judgments. All perception is projection. We’re only capable of seeing in others what exists in us.

If we look through the eyes of reverence and compassion, we likewise, only see what warrants that. When we go into any relationship or situation with an attitude of understanding, we “connect with others” at an entirely different level, and connect with and touch on those same ideas and qualities within ourselves, learning about ourselves in a new way. Just as we form an understanding of others, and see them as they really are when we relinquish judgment, we come to understand and truly know ourselves to the same degree. Through understanding and compassion towards others and ourselves, we form a natural love for them and ourselves. We can only truly love what we understand and relate to, because all love comes only through union with ourselves in others. We can only love others to the same extent that we love ourselves.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Forgiveness – Transforming Judgment, Detachment, and the Key to Liberation

 

 

The idea of forgiveness can be a somewhat “slippery” subject in terms of what it actually means and how to do it. Many can put on the façade of appearing to forgive on the outside while still harboring the feelings that led to the perceived need to forgive on the inside. In order to honestly forgive as an internal process of realization that dissolves ill will and incorrect perceptions and instills a sense of inner peace, you have to learn to look at it from a different perspective where you realize there’s no need to forgive because no harm has been caused to you. All ‘perceived’ harm caused to us by another is the result of an incorrect perception on our part that comes by looking at it within the same plane or level of reality, or is due to the fact that we share the same ‘mental and emotional dynamic’ and so participate in living it out with them as though it’s real.

Whenever we reside in or are conditioned to the same dynamics and story-line as another, we ‘resonate with them’ and are effected by them in terms of ‘feeling hurt by them’ somehow due to their actions towards us. They say or do something that hurts us, makes us angry, or creates an intense sense of losing something we value, and we not only react to it in a like manner, playing a role in the drama that ensues, but we continue to dwell in vicious, condemning, criticizing, and hateful thoughts long after the fact, playing them over and over in our mind letting them eat at us, and ultimately come to define us.

We engage in the act of judging and cursing the other in a compulsive and seemingly uncontrollable fashion, while simultaneously perceiving the need to forgive because we’ve been hurt, damaged, suffered a severe loss, or have been reduced and diminished somehow. Yet as long as we stay in the same ‘shared mindset’ as a drama and behavioral dynamic, we can’t ever really forgive them because we continue to use our will and mental power to keep the perceived offense alive by continuing to think about it and relive it while revolting and attacking back, or somehow getting even by hurting them in the same way we imagine we’ve been hurt.

Yet the part of this equation we often fail to recognize, is that what we’re calling ‘being hurt’ is actually something that we are willingly doing to ourselves with our own mind and body by readily taking in the energy being projected at us by the behavior of another, letting it take hold inside of us, and giving it life by letting it completely run our emotions and imagined thoughts. We are in reality choosing to let another use our will to continue hurting us over and over by continuing to harbor and think about it while replaying it in our mind in a constant and compulsive manner. We are in fact cooperating and fully participating in co-creating the reality of the shared drama.

The strange truth of all of life that we often fail to realize in the most fundamental sense is that no one is ever doing anything ‘to us’ in terms of how we ‘experience’ the events of our life. While someone can certainly hurt us physically, behave in a way that causes us to feel pain, take away something we value, or lash out and attack us with the intention of hurting and diminishing us by captivating us under their spell, how we ‘form the experience’ of whatever happens is something we completely create with our mind and emotions. Only we form our own thoughts and tell ourselves a story about things that give them the meaning they have and what they mean about us, the other person, and the way the world is, as a result. The meaning we give things that forms our story about it is usually based on the emotional charge of the actual event, or is what acts to invoke that ‘state of mind’ that we start using to create in other areas of our life as well. A story we begin telling ourselves about being betrayed, not wanted, used, etc., can become a life theme that begins shaping us in all areas of our life.

We can just as easily choose not to let the emotions and actions of others in, not give them life inside of us, and deflect them back to them by remaining steadfast in the realization of what’s actually happening. As another person lives out their drama as a theme of some kind that’s actualized through their perceptions, emotional states, and behaviors, is simply showing us in very immediate and direct terms who they are as a person and what their model of the world is. Their actions only reveal ‘who they are’ in unmistakable terms. They’re showing us the delusion they’re conditioned with and the story they’re acting to tell with their life. It says nothing about us, unless we let it. We have to agree to play out the same drama in order to enter into a reactive state and respond in a like manner, which is the only thing that makes it real.

The problem that we have in life is that it’s difficult to stay conscious, especially through extreme experiences of emotional intensity or where we feel like a lot is at stake and we stand to lose a lot. It’s the emotions that are at play that are very magnetic and draw us into things in a completely unconscious manner because they create an internal experience that makes them seem real. Emotions are the energetic language of the material plane that ‘infect’ us, stimulate us internally, activating and causing us to take on the same emotion, which amplifies it. Emotions serve as ‘themes’ that have whole realities in them as the type of experience that naturally produces, increases, and gives us more of that emotion.

When infected with an emotional charge, feeling a pronounced and often overwhelming internal sensation, we tend to automatically take it on and allow it to run our mind producing the illusion of the emotion as a shared reality and control our behavior as an equivalent response to that reality. It literally renders us unconscious and we go into an automatic mode. We’re being completely controlled and determined by the other person through a shared and agreed upon illusion as the story we act out together with them. This is the most basic form of choice and free will that’s engaged in at a purely unconscious level. We feel as if we have no control over it and are subject to it as a form of victim. We give our power over to the same natural forces that are governing the other person’s behavior.

The way to overcome the laws and events of the lower material plane, is to rise above them to the higher plane governed by complementary laws, and use those laws to counteract the lower ones. The higher plane that’s parallel to this one as the subtle plane of higher consciousness, where the “Higher Self” resides, looking over and guiding us on the lower plane, does so through a form of total detachment from the illusions (emotions) of the lower plane. This higher consciousness, which is also a part of us, operates through what’s called the ‘witnessing’ faculty of the mind, and when employed by perceiving something from a detached perspective that doesn’t make it personal or internalize it, we can ‘see the illusion’ of the situation that the other person is caught up in and perceiving as being real.

When we move into a position and perspective of detachment and look at everything in a non-personal way, we can not only see it clearly as an illusion (because we don’t share it, which is what makes it real for us), but it doesn’t act to produce an effect in us. We’re not stimulated emotionally by it. The emotional charge of it doesn’t enter our mind and body because we don’t resonate with it (we only absorb what we resonate with). We can see it from their perspective in an unemotional and dissociated manner. It doesn’t enter into our mind and body and produce a ‘like’ effect. Once we can view it in a neutral manner without participating in it, we don’t form an emotional reaction to it. It’s only in the emotional reaction that we feel hurt and suffer pain of some kind that causes hatred, resentment, animosity, pain, and the desire for revenge by hurting them back in the same way and to the same degree that they hurt us.

When we can learn how to exercise full control over our own mind and don’t allow it to be controlled by others and natural forces by engaging in emotional dramas that are delusional in nature (made up), we can stay fully conscious and self-aware in even the most intense situations. If we cultivate a constant perception of being detached from the world around us (in it but not of it), realizing that nothing anybody else does has anything to do with us unless we let it, we begin cultivating peace of mind that comes from residing in the truth rather than delusions. When we don’t take things personal, they don’t continue living in us long after the event has past. We don’t harbor ill will against the person and continue to constantly think bad thoughts as a form of retaliation and wanting to strike back, and it doesn’t become a part of our life or serve to define us in any way.

When we’re not hurt by the actions of others because we don’t live in the same reality or personal illusion as they do, there’s no need to forgive because no damage was done. We don’t poison ourselves with the negative thoughts as judgment over another, that’s actually only hurting us. As we imagine we’re judging another through criticizing, hurtful, vindictive thoughts, we are programming ourselves with those thoughts, saturating our body with the chemistry of those thoughts, and proceed to continue creating more experiences of the same nature. We use the reality produced by those thoughts as a perceptual filter to see ‘all’ people through, and we become the “type of person” indicated by our judgments as emotional thoughts. We perceive ourselves through our own judgments as being the complementary polar opposite as the victim (subject to) of another person’s behavior. We become subject to our own judgments as a constant thought process and emotional state produced by those thoughts. We become by way of our own thoughts and emotions as our state of mind (vibratory frequency).

As we program ourselves with our own emotional states, we vibrate at that frequency, and become a magnet for more of “those type of people” who will willingly cooperate in acting out more of the same type of dynamics, giving us more of the same type of feelings, emotions, and experiences. We perceive everyone and everything (including ourselves) out of our perceptual lens and filters created by our thoughts, judgments, and the meaning we give things. We become the mental, emotional, and physical equivalent of our perceptions.

When we detach ourselves from the reality of others, seeing ourselves as not being a part of the same delusion (conditioning), and realize in absolute terms that their behavior says nothing about us but only reveals who they are and what type of issues they’re living out of that they’re mistaken for being real, we remain unaffected by them, and we never form hurtful, negative reactions to them. We never engage in, agree with, and act to cooperatively participate in playing a key role in their imaginary dramas. By realizing they’re only caught up in their own delusions and those of mass consciousness (what they’ve been taught by society), and don’t really have an actual awareness of what they’re doing in the sense that it’s their own creation, not only will you not form any ill will towards them, you can still feel a sense of love for them. Not a personal or romantic love, but the type of love you feel for a child that’s still learning and doesn’t realize what it’s doing in the real sense of things. As Jesus said in the midst of being tormented to death, “forgive them Father, for they know not what they do”. People honestly don’t realize they’re caught up in an illusion of their own making or subject to a form of mass hypnosis.

The perceived need to forgive simply shows you that you’re invested in, and affected by the same delusion as an emotional drama and behavioral dynamic. It can help you to realize things about yourself that may be difficult to see in the light of day. It’ll show you what your own ‘issues’ are that you’re not fully aware of and so still get “taken in” by. And of course it’s easy to see that whenever we harbor and keep alive negative thoughts about another that run through our mind in a compulsive manner, that it keeps us in that “emotional state” and “diminishes” us with the same ideas as the thoughts. We literally ‘become’ the same as our thoughts. When we hate someone, and dwell in the thoughts and emotions of hate, we lend our will to create hate and become hate itself in mind and body. We become a hateful person. We represent hate, and channel our life-force into the reality of hate. We simultaneously hate ourselves by becoming the channel for that reality, and use our will unconsciously to create it as our experience of life.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Integrative Mind-Body Medicine Consultant and Spiritual Mentor

 

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Thought Projection, Distant Healing, and Praying for Others

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We have been trained through many traditional practices of various sorts, many of which are religious in nature, to “pray for others” when they’re experiencing crisis or hardship of some sort. We’re also taught to send positive thoughts their way through intention or visualization of some sort, which we ourselves consider “positive” – positive of course being a relative term designed to engage others with the person manifesting them – not necessarily to the person they’re being “sent to” or projected towards. Likewise, we are still imbued with the tendency to pray to some outside source or entity through which we imagine we draw power or are helped in some way. We’re taught to always look outside of ourselves “to” God or spiritual masters of some kind, which reside in some imaginary realm and are able to give us or bestow upon us what we ourselves can’t seem to muster up. Yet power itself only truly exists within us, and only comes into the world “through us”. It needs a physical vehicle in order to act. We’re only capable of utilizing powers that we ourselves are aligned with and are similar to in moral terms.

 

If we completely put the idea of karma aside, though it’s an “absolute law”, and look exclusively at the power of thought, we can further see how this idea of praying for another produces no real effect, except in us. Thoughts that are aroused in response to something, and formulated for the purpose of “directing them” towards someone else in an attempt to somehow “influence” their mind, and therefore alter their physical condition, produces no meaningful effect (in them) because it usually operates against law, and works through an attempt to violate choice and free will of the person the imagined thoughts are being directed towards. Thought itself is only “powerful” in terms of influence, when it’s sincere, concentrated on and built up over time, and if the person directing it has well developed will power. Thoughts, in order to be effective for another must be free of selfishness or any form of self-motivated agenda’s or personal beliefs (even of the most positive nature), and must be sustained through a consistent mindset. Very few people, especially in our modern day society of constant distraction and coercion, scattered mindset and blatant inability to concentrate for even a short time, our thoughts are not powerful, don’t travel very far, and are ineffectual. They dissolve almost as soon as they’re formed.

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Thoughts, even when concentrated and absent of self-motivated ideas, can only be “received” by another person whose mind is in a passive and receptive state, and who is of the same will or consciousness (frequency) of the person sending them. As long as a mind is active and full of self-oriented thoughts and feelings, it can’t receive any thoughts and feelings being transmitted through the field from another. Most people have constant thoughts running through their mind and are not tuned into being able to “receive” ideas being transmitted. Especially those who are having problems or facing a crisis of some sort, in which their mind is probably being run almost exclusively on anxiety around the situation. Anytime a mind is in an active state, it can’t act as a receiver. It has to be relaxed, in a passive mode, and free of constant thoughts, and able to sympathize with the ideas available in the conscious field around them in order to take them in, hold them by fixating attention on them, and begin thinking about them until they become an internal reality as a possibility. Once a new possibility is realized, they have to “choose it” over the current reality, and bring it into fruition through willful action. None of us have the ability to violate the choice and free will of another, do their “healing for them”, or decide in what way they need to heal, and why.

 

Every life situation and circumstances are the product of karma. Karma is what we call the “absolute law”, and is basically the law of cause and effect in terms of self-creation through life experiences. While we form an idea of a soul being innocent or “undeserving” of whatever happens to them, an extension of “victim mentality” or the belief that the universe is basically unjust and picks on people for no reason, or that events are random and not interrelated, and there are no consequences to what we set into motion through our own thoughts and behaviors, when in reality, everything happens to us at the personal level of producing an impact or involving us directly in an idea, and comes as the result of our own actions or thoughts as a reciprocal correspondence to our actions. Because of the time lapse involved, we often fail to recognize it. We act to draw on ourselves the results of our own attitudes, beliefs and behaviors, where we are on the “receiving end”, and therefore experiencing the same idea from the opposite perspective, which comes as what we call a “life lesson” as a direct reflection that allows us to see and understand our own psychological make-up and what areas or in what way we are invested in errors of thinking and perceiving.

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Just as we are solely responsible for creating ourselves, we’re also solely responsible for healing ourselves (mentally, physically, emotionally, and morally), which only comes through self-realization of what we’ve done or are doing that’s causing it. We are both the cause and effect of our own life. We are truly self-determined in a purely unconscious sense. The only true form of helping another heal by gaining self-realization of their errors, is through compassion. To form compassion for another isn’t to feel sorry for them, or through empathy take on the same feelings and perspective, viewing life through their eyes, so to speak, but rather taking a position of “witnessing”, where we create a safe space (relinquish all judgment and al creative interaction) for them to self-reflect, and we serve to reflect back to them their own story about things without tainting or altering it through our emotions and mental paradigm, changing it to conform to our personal perception of them, and as a result, they’re able to “see it” by projecting it onto a neutral and nonreactive mindset. We’re only able to see our “own mind” by telling our story where it’s not being manipulated or altered by the perception and reaction of another.

 

When we “hold space” for another as a neutral and shared atmosphere, and we withhold all judgment and the tendency to view their life through our paradigm, where we modify what they experience to be the same as we would experience in that same situation, and interact by sympathizing or discussing it rationally, or by feeling the need to “correct them”, advise them, or somehow comfort them, we don’t act as a mirror, but instead begin projecting onto them our own opinions about them, and what we call “transference” takes place. When we’re able to keep our mind and energy separate from theirs, and not react emotionally to anything that they say, while formulating in our mind in an objective manner and simply understand what it was like for them from their perspective, without interacting in any way, we mirror their experience back to them in an unadulterated form, and they’re able to gain realization around it as a result.

 

Through this realization as self-awareness, they’re able to become aware of what they were previously unaware of, and see what’s been operating at an unconscious level within their own psyche. All healing comes only through self-awareness that brings self-realization. We can only work with and act on ourselves to change what we’re aware of and “know”. Through awareness we’re empowered with our ability to consciously choose and willfully implement the ideas gained from the realization. We bring forth what was previously in the dark, and we begin working consciously with the law of cause and effect, and transform ourselves according to our own thoughts, emotions, and actions.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois    

Integrative Health Consultant and Spiritual Mentor

 

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The Secret to Forgiveness – “The Key to Mind-Body Healing”

birthThe idea of forgiveness is probably one that eludes us in the most basic sense, because we approach it from the perspective of pain and suffering that we imagine someone has caused us, and believe that to forgive “them” is to somehow let go of the pain, pretend it doesn’t exist any more, or somehow condone their behavior in terms of the experience it created for us. Even when we struggle to grasp forgiveness in theory, which gives us the basis for attempting to actually “do it”, we often find that it doesn’t work, and we still hold hard feelings and pain caused by another, that still eats at us, and we can’t seem to honestly let it go in the real sense of the word.

“To forgive is to forget”

One of the hardest things to realize about this equation is that forgiveness in the ultimate sense has nothing to do with the other person or situation we think that we need to forgive, but rather about us, as seeing whatever happened as the enactment of a larger pattern as a behavioral dynamic of some sort that acts as a mirror for helping us to “see” aspects of ourselves that are normally very difficult to see. It comes through the realization that whatever takes place in a relationship or situation, that we are very much playing a “role” in that situation, and are participating in creating the experience that it affords us.

 
Our lives are psychologically governed by “patterns” as life themes that we are conditioned to in our formative years, and continue to act out in various ways through the very nature of the relationships we form and the behaviors that become immediately established through the nature of our interactions. These life themes as “dramas” usually involve ideas like: betrayal, abandonment, deception, not being worthy of love, being used, not wanted or good enough, and so on. These patterns as life dramas were being acted out within the dynamics of our immediate family, friends, and daily environment while we were growing up, in which we played a part, had a role of some kind within it, was subject to the emotions and attitudes being openly displayed. These dramas formed our everyday “normal” experiences, and in an attempt to make sense out of them, we began telling ourselves a story about them that made them “mean” something ((I’m not wanted, no matter what I do it’s not good enough, etc.) The meaning we began giving things by the story we told ourselves about what was happening and why, formed the basis of what became “our story”, that we continue to develop as we grew up by using it to interpret all of our experiences that had a strong emotional impact, making them mean the same thing, and using them as the means of creating more of the same type of experiences. The meaning we gave things in order to understand them, not only means something about the people involved, and the way the world is in general, but it means the same thing about us in the context of the story we tell ourselves about it in which we are not only the main character, but also the creator of the story as a means of creating our personal experience, and the observer who’s always “watching it” as we play it out in our imagination, subjecting our self to our own story about it over and over, seating it deeply into our subconscious, which perceives it as “real”.

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Whatever thematic pattern we’re conditioned to, we develop as the formative basis of our mental paradigm or vibratory frequency that forms our “perceptual lens” and how we interpret the events of our life just through how we perceive them. While we think we’re conditioned to only one role in a dynamic, we’re actually conditioned to the dynamic itself, and while we may relate to one role in that dynamic as a child, as we grow into an adult, we begin associating with the adult role in the same dynamic. As an adult, we can play any role in that dynamic, or even multiple roles at the same time, switching back and forth, and act to perpetuate the dynamic, initiating it by projecting it, and by the presumptions we’re always making as a form of anticipating or predicting, and the natural behaviors we employ as a result.

 
How we act when we come into relationship with others, stimulates, and calls forth the matching tendencies in them of the shared patterns, and we establish the nature of the relationship as the behaviors and attitude that forms the daily interaction where the shared theme becomes acted out in a new version. By co-creating more of the same type of experiences that leave us feeling the same way, strengthens and reinforces that dynamic in us, telling the same type of story, wrapping our identity around it to the point where it’s the only story we know how to tell. We form our mental paradigm out of that story as our “basic perception” and we can only “see” in others and situations what matches our story. We’re always in the process of telling our story through our outward persona and natural (unconscious) behaviors and general attitude, which are all natural expressions of our paradigm.

 
Because these patterns are engrained in our subconscious mind (our mind is structured by them) which forms all out natural and automatic behaviors, and how we’re “being” in terms of our energy and how we “feel” to others, we are actually vibrating to the frequency of that dynamic (pattern) and act to stimulate it in others by resonating with those that share the same tendencies and can cooperate naturally in acting out the same dynamic, giving both of us more of the same experiences through the natural interaction that takes place. All attraction is ultimately unconscious in nature, and comes through the quality of our energy as our emotional mind-set, which connects us energetically with those of the same quality of consciousness in our environment. When we connect, see each other, encounter each other, or actually meet directly and interact, we experience a pronounced chemistry as an “inner stimulation”. This feeling of having chemistry with someone, feeling attracted to them, is the experience of “resonance” as inner sensations that are arousing somehow. We are literally vibrating them, and they us, through “shared” qualities and life themes. We come together based on these shared qualities because we’re compatible for acting out the same idea together through the relationship we form.

 
Because this is all taking place at the subconscious level and comes automatically, without our direct awareness of what’s actually happening, the only way we can begin working with it consciously, is by realizing that we tend to end up in the same type of relationships with the same type of people, where the same type of experiences take place, leaving us feeling the same way. We can only act to change and evolve the stories we act naturally to tell, by gaining awareness not of the other person as separate and different from us, but as possessing and reflecting back to us the same qualities, tendencies, and relationship dynamics, that we ourselves possess. We can recognize how we feel because of the interaction, and while holding that feeling, and simply being present with it, we can see the story inherent in it as a series of associated memories.

Torus shapeWhen we change the orientation from “what they’re doing to us”, and self-reflect instead while asking ourselves “what is my part in this”? What role did I play in cooperatively acting this out to recreate my own experience? How have I felt like this before, and what story or experience was being acted out then? Is this a familiar feeling, and if so, in what way is it familiar? What memories do I naturally associate with it? And what does it remind me of? What points along the way did I get a notion or direct realization of what was happening, and what did I do or tell myself about it that explained it or made it alright and kept me “in” the relationship despite what I was realizing about how I felt? What did I sense about what was happening, and chose to pretend I didn’t notice, or interpreted it in such a way that I masked it with an illusion that secretly condoned it? What were the indications along the way that gave me a funny feeling, that I didn’t investigate or act on?

 
The true ability to forgive another comes only through the self-realization that they provide you with. They are acting as an outer mirror that’s reflecting back to you through a direct experience parts of you that you can’t see clearly or have covered over with a story about it that prevents you from seeing it for what it really is. Any relationship we participate in (which is all of them) is based on shared qualities that we have in common (which is why we relate) and the natural interaction that takes place through the expression of those shared qualities to tell a story as a joint experience. This brings whatever is “inside of us” (that we’re largely unaware of) outside of us, where we can view it through the experience of it in an objective manner (apart from us) as a “full pattern” that also contains aspects of ourselves normally hidden from us through some form of denial or suppression.

 
By realizing this, we can use our relationships and the experiences we create through them as a mirror that’s showing us who we are in our fullness. We can recognize the dynamics we are prone to and the tendencies that engage us unconsciously in cooperatively acting out those patterns in new and varied ways with new people. Once we realize “what we’re doing” in a relationship that’s cooperating in causing the events that produce emotional pain as the enactment of our life’s theme, just through the awareness itself, we are no longer “unconscious” in our own experiences, and are no longer prone to the same stimulus. We are no longer drawn into illusions through reactive behaviors, and no longer “relate” to behaviors that act to initiate those patterns, and as a result no longer need to act it out in an attempt to recognize the true reality being played out as a shared delusion.

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All healing in the ultimate sense, is becoming aware of parts of ourselves that we are not aware of in the normal sense, that play a powerful part in the life dynamics we engage in that form the basis for our experiences, and of course, give us a sense of ourselves by how we identify with our own self-created experiences. We don’t realize that we’re playing a major role in the type of people we attract and are attracted to, and the situations that naturally emerge out of the relationships we form with others. This lack of self-awareness and the tendency to project onto others by imagining that they are “doing unto us” in an unfair and unjust manner, is what keeps us expressing what we call “shadow aspects” of our personality that we continue to remain unconscious of, and therefore don’t recognize them and certainly don’t “own” them. As we begin recognizing our own tendencies in relationships and situations, and become conscious in our own life, we can see them as they’re being acted out in the moment when we’re actually in the process of “doing them”, and we no longer engage in the same manner. In that moment of awareness we realize what’s actually going on, and we’re no longer “reactive”. Because we can see it in a new light, it’s no longer compelling to us, and in that moment of calmness where we used to react, we realize that we actually have a choice in how we respond and interact. By changing our response to a person or situation, we change the dynamic that plays out, and break the pattern. The same behaviors that we used to get draw in by, no longer have the same affect, and after awhile, we don’t even notice them anymore. Once we break the pattern of our own tendencies, we don’t attract people who are living out that pattern, and no longer relate to them or have any chemistry with them. We become neutral to it.

 
Once we realize that what was holding us to the illusions of the story we were telling ourselves was the fact that we were unaware of what we were doing, and through our awareness, we can simultaneously realize that the people still acting out those stories are in fact unaware of what they’re doing. They still believe they’re real, and so honestly don’t know what they’re doing. They don’t realize that they’re living out of an illusion of their own making as the story they continue to tell themselves about everything that gives their live meaning. In this awareness, we can realize that there’s actually nothing to forgive. The idea of needing to forgive was based on an illusion and our lack of awareness. Once we are no longer participating in telling the story as a shared delusion, we are no longer affected by it. We no longer feel any residual pain, no longer suffer at someone else’s hand, and at some point, quit thinking about it all together. In the ultimate sense, we know when we’ve actually forgiven someone or some perceived act “against us”, because we literally forget about it. We no longer think about it or feel the pain it once caused, and when we do recall it, we can do so in a completely objective, matter-of-fact way. We look at it almost like we’re looking at it from a completely detached perspective where it’s no longer personal. If you’re still hanging on to something that happened “to you”, with pain, suffering, and hard feelings of any kind, it’s means you haven’t forgiven and more importantly, that you haven’t been able to realize the delusion that you yourself are involved in.
As with all things in life . . . awareness that brings self-realization is the key to healing and happiness.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Transformational Coaching

Personal Transformation

Mind-Body Integration

 

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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The Mysteries of the Pineal Gland and the True Nature of the Imagination

The Pineal gland is a gland of the Endocrine system of the body which is a series of ductless glands that produce a variety of hormones that are directly released in the bloodstream that produce emotional states and govern the regulatory aspects of maintaining all major systems of the body involved in homeostasis. Hormones work in a unified manner to produce, regulate and maintain the “state” of the mind-body system. The mind produces the electrical charges that stimulate and operate the endocrine system through the energetic matrix within the body often referred to as the chakra and meridian system. A chakra is located in the same region as endocrine glands as well as the major organs of the body and the central nervous system, all of which act as a dynamic network for energy as consciousness to stimulate chemical and biological process that operate the body using the mind.

The Pineal gland, which is located in the center of the brain as a part of what we call the “limbic brain” (emotional), does not originate in the brain, but rather migrates there after first forming in the roof of the mouth of the fetus. Because of this, the Pineal is not made of brain cells, and is not protected by the blood-brain barrier, and is affected by various toxins carried in the blood. The Pineal is a pea-sized hollow organ shaped like a pinecone that’s filled with fluids that has piezoelectric crystals floating in the internal fluid. These piezoelectric crystals carry an accumulated electrical charge that’s activated when pressured (contained in fluid). These crystals are hexagonal (6 sided) and are similar to the crystals found in the inner ear, that expand and contract in the presence of electromagnetic fields. Piezoelectric crystals can be used to “tune into” radio stations without any electricity. The electromagnetic fields that surround us are constantly interacting with these crystals within our body, producing mental and emotional affects.

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The Pineal, which regulates light and governs various “cycles and rhythms” of the body, also effects our mood, mental and emotional state, produces melatonin, the precursor to serotonin, which regulates sleep and dream cycles of the body. The pineal also produces a hormone called DMT, which releases light through piezoelectric luminescence that is thought to be a hallucinogenic and responsible for what they call the “death experience”. The Pineal is thought to be where the soul enters and leaves the body at birth and death. In the more practical sense, we can realize that it’s definitely the mechanism by which we dream, receive inner visions, daydream, imagine ideas as concepts, and experience hat we call phosphene flares as the “dancing lights” commonly associated with various forms of meditation and trance states. It’s what forms any type of “inner vision” as imagery or ideas as knowledge that come to us through our imagination. The Pineal is our connection to the ethereal world where images exist in etheric, holographic like images.

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The Pineal has been referred to by many names throughout history and in every spiritual culture around the world as a significance feature of our physical anatomy necessary for spiritual transformation. It’s also referred to as the 3rd-eye (pyramid), the 6th chakra (hexagram structure), the Eye-of Horus, The Philosopher’s Stone, The Light Eye, The Seat of the Soul, the Challis of the Holy Grail, the Cosmic Egg, the Star of David, the Eye of Wisdom, and the “Lost Key” of Free Masons. This gland is an actual tuning device that allows us to “receive” information as knowledge from the spiritual realm of pure intelligence. This information comes to us fluently through the study of the science of numbers which start a systematic unfolding of visual imagery that “reveals” knowledge to us, and all we have to do is observe it. Light images are reflected on the surface of the Pineal as knowledge being transmitted through the frequency of the Pineal, represented by the color spectrum as indigo, or more accurately ultramarine blue. When we electrically charge the Pineal by drawing up the Life-Force of the body located in the lower regions of the spine known as the Kundalini or serpent energy that activates all the lower-emotional energy centers of the body, amplifying the intensity, and strong emotions are added to visual thoughts as conceptual ideas formed in the imagination (mind’s eye), we have the basis for spiritual knowledge to manifest as material reality.

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The Pineal is thought to secret a form of resin (risen), similar to tree sap as the life-essence of the tree (of Knowledge) known as DMT, which has also been referred to as the “Golden Nectar” of immortality. DMT, is what allows us to “see” the imagery of the spiritual realm that comes into our mind as a form of holographic imagery of pure and radiant colors that form lucid and surreal internal realities as single-composite imagery. The internal realm, being of the opposite nature of the external, doesn’t form “landscape like” imagery of multiple images put together to form a logical scene of some sort, but rather come as singular imagery that have a multitude of features that are very unlike what we see in the normal sense.

A single image for example can have human-facial features combined with crystalline structures, plant and mineral features, and animal features all combined to form a single image that portrays an idea. These images are in vibrant prismatic and pure colors as the frequencies that create the structured pattern of the image. These images can move through an evolutionary process of starting out pulsating-spiraling light-forms, which then start forming actual prismatic structures, and recognizable forms, that then burst into an intense release of light or a form of vivid lucid dreaming. This is why DMT is referred to as a hallucinogen, and is what actually formed the basis for LSD.

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These internal images, which can be also thought of as the original universal language of symbolic imagery, are the result of the frequencies we “absorb” into our being, and are of the same frequency as we are. Because of this, internal images are of a very personal nature unlike external ones that are produced by deflected light. With these internal images, the color is very important as it gives direct knowledge of the frequency being transmitted. This same method of transmission and reception is how ideas come to us as inspired insights of various sorts, or creative ideas that “pop into” our mind out of nowhere. The imagination is the faculty of the mind used for transmission of information as ideas from the purely energetic and vibratory realm of spirit, into the astral realm of images formed out of light in the mind’s eye, that become the blueprint for creating a reality out of the idea. This is how all great inventions came about. They were “received” in their whole form as an idea, that intuitively “came to them” as a realization, or what some call a “direct experience”.

The Pineal shares many of the same properties as the retina of the eye, and both detect and regulate light. The retina of the eye works with external light, and the Pineal works with internal light that received as more of a transmission of vibratory information. The image received by the Pineal is reflected on the outer membrane of the Pineal, which is “looked through” and forms a kind of translucent image, similar to reflection on glass, which is often superimposed over the outer reality as imagining an idea, or replaying a memory, as in daydreaming. This same affect of looking through a translucent lens forms an analogy to our ‘perceptual lens’, which is how we reshape the outer light (imagery) to be of the same structure as the ‘inner image’, not as an exact replica, but more as an analogous theme that recomposes outer ideas through a selection process that only uses certain elements of a whole to form a new idea out of them. When we close our eyes, as in meditating or relaxing, and shut out the outer light, then only the internal image exists, and often becomes much more vivid and clear.

The Pineal, as the imagination, is stimulated and developed through extended periods of concentration and contemplation. This is most naturally engaged in through creative activities or studying. When we get involved in creativity of some sort, we submerge ourselves into the experience of creating as a deep form of concentration where we blend into and become one with whatever we’re creating. In this way, we loose all sense of ourselves as separate and independent of our creation and it activates a kind of “flow of information” that we enter into and participate in. We start the process by engaging in the activity itself by contemplating an idea, that then begins taking on a life of its own and begins evolving inside of us and we enter into a stream of associated thoughts where one spontaneously leads to another and we receive knowledge through the internal experience of it unfolding inside of us as a kind of download. All we have to do is watch and observe the images as they unfold. When our concentration is broke, we lose our train of thought, and disconnect from the flow of ideas, often, not able to get it back.

universal_connectionThe idea that “God speaks to us in numbers” (mathematics) comes from the very interesting feature that when we study numbers as sacred geometry or philosophical mathematics, where shapes represents laws as form that performs distinct operations that are represented by numbers that demonstrate relationships, comes through the natural fact that when meditating or deeply concentrating on numbers and the laws they represent, where we start off thinking in terms of what we know about the number and shape, it starts a flow of energy as a chain of association that continues unfolding in our mind “showing us” aspects of it that we didn’t know before. We actually “receive” information as knowledge through experiencing it, which is why they call it intuitive wisdom. This is learning from experience which integrates it into our paradigm as the structure of our mind, which systematically upgrades it by incorporating the new information. Spiritual knowledge (as the sciences) doesn’t have to be sought out and obtained from outside means, but can be “tuned into” and received through internal means.

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This mysterious and beautiful feature of the Pineal gland as the faculty of the imagination used as a tuning and receiving device for obtaining spiritual knowledge through meditative contemplation is what makes it the prime objective or key element of all the Mysteries and world-wide spiritual traditions. By learning how to activate and use this feature of our own mind-body system we have a direct connection to God as the Universal Mind of pure consciousness that exists within the material realm as vibratory frequencies that can be tuned into like a radio station and plug ourselves in to a direct source of primordial intelligence responsible for constructing all of life in the cosmos as we know it. This is our link to our true immortality as our true identity. Through meditative practices intended to penetrate and absorb knowledge through a practical understanding of it, we can utilize that knowledge in our everyday life in order to self-create. By obtaining it through the experience of it, it becomes infused in our mind as a form of virtual memory that we can readily access and recall at will.

There is however, one fairly large problem that we’re facing today in regards to the Pineal gland, and that is, that because it’s not protected by the blood-brain barrier, it’s subject to whatever chemicals are in our blood stream. This is one of the reasons why purifying your body as the means of purifying your blood, is so important in all spiritual traditions. The main jest of blood chemistry normally addressed is those of various emotional states, which directly alter our blood chemistry through hormonal saturation, and alter our state of mind as a direct correspondence to our emotional state which sets our “frequency” to that emotion. It’s easy to see that whatever emotion we’re experiencing determines what we dwell on and what type of thoughts or memories we run almost obsessively through our imagination as the equivalent (reality) of our emotional state. Our emotions are the most natural way we tune ourselves to frequencies and use our concentration power to dwell intensely in those states by imagining.

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Nowadays however, we have many chemicals we’re ingesting, usually without direct awareness that are affecting our endocrine system, and especially our Pineal gland. One of the biggest culprits is fluoride, intentionally put in our drinking water and toothpaste that is known to “calcify” the Pineal. Calcification means it coats outer membrane (that reflects images) and the internal crystals with a bony, enamel like structure that prevents it from being able to operate properly. This is also partially responsible for affecting our mood, which is the basis out of which our whole life is created and experienced. Our mood is our vibratory frequency, and determines what thoughts we tune into and what emotions we experience on a regular basis. Fluoride, along with numerous other “neurotoxins” (toxic to the brain and nervous system) are acting to literally alter our biological system causing it to malfunction. This is also notable in the substantial increase in problems with concentration like ADD, and ADHD. Because concentration is required to stimulate, open, and operate the Pineal in a proficient manner, we’re being cut off from directly connecting to our spiritual source. It’s advisable to educate yourself on the chemicals in your food and your environment that are directly affecting your health in numerous ways, and altering your lifestyle to exclude them. Our physical health, mind and emotions are all connected and function in a unified manner. By altering one, we simultaneously alter the others. They go hand-in-hand.

Dr. Linda Gadbois