Energetic Imprinting, Conditioning, and Dynamics – Liberating your Soul from the Unconscious Tendencies that Bind You

Our soul is comprised of essence as memory that comes from the relationship it forms with the body, which resides in a predominately unconscious state, and how they work together to create experiences of reality. The subconscious mind of the body also runs off of memory which it uses to form repetitive and habitual patterns that produce a consistent and congruent version of reality. What we call “reality” is produced as both an inner imagining and the outer complementary correspondence of what’s imagined internally. The subconscious is passive and receptive in nature, meaning it has no will or ability to discriminate and make decisions of its own based on reasoning, and simply takes in ideas from the active, willful mind as suggestions that it forms into thoughts as a sensory reality in the faculty of the imagination, which is where all reality as an outer projection is born and fabricated out of essence (astral light or photons).

The soul bonds to the body through the memory inherent in its DNA, which is of a similar and compatible nature, capable of providing the soul with the corresponding reality of its memories so it can continue fashioning itself by way of the experiences the reality provides. The memory, as the essence of the soul resonates with the ancestral memory of the body, and enters into it as an active force that animates and structures it, giving it life as the ideal home or material vehicle for the soul. All levels of consciousness exist on a hierarchical plane, where the lower is always subordinate (passive) to the higher one (active), and provides the form or shell for the higher force to inhabit, bringing it into an active state of expression and creation within the material realm. This hierarchy of consciousness exists as spherical fields nested within greater and smaller fields, all of which vibrate within the same frequency as a range of vibration and lend themselves to the creation of the same type of nature and level of reality.

This level of consciousness that acts to naturally produce and actively play a role in a common (shared) reality forms a whole or singular dimension that’s structured by a dynamic interweaving of an infinite number of vibrations, all with a common core of information that act as their building blocks. All reality in this sense exists within an even greater reality as a unified dimension, where unique formulas of common elements are shaped by the individual mind to form an original version as a variation or possibility. The archetypal world of pure consciousness exists as archetypes in their potential state as what we might call generic templates. Archetypes manifest by undergoing a process of adaptation and reformulation that modify and reshape them into a new form that’s still indigenous to the greater, shared reality in which they’re birthed, maintained, and used to express at the individual level of self-creation.

        As the soul resonates and bonds with the body, forming coherence as a harmonious vibration that creates in a spontaneous manner, it acts first to reform and establish the psychological patterns of its memory as a predisposition, temperament, general attitude, and tendencies that make up its personality, then those same patterns as dynamics are played out through its conditioning, because the memories of the parents are of the same nature and dynamics of the soul, as a form of “group memory” (soul groups). As these dynamics continue to play out and we have a role in them, we’re further trained and conditioned to those dynamics as behavioral patterns that have a theme as a story-line inherent in them.

In an attempt to make sense of the events of our life and the dynamics that we’re actively a part of creating, we begin telling ourselves a story about them. This story makes them mean something, and it’s the meaning as a story-line that we become imprinted with as a dominate and habitual tendency. This means we readily perceive it and participate in it in an unconscious manner without any direct awareness or realization of what we’re doing and why. We don’t realize that all of our experiences are subjective in nature, meaning we’re the ones that are creating them by how we interpret events of our life to give them meaning, and so we imagine that life is happening “to us” in an objective manner and we have no control or say so about it. Yet, though we can’t control the events of our life (necessarily), we absolutely have full control over how we choose to experience them.

What we call reality comes as a cohesive series of events that take place outside of and around us, and how we “experience” those events, while they may seem like two separate ideas, are in fact correlated correspondences of each other. The outer, objective, abstract, and neutral reality that’s common to all of us as a form of shared or mass consciousness provides the stage and the means for organizing it in such a way that we experience it in a consistent manner through the story we’re always in the process of telling ourselves about it. This story as an interpretation makes it into a personalized version of reality as our own creation that we’re then subject to (it determines us).

        We reshape our outer reality based on personal feelings, tastes, and beliefs. We view it through the paradigm of our mind (soul memory) and we reformulate it through our emotional state to match it. We reshape it to be of the same nature as we are where it lends itself in a complementary manner to naturally tell our story about it. As we create our experiences of things, we simultaneously get a sense of ourselves through those experiences, identifying with our own creation, and shaping ourselves through the memory it provides that becomes a part of both the subconscious mind of the body and our soul’s essence. We’re constantly forming and in-forming ourselves through the experience of our own creation, by taking what exists as a “universal idea” and using it as a thematic template for creating a “personal version”.

Our formative conditioned patterns are established through the “theme” as a life dynamic that’s being played out all around us that we play a role in and are an inherent part of. While we play a certain role in a greater dynamic as a child, we are in fact “imprinted” (unconsciously programmed) with the “whole dynamic” and every role that’s required in order to act it out. Whatever role we’re not actively playing in the dynamic is being demonstrated for us by others, and we actively engage in it through our relationship with the greater whole and our constant interaction and participation in it. These dynamics are created in several areas of our life at the same time, based on the same general theme being played out in different ways through different types of relationships. How we’re treated as a child in a situation, is of the “same nature” (behavioral dynamic) as how our parents treated each other, our siblings, relatives, and all other relationships they maintained and participated in, where only the roles they actively played changed.

The relationship between our parents (or guardians) that’s being openly demonstrated and modeled for us in the normal sense, becomes the same “relationship dynamic” we play out in some form or another in our adult romantic relationships. As a general rule, we typically become one of our parents and marry the other one. Whichever parent we identify with most and align with in terms of playing the same role, we play most often, yet we unconsciously play all roles in the dynamic as a general theme. For example, if one parent is always criticizing the other one, putting them down and sarcastically belittling them somehow, and the one being criticized responds with a particular behavior (lashing out, retaliating, equally belittling, being hurt, crying, outraged, angry, or running away, etc.), that same parent will have a tendency to treat the children the same way as a general rule, and they’ll respond in a like manner to how the other parent responded (according to what’s being modeled for them to imitate). Whatever we witness going on around us is being modeled for us, and as children we tend to learn by imitating whatever’s being demonstrated for us as a relationship and means of “appropriately” responding. The same “pattern” as an overall theme is being played out in a variety of ways with every relationship within the family, based on the theme both parents share in common and the behavioral dynamic that naturally issues forth from it.

        If we’re used to being criticized as children, we’re attracted to (naturally respond) and seek out relationships of various kinds where that same dynamic is shared and can be played out faithfully in a natural and automatic fashion. We initiate and provoke the pattern, regardless of what role we play just through the nature of our interaction. For this reason, because it’s unconscious, we often have no idea we’re doing it, and so we imagine we’re innocent and once again it’s being done to us, instead of realizing that we’re the perpetrator. If we’re used to being criticized, we have a tendency to also criticize others (though we may view it different), and naturally produce the behavior that warrants criticism. We can do this intentionally through a reaction to being criticized ourselves, or as a way of retaliating and getting even by switching roles. Even when we respond by turning inward, crying and becoming meek, we’re lashing out in our thoughts and criticizing or despising them to the same degree or more that we feel criticized. Yet often, when we’re doing the criticizing, we don’t see it that way, but rather as just giving them back their own medicine or giving them “constructive feedback”. We feel justified to respond in a like manner, usually without gaining any recognition whatsoever of the overall pattern that’s being played out at the unconscious level.

When something exists in us at the unconscious level, which all of our automatic, habitual behaviors do, they serve to form the very basis of our perception, our emotional states, and what memories we use to interpret things to give them meaning through the story we tell ourselves about it that describes, explains, or justifies it, forming how we experience it. Because they’re a normal and cohesive part of our perception and way of experiencing reality, we believe they’re real in the objective sense and we have no ability to change them, because we don’t realize that we’re actively participating in creating them. We don’t know how to see something different because we’ve perceived things that way our whole life and it comes natural to us. The experience is spontaneous and comes in a natural and automatic fashion without any awareness of choice or will being involved.

So the first challenge is to be able to become aware of our own tendencies by recognizing the behavioral dynamics as a theme that we’re playing a natural part in that’s of the same dynamic that we grew up with. This can often come with us realizing we’re having a tendency to say the same thing and act in the same manner as our parents did. By developing our ability to self-reflect and focus on our own feelings and motivation, instead of always focusing on the other person, while recognizing what memories are being triggered through association that are of the same nature, we can begin realizing what exists in us as a tendency that we’re either unaware of, or only partially aware of. We have a natural tendency to always focus on the “other person” by thinking almost exclusively about how they’re being and what they’re doing “to us”, then our whole approach becomes how to “change them” so they’ll stop doing it. Yet even if they were to stop doing it, we would act out in an unconscious fashion to provoke it in them as a way of keeping the pattern going because we don’t know how to play a part in another type of relationship.

       This is because we’re not only conditioned with one role or position in a pattern or idea, but with the “whole pattern” and behavioral dynamic of which we can play every role, whether through an aware state or an unaware one, because every role in that dynamic was constantly being modeled for us, and we were either the one doing it or watching it be done. Whatever role we identified most strongly with we continue playing out with awareness, and whichever one we didn’t, we continue playing out unconsciously. Because we build our identity out of the experiences this dynamic provides, we not only keep it going in an automatic fashion, but when we get into situations where it’s not being cooperatively played out, we don’t know how to act or what to do, and so we unconsciously initiate it and provoke the proper reaction in others that sets it into motion. Once it’s set into motion and begins playing out, we’re in our element, and we have an automatic “script” where we know exactly how to be, what to say, and what to do.

When we live our life out of perceptions of our conditioning, we live from a primarily unconscious state that simply acts to repeat patterns as themes (karma) in every area of our life, over and over. This habitual state of mind forms the “life dynamic” that produces the experiences that become our soul’s memory as our essence, character, and constitution. Our soul is developed through accumulated memory attained through the body and how it identifies with it. The more of a certain type of memory we accumulate, the stronger and more stable the pattern becomes, trapping the soul at an unconscious level where it often fails to realize it has the ability to become consciously aware of unconscious tendencies, and through that awareness, dissolve the pattern, freeing itself to create in new ways by making new decisions that produce brand new experiences.

       The soul not only possesses the higher capacity of consciousness necessary for self-creating, but it also exists in polarity to higher planes of consciousness, where it acts as a medium between the upper and lower regions, and serves as the passive aspect of the active higher will, which is capable of impregnating it just as it’s capable of impregnating the imagination of the subconscious mind with an idea that it turns into a material reality. Habitual patterns only continue to play out when we’re unaware of them. By utilizing the witnessing capacity of the soul to realize the unconscious patterns being played out, they no longer take place in an automatic fashion, because our very perception changes through the awareness, and if we begin engaging in the same tendencies, we catch ourselves and realize what we’re doing and why. We can learn how to realize our own part in things by dissociating from our experiences (not “in them” having them from an internal perspective) and viewing them instead from a detached and objective state. When we view our life from a second or third person perspective, we view the events from a distance (as another person would) and see ourselves not as the main character in our movie, but simply as one character in a greater story, and we can see ourselves in a different light as simply playing a role in acting out a common story.

Once we become aware and fully conscious in our life, no longer reactive and bound to habitual mindsets, we’re free of them and have the ability to make conscious decisions instead. Through our ability to choose who and how we’re going to be, what qualities we’re going to take on and express through, we begin creating ourselves in a more novel and unique manner. In this way we break free of the karma as unconscious states that dominate and bind us to a mindless process of creation, and we become fully empowered in our own life. The minute we decide to stop doing one thing as a natural response and role, we have to decide how we’re going to be and what we’re going to do instead. All habits are dissolved and transformed through awareness, choice, and replacing them with new patterns that create in a more intentional manner through a fully awake state.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Integrative Health and Wellness Consultant and Spiritual Mentor

How we Stay Stuck in Patterns, and How to Transform them

One of the most valuable things we can learn psychologically is to really tune into the nature of patterns. All of life operates by way of a dynamic interconnected system of patterns. Patterns are not only formed out of memory as habits or routines, but also out of how we think and reason as creative processes that form our fundamental perception of things, and as the filtering system produced by our mental paradigm which is a dynamic model comprised of correlated, congruent patterns that are constantly being developed and evolved based on our experiences and what we integrate to produce our memories. As we go through life, we’re steadily forming our mental paradigm through our conditioning and what type of dynamics we’re a part of and play a role in, that shape the way we think and perceive, while simultaneously developing and “bringing out” our own style of perceiving through the type of story we begin telling ourselves as a way of making sense of things and making them mean something.

The most basic pattern we form that births and gives rise to all other patterns, is the “life theme” we develop as “our story” about things. This story emerges naturally through our conditioning out of a series of beliefs we form due to our experiences, what we start telling ourselves about them as an interpretation and thought process, and based on what we’re taught and accept as being true and real. All stories emerge naturally out of meaning, which, as children, comes from feelings. As our mind begins developing, and we begin actively creating how we experience things based on how we begin using our mind to reason, we begin constantly asking ourselves in any situation that has significant emotional impact . . . what does this mean?

Meaning, which forms the basis for reality, like the mind and soul producing it, is three-fold in nature, and creates on three levels simultaneously. The meaning we give something that forms the basis of our story as our way experiencing, means something about others, the way the world is in general, and about us in relation to it. All of our “experiences”, which are self-created, don’t come from the actual events of our life, but from how we interpret those events. Interpretation forms perception, and perception “is” reality. Our reality as our experience of the outer world is formed 100% from our perception, which is a by-product or natural expression of our paradigm as our “model of the world”. A model is comprised of an infinite series of memory that are all of a complementary nature and work together faithfully to produce a congruent and consistent version of reality. The structure of our mind as a paradigm is what we can call the core or fundamental pattern that orchestrates and acts as a choreographer for systematically producing all of our perceptions and experiences. It’s what we could think of as our “parental pattern” that produces a series of smaller fractal patterns of the same nature and theme as its offspring. We never have independent or singular patterns, beliefs, or areas of our life, but rather a holistic and unified “system” of patterns, memories, and beliefs. If we try to work with a specific pattern or area of our life that we don’t like and want to change, without ever identifying the “core belief”, conditioned tendency, or habit of perceiving and thinking that’s naturally producing it, we fail to be able to change it, and even when we seem to have changed it in terms of outward appearance, it collapses back into the same pattern and tendency we thought we had changed. This is because it can’t be sustained as independent from the system that’s producing it as a natural and automatic way of thinking and perceiving.

We can however use specific areas of our life and relationships as the means for identifying and becoming aware of our core beliefs and fears, where our feelings counteract our intellect and rational thinking, or where we’re aware that we’re not producing what we want to through various forms of sabotage and deep seated tendencies that are purely emotional in nature and act to magnetically pull us back into habitual patterns. Once we realize that we’re playing out the same fundamental pattern in a variety of ways in every area of our life, we can pick one to work on consciously as a way of influencing and affecting the primary, parental pattern. In doing this, and implementing the proper type of change, one that acts to modify and upgrade the entire system, we not only bring change into that one area of our life, but in the same manner in all areas of our life. It’s only by modifying our mental paradigm as our primary pattern and model, that we ‘break patterns” in selected areas, while replacing them with new patterns that are more beneficial and produce the outcome and type of experience we desire. We’re never “stopping one pattern” or quitting something, but rather changing an old pattern into a new one, or replacing something with something else. This means that it’s not enough to decide what you don’t like or want to change, but also what you “do want instead”, and what new behaviors or idea you’re going to employ in their place. When we decide to change our self and life in some way, we’re moving out of a form of unconscious and natural way of producing habitual experiences and into a role of actively creating with full awareness of what we’re doing and why. This means it requires a strong desire, steady focus, and constant effort (at first). All intentional change only comes through active use of our will and our ability to choose new options and ways of being.

In the most general sense of the word, being always produces doing. All action results from our inward sense of our self. To produce an outward change, we have to work by changing the inward state of being that’s acting through a fundamental form of self-expression to systematically produce it in a habitual fashion. We don’t change the world or other people by trying to work “on them” directly, but by changing ourselves inwardly, which automatically produces how we exist in relationship to the outer world, how we perceive others (in our own image), and how we act naturally to influence them in new ways that change how they respond to us. It’s only by changing ourselves that others and the world in general appears different to us. As long as we remain the same internally, everything remains the same externally. The entire world operates according to the Law of Cause and Effect. All action produces and equal reaction of the same nature and type. To change how someone else is acting, we have to change how we’re acting to stimulate them, and how we sense and perceive ourselves in relationship with them. As long as we’re employing the same attitude, way of looking at something and behaviors, we consistently produce the same thing over and over.

Learning how to Change Your Story

The first thing we have to do when deciding we have to change somehow, is learn how to actively “give up” our story about stuff and form instead a desire to tell a new kind of story that changes how we experience the events of our life and causes us to feel different and “become” a different type of person as a result. Most don’t want to give up their story about things, but instead want to be validated in it, and have everyone and everything else change through a form of agreeing and acting to counteract or go against instead what they’re actually the one creating. Someone who never feels “wanted”, for example, wants to keep telling that story and feeling that way, while having someone demonstrate or prove to them that they “want them”, yet their perceptual filters will always act to interpret any behavior to mean they’re not wanted. Usually of course without realizing that that’s what they’re doing, because we often don’t fully realize that we create our story perfectly through our feelings and perceptions, and only see and “experience” what matches them, and what can be skewed or recomposed in a way that lends itself to telling our story. The “feeling” that at once produces our story, creating an experience that gives us more of that same feeling, being the key component.

Our story is difficult to change because we’ve built our identity out of it as how we perceive and sense ourselves, and as a result don’t know how to tell a different type of story. When we try, we can often feel awkward, unfamiliar and uncertain, in new territory without a means to navigate, and don’t know how to “be” or what to do. All behavior is learned, and with learning comes the unknown. We have to practice something before we get good at it and it starts becoming natural. Change at first feels like we’re not being ourselves, or we’re someone phony or inauthentic (to use a buzz word), and this feeling and thought is what often sabotages our attempts at change and causes us to revert back to old and familiar ways of being that are more comfortable.

We don’t have to work through all of our “issues” and complexes through years of therapy and self-reflection on the events of our life, what happened to us, and why we’re the way we are, which usually only validates and strengthens them, but by learning instead how to use our creative power of choice and free will. We can produce any change we want by making the “clear and actual decision” to change, then disciplining ourselves to consistently produce and act out that decision until it becomes natural and automatic. Ways of feeling, thinking, perceiving, and acting are merely habits we’ve established as the means of producing the experience of ourselves and our life. Like all habits, they can be changed by simply replacing them with new habits. You have to want the change bad enough to do what it takes to produce and then maintain it, by deciding in a fully aware manner who and how you’re going to be and what type of story you’re going to tell by how you live your life.

Changing our story doesn’t mean we form an illusion over what we imagine to be fact, or deny the events of our life that formed our memories, but rather by learning the art of transforming them by interpreting them and telling our story about them from a new and different perspective that changes the experience of them. For example, when I was a kid, one of the stories I kept telling myself was that nobody really knew me for who I am, but rather by judging me to be like my family. I had a fairly traumatic childhood, and was a compulsive runaway, living much of my life on the streets, and was used to those who tried to help me looking at me and saying things like “you poor thing”, which was just about the most god-awful feeling I ever had because it made me out to be weak and pitiful, when my life circumstances actually served to make me very strong and capable. When I became an adult, and moved to a different city where nobody knew my past or family, a voice inside me one day casually said, “ok, now you’re in a situation where nobody knows to judge you based on your family and past . . . so who are you going to be?” And at that moment, the entire course of my life changed, and I was truly in a position of creating myself, which I found exciting.

I started off by vowing to never talk about my past or how I grew up with any new people, living fully in the present and giving them only an impression of what I was like at that time. I did this for years, and it became a natural way of living for me, and I quit thinking about my past altogether in the normal daily sense. I learned how to stay present and to realize in every moment I was deciding who I was going to be by how I acted and what I talked about. Later, when I was in another new environment, I decided to talk about my past as my childhood experiences while only picking the ones I could tell from a humorous and adventurous perspective. I made what was actually drastic and traumatic at the time, seem funny and exciting. I decided to tell stories of running away and hoping freight trains to unknown destinations from a perspective of “Tom Sawyer and Huckleberry Finn”, as an exciting adventure met with constant surprises and quirky opportunities. I learned how to pick different memories to tell stories around rather than the ones I had previously focused on. I became so good at this, that my staff found them very entertaining, and on slow afternoons would ask me to tell them more stories about growing up.

The point to this is that the “way” I told the stories made me feel entirely different and turned me into a different type of person. Because I imagined them vividly from a different perspective, and played them out repeatedly from that perspective, it literally changed my memories by evolving and transforming them. From that point on, every time I thought about those events, I remembered them from a new perspective, and after a while I not only couldn’t remember how I experienced them originally as a little girl, but got to where I no longer felt like that little girl. She became more like somebody I knew really well and loved very much. She was no longer an essential part of me, and wasn’t the one who created the story I was still living out of as an adult. I began realizing that what tends to become our story as our “life theme” that we continue creating out of as adults, originates from a child’s perspective who is simply trying to make sense of things as best they can with the limited resources they have. As an adult I was much more equipped to tell a far more accurate story of my life based on an adult, mature perspective and mindset.

One of the first things you want to notice when forming a new story about yourself and your life, is that you have many memories of your past, but you consistently pick a small handful, usually the ones with the greatest emotional impact, to use consistently to “tell your story” about what happened to you and what your life was like. You could just as easily let go of those and pick a whole new set that you use to tell stories out of (to yourself and others) that would completely change the way you feel and who you become. You can also take the same major events of your life, realize how you interpreted them at the time you were going through them to create how you experienced them, and decide from a perspective of hindsight and what they served to teach you through the realizations you obtained because of them, and (re)perceive them from a new, more mature perspective, and retell your story about them in a way that makes you feel different, and become different by way of them as a result. As you form a new perspective, you imagine it as a reality that created a different type of experience, the type you want as the means of developing yourself in that way. As you create a new experience of it, and you get it just the way you like it, you play it over and over in your mind from within the experience of it. By playing it repeatedly, in vivid sensory terms of being in the experience of it, you establish it as a new memory and pattern that forms the basis for telling a new type of story. Instead of being scared or freaked out, you can be courageous, brave, confident, or surprised and filled with anticipation as a form of excitement. Instead of hurt and feeling betrayed, you can see it clearly, read all the signs of what was going on, and realize that as it happened it had nothing to do with you, and so you remain unaffected by it.

Because we’re the ones that are always creating our experiences of the events of our life, we form our memories also. Our memories become the established patterns as fully interpreted realities that provide us with instant patterns in the present to create more of the same type of experiences through similar events. As we create our experiences that become our memories, we simultaneously create ourselves by way of those experiences. All of our perception and resulting behaviors are produced in a natural and automatic way from memory. Our memories are shaped by the primary patterns of our life as our “theme” or “life’s story” that we’re always acting out and creating in some manner in every area of our life. To change a pattern as a memory, is to either transform an existing memory into a new experience, or create a new memory that you’ll use in place of the old memory that provides a pattern for the subconscious mind to act out naturally and use to produce more realities and experiences of the same nature.

To create a new (virtual) memory, start by selecting a scenario or behavior in your current life that you’d like to change. Form a very clear idea of what you’d like to change it to. How would you like to experience it or behave instead? As you go over the course of events, reflecting on how it went, what your interaction was, how you felt, and what you did, form a clear idea on how you would have liked it to have gone instead, and how you would respond or interact through hindsight. Reform it in your mind accordingly, until it plays out the way you want it to. If changing a behavior and not the overall pattern as a dynamic, leave everything the same (the emotion, meaning, trigger, etc.), and simply “choose” how you would have liked to have behaved, and play that out instead as a new response to the same stimulus. Once you have it the way you want as a general flow, replay it in your mind until it’s consistent. Once it’s consistent as a pattern that can be replayed in the imagination, begin enhancing it with sensory attributes and qualities. Make it vivid, in full color, and up close (immediate). Then shape it further by asking:

  • What are you seeing (picture in detail)
  • What are you hearing?
  • What are you touching or feeling? (objects or textures)
  • Smelling and tasting?
  • How are you feeling? (internally)
  • What are you telling yourself about it (internal dialogue)?
  • Feel it as an emotional experience – as if it’s actually happening.

Play it over several times as an actual experience that’s just the way you want it, until you can recall it automatically. What references a memory in the present is whatever feeling and emotion is connected to it. In order to use it to replace another memory, associate the same feeling and emotions to it. So that anytime you’re in a situation feeling that way, it triggers that memory and you see it as a pattern for creating the same type of experience and reality in the present one.

If you’re creating a brand new type of experience that you want to create, focus heavily on the feeling it gives you, and realize that brand new experiences may not come in the same way you imagine as a specific situation or set of circumstances, but it’ll produce the same type of feeling. You won’t be able to recognize it by what it looks like, but rather by how you feel when in it, having it. The appearance it takes on will be based on what’s available in your immediate, everyday environment that’s of the same nature and will naturally lend itself to co-creating the same type of experience. The reality it comes by way of will however be of the same theme, dynamic, and over-all pattern.

The other thing you have to keep in mind is that you can’t inflict your will on others. If you’re not of the same will, nature, and destiny, the reality you produce that includes them will never manifest. You can’t require specific people to be a part of your memory/reality, and it can’t be an attempt to change someone else, it can only require you to change by directing your own perception and behavior. If other people are involved, they have to be archetypes only, or a representation of a “type of person” who would act naturally to create that type of experience. So “who” actually participates in co-creating the experience, and the set of circumstances it takes place in, might be quite different than you imagined, yet it’ll be the same “type” of experience.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Integrative Mind-Body Health Consultant and Spiritual Mentor

Mastering your Will to Create and Transform

Many people don’t fully understand what we mean when we use the term “will”, and as a result they don’t know how to use it in a deliberate and powerful way to create. Will is always associated to choice, because anytime we’re actually using our will , it’s to move out of conditioning and automatic, habitual tendencies that we do naturally, and create in a new and more individual way instead. When we’re trained to belief systems and certain mind-sets as “group consciousness” of some form, we’re actually lending our will to others and allowing them to shape and determine us as a result. Our will isn’t our ability to “resist” things or not give in to passions, pleasure, desires, or cravings of some kind through an act of sheer strength and willpower, but rather our ability to decide on what we want to be and do, and use our imagination to form the correct “internal representation” (IR) of ideas that either make them repulsive and disgusting, or desirable and attractive.

While we tend to think that things have power over us in the same sense that they’re dictating our experience and how we respond as a result, the fact is that we shape the outer world into an internal representation (IR) that we then use in place of the actual thing or activity as a way of experiencing it. As we think about something we’re associating other ideas with it, and using our “sensory system” to embellish it with sensory qualities that invoke emotional states. An idea that’s turned into an internal reality that serves to elicit strong emotions in response to it are how we’re using our will all the time to direct our own behavior and what we participate in by desiring and becoming one with it; as well as what we don’t because we find it unappealing for some reason. If we’ve made a decision to stop doing something, and we constantly struggle to resist it and create an experience of suffering because we’re abstaining from it, it’s because we haven’t learned how to use our higher mind to direct ourselves, and we’re using it incorrectly as a result.

The body, which is what we also refer to as the subconscious mind, because it inhabits and operates it, is operated by memory, and forms all of our natural behaviors as repetitive patterns and daily rituals and tendencies. The subconscious “thinks” in pictures and is experiential in nature. This means we communicate with it and act to program it with a form of virtual memory by imagining ideas as an experience of them. Its primary motive is “self-preservation”, so all of its impulses as feeling emotional states are geared towards maintaining the status quo and habits engaged in on a routine basis. It’s primarily instinctual in nature and motivated by pleasure or pain. It moves deeper into and seeks out whatever it deems pleasurable, and moves away from or avoids whatever it deems painful. It forms, firmly establishes and faithfully maintains habits and addictions, and is nearly always craving and wanting something. All of its needs are physical and material in nature and it works and is driven by emotions, making it impulsive and urge oriented. When it doesn’t get what it “needs and desires” it causes pain and suffering through emotions and physical withdrawals, which is experienced as a form of death (no longer able to sustain itself through that activity).

The subconscious mind is the creative aspect of the mind that’s capable of shaping and producing material realities, both inwardly and outwardly. It does this by turning a feeling or idea into a reality in the faculty of the imagination. Being memory oriented, it acts to create our memories from actual experiences, replaying them as a means of continuing to create by way of them, and as the means of being fed an idea as a form of “seeded thought” that it then fashions into a reality as a form of virtual memory. The imagined idea as an original creation is formed and appears in the imagination in exactly the same way as an actual memory does. This virtual memory as an internal representation of an idea operates in exactly the same way as an actual memory creating a kind of blueprint or template as an internal experience that forms the basis for the correlating external experiences of the same kind.

This “virtual memory” is an image, scenario, or movie-like idea that’s translucent (like a reflection on glass) in nature (can be seen fully while looking at something else), and becomes our perceptual lens as a filtering mechanism that reorganizes the elements of our outer reality to match the theme and emotions of the inner one. The IR becomes a kind of template or map for structuring and navigating the outer experience. Because of this tendency to “perceive out of memory and IR’s”, we never directly see or experience things as they actually are (a part from us), but rather as we “remake them” through our perception of them. This perception based on or produced by an IR or memory, works through the same principles as value judgments and either makes something appear desirable, likeable, and pleasurable, or undesirable, despicable and unappealing, or disgusting somehow.

When we decide and say we’re no longer going to do something, but we continue to form it in our mind as pleasurable and desirable, we struggle to resist it and continue to want it. We make giving it up a painful experience and the longing for it never goes away, so we’re always “tempted” by it. If instead, realizing how the mind works, we change the IR we’re forming into something that’s disgusting, repulsive, and painful, then we have no trouble resisting it, and thoughts of it eventually go away altogether. When we no longer think about it, it’s no longer a part of us and it exercises no control over us. This is the accurate use of the will – to make a decision to take control of what’s normally and unconscious process, and inject instead the idea we want to create in its place – then change the IR of what we’re stopping or looking to transform, while embellishing and enhancing the IR of the new idea we’re replacing it with.

Internal Representations, like reality itself are formed through sensory attributes, qualities, and characteristics that either makes it up-close, in vivid color and compelling, or far-away, black and white and neutral. If we make something up-close, immediate, full Technicolor, and create it as a full sensory experience of what you’re seeing, hearing, feeling, touching, smelling or tasting, and what you’re telling yourself about the experience that gives it meaning, and you create it with very positive emotions that make it pleasurable and beautiful, you create a strong desire for it. This gives your subconscious a very compelling “memory” that it steadily move towards and into, while seeking it out and connecting with that same idea in your immediate outer environment. If you then neutralize the current idea that you want to eliminate by turning it to black and white, pushing it out far into the distance so it seems far away, and assign negative sensory qualities and emotions to it, the subconscious, being given a more desirable alternative forgets about it, moves away from or avoids the old, eventually disconnecting from it all together outwardly, and moves instead into the fulfillment of the new and pleasurable idea.

The will is the active component of the conscious mind that can make new decisions that are not a part of its formative conditioning and habitual in nature, and can rule out one idea while replacing it with another. It impregnates the subconscious imagination with the seed as a unique idea that is then grown and formed into maturity in the imagination and manifests as an experience that bridges the inner with the outer, both of which are the creation of the subconscious mind as its offspring. The subconscious mind, when not being fed by its own personal will as an intentional idea for creating, absorbs instead the will of others as mental and emotional impressions or suggestions going on around it that it uses to generate thoughts in the imagination, and not only creates the individual (mind and body) according to those thoughts, but also creates the outer experience of those thoughts as its reality.

Anytime we passively take in an idea from outside of us (thoughts of another), and we form them into IR’s as a virtual reality, and make them our own by continuing to think about them, we’re choosing (unconsciously) to manifest and give life to the will of others through us. We’re literally lending our will to them, allowing them to determine us and the reality we experience as the perceptual lens we look through. The conscious, willful mind, is what’s traditionally called the “gate-keeper”, and is the aspect of the self that decides what’s allowed into the subconscious and what’s not. It analyzes, intuits, and evaluates the information to decide whether it’s true or not, valuable in some way, or would be beneficial as a means of upgrading the mental paradigm by incorporating it. It’s the “editor” that filters information through reasoning. It’s the part of our selves that’s always actively choosing even when we’re unaware (no choice is a choice) and decides what stays and what goes. It’s the aspect of the mind that has the ability to intentionally self-create through the active transformation of old ideas into new ones.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Integrative Mind-Body Health Consultant and Spiritual Mentor

Spiritual DNA – Our Souls Signature for Creating Reality

Physical DNA, which operates not only according to the same laws that govern all of life on the physical plane, but also to the laws of the spiritual or energetic realm of the mind. Not the mind as a product of brain function, as many people believe, but the mind as the subtle electromagnetic field of the body, also referred to as the soul. Just as physical DNA as a combination of information is used to generate the body, giving it very distinct genetic characteristics and behavioral tendencies, which are further developed through family dynamics of people who share the same DNA, the soul is comprised of energetic information as memory. The fully integrated memory of the soul maintains its basic structure as a paradigm formulated out of accumulated memory.  Experiences as  memory accumulated from multiple lifetimes gives the soul its basic disposition, temperament, and tendencies, which are continuously evolved through the experiences it acts to co-create and attain by how it enters into relationship with the body as corresponding (of the same frequency or nature) memory, which evolves it through the new attributes and emphasis it produces.

This soul memory, unlike genetic or hereditary memory of the race and culture (bloodline), doesn’t give us specific physical characteristics, though it does maintain energetic tension within the body which alters the physical appearance and potential for illness and disease manifested through energetic tension as a form of “programming”, but it’s the memory that forms our personal signature and the stories we tell by how we live our life and form our personality and identity. In terms of “soul expression”, biography forms our biology. The souls vibration or internal nature can be recognized through the story we naturally start telling from a very young age. Our personality is fully developed as the combination (all of life comes from combinations) of hereditary and individual (soul) memory. A new variation is formed out of the series of relationships that take place and as we begin forming our identity with our body and life conditions through adulthood, we steadily evolve our soul through continuous adaptations that alters and modifies our mental paradigm.

This soul memory as a mental paradigm that regenerates itself within a new body is what we commonly refer to as karma. Not in the sense of good or bad, or as independent behaviors as many think, but rather as patterns that produce much larger overall effects in terms of the perceptual filter it forms that determine how we interpret the events of our life to give them meaning. The meaning we give things forms a “theme” out of which our “life story” begins naturally formulating through our formative conditioning, which we begin cultivating early in life by how we naturally react to what happens to us, and what qualities the events of our life and the behavior of others activate within us that become the basis for our experiences in the present. These overall life patterns that we’re imprinted with at the soul level, recreate the same themes as a story that we begin telling ourselves about things that forms our reality, how we create our experiences, and how we behave (create outwardly) as a result.

Our spiritual DNA as soul memory produces the same perceptions and tendencies, the same “type” of thoughts and emotions, which naturally lend themselves to begin telling the same type of story about things as a means of making sense out of it. How we interpret things to give them meaning is how we begin developing ourselves through our own soul expression. As we begin expressing the same tendencies, we develop our personal reality out of the same mind-set or paradigm. This mental paradigm is what we carry forward into each succeeding life as an accumulative effect based on how it was evolved through each life experience. We start each life with the summation of all previous lives that form the basis of our mental paradigm, which sets up and initiates the same overall patterns as a “life theme” that determines what body (DNA) we resonate with and the natural circumstances our conditioning provides us with, that we then experience as “happening to us”, while at the same time possessing the mental filters and producing the behaviors that cause it. A life theme is usually something like not being loved, not wanted, not good enough, betrayal, abandonment, rejection, and so on. We then act out these themes at various levels throughout our life through numerous relationships. We attract to and pick the people who are of the same nature as we are and who will participate in acting out the same reality, giving us more of the experience we’re programmed with, and whose behavior can be readily interpreted to “mean” it. Then, through our interaction we simultaneously produce the behaviors that will cause it.

Example: if abandonment is our theme, then issues around abandonment are constantly being stimulated in us, both consciously and unconsciously. As they’re stimulate and brought forth in us we form behaviors around them, both as actual dynamics and behaviors designed to compensate or protect us from it, as well as the ones that initiate it. We readily engage only with those who have the same theme as a dynamic, and will act to not only abandon us, but respond appropriately to being abandoned by us. Then anything, any form of behavior or gesture that can be interpreted to mean we’re being abandoned, is how we experience it, while simultaneously abandoning them in the same way we imagine we’ve been abandoned as a retaliation or defensive mechanism (cause and effect). We play all roles in our theme simultaneously as the attitude and behaviors that result in us being abandoned, and respond in kind by abandoning them. Like always begets more of what’s like it. We don’t recognize our own tendencies when we do it to others because we tell ourselves a different story about what we’re doing and why that makes it seem different, or we do it unconsciously as a behavioral tendency that we do without direct awareness, that others perceive as us abandoning or not wanting them, and they respond in turn by abandoning us.

We continue living out of this same theme as a set of dynamic behaviors, some of which we’re aware of and others we’re not aware of, through all of the relationships in our life (parents and family, dating or marriage, work, friends, etc.) usually without ever realizing that we’re the ones producing it by the memory as a “thematic pattern” that we’re programmed with. We then, after creating many experiences of being abandoned and abandoning others (before they abandon us), begin identifying with our own self-perpetuated experiences, and our entire behavior as a style or way of being, is always acting out “abandonment” at all different levels of our life. We form our identity through the stories we tell about ourselves and others, and become thoroughly conditioned by that story, and therefore honestly don’t know how to tell a different story. When we try, we feel awkward, clueless, don’t know who we are or “how” to be, feel like we’re not being ourselves, phony, inauthentic, and so on, because everything about us and who we’ve created ourselves to be is based on telling that story. In this way, we can live our whole life out of the same karma as inherent memory, or several lifetimes for that matter, usually without ever realizing that that’s what we’re doing.

So our soul’s memory as our vibratory frequency forms the dynamic model of our mind as our mental programming. Our memories become the basis for our mental filters, which produce the perceptual patterns of our mind as an interpretation that determine “who” and “how” we become. Our mental paradigm forms our soul’s signature by how we express ourselves through feelings, thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Our soul’s signature is the story we’re always in the process of telling by living it, and the people and situations we attract and enter into relationship with that are programmed with the same dynamics and will participate in co-creating the same type of story with us. Those who are programmed with a different type of story than we are, we can’t relate to, don’t feel compelled towards, or have an affinity with, and in many cases never really even come into contact with.

This continues as a self-perpetuating motion until we become aware of the fact that no one tells us what to think and how to feel, but us. Even as children we are always the ones creating our experiences by how we interpret things to give them meaning, and the stories we begin telling ourselves in an attempt to make sense of things, which acts to shape us by way of our own creation. Once we become aware of our own tendencies and how we’ve formed our identity around and out of them, and are truly willing to let go of our attachment to our story, we can begin learning how to tell a new story, and transform our lives as a result. Like all things, we can only consciously work with what we’re aware of. Through self-awareness, we begin realizing our own unconscious tendencies and can decide what we want to do instead and willfully act out that decision in a disciplined manner. It’s only through self-awareness and using our power to self-create that we can resolve our karma by breaking the unconscious patterns that govern our life, and intentionally form new ones that are more productive and creative, instead of detrimental and destructive. We have to begin taking control of our own mind and using our will to form our experiences with a sense of intention and purpose, and begin telling a new type of story that will systematically transform us into a new type of person.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Integrative Health Consultant and Spiritual Mentor

 

The Psychology of Relationships – We Hurt others in the same way we were Hurt

Relationships act as a Mirror for Reflecting back to us Unconscious Aspects of Ourselves

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What many people don’t realize is that we’re never conditioned to only one role or position is a dynamic as a behavioral pattern, but rather to the “whole pattern”. Whatever patterns as family dynamics that we’re being played out around us and that we were an integral part of, we not only experience from one position or role in that dynamic, which was created through the interaction itself, but we develop defensive behaviors that serve to provoke the other roles being played out that were necessary to give us the experience we had in relationship with it. All behavioral dynamics are dramas acted out that create a consistent type of experiences. The only way we can do this is by attracting the same “type” of people, enter into relationship with them, where the same idea begins playing out, causing us to feel the same way that we always feel.

The relationship we form with others is a relationship we form with ourselves in the other person. Our consciousness as vibratory energy blends into theirs, where whatever qualities we share in common are naturally stimulated just through the nature of the interaction, made active in both people, brought forth as behaviors, and used to create our experiences of the relationship. Energy is qualities of consciousness that form our character and identity which produces the natural behavior and way of being that naturally act out greater patterns as self-expression that tells a certain type of story as a consistent version of reality. A certain type of person consistently tells a certain type of story. It’s fairly easy to recognize that you’ve got a personalized “theme” playing out in your life that’s the basis for how you experience things by the story you tell yourself about them that makes them mean something, the meaning we give things creates your experiences in a congruent and consistent manner. This theme, is at once the expression of the energetic structure of your paradigm and your perceptual lens which interprets everything to give it meaning by the story you tell yourself about it, while simultaneously creating and reinforcing your mental paradigm. We’re never experiencing other people or neutral events “as” they actually are, apart from us, but by how we remake them in our mind to naturally become a coherent part of our story about things.

Throughout our life, we were in conditions, circumstances, and situations where a consistent type of drama and behaviors were being acted out, and we were trained to participate in them, and they served to shape us to the natural mind-set and behaviors of that pattern. These events caused us to feel a certain way, and the story we made up about them as a way of putting them into context and making sense of them, created the perspective that became habitual, and we began interpreting all of the events of our life to mean the same thing and thereby tell the same type of story, and serve to give us more of the same type of feeling. We become conditioned to feeling a certain way, and that feeling as an overall mood forms all our personal experiences as the expression of it, which naturally produces more of it, strengthening and validating it. The inner feeling forms the outer perception as the reality of that feeling, stimulating it in others by how we feel and act, and using it as the basis for the interaction as a drama of some kind that acts to strengthen, multiply, and amplify the feeling in both people, and becomes the result or outcome of all experiences created out of that relationship.

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Because we are conditioned to patterns, and our natural perception and behaviors are a product of that pattern, our natural perceptions and unconscious behaviors act to naturally stimulate, initiate, and produce that pattern. Often, this doesn’t come through actual behavior, but rather in our ability to interpret a large variety of behaviors displayed by others to “mean” what we believe it means, rather than as they actually intended it. What we “expect” to find or see in another (based on our past and the theme we developed) becomes our “filter” through which we look and our theme for interpreting everything to mean what we need it to mean in order to keep telling our story about things. Our perception is an “interpretation” that bares our signature as our “style” for creating.

The idea of “do unto others as you would have them do unto you”, is not a nice idea or polite behavior, but a psychological fact or law. As we do unto others, we stimulate them to treat us the same way in return. Not necessarily in the direct and fully aware sense, but in the indirect and unconscious sense. We produce the behavior of that pattern, often without realizing it because we’re telling ourselves a story about why we’re doing what we’re doing that makes it seem different. But the behavior itself stimulates the same behavioral pattern in the other person, who returns the favor by acting the same way towards us.

For example: Someone who feels rejected and not wanted (their theme), produces the attitude (how they “feel”) and behavior (how they come across) that causes them to be rejected and not wanted. They go into any situation expecting to be rejected, and anticipating it, looking for it, and are able to readily interpret any number of behaviors being displayed by the other person as “meaning” that they’re (once again) being rejected, and so they behave “as if” they’re being rejected and go into the behaviors they normally do when feeling that way, and act distant, aloof, somewhat cold, agitated, sad and hurt, and quit participating having to be coaxed into joining in, are overly shy, rude and harsh (angry), and act hurt for no obvious reason (to the other person), and so on. They act in a way that causes the other person to feel unwanted or rejected by them, and they respond in kind, by outright rejecting them. In this way, they produce the experience of being rejected by rejecting another, usually without ever realizing that that’s what they’re doing. When the other person responds in kind by rejecting them, they think, ah ha! I knew it, see, once again I’m not wanted, and they feel the same way they always do and can continue to tell the same story about things.

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In a similar fashion someone whose been betrayed, expects betrayal, and behaves in such a way that causes the other person to feel betrayed, and they respond in a like manner, betraying us back. All action causes an equal or greater reaction. Cause always produces a corresponding effect. We can only produce the effect that we act as the cause for. Likewise, other people act as the cause that produces an effect in us. We’re attracted to people who share the same feeling-pattern as we do, and who act to not only stimulate us and we them, but naturally cooperate and participate in acting out the same story, giving both people more of the same feeling they share in common.

Whatever we do ourselves, we imagine the other person is doing also. A person who lies and hides things is always suspicious of the other person as doing the same thing, and often accuses them of it even when they’re not. A person who plays around and cheats, expects the other person to be doing the same things, and often looks for (the same “way” they go about it) and accuses them of it. In fact, whatever a person states as their “issues” or what they don’t like or react to in another, is something they’re prone to doing themselves, they just have a different reason for doing it that makes it seem different.

Someone who says honesty is really important to them, and they don’t like it when their partner lies and keeps things from them, will not only attract the very people that will fulfill that, but usually have a considerable number of secrets themselves that they constantly lie about in order to keep hidden, and will sneak around snooping and spying on the other person trying to catch them at what they “know” they’re doing, which of course is doing the same thing they’re imagining the other person is doing. But when they’re doing the same thing, hiding things, they’re doing it for a reason that justifies it in their mind, so they don’t see themselves as doing the very thing they suspect the other person of doing.

Whatever theme we’ve built our identity around, we attract naturally the co-star of the same drama. A person with a “victim” mentality needs a victimizer in order to keep telling the story of being the victim, and produces the ideal behavior that provokes the person victimizing them. We always imagine that it’s being done “to us” with no fault of our own, and once again, we’re innocent victims to malicious people. When in reality, they’re acting as a mirror to reflect back to us our own tendencies and projections, showing us the dramas we act to consistently co-create. And of course these dramas are never cut and dry or outright obvious, but formed in very personal ways through “twists” in the plot. We have a particular way of being betrayed, for example, and there’s a sub-theme to the main theme. We have a particular way of being rejected, or a specific reason for being rejected. We then try to solve the issue by only focusing on the other person, and are not willing to recognize our own part, or work on our own tendencies, and are certainly not able to get into another relationship while acting the same way and producing a new effect. A person who’s sarcastic and verbally abusive, for example, usually causing people to become sarcastic and hurtful back, will try to find someone who won’t be bothered by it, or that will put up with it, without becoming the same way back, so they don’t have to change.

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Whenever we’re in a relationship, if we reflect on the overall nature of it, we’ll notice a pattern being acted out as a life drama that involves our “issues”, or is about the same thing all our experiences are about. In noticing and gaining realization of the pattern as tendencies, we can begin seeing our part in it, and what we’re doing to actively co-create it. What we see in the other person is a reflection of that same feeling-quality in us. Our interaction stimulates their feelings and behaviors, and vice versa. They play a complementary role in our drama, and us in theirs. When we understand that we are costars of the same story, we can realize that what we imagine they’re doing to us, is something they also perceive us as doing to them. How they’re being with us is a direct reflection of how we’re being with them.

Like always begets more of what is like itself. We can’t enter into relationship with someone who doesn’t share the same qualities and behavioral dynamics because we fail to relate and there’s no connection between us. When we feel chemistry with someone, their energy is moving into ours and stimulating it by activating or vibrating it. This is because we’re resonating with them, we are of the same vibratory frequency, and share the same mind-set. When we come together there’s immediate connection, pronounced feelings and we instantly relate to them. There’s a natural understanding that takes place. The nature of our immediate interaction sets the shared pattern into motion, and basic ways of interacting become established fairly early on, and sets the foundation for how the relationship develops in terms of the feelings and behaviors it endeavors.

No one is going to come into our life and fix or heal us. We have to do that “before” we can attract or be attracted to the person that will act out a different story with us. Until we heal and correct our own issues and tendencies, we are only capable of attracting, relating to, and forming a relationship with those who play a complementary role in the same dynamic. However, two people who realize their own tendencies, and awaken together in the midst of their pattern, can heal together by supporting one another in their growth, act as the means for healing to take place through transformation, and continue to grow together throughout their lives.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois   

Evolutionary Relationships

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The Transformative Power of Relationships

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As we move through life, we’re always in the process of exchanging consciousness with everything around us. Just as we breathe and take in the air around us, using the molecules attained from it to replenish depleted molecules in our body, and rebuild our body by incorporating them into our molecular structure, we’re also taking in and exchanging consciousness with everything around us through resonance. We experience this exchange of energy as feelings in the indirect sense of just being around something, and as a direct stimulus when an actual interaction takes place. As we interact with someone, they directly stimulate us, and us them. This stimulating effect comes from what’s being activated between us, and brought out in us through the nature of the interaction. Certain qualities as a mood, attitude, and characteristics are called forth by what ever is being demonstrated, and then shaped into a greater pattern as a behavioral dynamic through the nature of the interaction itself as a cause and affect or action and reaction type of drama. We can only form an actual relationship with those who share the same qualities and characteristics as we do and who are conditioned to tell a similar type of story, necessary for the interaction itself, which begins co-creating a specific type of story-line as an ongoing interaction.

 
The people and situations we surround ourselves with, whether intentionally or unintentionally, become the building blocks of our consciousness. They act to transform us by taking on and making active within us whatever qualities we share in common. As these inner qualities are brought into an active state, they’re developed in us through the overall pattern as a dynamic being acted out, and they’re strengthened in us. We are then conditioned to the dynamic itself, and as we experience it we acquire memory of it, which serves as our basic mental and emotional programming. Whatever we have memory of we act out unconsciously in an automatic and natural fashion. As we co-create experiences by playing out certain dynamics, the memory of those experiences adjust and modify our paradigm to include them, and they become a part of our essential being.

 
This transformative quality of our relationships works for good or for bad. They either act to bring out the best in us, or they bring out the worst in us. We either like who we become when we’re with them, or we don’t like who and how we become. They make us feel a certain way, and that feeling is consistent whenever we’re with them. While we experience a range of emotions and feelings when we’re with them through various activities, the overall feeling that takes place forms a theme which remains constant throughout the relationship. The theme of how we feel is produced by the dynamic the relationship takes on. We can feel a deep connection that’s intimate and immediate, where we are valued, appreciated, wanted, desired, and we truly feel love; or we can feel used, not good enough, deceived or betrayed, humiliated, disappointed, where love is replaced by a series of toxic emotions that are painful and only act to reduce us somehow. You can tell pretty early in the interaction what it’s going to be if you’re willing to pay attention and honor your feelings.

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The key to mastering your relationships by seeing them as powerful “self-development tools”, is to remain present in your experiences, and always notice how you’re feeling, and how they’re being. Always remember feelings don’t lie, it’s only the outer appearance of things, or what we start telling ourselves about what’s going on as a means of justifying or denying it that can be deceptive. Words or what people say and do that are clashing with how you’re feeling are the illusion. This idea isn’t about right and wrong, feeling guilt or shame, or placing blame on the other person, it’s simply about recognizing with clarity that what they’re doing and how they’re being with you, causes you to feel a certain way. This feeling inside of you in response to them is what they will continue to bring out in you throughout the entire relationship. The feeling, not the outer behavior, is what sets the pace for the relationship and the theme it takes on by the dynamic that starts playing out.

 
Even when you realize that the feeling you have is about your own “issue”, because of how you were raised, also realize that this relationship is about that same dynamic and will only continue developing that feeling in you, and was more than likely formed because it was about creating more of that same issue, and will continue to be. The feeling and dynamics are a congruent component of a larger pattern, and one acts to stimulate and produce the other. The idea here becomes healing yourself of your “issues” before you get into a relationship. That way you know that the attraction wasn’t based on the shared issue, and you’ll attract and be attracted to a different kind of person who won’t serve to act out the dynamic of the issue with you, simply strengthening it and giving you more of it.

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The key to understanding comes through self awareness and realization. Devote yourself to becoming aware of your own issues and tendencies as “themes” you were conditioned with, and the behaviors you’ve acquired by way of them. Begin recognizing the tendencies you’ve developed that may be making the other person feel the same way as you feel when they simply respond to you in a like manner. For example, if your tendency is to not feel wanted and included in activities, that you act as if it’s an actual fact, may cause you to behave in ways that are stand-offish, distant, cold, or uninterested, that cause the other person to feel unwanted and excluded by you. They then react to you in a like manner and behave in a way that causes you to feel “unwanted and not apart of things”. We build behaviors around our issues as a way of defending or protecting ourselves against them that serve to actually produce them. Self-reflect and gain as much insight as you can into your own feelings and issues, and work on yourself to heal those issues before you look to get into a romantic and intimate relationship.

 
Cultivate in yourself the ability to stay aware of how you’re feeling in any given moment, based on an interaction of some sort. Notice what you’re feeling inside, what part of you it’s appealing to and bringing out, and who you start becoming because of the interaction. What persona do you take on? This shows you what the relationship will naturally strengthen and develop in you. If you simply “hold a feeling”, move into it and become fully present in it, and begin reflecting on it, what you’ll notice is that a whole idea begins playing out in your mind like a memory that’s inherent in the feeling. Regardless of how it plays out in terms of the scenario it presents itself through, the theme or main idea it illustrates is what’s showing you the reality inherent in the feeling. Feelings are an internal response to an outer reality as the experience of it. A inner feeling is always associated to an outer reality. The same types of events give us the same type of feelings. When you see into your feelings, you get a preview of the type of realities they produce, that will only act to give you more of the same feeling. It exists as a kind of circuitry as an inflow and outflow that’s constantly harmonizing and equalizing the inner with the outer.

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As you recognize how you’re feeling with someone, don’t get caught up in feeling bad about what you’re realizing, or making them bad or wrong somehow, where you start compromising your feelings or distorting them through a story you tell about them that makes them mean something, simply observe them in an objective manner “as” they are, and honor them as showing you the truth in a situation. Your inner feelings will always show you in very direct terms the true nature of any situation. It comes through resonance as an energetic interaction, and is neutral in nature. It only becomes subjective and distorted when you begin interpreting it to make it mean something. The interpretation and meaning is the illusion we build around things that prevents us from seeing the truth. The truth doesn’t come with a story attached to it, but as a direct and immediate inner stimulation that makes you feel a certain way. Honor that, and you’ll always be working with the true reality of any relationship or situation.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Evolutionary Relationships

Personal Transformation

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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Karma – The Golden Rule and the Law of Ethical Causation and Impartial Justice

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Karma is a major component of Eastern Philosophies and Ancient Wisdom, all of which include as a foundation the idea of reincarnation and the eternal nature of the soul within the timeless realm of consciousness that exists in multiple levels and varying degrees simultaneously. While many people grasp the principle of cause and effect that’s inherent in this idea, many fail to recognize the conscious and ethical considerations, as well as the true nature of human beings as three-part in nature while spanning multiple dimensions, only part of which we are conscious and aware of in the direct sense. This fundamental three-part nature includes an aspect of the mind/self as the Higher-Self, that never fully incarnates in the physical realm of the two lower-physical minds, but resides on the plane above the material plane and not only oversees it from a neutral and impartial perspective, but acts to orchestrate many of the meaningful events that take place within the lower plane.

 
The true nature of karma is not as individual or random acts per say, but actions that come from the sum total of our evolutionary development which is expressing in every moment as out whole being. Just as our current mind – self is the culmination of all our life experiences as the memories we formed by how we interpreted the events of our life to give them meaning which formed a general “theme” as a kind of template that we’re always using to create our experiences out of, our karma is the product of accumulated experiences as memory that forms our perspective, perception, intention and desires, and motivates all of our actions and reactions.

 
Though karma has been trivialized in the West, as most spiritual ideas are, we don’t experience or incur karma from or in random events or activities in which we were not at cause, or that didn’t come about out of a desire or intention of some sort. Karma is created through willful acts that are deliberate and intentional in nature, where we are actively and purposely “causing something”. It’s not random, cold, mechanistic action, but intelligently regulated and infused with spiritual compassion, even in the smallest areas of our life, because the universe exists for the enactment, benefit, and welfare of all involved. Every time we’re involved in acting out and creating more karma, it’s always with others who share the same karma, and act to “give it back to us” as reactions to our actions or rendering direct consequences of our actions.

 
Yet even though we’re always in the process of receiving the consequences to our actions from the outside world, we are solely responsible for our self, and are the only ones creating our karma, keeping it alive, and continually expressing it through our attitudes and behavior, and engrained tendencies. Because it’s a part of our essential self as our mental paradigm formed solely from our own self-created experiences as our memories, it can only be resolved by changing our own mental paradigm and moral character. Most karma is developed through the activity of our ego, physical desires, and attachments and the need to somehow control others by exercising power over them. When we seek to control others and the circumstances that involve others through an intentional act of some sort designed to produce a specific reaction or outcome, we create and incur karma.

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Any willful act is karmic in nature and something we alone are fully responsible for. Any quests we undertake for lust, greed, and to attain power of some form, is usually the expression of existing karma that acts to create more of the same type of experiences born out of consequences of our , over and over again. Karma is a cause and effect relationship that gives back to us actions of the same nature that we put out as a corresponding reaction. Every action produces a like reaction. But not all actions are karmic. Any action or event that wasn’t produced out of a desire or intention, while it may still render consequences, are not caused by us intentionally and do not remain with us as unconscious tendencies that continue driving our behaviors. Neutral events that happen without intention or deliberation, and that don’t produce a pronounced reaction in us, are NOT a form of karma. So things like not getting a parking place, having someone be rude to us, or being rear-ended while at a stop light, is not karma, but is merely a cause and effect relationship going on around us in which we had no direct or intentional part in creating. If they came as a direct consequence or reaction to our actions, though not intentional or with a motive of some sort, then they’re still not considered karmic. If however they come as a direct response to an intentional and deliberate act on our part, which involved deliberate thought and motive of some sort, then it’s karmic in nature and draws more of the same karma on us through the consequences it brings.

 
Karma isn’t a singular act that comes out of nowhere and is not a product of a person’s normal character, but rather comes out of the summation of a person’s development and is a natural tendency they display and engage in as a part of their attitude and normal mind-set. The tendency to control, manipulate, or try to exercise power over others, is karma as character traits that cause more of the same type of karma. Likewise the person that allows themselves to be controlled or manipulated, and who give their power away to those manipulating them, is also karma, and is a part of the same type of karma as the one seeking control over them. Because they share karma as a natural cause and effect relationship that cooperatively participates in complementary roles of the same pattern, they live out their karma through the natural relationship that forms between them.

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Because karma is the result of conditioned tendencies and unconscious patterns that are emotionally driven by desire and attachment of some sort, we are born into and naturally incur various forms of karma as shared tendencies that are acted out with a group. We have family karma as tendencies acted out within various roles by the whole family, as well as race karma, national and cultural karma, and karma of the present age. The best way to become aware of our karma is through self-reflection and noticing what we have “issues around”, strong emotional reactions too, or agendas that are emotionally driven and come about in what is largely an unconscious manner. We can notice the patterns that govern our life and what ideas we play out in an intentional manner that tells a story of some sort. We can begin recognizing what themes underlie all of our relationships. Naturally we can look at any area where we feel a strong compulsion or aggressive action, or frequently have an intense reaction to that draw very distinct consequences as the thematic patterns that govern our life experiences, while giving up our need to defend our actions by justifying them. It’s this tendency to defend and justify our right to do something that keeps us unconscious of the reality it produces through what are for the most part, natural and automatic behaviors.

 

 

Key points to consider:

 
• Karma is produced by willful acts that involve desire, intention and are done with a distinct motive of some sort and intentionally.

 
• Karma is when we are directly at “cause” and the one producing an effect or reaction that draws on us the consequences of our actions.

 
• Our karma is acted out with others who share the same type of karma as behavioral dynamics. Other people play a complementary role and cooperatively participate in our dramas and agendas.

 
• Karma is regulated through a form of spiritual compassion of our Higher-Self that works in an impartial manner for the benefit and welfare of all involved.
• Random, neutral, and mechanical acts that we had no part in causing are NOT karma for us.

 
• Karma stems from the summation of our evolutionary development as our mental paradigm and natural or conditioned perceptions and tendencies.

 
• We are participating in multiple levels of karma all the time as family, community, work place, national, cultural, racial, and the karma of the present age of humanities evolution as a whole.

 
• To change or resolve our karma is to recognize and become aware of our own subconscious tendencies and the motive behind our deliberate actions that are creative in nature, and cultivate qualities and beliefs that counteract them. It always comes by working with our own subconscious mind and bringing light to tendencies we act out without direct awareness of what we’re doing exactly or why.

 

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Spiritual Sciences

Transformational Coaching

Integrative Medicine

 

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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How Science becomes an Art – Integrating Knowledge through Active Practice

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The only way we attain knowledge and become truly knowledgeable, is by developing ideas to the point where they can be brought into practice somehow in our daily life. We become the vehicle through which knowledge expresses in the world by becoming “one with it”, and acquiring it through the experience of it. By applying and utilizing knowledge as a practice of some sort, we develop it into a behavior that forms an experience of it, that not only “proves” it through the application as an experiment, but allows us to gain insights where we can modify the basic idea, correcting any errors in the idea, in order to utilize it to create the results it claims to produce. We can only know the validity of ideas through experimentation that applies them to create at the material level, where we then “experience” the knowledge through a form of self-realization.

 
The practical application developed through consistent application, forms it into a memory that systematically programs the subconscious mind through the memory as an actual behavior that becomes a natural tendency or built in skill as a natural part of our mental paradigm. We only truly integrate the knowledge through experimentation that produces an experience of it by blending into it and becoming the vehicle through which it comes into the world. By embodying and imagining it as a working concept, we use it as a patterning to direct our behaviors and activities that transforms it as an inner reality into an outer reality, that is then absorbed and synthesized by the mind, upgrading the mental model of the mind through the incorporation of it as a natural perception and way of feeling and thinking, and through the acquired set of behaviors that it naturally employs in order to create it.

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Knowledge that’s held at the theoretical level, never tested and applied to ensure its validity, remains a theory, and is not integrated into our paradigm as an experience and behavior of some kind, and is therefore NOT actually acquired, nor carried forward as an essential part of our “self”. We only truly know what we can do, and demonstrate. To say that spiritual knowledge exists only in the spiritual realm, and can’t be meaningfully applied to the material realm through practical application, isn’t true, and merely demonstrates a lack of understanding in terms of what spiritual knowledge is. It’s an error in how we perceive the relationship of the spiritual (invisible forces) with the material (visible forces). The basic fact that underlies all reality is that the spiritual as vibration forms patterns as ideas that organize the form the material world takes on, which determines how it functions and behaves, and what processes it naturally undergoes. While many think the spiritual (invisible energy) is symbolic of the material, actually the opposite is true, and the material exists as the symbolic form of the spiritual. The energetic vibration is what shapes matter into forms, while also imbuing it with consciousness as a form of personality that “operates” it.

 
Knowledge itself, as ideas, which enter the mind as inspired insights, and are developed by the mind into conceptualized ideas, are principles and laws as archetypal ideas, that are exceedingly applicable by lending themselves to an infinite number of adaptations, each of which produce the basic idea in a new form as a variation of the original idea, which is objective, metaphorical, and universal in nature. All spiritual knowledge as laws can only be truly known and understood through practices of some form. The only “theory” in spiritual knowledge lies in gaining a fundamental understanding of the laws involved, which is necessary for utilizing and applying them to develop the routine practices of your daily life. By practicing and using these laws to create, you learn them through the experience of them as self-realization. This realization allows you to immediately identify the same laws being played out through a variety of practices and creative processes, regardless of what form they take on, and this ability to identify law by perceiving it from the perspective of experiencing it, develop our intuitive capacities which “receive” the information as a direct experience of it.

 
By entering into an idea, becoming one with it, having an intimate and immediate experience of it, lets us know if its true or not. We can recognize truth from error, because truth always operates as law, whether physical or subtle, and can be applied to any situation or set of circumstances, where it creates a material reality as a natural process of some sort. If an idea being portrayed can’t be experienced or applied by anyone to create what it claims to create, then it shows us it’s not based on principles and the fundamental workings that underlie all of life that determines what organic processes it naturally undergoes in order to “become”.

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The most fundamental law that many fail to recognize is that spirit as consciousness or the mind as a field of information (a concept used to understand it), is also matter itself, which is the passive component that “receives” – takes in and is in-formed by consciousness – which is the active force of a complementary whole. Spirit, mind or soul, and body, are different aspects of the same thing (idea) in different densities as a series of complementary opposites that engage in an interactive process of resonance, sympathetic induction, and coherence. Consciousness itself is a self-organizing force that impregnates (magnetically enters into) matter, structuring the form it takes on as its body or vehicle for expressing, that forms by organizing particles through a positive charge, where something appears to come out of nothing. The active force enters the passive equivalent (same vibration as a state) forming the molecular structure as a combination of information that forms the molecular structure of a single cell, as the composition of all the information and patterning sequences, as well as the spatial model as a form of organizing blueprint for undergoing mitosis as self-generation, organizing billions of reproductions into a larger, unified organism that’s imbued with a personality and distinct tendencies as the behaviors and activity it naturally and systematically engages in. Spiritual knowledge as laws that govern all of life and the natural world, are what creates everything and can be observed in natural processes where the same set of laws are at work creating a multitude of forms with specialized functions. We can know spirit by observing and engaging in the creative processes of life and death in the natural world, and by gaining self-knowledge as self-awareness of how those same laws operate to create us and work through us.

 
As humans, we are a perfect microcosm and mini-model of the cosmos as the macrocosm, because we are the only species on this planet to be imbued with the higher capacity of creativity. We are the only animals capable of individual thinking and using these laws to self-create by willfully employing them with full awareness of what we’re doing and the reason we’re doing it. We are not confined to instinctual, unconscious behaviors produced as a part of the collective unconscious that we share with all other humans as a species, but rather the ability to create through willful acts that employ knowledge of the natural laws to manipulate nature and the natural forces to create by way of them. By employing spiritual knowledge as laws, we can develop ourselves by way our creative ability to intelligently employ them to produce our practical skills and daily lifestyle as a means of self-creating, and systematically growing ourselves to higher and higher forms of intelligence through expanding our creative capacities to apply laws in numerous ways to create an infinite variety of possibilities through our ability to adapt, utilize and overcome.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Transformational Coaching

Personal Development

Professional Development

Spiritual Sciences

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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Life Lessons that Form the Opportunity for Healing – “Fragmented and Integrated Aspects form the basis of Karma”

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The idea of Karma can be difficult for many to understand in its most basic sense, because they try to imagine and make sense of it through their conscious mind, when its actually a natural part of their subconscious mind, which is comprised of and operates out various levels of memory. Karma is formed out of experiences of life as an interpretation that only sees the significance of things from a limited perspective that interprets events to give them meaning, which turns it into a personalization as a perception, that becomes the nature of the memory. The memory that’s formed by how we interpret life events, forms the programming of the subconscious mind as an accumulative process that forms a dynamic structure of interrelated patterns that produce a coordinated movement (frequency) as a mental paradigm or “model of the world”. This model is the structure of our mind as a pattern that forms our perceptual lens as a filtering mechanism that structures our experiences.

 
Our subconscious mind is the aspect of our mind-being that forms all of our natural assumptions, expectations, and perceptual lens that’s also directly connected to and a fundamental part of our environment – the greater mind of the collective unconscious – and produces all of our natural and automatic behaviors, while producing the emotions that drive and govern our thoughts. Our subconscious mind exists in the realm just outside of time, and is always “present” and in the process of transmitting and receiving information from everything around us. This information is transmitted as vibration that produces sensations as feelings that stimulate our body, producing chemistry as emotions that alter our body’s state (frequency) to match our environment, which also alters our state of mind, as the unification between our conscious thinking mind, and our subconscious feeling-emotional mind. It’s also how we’re always blending into and becoming an essential part of our outer environment through an equilibrating process that’s a fundamental law of evolution. The inner and the outer exist in an intimate relationship with each other, and are always exchanging information both energetically and physically. The exchange of information as a relationship adjusts the outer to match the inner, and the inner to match the outer to form congruence and continuity. We only “receive” and are able to integrate the information from the environment that’s of the same frequency as an essential part of the same paradigm or that can be adjusted to fit into our model and can be perceived through our normal way of interpreting things to give them meaning that allows us to tell a story about them as a way of understanding them.

vesicaThis “style” of interpretation becomes what you could call our “signature” as a universal theme with a personalized twist, developed in a unique fashion by how we integrate “known” properties in our experiences, while failing to integrate “unknown” properties in our own make-up, which, even though we’re not aware of them, and don’t recognize the quality in ourselves (because we’re interpreting it negatively and don’t own it as a result) because they’re a part of us at the unconscious level, we continue to think the thoughts that promote them, while acting them out in a natural and unconscious way, and connect to those same behaviors and tendencies all around us. We are connected to, act as a magnet for, and are an inherent part of our unconscious aspects as we are our conscious ones, the ones we have an actual awareness of. This produces behavioral patterns as life-dynamics that we’re always involved in, that are actually acting to show us the unconscious aspects at play in creating our everyday reality.

 
As long as we continue to remain unaware of them, while still attracting and actively participating in them while projecting them onto others and our life circumstances, “seeing” them in others while forming a strong reaction to them, then we continue to live out of these same patterns as a life-theme, often without ever realizing our part in it. This is karma as “whole patterns” that contain both our conscious-aware aspects and our unconscious-unaware aspects. Our karma brings life-lessons as repeated themes played out in different ways, within different scenarios, and with a variety of people as a way of “revealing to us” what we’re unaware of in ourselves. By recognizing the patterns we consistently play out as dramas of some sort that are created by how we enter into relationship with those of the same tendencies that will actively participate in acting out the same dynamic allowing us to recognize ourselves being reflected back to us in them in terms of how they’re playing the opposite role in a complementary dynamic, provides us with the means to recognize our own tendencies that come more as impulses and emotional charges of some form.

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Our life-dynamics as the storyline we’re always in the process of living out come as lessons in the sense that they provide us with the means to begin recognizing our own thematic patterns, what our part is that pattern, and what unconscious aspects we are responding to and interacting with in others by acting out the same type of reality. We can begin seeing what behaviors and false beliefs we hold about ourselves and others that are based on false assumptions as a form of denying aspects in ourselves that we don’t like or deem bad, and therefore build illusions around that make them “seem” different, while still outwardly displaying them through our behaviors, the mental scripts we run through our mind, and the nature of our interactions.

 
As long as we remain unaware of our own tendencies that are actively producing our life experiences, we keep acting them out, while imagining that we have nothing to do with them, and they’re actually being done to us by others or through the situation taking place of which we have no control. The lesson being offered as more of an opportunity for growth is to become aware of ourselves as the creator of our own life experiences. This is often because we don’t realize that there’s a difference between the outer, objective events of our life, and how we use those to create our experience of them. Many imagine that their “experiences” are actually a neutral and objective interpretation where everyone is having the same type of experience as they are by way of the same outer events. Yet in reality, nothing is further from the truth. The fact is we are all creating our unique experiences of everything around us that’s entirely different from the next person. Everybody experiences the same outer reality as a unique form of self-expression as “how” they form their experience of it that interprets it to give it meaning through their personal paradigm. Everyone notices different things, and abstracts different aspect of any given situation as a form of resonance that acts as a filtering mechanism. Our mind filters through all the information available, only selecting what aspects match it in terms of the interpretation it forms as it’s perception that tell a story of some sort.

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When we can see and realize what we’re doing in any situation that’s actively participating in creating it, and “own” all aspects of ourselves by realizing them, without judging them, needing to explain them, or justify them somehow, then we can start becoming self-aware. When we begin recognizing our role in things, what part in our own story we’re playing, and what we’re doing to cooperatively engage and act them out as a part of a storyline, and what it is that draws us into them emotionally, we can begin seeing the dynamics we’re conditioned to. It’s always easier to recognize and accurately describe tendencies in other people than it is to recognize our own tendencies. The only reason we continue to participate in creating experiences that cause us pain and lead to suffering somehow, is because we’re unaware of what we’re doing. Just the recognition and awareness alone, begins dissolving the pattern by breaking the hold it has over us. Once we’re able to “see” what we’re doing and the reason for doing it, it loses its grip over us because we’re now awake in moments we used to be asleep in, and we no longer need to project it in order to see it. In this, the lesson offered is learned and we no longer create it without awareness of what we’re doing. All lessons in life are setting the stage that allows what is unconscious to become conscious. Shining a light into the dark areas of our inner being so we can see what’s normally hidden from us.

 
How we experience the events of our life by how we perceive it, and how we interpret it in order to make sense out of it, is entirely a personal creation as a projection of our inner reality onto our outer reality as “looking through our perceptual lens” which reorganizes the outer to match the inner by the story we tell ourselves about it that makes it mean something that births a unique reality as the unification between the inner and the outer, the universal and the individual, the conscious and the subconscious. Our mental paradigm connects us to that same paradigm in everyone and everything around us, attracting and entering into relationship only with what’s complementary to us.

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Through the relationship we form, we stimulate in each other our shared qualities and establish a behavioral dynamic as the story lived out through the nature of our interaction. While we tend to identify consciously with one role in an interactive dynamic, the fact of the matter is, we’re developed by that dynamic, and can naturally play any role in it, and often do by moving in and out of multiple roles by how we interact. The role in that dynamic we don’t like, we deny in ourselves, and though we continue to faithfully act them out, we tell ourselves a different story about what we’re doing and the reason for doing it that makes it seem different, yet it’s producing the same response in the other, and they in return “do unto us as we have done unto them”. Then, because the illusion we’ve created around it prevents us from seeing what we’re doing that’s “causing” the same type of behaviors in others to take place all over again, we imagine it’s being done to us unfairly and without us warranting or deserving it, and so we justify our right to respond by giving them back their own medicine, without realizing that that’s what they’re doing to us, or by using it to move directly into the role we’re familiar and comfortable playing in a dynamic we are actually programmed to and acted to initiate through natural behaviors that are produced in a predictable manner by our subconscious mind.

 

For example: Those programmed with a pattern of “being rejected” (which is a universal theme), formulate this theme with twists as a particular way of being rejected, why or what it is about that causes them to be rejected, what behaviors mean rejection, what tone of voice is used and what words are specifically spoken that tell them they’re being rejected, and what behavioral dynamic is being acted out by their parents and peers that caused them to feel rejected by what story they started telling themselves as a way of making sense of it. They develop behaviors that are defensive, adaptive, and a form of self-fulfilling prophecy by what they come to believe about themselves that shapes who they become and how they create their relationships that act out the same type of dynamic over and over.
They defend themselves against whatever is the reason for being rejected, projecting and returning to others the same judgment by how they perceive them, behave and treat them that give the other person the same feeling of as the trait they were rejected for, or they over-compensate somehow and take on dramatic behaviors, or reject others before they have a chance to reject them. Some form behaviors that retaliate and fight back with anger and hostility, which of course not only rejects the person it’s being projected towards, but makes them feel uncomfortable around them and avoid them as a result, which again creates the experience of not being liked or wanted. Sometimes they continue acting out whatever behavior as the reason for being rejected in an attempt to make people accept and love them in spite of these behaviors. Or, they’ve failed to identify the behaviors that cause them to be rejected and so keep acting them out without realizing that they’re promoting their own rejection.

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Other times, we continue to act out in ways that other people perceive as being rejected by us, causing them to feel rejected, and they act in response to us by rejecting us back. All without us realizing that we were the one that rejected them first. All patterns are self-organizing and self-perpetuating become self-fulfilling. What this means is that we actually play an active role in initiating the pattern that then becomes played out that ultimately results in our being rejected or not wanted. We either do things that initiate behaviors that start the ball rolling, or we interpret their behaviors to mean we’re being rejected when that’s not at all what they mean for them. We can interpret any behavior to mean “rejection”, create the illusion of it happening (all over again) then act as if our illusions are real and a factual and objective reality that we’re accurately evaluating.

 
Other times, we interpret positive behaviors that actually are loving and affectionate in a negative way, and shun them as a result. Behaviors that might be an expression of love from another, such as touching, cuddling, openly displaying affection, telling us how much they love and care about us, becomes interpreted by us as being clingy, needy, smothering, controlling, rushing into things, or pressuring us in some way. Or we don’t trust it, and feel as if we’re being manipulated, coerced, or used somehow. Because we don’t have a model for what it feels like to be loved, desired, wanted, valued, or appreciated, we don’t know how to act in response to these, and we don’t know how to perceive then for what they are, and so we begin by perceiving them incorrectly then responding inappropriately and sabotage a situation that would have given us the experience that would have contradicted our belief about ourselves and others. In this way, we get stuck in our own patterns and just keep acting them out because they form our very perception, how we interpret things to give them meaning and form appropriate responses, and what behaviors we know how to do and do automatically.

 
Because we tend to act out the same behaviors born out of the same perceptions as a defensive mechanism, while telling ourselves that when we do the same behaviors we imagine are being done to us, we have a different reason for doing them, or because we expect to be rejected and act as if we’re being rejected even when we’re not by how we interpret their behaviors. We remain unaware of what we’re doing that’s causing us to be or feel rejected. So we keep acting out the same tendencies because we don’t realize what we’re doing, and continue to create the same experiences over and over, often throughout our entire life, without ever realizing that we’re “at cause” within our own lives, and act as a magnet for attracting those who will cooperatively act out the same dynamic with us, each time giving us the opportunity to see what “we’re” doing and what story as a theme we’re always in the process of creating through our natural way of perceiving the world and others, and how we behave as an interaction based on those perceptions.

 

Dr, Linda Gadbois

Relationships: Looking for Patterns in the Chaos – “Recognizing Dynamic Themes as Interactions with Ourselves in Others”

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When we realize the true nature of the individual mind as the electromagnetic field that is grounded in, permeates and envelops the body, that is comprised of a dynamic network of interwoven patterns as memory of some sort acquired through various levels of experience which become our “psychology” as our perceptual lens that works through interpretation to restructure all external and objective reality to be of the same nature (patterning) as we are, we can realize we’re always seeing in others the same qualities that make up our constitution, and how we “act on them” is actually acting on ourselves “in” them. The confusion seems to come around two ideas, one as what do we mean by “aspects of ourselves” as qualities, and a lack of actual awareness of qualities we possess that we are in denial of, have repressed and suppressed that we don’t “own” or actually know we have as a result.

 
Aspect of the self, are qualities that form characteristics with behaviors in them as dynamic patterns that are thematic in nature, and contain opposite roles (or variety of roles) that are necessary to act out the theme as a drama of some sort to create an experience as a joint-reality of that characteristic expressed through a story. Everything in life exists as patterns (form as function) as whole ideas that have natural behaviors in them that create specific “types” of realities. We attract to, and draw to us, those who are ideal for acting out the same story as a joint experience that expresses the shared qualities of their character. So we naturally enter into relationships of various sorts where they possess the opposite and complementary qualities played out through “roles” to tell the same type of story as a co-creation that validates and supports both people’s belief-systems as a shared illusion (imaginary reality). For example; a person who continually perceives themselves as being a victim of some sort, naturally attracts to and enters into relationship with those who will “victimize them”. A “victim” needs a “victimizer” in order to act out a dynamic together that result in them feeling like a victim. All qualities are natural forces that exist in polarity as opposites that are complementary in acting out the pattern they both share a complementary role in.

vesicaLikewise, whatever qualities and character traits we deny in ourselves, and therefore repress by not owning (recognizing) or acknowledging them, we simultaneously project onto others, by assigning those same traits to them by how we interpret their behaviors, then we form a strong reaction to them based on our own interpretation. By this means we see our repressed qualities that we’re not directly aware of because we formed an illusion around them as a story we tell ourselves that serves to deny it, or make it out to be something entirely different than it really is. When we realize the laws governing the mind and the fact that all perception is a form of projection created by looking through the “lens” of our mind we can realize what our own hidden qualities are, often referred to as our shadow aspects, because they live in the dark within us without any clear recognition, and are projected onto others as what we see in them that’s of the same nature (vibratory frequency) as us. Perception operates according to the principle of resonance. We literally can’t see in others what doesn’t first exist in us. What’s “of” us, we react to (resonate with), and what’s not, we don’t even notice (have no reaction).

 
Intuitively, we’re always tuning into the feelings (vibrations) of the heart, which senses and understands everything around it as an inner knowing, and sees (perceive) only that which we also “feel” by the spiritual (energetic) intelligence (patterning) of the mind through the imagination, which reforms them through an adaptation process as an interpretation that forms an illusion around them as a personification of what is in reality, a neutral and separate person, place, or thing. We then begin to speculate within the realm of our own illusion (imagining according to us) distorting the truth and behold instead our own hallucinations that we mistaken for being “real” or factual”, when in fact, they’re pure fiction.

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This is why we say that “what a person thinks of you, has nothing to do with you, but simply reveals who they are”. Because we’re never really seeing others as they truly are in the objective sense, but through our own interpretations that make them fit into our story about things in a way that makes sense to us as a means of creating our experience of them. And likewise, the same holds true in reverse. Our opinions of others seldom have anything to do with them, but rather express our judgments of them in terms of the same judgments assigned to behaviors that we also possess, and often repress because we judge ourselves just as harshly for the same tendencies, which is why we come to deny them in ourselves. So for the purpose of self-preservation, we distort it with a story that makes the same behavior out to be something entirely different. While the actual behavior is the same, our “reason” for doing it is different than we imagine another persons reason for doing the same behavior is. We create a reason for it that justifies it while simultaneously validating our right to judge others for what are in reality the same behaviors that we demonstrate.

 
All perception is in fact . . . self-perception. How we experience someone or something, is completely an inner creation that’s expressing our model of the world, while simultaneously revealing it. This is the minds way of showing us parts of ourselves that we can’t ordinarily see, because the primary basis for all healing . . . is awareness! Once we realize this fact, we can use it to identify hidden aspects within ourselves that we have repressed, and by becoming aware of and acknowledging them we can begin working with them in an aware and intentional manner.

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The most basic process for bringing this idea into practice within your daily life is to allow your mind to think about others as you normally do and simply take on an altered, second-person perspective of observing your own thoughts. Don’t judge yourself for having those thoughts, or begin justifying them in some way, but simply notice what they are, and notice what the central theme of them are. As you get a clear idea of what or how you’re evaluating the person or behavior as a “value judgment” (bad, wrong, stupid, mean, asshole, jerk, slut, etc.), abstract the behavior being demonstrated that warrants the judgment, separating it out from the meaning you’re giving it, and ask yourself . . . how am doing the same thing in my own life? Where and when do I display the same tendencies, while perceiving them in a different way? And what am I telling myself when I do these same behaviors that justify my right to do them? What story do I tell myself that makes the same type of behaviors seem different?

 
Self-reflection through an understanding of resonance and projection allows us to identify tendencies within ourselves that we are in denial of, fail to recognize or own, or that we have build defense mechanisms around. What we defend ourselves against, we readily “see in others” and tell ourselves a story about it that exonerates us by persecuting them in the same manner that we have been persecuted. A person who has always been made to feel as if they’re not “good enough”, for example, will have a tendency to make other people feel the same way in relationship with them, by acting to “lower” them somehow, or make them feel inferior to them. They’ll do it in the same way (attitude and behavior) that it was done to them. If they we’re constantly criticized, then they’ll do it by having the same tendency to criticize others. If they we’re constantly corrected with an attitude of frustration or intolerance, then they’ll do it to others in the same way.

 
Our conditioning programs us with whole patterns as interactive dynamics where we are conditioned to the behavioral dynamics we’re raised with, and continue to act out those same dynamics as we go through life in numerous ways. What was done unto us by others, we in return, perform those same behaviors in how we perceive and treat others, giving them the same feeling that we were programmed with. Because these “programs” are apart of our unconscious make-up, and we’ve built illusions around them that prevent us from seeing them as they really are, we can use our knowledge of projection to recognize hidden tendencies in ourselves as our unconscious programming, and in becoming aware of it, we can begin to work with it in a conscious manner, to change our own mind-set about things and begin developing new patterns of perception and behaviors by actively choosing instead unconsciously reacting. We can begin realizing that the only way the “world changes” for us, is by changing ourselves, because our perception is what creates the world around us. The outer world is transformed inwardly. Our outer world is produced by and equivalent to our inner world.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

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Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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