Self-Creation and the Art of Modeling

One of the most fundamental ways we can develop certain qualities and ways of being in ourselves is by modeling others who actively demonstrate those qualities. We all know this as children where it comes naturally by pretending to be like our favorite characters and heroes, and as teenagers when we’re taking over the process of creating our identity by trying on new ways of being in order to see how they feel. As we grow older and get caught up in the hustle and bustle of our adult life, we start becoming fixed as a certain way of being and seem to somehow lose touch with knowing how to create ourselves. We can train our body to take on any characteristic we want to by practicing being that way in a diligent and consistent manner. We can train ourselves to be anyway we want to be by first deciding how we want to be, then practicing being that way over and over until it becomes natural.

Creating a Model for Transforming Ourselves

In order to begin creating ourselves in a deliberate manner we have to first form an idea in our mind of how we want to be. We have to look at what qualities and traits we don’t like in ourselves, and decide which ones we’re going to use in order to transform them. What kind of character traits do we want to possess and how we want to be as a person. Once we decide on the characteristic we want to acquire, we then find someone who naturally possesses that characteristic, and we study them to see “how” it is they “do” it. We notice all the little mannerisms in how they perform it. We then practice doing it the same way over and over until it starts becoming natural.

Anytime that we’re practicing being different than we normally are, it feels awkward at first. This is natural and will go away with continued practice. It can help to practice in front of a mirror so you can see what you look like and make sure you’re doing it the way you like. This is the same method used by dancers and actors who practice while watching themselves in a mirror to make sure their form is correct. As you watch yourself you can make any adjustments you like until you get it just the way you want it. Once you’re able to do it proficiently, practice it numerous times until you can do it without thought, discipline, or effort. You have to build it into your muscle as “body memory”.

The Magical Number of Manifestation

There’s what we can think of as a “magic number” for any type of manifestation or making something into a habit, and that number is “40”. If you repeat something 40 times, it starts becoming natural and automatic If you practice a new ritual or routine for 40 days (approx. 6 weeks) it becomes a new habit and you do it automatically without having to remember to do it. This is why all programs or processes designed to produce change or transformation of some kind are conducted in 6 week time frames. Other programs that run for “21 days” are just over the halfway mark, and become easier to maintain at the hallway point without a lot of effort. The law of the Tetrad, represented by the number 4, represents material manifestation (4 elements) as our mental and physical constitution, and provides us with the means as a process by which we can actively transform our constitution.  

Start by deciding what it is about you that you want to change, and what it is you want to change it to. Once you decide how you want to be, find a person you know or can watch who has that trait or way about them, and mentor them. Study their mannerisms and how it is exactly that they do it, and then imitate them in your own way. Practice being the same way over and over, until you begin doing it just the way you want. Once you have it down, practice it numerous more times until you can do it without any effort. Then set the intention to practice it throughout the day for several days until it starts coming naturally and you no longer have to try or remind yourself to do it.

Synchronizing your Mind with your Body

What you’ll notice is that just by changing your posture and “how you’re being” and acting, changes how you sense yourself and how you feel as a result. It’ll literally change your perspective as your perception to match it. Your physiology is always equated to your “state of mind”, and as you change what you’re doing with our body it changes how you feel about yourself. As you begin sensing yourself in a new and different way, it changes how you feel and how you experience yourself. As your experience of yourself changes, so does your experience of everything else. As you perceive yourself in new ways, the world around you begins changing in the same way. You influence others by stimulating those same qualities in them, changing the nature of your interaction.

All experience of the outer world is a direct reflection of how we experience ourselves inwardly. As we change our outward actions, our inward state changes forming a new perspective and way of seeing the outer world through a new perceptual lens. For example, by simply correcting your posture and standing up straight with your shoulders back, neck straight and head centered directly over your pelvic area (center of balance) with your chin up, you automatically feel more confident and naturally assert yourself more. Learning to utilize our body posture as a means of self-expression is one of the ways we can act on ourselves to change the way we feel about ourselves. Disciplined action only comes by way of an equally disciplined mind. We use our mind to intentionally direct our body as a means of creating ourselves to be a certain way.

Modeling is the number one way we intentionally develop ourselves to possess the character traits and style of self-expression that we desire. This process can be done to acquire (bring out and cultivate) or transform any physical characteristic (habit), including voice tone and quality, how you naturally breathe, and how you walk and hold yourself. Don’t ever make the mistake of taking the attitude that you’re somehow “copying others”, because this isn’t the case. As you practice a particular form it allows your own style to emerge where you can consciously begin developing it just like any art. It creates a pathway through which you can actively bring out latent potential and use it to cultivate yourself to greater levels of self-expression. Don’t take on too much at one time, and become completely intuitive with one thing before you move on to another.

Dr. Linda Gadbois  

The Monad: The Trinity, and the Law of Three-in-One

human torus The ‘mind’ is a paradigm, structured and produced through an accumulative process of integrated experiences that become memory. Our memory base acts as a filtering system that  forms our “center of awareness” and is what we “look through” in order to perceive the outer world. Atman, the pure universal objective intelligence, impregnates Buddhi (third-eye) with the seeds of consciousness (archetypal ideas as prototypes) that it then gestates and grows into a unique possibility by undergoing a process of adaptation that modifies it into a new variation that’s then reflected onto the mind of the individual (seen inwardly). Our mental paradigm as a vibratory composition of integrated memory forms our “perceptual lens” which is literally a “programmed mind-field” that exists outside of us that we look through in order to “see the outer world”, much like the lenses of a pair of glasses. We all look through a “colored lens” as a unique vibratory frequency or quality and level of consciousness. What we “see” in the outer world is a correspondence to the structure of our mental paradigm as a life theme that acts to transform it to be of the same image (vibratory frequency) and likeness (qualities) as we are. This theme forms the basis for how we interpret the outer world to give it meaning, that then shapes the story we start telling ourselves about it. The story we tell ourselves about things “reshapes” it to be like us as our own creation. The individual mind, like the universal mind, is imbued with the ability to create reality, and create itself by way of that reality.   The Monad, is a combination of an active, intelligent force inhabiting a purely passive vessel or vehicle, and “in-forming it” with a certain quality of consciousness that produces a living being as the combination. The primary law of vibration as an electromagnetic field, active and passive components of the same frequency or nature, forms an individual being with a distinct personality, identity, and behaviors, all of which act naturally to express by creating a certain type of reality as a consistent theme or life story. The soul or mind of the individual is the result of three components that are correlated, complementary and coherent. Vibration of a certain frequency resonates with that same frequency on all levels and scales of existence, and is readily absorbed into one another, forming an energetic bond as the “same” thing in different states or degrees. The spirit (universal mind), soul (individual mind), and the body (subconscious mind), together form the same entity as the “form” of that vibration and quality of consciousness that animates and operates it. Torus shape The Monad is symbolically represented as a sphere of consciousness that makes up the mind of the individual, where the purely active and invisible force inhabits its physical correspondence through resonance, and together form a living (energetic/material) entity. The individual mind, which vibrates at a certain frequency,  “draws in” the consciousness of its frequency from the higher, universal, all-pervading mind of archetypes and prototypes, and uses a universal theme to create itself by taking in ideas and adapting them through the paradigm of the individual and by how it’s first conceptualized and then applied to their specific life conditions, circumstances, situation, level of maturity and understanding, phase of personal growth, and so on, to form a unique version of the same idea as a personal creation. The universal mind is principle based, and provides the intelligence as ideas used for creating through unique forms of self-expression. In this way, we are all living out of shared ideas and themes that we apply and utilize in unique ways, making them seem different and set a part from each other. Every person will take the same idea and reform it in a unique and novel way.   There is always a medium or bridge, much like a depository between upper, universal ideas, and the lower, individual mind, because the universal remains pure and unformed, existing in a purely potential state, and can only act to enter into a neutral medium that’s also accessed by the individual mind, which “forms it” into a unique and specialized version. This unique version is simply one possibility out of an infinite number of possibilities. The bridge between the higher mind and the lower mind, called the “axiom” or “axis mundi”, is a receiver that acts to conceive of ideas, where it takes in the universal seed (logos), then integrates it with the individual mind, reshaping it as a personal conception of the universal idea that can be utilized in the most practical sense of life creation. The Pineal gland as the third-eye is our “receiver” as our connection to the spiritual realm of higher consciousness that informs us. wormhole The Monad, which is represented by a circle with a dot on the center, is a connection coming from outside of us as a greater field that we exist within, also permeates us, and is drawn on from within, much like a well of inner reservoir. We access the universal mind that exists outside of us from within, and it informs us from the center of our being, as a direct deposit, so to speak, altering our mind through the very conception of it, changing how we see the outer world as a correlation. So the universal mind exists outside of and all around us (all reality is an expression of it), and we draw on the archetypal ideas within this field through resonance, accessing only what’s of the same vibration and nature as we are, that can actually “express through us” by conforming to our mental paradigm, and this programs us to be able to not only become the same as this idea, but also to see that idea as an inherent part of our outer reality. Because we absorb and synthesize the vibration, becoming one with it, we also become one with that same idea in the world around us. Our reality is a reflection of who and what we are as a primal form of self-expression. We are constantly being transformed by the energies we absorb and integrate that alter and modify our being accordingly. All energy as consciousness, exists simultaneously as the particle and the wave, and the wave is “collapsed” into one possibility as a particle or physical expression. The wave exists in a purely potential state (unformed), and through resonance, one possibility out of an infinite number of possibilities is “chosen” (absorbed), and comes into physical expression through the individual mind and body that acts as a channel for it.   The Monad represents the relationship between Heaven and Earth, between God and man, the universal and the individual, and is expressed in the saying “as above, so below, in the wondrous workings of the One Thing”. God works “through us” to “in-form us”, to give us life as our consciousness that allows self-awareness. Who we become is based on what frequency of consciousness we exist as, and what we’re tuned to as a result, and what kind of consciousness we draw into ourselves as a thematic or archetypal match. When left unattended and virtually unaware, this is a completely natural and unconscious process where we become by default. However, through an understanding of what’s going on and how it works, this process can be worked with consciously and undergone in an aware and deliberate manner,. By actively choosing what kind of person we will become, and intentionally embodying the qualities necessary, expressing through them, “as” them, for a designated period of time, we “build them into our muscle” (subconscious mind), and they become a natural part of our being. In this way we tune ourselves to that vibration as a state of being. kundalini By becoming the vibration of a quality, we magnetize ourselves to it, and are able to tap into it, and draw in more energy and ideas of the same nature from the atmosphere around us. In terms of our invisible, spiritual mind aspect, it’s all about vibration as qualities of consciousness that produce natural perceptions and behaviors that engage us in activities that literally produce a different experience of life. When we become aware of what exists naturally as an unconscious process and through our awareness begin using our power of choice and free will to intentionally develop ourselves through a form of self-discipline, we can direct the course of our life by intentionally developing our character. Our will is our ability to take control of our body and use it for what it’s meant to be used for, an instrument for self-creation by employing certain qualities, behaviors, and states of mind until they become an integral part of who we are through natural, automatic, and habituated ways of being. Only what we “build into our being” and demonstrate through our natural behaviors is eternal in nature and is carried forth intact as our mental paradigm after the death and separation from the body. Dr. Linda Gadbois Integrative Health Consultant and Spiritual Mentor   Save Save Save

The Nature of Personal Power – “How to Become Empowered in your own Life while Empowering others in Theirs”

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The quest for personal power takes on many faces, and can present a real dilemma for many people, most of which induce an endless compromise as a negotiation between unconscious-feeling aspects of themselves, and conscious-aware aspects. Whether or not we “own” our power and employ it as part of our personality and normal ways of doing things is not based on our conditioning in the typical sense, but rather how we respond to the events and activities of our life that establish and develop our identity. Even our conditioning and how we’re trained to certain dynamics being acted out and what role in that dynamic we take on as a part of our natural personality, develops the story we begin living out of that gives us a sense of ourselves by way of that story. We begin taking on a position early in life of either defiance, or stubbornly standing our ground when others act to intimidate or exercise power over us, or we back down, submit, become meek and emotionally weak, and allow them to control us, and thereby determine us.

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Whatever role we take on in the dynamic we’re raised with develops us according to that role, and the story we begin developing in our minds as a way of understanding the way people are, and the way life is, also comes to define us in relation to it all. The story we begin telling ourselves as a way of making sense of it all, becomes the role we take on in general, and how we come to identify with our own story about things. We develop “interactive dynamics” out of our story about things where we are either in a position of self-control and initiation, or where we’re reacting to being controlled and manipulated by others through a reactive state.

 
When we feel powerless, there are typically a couple of ways we approach it, either succumbing to it and being a victim, helpless to change while suffering because of it, or we begin the quest of “getting” power by taking it from others. Some engage in a constant process of trying to exercise control over others or a situation by being manipulative, coercive or antagonistic. They’re always trying to figure out what they need to do to get others to do what they want them to do. They design their behavior strictly according to manipulative strategies that rely on a victim mentality that will give into them. In this dynamic, the person seeking power has to hook-up with the person whose willing to give up their power, and the victim who lacks power or looks to readily give theirs away, hooks up with the villain who gladly takes it. We always form relationships with our complementary opposite and continue acting out dynamics as a form of negotiation and soul-bartering.

 
You can always tell the difference between who has power and who doesn’t by their behaviors and what attitude they’re expressing and demonstrating. These same type of dynamics are being played out in all areas of our life, through various relationships, whether they be friendships, romantic, siblings, parent-child, social, or in the workplace. Whatever idea a person is imprinted with is integrated into their psychology and becomes a dynamic part of even their most basic behaviors. It becomes a natural part of who they are and how they’re being as a fundamental part of their personality and identity that they carry with them into all of their life-situations.

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All relationships involve an interaction of consciousness as energetic dynamics formed by complementary opposites, that act on each other, stimulating in each other the opposite expression of the same trait that they share in common, that together form the interactive roles necessary to act out a dynamic as a joint reality that reinforces and strengthens each persons role in that dynamic. In every relationship you have the attraction and interaction of opposites as active and passive, masculine and feminine, outer and inner, and dominant and recessive. When relationships first form, one person or element establishes dominance over the other, which sets into motion a larger dynamic that the relationship serves to act out. In a healthy relationship, the roles of dominance are shared and move back and forth depending on what they’re doing or dealing with, where each individual’s strengths and powers are utilized to serve the greater good of both as a unit or interactive whole. This “dynamic-duo” action utilizes the strength of both as a dance with life. Here power is shared and equally moves between them as a coordinated effort or psychological strategy. In unhealthy relationships that exist with a lack of balance, one person consistently dominates and intimidates the other into submission, even when they clearly lack knowledge and abilities in the area of life they’re dealing with. This is where one person wants to exercise exclusive control over the other through a form of dictatorship, that ultimately becomes abusive. In this type of situation, one is always in the process of trying to get power by taking it from the other, and a power struggle ensues. The other usually responds by retaliating and contesting, purposely deceiving them behind their back, or by becoming passive and weak while building resentment that turns into hatred.

 
In any situation or behavioral dynamic being acted out as a relationship, you can immediately establish who has power, who’s looking to get power by taking it, and who readily surrenders and gives up their power while succumbing to the will of another in order to be accepted, loved, or to be apart of things. A person who has power, and therefore doesn’t need to get it from others or establish it outwardly through station or status, is not only comfortable in themselves, but act to stimulate others through the demonstration of their own power, employing them in a sense through a form of shared power. When we outwardly demonstrate power, we inspire others to access their own power in relation to us. We don’t necessarily give our power to those who don’t have power of their own, but rather when we demonstrate power as confidence and clarity of mind and purpose, we give them an example of what power is, what it feels like, and how to recognize it in others and themselves. Just through the nature of our interaction we connect them with that same internal resource, activate it in response to us, and call it forth in them, while giving them an example as a possible means for expressing it by stepping into it and becoming it.

 
Because true personal power is the most valued human commodity, and so few people actually possess it, and even fewer people know how to openly and comfortably express it by demonstrating it, many have no role-model that gives them a clear idea of what power looks and feels like when you’re in the presence of it. This is largely because power is a self-contained quality that’s connected to and drawn on completely from an internal source and not sought outwardly through an interaction of some sort. When we’re in the “presence” of those who are powerful we form an immediate sense of admiration for them, that causes us to feel a certain way, where we naturally access those same qualities in ourselves by resonating with them and entering into a natural state of rapport with them. Because of this, we feel more powerful when we’re around them. By watching their behavior and attitude, we can model (imitate) it, and in doing so bring out in us the same feeling. We can acquire a behavior as a form of template or instruction for learning “how” to be in our power. We can then “practice” being in such a way that we connect to the inner resources of “being that way” becoming a channel for expressing that quality which reshapes our character according to it.

geneIn order to access and develop a quality, we have to have a behavior or means for “being it”, that through the practice, we become like it. If we don’t have a pathway or way of doing something, we often stop at the realization of not knowing what to do or how to do it. This is what many people experience as being “stuck” when they’re attempting to change and transform their ability to manifest new realities by expressing in new ways. When it’s demonstrated for us, it acts to stimulate those same feelings in us, while giving us a model to imitate. By embracing that feeling while employing the same type of behaviors, we become the same in mind and body, and cultivate the same feeling state as a way of being in ourselves.

 
Whatever “state-of-being” is around us, we feel it’s presence through resonance, which activates those same feelings and qualities in us, calling them forth in response to it. As we “observe” the outward behaviors that express and inward feeling, and we “enter into them” through a state of rapport as inspiration (admiration), we naturally take on the same type of behaviors, becoming the outward expression of the same feeling-quality, and in being “one with it”, become the same as it. We not only access the same feeling-state within us that’s comparable to the outer state stimulating it, but we become the vehicle for expressing that state, and cultivate ourselves by way of that state to “be” like it.

 
This is the phenomenon of the most basic laws that govern our mind-body system as resonance (like begets like), sympathetic induction (vibration enters into the same vibration in another and produces an effect), and coherence that reorganizes the similar patterns of both to form a new pattern as a new whole. Whatever quality as a state of mind being outwardly demonstrated, stimulates, awakens, and brings into active expression that same feeling-state in everything around it. As it activates it and calls it forth, it becomes the basis of their interaction, which is the interactive expression of that same shared quality in both people. As it’s expressed through the dynamic (behavioral pattern) being acted out as the means for expression, it’s developed and strengthened in both people, and develops our character and tendencies through the shared enactment. We become one with the quality itself as a power, and it acts on us to reshape us into a new form and gives us a new way of being as the channel for expressing that characteristic.

energySo the quest for power that’s always going on, even when we don’t realize it or recognize it as such, is always acting on us to shape us in response to it. We only grow by what we resist. By recognizing this, we move into a position of not being affected by it by reacting to it in an automatic fashion, and we realize in that moment of control that we can “choose” our response. Once we begin realizing what’s going on energetically, while actively choosing how or if we’re going to respond, we begin exercising the first stages of taking back possession of our power to self-create and become self-determined through masterful use of our will. We can begin taking an objective view of any situation, seeing the underlying dynamic going on, and interact with it accordingly, with full awareness of what we’re doing and why. In this way we can truly exercise our power over the emotions of others and the material world, not by beating it into submission, but by entering into it while still maintaining full awareness of what we’re doing, become one in mind and body with it, then introduce an influence that will naturally bring out different qualities in others, and in doing so, lead it in a whole new direction through a state of complete cooperation.

 
This ability to work with the energy and consciousness of a situation is the exercise of true power and psychological dominion over the material plane as the ultimate form of leadership, where people don’t even realize they’re being led, and where you act to naturally bring out the best in people that creates an activity that serves the greater good in the most beneficial way possible for everyone involved. In a business sense, the greater good is the vision and mission of the business, and in an intimate relationship, the greater whole is the best possible response that brings out the best in each other and develops it through a loving and intimate interaction.

 
When we are in full possession of our own mind and body and able to operate it with strategic intelligence, we simultaneously realize that our power over others comes as a direct result of our power over ourselves, and the most natural way we control others is by how we influence them through our own behaviors. Not by attempting to exercise power over them or by reducing them to an inferior status, but by becoming an example for them to follow. We lead them by inspiring them in such a way that it brings out the best in them through an elevated state of being, that we then enter into a concert with becoming an example for them to imitate. We first act to bring out the necessary qualities and traits in others by embodying them ourselves, then give them a pathway for expressing them through the example we set, that elevates their station, and develops them through higher character traits to be fully empowered in their own lives by using their will as it’s intended to self-create and become a productive part of a greater idea to which they resonate and aspire towards. This not only creates a state of cooperation and uninhibited participation, but a sense of enthusiasm and passion that forms a deep sense of complete and utter devotion to the greater whole of which they are now an active and important part. The best way we lead as a demonstration of our power is by eliciting “love” in others through the beauty of our expressive abilities to inspire and enlighten and calls them to rise to new heights as an equal response to us.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

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The Art of Becoming – “Developing Your Style”

There are two basic ways we “become”, either unconsciously by default as a product of our formative conditioning, or with awareness of who we want to be and by choice and free will. In order to “become” intentionally, we have to first realize what we have an affinity for, a pervading interest in, or a kind of curiosity around, then study it to find the qualities, characteristics and behaviors that will express that way of being. We have to create an ideal for ourselves that serves as a creative vision. A creative vision that has distinct qualities and characteristics as it’s fundamental nature or natural make-up. Then we embody those same qualities in ourselves, and practice being like that. We embody the same characteristics as ways of being and behaving as our ideal or chosen model. We create and reshape our persona by taking on qualities, employing certain postures, gestures, facial expressions, language patterns, etc.

In the adult world this is typically called modeling, in the education and spiritual realms it’s called mentoring, and when we were kids we called it pretending and make-believe. These are all basically describing the same process. This creative process best described as “pretending”, is the most natural way for consciously engaging in the act of self-creating by developing ourselves in a specific way based on who we want to be like, and what roles and type of characters we relate to and gravitate towards as a result. This tendency is what reveals our true inner nature, what we resonate with in terms of strongly relating to, what feelings we are attracted to, what we love and have a preference for, or what kind of person we most readily see ourselves as being that feels empowering.

We don’t develop ourselves through roles or abstract objective ideas. We develop ourselves through themes as attributes and qualities that when embodied and brought into expression by acting them out, give us a sense of ourselves that serves to develop our character. Our character as “how” we are, and what “kind” of person we are creates a predisposition that is ideal for certain roles and activities that provide the ideal means for further shaping our identity as conformity. As we create certain types of experiences, we sense ourselves in new ways which reshapes our identity by way of those experiences, and begin forming a consistent idea about ourselves that becomes our self-image or self-perception.

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Example: As a young artist growing up with no cultural background, I was told that I couldn’t copy pictures, other people’s work or even other people’s style. No body provided me with any tutoring. I felt a complete lack of direction and had to develop my abilities within very limiting means and figure things out for myself. Learning was a tedious process of trial and error.

As soon as I went to college for art, the first thing I was told to do, was to start collecting and categorizing as many pictures as I could for visual resources, find another artist who’s work I felt extremely inspired by and compelled towards, and then research that artist, study their work . . . . and when I painted to try and paint just like them. This was a complete contradiction to what I had been taught up to this point.

So I did everything I was instructed to, and what I found was that for the first time I had a model or mentor to practice “being like” and as I tried to paint just like him, my own style began immediately emerging. It wasn’t exactly like the artist I studied under, though it was similar. I was then told that the reason I was attracted to that artist and their style for painting was because it was the same type of style that was inherent within me. By practicing being like him, it developed and brought out those same qualities and abilities in me. This was the first time I truly understood the power of mentoring and practicing the very style, traits and abilities that I wanted to develop in my self.

Dr. Linda Gadbois
Artist, Spiritual Teacher and Mentor