How we Stay Stuck in Patterns, and How to Transform them

One of the most valuable things we can learn psychologically is to really tune into the nature of patterns. All of life operates by way of a dynamic interconnected system of patterns. Patterns are not only formed out of memory as habits or routines, but also out of how we think and reason as creative processes that form our fundamental perception of things, and as the filtering system produced by our mental paradigm which is a dynamic model comprised of correlated, congruent patterns that are constantly being developed and evolved based on our experiences and what we integrate to produce our memories. As we go through life, we’re steadily forming our mental paradigm through our conditioning and what type of dynamics we’re a part of and play a role in, that shape the way we think and perceive, while simultaneously developing and “bringing out” our own style of perceiving through the type of story we begin telling ourselves as a way of making sense of things and making them mean something.

The most basic pattern we form that births and gives rise to all other patterns, is the “life theme” we develop as “our story” about things. This story emerges naturally through our conditioning out of a series of beliefs we form due to our experiences, what we start telling ourselves about them as an interpretation and thought process, and based on what we’re taught and accept as being true and real. All stories emerge naturally out of meaning, which, as children, comes from feelings. As our mind begins developing, and we begin actively creating how we experience things based on how we begin using our mind to reason, we begin constantly asking ourselves in any situation that has significant emotional impact . . . what does this mean?

Meaning, which forms the basis for reality, like the mind and soul producing it, is three-fold in nature, and creates on three levels simultaneously. The meaning we give something that forms the basis of our story as our way experiencing, means something about others, the way the world is in general, and about us in relation to it. All of our “experiences”, which are self-created, don’t come from the actual events of our life, but from how we interpret those events. Interpretation forms perception, and perception “is” reality. Our reality as our experience of the outer world is formed 100% from our perception, which is a by-product or natural expression of our paradigm as our “model of the world”. A model is comprised of an infinite series of memory that are all of a complementary nature and work together faithfully to produce a congruent and consistent version of reality. The structure of our mind as a paradigm is what we can call the core or fundamental pattern that orchestrates and acts as a choreographer for systematically producing all of our perceptions and experiences. It’s what we could think of as our “parental pattern” that produces a series of smaller fractal patterns of the same nature and theme as its offspring. We never have independent or singular patterns, beliefs, or areas of our life, but rather a holistic and unified “system” of patterns, memories, and beliefs. If we try to work with a specific pattern or area of our life that we don’t like and want to change, without ever identifying the “core belief”, conditioned tendency, or habit of perceiving and thinking that’s naturally producing it, we fail to be able to change it, and even when we seem to have changed it in terms of outward appearance, it collapses back into the same pattern and tendency we thought we had changed. This is because it can’t be sustained as independent from the system that’s producing it as a natural and automatic way of thinking and perceiving.

We can however use specific areas of our life and relationships as the means for identifying and becoming aware of our core beliefs and fears, where our feelings counteract our intellect and rational thinking, or where we’re aware that we’re not producing what we want to through various forms of sabotage and deep seated tendencies that are purely emotional in nature and act to magnetically pull us back into habitual patterns. Once we realize that we’re playing out the same fundamental pattern in a variety of ways in every area of our life, we can pick one to work on consciously as a way of influencing and affecting the primary, parental pattern. In doing this, and implementing the proper type of change, one that acts to modify and upgrade the entire system, we not only bring change into that one area of our life, but in the same manner in all areas of our life. It’s only by modifying our mental paradigm as our primary pattern and model, that we ‘break patterns” in selected areas, while replacing them with new patterns that are more beneficial and produce the outcome and type of experience we desire. We’re never “stopping one pattern” or quitting something, but rather changing an old pattern into a new one, or replacing something with something else. This means that it’s not enough to decide what you don’t like or want to change, but also what you “do want instead”, and what new behaviors or idea you’re going to employ in their place. When we decide to change our self and life in some way, we’re moving out of a form of unconscious and natural way of producing habitual experiences and into a role of actively creating with full awareness of what we’re doing and why. This means it requires a strong desire, steady focus, and constant effort (at first). All intentional change only comes through active use of our will and our ability to choose new options and ways of being.

In the most general sense of the word, being always produces doing. All action results from our inward sense of our self. To produce an outward change, we have to work by changing the inward state of being that’s acting through a fundamental form of self-expression to systematically produce it in a habitual fashion. We don’t change the world or other people by trying to work “on them” directly, but by changing ourselves inwardly, which automatically produces how we exist in relationship to the outer world, how we perceive others (in our own image), and how we act naturally to influence them in new ways that change how they respond to us. It’s only by changing ourselves that others and the world in general appears different to us. As long as we remain the same internally, everything remains the same externally. The entire world operates according to the Law of Cause and Effect. All action produces and equal reaction of the same nature and type. To change how someone else is acting, we have to change how we’re acting to stimulate them, and how we sense and perceive ourselves in relationship with them. As long as we’re employing the same attitude, way of looking at something and behaviors, we consistently produce the same thing over and over.

Learning how to Change Your Story

The first thing we have to do when deciding we have to change somehow, is learn how to actively “give up” our story about stuff and form instead a desire to tell a new kind of story that changes how we experience the events of our life and causes us to feel different and “become” a different type of person as a result. Most don’t want to give up their story about things, but instead want to be validated in it, and have everyone and everything else change through a form of agreeing and acting to counteract or go against instead what they’re actually the one creating. Someone who never feels “wanted”, for example, wants to keep telling that story and feeling that way, while having someone demonstrate or prove to them that they “want them”, yet their perceptual filters will always act to interpret any behavior to mean they’re not wanted. Usually of course without realizing that that’s what they’re doing, because we often don’t fully realize that we create our story perfectly through our feelings and perceptions, and only see and “experience” what matches them, and what can be skewed or recomposed in a way that lends itself to telling our story. The “feeling” that at once produces our story, creating an experience that gives us more of that same feeling, being the key component.

Our story is difficult to change because we’ve built our identity out of it as how we perceive and sense ourselves, and as a result don’t know how to tell a different type of story. When we try, we can often feel awkward, unfamiliar and uncertain, in new territory without a means to navigate, and don’t know how to “be” or what to do. All behavior is learned, and with learning comes the unknown. We have to practice something before we get good at it and it starts becoming natural. Change at first feels like we’re not being ourselves, or we’re someone phony or inauthentic (to use a buzz word), and this feeling and thought is what often sabotages our attempts at change and causes us to revert back to old and familiar ways of being that are more comfortable.

We don’t have to work through all of our “issues” and complexes through years of therapy and self-reflection on the events of our life, what happened to us, and why we’re the way we are, which usually only validates and strengthens them, but by learning instead how to use our creative power of choice and free will. We can produce any change we want by making the “clear and actual decision” to change, then disciplining ourselves to consistently produce and act out that decision until it becomes natural and automatic. Ways of feeling, thinking, perceiving, and acting are merely habits we’ve established as the means of producing the experience of ourselves and our life. Like all habits, they can be changed by simply replacing them with new habits. You have to want the change bad enough to do what it takes to produce and then maintain it, by deciding in a fully aware manner who and how you’re going to be and what type of story you’re going to tell by how you live your life.

Changing our story doesn’t mean we form an illusion over what we imagine to be fact, or deny the events of our life that formed our memories, but rather by learning the art of transforming them by interpreting them and telling our story about them from a new and different perspective that changes the experience of them. For example, when I was a kid, one of the stories I kept telling myself was that nobody really knew me for who I am, but rather by judging me to be like my family. I had a fairly traumatic childhood, and was a compulsive runaway, living much of my life on the streets, and was used to those who tried to help me looking at me and saying things like “you poor thing”, which was just about the most god-awful feeling I ever had because it made me out to be weak and pitiful, when my life circumstances actually served to make me very strong and capable. When I became an adult, and moved to a different city where nobody knew my past or family, a voice inside me one day casually said, “ok, now you’re in a situation where nobody knows to judge you based on your family and past . . . so who are you going to be?” And at that moment, the entire course of my life changed, and I was truly in a position of creating myself, which I found exciting.

I started off by vowing to never talk about my past or how I grew up with any new people, living fully in the present and giving them only an impression of what I was like at that time. I did this for years, and it became a natural way of living for me, and I quit thinking about my past altogether in the normal daily sense. I learned how to stay present and to realize in every moment I was deciding who I was going to be by how I acted and what I talked about. Later, when I was in another new environment, I decided to talk about my past as my childhood experiences while only picking the ones I could tell from a humorous and adventurous perspective. I made what was actually drastic and traumatic at the time, seem funny and exciting. I decided to tell stories of running away and hoping freight trains to unknown destinations from a perspective of “Tom Sawyer and Huckleberry Finn”, as an exciting adventure met with constant surprises and quirky opportunities. I learned how to pick different memories to tell stories around rather than the ones I had previously focused on. I became so good at this, that my staff found them very entertaining, and on slow afternoons would ask me to tell them more stories about growing up.

The point to this is that the “way” I told the stories made me feel entirely different and turned me into a different type of person. Because I imagined them vividly from a different perspective, and played them out repeatedly from that perspective, it literally changed my memories by evolving and transforming them. From that point on, every time I thought about those events, I remembered them from a new perspective, and after a while I not only couldn’t remember how I experienced them originally as a little girl, but got to where I no longer felt like that little girl. She became more like somebody I knew really well and loved very much. She was no longer an essential part of me, and wasn’t the one who created the story I was still living out of as an adult. I began realizing that what tends to become our story as our “life theme” that we continue creating out of as adults, originates from a child’s perspective who is simply trying to make sense of things as best they can with the limited resources they have. As an adult I was much more equipped to tell a far more accurate story of my life based on an adult, mature perspective and mindset.

One of the first things you want to notice when forming a new story about yourself and your life, is that you have many memories of your past, but you consistently pick a small handful, usually the ones with the greatest emotional impact, to use consistently to “tell your story” about what happened to you and what your life was like. You could just as easily let go of those and pick a whole new set that you use to tell stories out of (to yourself and others) that would completely change the way you feel and who you become. You can also take the same major events of your life, realize how you interpreted them at the time you were going through them to create how you experienced them, and decide from a perspective of hindsight and what they served to teach you through the realizations you obtained because of them, and (re)perceive them from a new, more mature perspective, and retell your story about them in a way that makes you feel different, and become different by way of them as a result. As you form a new perspective, you imagine it as a reality that created a different type of experience, the type you want as the means of developing yourself in that way. As you create a new experience of it, and you get it just the way you like it, you play it over and over in your mind from within the experience of it. By playing it repeatedly, in vivid sensory terms of being in the experience of it, you establish it as a new memory and pattern that forms the basis for telling a new type of story. Instead of being scared or freaked out, you can be courageous, brave, confident, or surprised and filled with anticipation as a form of excitement. Instead of hurt and feeling betrayed, you can see it clearly, read all the signs of what was going on, and realize that as it happened it had nothing to do with you, and so you remain unaffected by it.

Because we’re the ones that are always creating our experiences of the events of our life, we form our memories also. Our memories become the established patterns as fully interpreted realities that provide us with instant patterns in the present to create more of the same type of experiences through similar events. As we create our experiences that become our memories, we simultaneously create ourselves by way of those experiences. All of our perception and resulting behaviors are produced in a natural and automatic way from memory. Our memories are shaped by the primary patterns of our life as our “theme” or “life’s story” that we’re always acting out and creating in some manner in every area of our life. To change a pattern as a memory, is to either transform an existing memory into a new experience, or create a new memory that you’ll use in place of the old memory that provides a pattern for the subconscious mind to act out naturally and use to produce more realities and experiences of the same nature.

To create a new (virtual) memory, start by selecting a scenario or behavior in your current life that you’d like to change. Form a very clear idea of what you’d like to change it to. How would you like to experience it or behave instead? As you go over the course of events, reflecting on how it went, what your interaction was, how you felt, and what you did, form a clear idea on how you would have liked it to have gone instead, and how you would respond or interact through hindsight. Reform it in your mind accordingly, until it plays out the way you want it to. If changing a behavior and not the overall pattern as a dynamic, leave everything the same (the emotion, meaning, trigger, etc.), and simply “choose” how you would have liked to have behaved, and play that out instead as a new response to the same stimulus. Once you have it the way you want as a general flow, replay it in your mind until it’s consistent. Once it’s consistent as a pattern that can be replayed in the imagination, begin enhancing it with sensory attributes and qualities. Make it vivid, in full color, and up close (immediate). Then shape it further by asking:

  • What are you seeing (picture in detail)
  • What are you hearing?
  • What are you touching or feeling? (objects or textures)
  • Smelling and tasting?
  • How are you feeling? (internally)
  • What are you telling yourself about it (internal dialogue)?
  • Feel it as an emotional experience – as if it’s actually happening.

Play it over several times as an actual experience that’s just the way you want it, until you can recall it automatically. What references a memory in the present is whatever feeling and emotion is connected to it. In order to use it to replace another memory, associate the same feeling and emotions to it. So that anytime you’re in a situation feeling that way, it triggers that memory and you see it as a pattern for creating the same type of experience and reality in the present one.

If you’re creating a brand new type of experience that you want to create, focus heavily on the feeling it gives you, and realize that brand new experiences may not come in the same way you imagine as a specific situation or set of circumstances, but it’ll produce the same type of feeling. You won’t be able to recognize it by what it looks like, but rather by how you feel when in it, having it. The appearance it takes on will be based on what’s available in your immediate, everyday environment that’s of the same nature and will naturally lend itself to co-creating the same type of experience. The reality it comes by way of will however be of the same theme, dynamic, and over-all pattern.

The other thing you have to keep in mind is that you can’t inflict your will on others. If you’re not of the same will, nature, and destiny, the reality you produce that includes them will never manifest. You can’t require specific people to be a part of your memory/reality, and it can’t be an attempt to change someone else, it can only require you to change by directing your own perception and behavior. If other people are involved, they have to be archetypes only, or a representation of a “type of person” who would act naturally to create that type of experience. So “who” actually participates in co-creating the experience, and the set of circumstances it takes place in, might be quite different than you imagined, yet it’ll be the same “type” of experience.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Integrative Mind-Body Health Consultant and Spiritual Mentor

Evolution of the Mind, Body and Spirit – Changing the Way we look at our Physical and Spiritual Nature

One of the problems we have in understanding our spiritual-energetic nature is we try to view it through the same model as our physical nature. Yet even how we tend to look at our physical nature is largely incorrect because we’ve been conditioned to a firm mindset based almost exclusively on material sciences which is usually only working with a fraction of the information involved, excluding the larger part of our physical make-up which is comprised of invisible fields and forces that are constantly operating within our physical apparatus. While we’ve been taught that our genes and physical make-up is “fixed” and permanent, and we are left at the mercy of whatever our genetic ancestry has given us, we now know scientifically, that this isn’t true.

Only 2% of our entire genetic composition goes into building the proteins that make up our body giving it the physical characteristics and general condition it exists in, while the other 98% (give or take) appears to be a memory processing biocomputer of sorts that’s being constantly programmed by our mind through our perception. As we perceive the world around us, and we process that information by interpreting it to give it meaning, and we build it into a story as a thematic reality that our mind is designed to tell, we simultaneously program the subconscious mind and DNA of the body with those same perceptions, and it acts to produce the material equivalent, both as our body and our outer reality. Everything around us in the material world of Nature is comprised of the same DNA and subconscious mind, both of which are “passive and receptive” in nature, and act as a receiver and transducer for various forms of information that it uses to reform the material body.

Just as the inner is always resonating and absorbing information from the outer and integrating it to become “like” the outer environment of which it’s a fundamental part and must function and survive in, the mind is always “in-forming the body” which serves as a vehicle and house for the mind within the material realm. There’s a constant morphing and transformation going on between parallel and inter-meshed dimensions as a natural means of adaptation that modifies and equalizes as a necessary evolutionary process that allows one aspect to exist and interact within another aspect. In order to exist, function, and operate within one plane or sphere, we have to “become the same” as that plane as a “mental condition” and energetic state.

Likewise, the mind, which constructs the body as its physical equivalent, exists as a field of information that’s in a constant state of transformation through resonance, sympathetic induction, and coherence. It’s constantly being formed, unformed, and reformed by the information it resonates with all around it, that it naturally acts to absorb, integrate and metabolize, shifting and morphing its structure as a paradigm to be able to see and create in new ways. Our mind naturally takes in and becomes one with whatever consciousness it exists within near proximity of that’s of the same nature (kind) as it is (what it naturally resonates with). Whatever is “like us” we act to naturally unite with and become “like” by taking on and acquiring whatever unique characteristics it possesses that are of the same nature, which means we can easily and naturally act as a vehicle or means for expressing it.

The spirit, which exists more as a life-force energy that “activates” and provides the power or energy, so to speak, for producing biological processes as regeneration, growth, and development into fully functioning systems, never actually takes on a form of any kind in the basic sense, but acts more as a fluid-like electricity that temporarily takes on shape of the form it serves to produce by coupling with matter, forming the energetic matrix as a form of lattice that helps structure and hold it together through tension (electromagnetic field), and fuels it’s operation as life giving biological processes. When the spirit leaves the body, it’s no longer “held together” and consciously operated, and so it “dies” and begins disintegrating and decomposing.

The soul acts as a medium that’s comprised of both spirit and essence, and uses the lower mind as a vehicle, just as the mind uses the body for a vehicle. The soul is the essence that spirit couples with to produce a material form out of the memory of itself that’s self-produced through the vehicle of the lower (subconscious) mind and the body (DNA). It operates and is formed by the same evolutionary process of adaptation and modification that’s comes from becoming one with different aspects of itself (frequency, type, and nature) to form a new whole. We only grow and evolve into something else through acquiring diverse qualities that enhance and develop our character in some way that changes our experience of ourselves, providing the soul with new forms of memory that modifies how it creates itself. By acquiring new kinds of experiences that act to “re-inform it”, the soul’s frequency is altered and the pattern as a paradigm inherent within that frequency, and how it naturally acts to structure all aspects of its material existence are altered simultaneously.

All of life that exists in the phenomenal world is created by combinations as coupling between various levels and degrees of the energetic and material world. Each level of complexity is achieved through added layers of consciousness that bestow it with higher and more diverse capacities that act to increase the complexity of its existence. All of the lower world of physical Nature has a soul, mind, and body or physical form. The soul is the accumulated and coherent memory of the kind, type, or species of which it’s a part of, that acts through the subconscious of the collective unconscious to configure the DNA accordingly to produce the etheric hologram (phantom) used as the blueprint for cellular regeneration, specialization, and spatial orientation (mapping) to produce the form as the bio-system of its memory. DNA is like the hardware and the soul the software that determines what operations are performed and conducted by the hardware. The soul, like the mind, is triune in nature as a Higher Soul, collective soul, and individual soul, all of which are produced by the higher aspect coupling with the lower and producing that same aspect on a lower plane as the process of descending from a higher plane of pure energy and unity into a lower plane of division and being located within a greater reality, all of which are various aspects of itself used to produce the reality it exists “within” (fields nested within greater fields) or by expression of the memory its composed of that come through experiences of its own making.

We are constantly in the process of forming and reforming based on what we resonate with, and absorb and become one with in everything around us. Our body, which is the product of our mind, is in a constant state of regenerating itself. While our basic appearance and characteristics may not change much outside of maturing and aging, our internal nature as our character (soul) has the ability to change quite drastically based on what we blend with and bring into expression somehow through and “as” us. Yet, at the same time, because all growth and evolution is based on resonance with the same thing all around us, and the fact that we only grow in an intentional manner through awareness and using our own mind through directed attention, choice, and will, evolution that takes place in a completely unconscious and natural way, can be quite slow, and we can easily digress instead of progressing. It’s only when the higher faculties of the soul and mind are skillfully employed that we grow in a deliberate and substantial manner. If our higher capacities are not awakened within us, and we live with no real awareness of our true ability to self-create in an intentional manner, we simply live out of our conditioning like animals through “trained behavior” born out of a conditioned mindset, and we continue to blend with, readily take on and become one with, and bring into expression more of the same character, ideas, and experiences, reinforcing and strengthening existing memory instead of transforming and evolving it.

When we remain primarily unconscious and a part of the collective unconscious of humanity produced by our identification with our “animal body” that’s designed to function and operate in a completely automatic fashion through instinct and conditioning, and we never become practiced in developing our ability to think and reason for ourselves, and “decide” who and how we’re going to be, then employ those qualities to create our experiences of ourselves, acquiring the memory of those experiences in an accumulative and integrative fashion, reprogramming and reconditioning ourselves by way of our own hand, we become lost in the illusion born out of an unconscious state.

       As humans we are both divine and animal. We have a higher nature and a lower nature, bridged and brought together as one by the medium of our individual soul, which contains the memory of both. Our divine nature exists as higher capacities of the mind that can directly influence and direct the reality produced by the lower mind, which exists in a primarily unconscious state that lacks the awareness and ability to self-create. In our lower state we are a product of our conditioning, and are trained to perceptions and behaviors by others who use their will to feed us suggestions. The lower mind of the material world is passive and receptive in nature and readily takes in the suggestions as ideas that form the thoughts and mental impressions of others, and uses them to generate more thoughts of the same nature, programming itself by way of those thoughts.

As we think, we imagine, and build whole realities out of our thoughts. These thoughts tune us to the vibration of those thoughts which has a self-organizing mechanism inherent in it that produces the material equivalent as a pattern or dynamic structure. This material structure produced by the thoughts of the mind, equally programs “all” DNA and the subconscious, not only in the body as the channel for the thoughts to express, but also of the environment surrounding us, which is also a product of the subconscious mind as part of the collective unconscious that governs all of life and Nature, within which we exist as an inherent part. All of our experiences of what we perceive as an outer reality are produced by our subconscious mind, which works by passively taking in whatever thoughts and ideas are active around it. It only acts as a receptor of the will, which are thoughts and ideas being projected and transmitted all around it, or in the ideal situation, by its “own will” as the conscious mind which acts as the gatekeeper of the lower mind and decides what’s allowed to impregnate it, and grow into a reality as a result, and what’s not.

The will is the higher capacity of the mind that can direct the attention of the lower mind, and give it commands as seeded ideas that it wants to grow and produce, first internally through the imagination, then externally through our perception of it around us and our activities based on it. We can alter the content of our mind by deliberately choosing how we “re-inform it”. By intentionally giving it certain types of thought, we work “on ourselves” to recreate ourselves. By choosing what we expose ourselves to in terms of outer ideas being played out around us, what situations and activities we willingly participate in and associate with, what people we maintain relationships with of various sorts, and begin instead to remain fully conscious of how we’re creating ourselves through unconscious absorption and programming.

When we remain fully awake and aware in even the most ordinary parts of our life, and actively choose what we “let in” and allow to take hold by continuing to think about it, and what we act to censor, edit, and keep out of our subconscious mind, we begin creating ourselves in a deliberate and powerful way. We step fully into our only “true responsibility” with a fully awake and aware mind. We begin the process of creating ourselves exactly as we want to be, instead of just “ending up” the way we are due to our conditioning where we were created and established by others through a predominately unconscious state and a complete lack of self-awareness.

Once we wake up within our own life and become fully aware, we begin realizing that in every moment we’re deciding what to let in, take on and become a part of, and create ourselves to be “like” as a result. We realize that even when we’re in relationships and situations that we need to be in in order to live, that we still maintain the ability to choose what we allow to affect us, and what we don’t. We can choose what we focus on, give our attention to, and think about, and what we don’t. When we walk away and leave a situation we can choose not to take it with us and continue thinking about it. We can bring a new awareness to our relationships and realize how they’re acting to develop us based on the character traits and dynamics being consistently demonstrated and acted out, and we can make new decisions based on the clarity that this brings as to whether or not to maintain them or let them go. We can decide with a new level of awareness what new types of relationships we form with new types of people, only choosing ones that we admire and respect and want to become more like. Ones that actively demonstrate desirable qualities and character that we’d like to develop in ourselves by way of the interaction it provides.

By realizing that we grow, develop, and evolve through whatever we naturally absorb, merge with, and blend together with energetically, we become more responsible and proactive in our own life. By realizing that our subconscious mind acts in a natural, non-willful way to absorb whatever ideas are being played out around it that it’s exposed to and exists within near proximity of, we can learn to only place ourselves intentionally in desirable situations, and actively act as the gatekeeper to filter what we consciously choose to let in or keep out. We can learn to utilize the power of our own will to intentionally program ourselves with the ideas we want to experience as a way of developing ourselves by way of those experiences. We can become aware of why we’re the way we are and employ the means to change our mind and our lives in whatever way we want to.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Integrative Mind-Body Medicine Consultant and Spiritual Mentor

Vibration, Mental Projection, and Creating New Versions of Reality

The Vibratory Frequency of the Mind exists as a Paradigm that Shapes our Experience of Reality

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The state of mind that we exist in as a form of mood, determines our attitude, perspective, and the emotional theme we use as a filtering system in forming our fundamental perceptions, experiences, and behaviors. Our mood as a quality of consciousness, which we act the channel for, is our vibratory frequency, and is what “organizes” everything outside of us to match the theme being played out internally through our imagined thoughts. Whatever state we’re in determines what we focus on and give our attention to, what memories we access and run through our mind as a means of interpreting the present to mean the same thing as the past, conforming it to our theme, and how we act and behave as a result. Our state-of-mind as our vibratory frequency has a self-organizing mechanism inherent in it that aligns the entire mind-body system to express in a consistent and congruent fashion. How we’re feeling produces how we’re being and what we’re doing.

Our mood “is” our vibratory frequency or quality of consciousness that’s constantly being projected and transmitted out into the space around us, and interacting with that same quality of consciousness in everything else by resonating with it. Our mood or emotional state emanates from within, influencing others around us with the same type of feeling. At the same time, we’re drawing more of the same vibration or feeling energy back to us, absorbing it, being nourished and strengthened by it, multiplying and increasing it, while acquiring and accumulating it. Our vibratory frequency as our state-of-mind is the entire energy field that surrounds, envelops, and operates through our body. We literally “look through” our mind as a mental lens or filtering system, and notice in others and the environment only what’s of the same nature (quality), and can be readily used to create the reality of that mood, which makes it “provable” by appearing to be factual and objective. Because we only see and experience the reality of our mood, which validates, strengthens, and supports it as being “real”, we don’t realize that we’re actually creating it with our mind, and that we can change our experience of reality by simply changing our mind.

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Our mind is an electromagnetic field which surrounds and expands several feet from our body, while transmitting its frequency and acting to stimulate the same frequency in everyone and everything around us, bringing out and making active the equivalent qualities in them through our influence, and they begin cooperatively participating in playing out the same “type” of reality as a behavioral dynamic that expresses the same feeling state. As we perceive through our mental filters, we project or superimpose our mind as a pattern of qualities or “thematic model” onto others (look through it), and see in them the same thing that’s in us. Not necessarily in the same position or role in a “joint theme”, but as the complementary role necessary to play out the shared theme as a relationship (dynamic interaction). Projection, as what we “see in others” that causes a reaction of some sort in us in relation to them, is identifying the complementary opposite of the same dynamic which can be acted out together to create a joint experience of the same nature. What we think about somebody else, and react to, is the same quality we ourselves possess, which is why we’re having a reaction or feel a strong emotional response to them. Our behavior towards others is the perfect stimulus for bringing out in them what we believe is there to bring out.

Our mental and emotional projections are stimulating at the invisible, subtle level, and are being received and felt by everyone around us all the time. Matter, as the organic substance of life that acts as a receptor for consciousness and is structured into a material bodies that represent the qualities of consciousness inhabiting it, at the molecular level, interacts with the mind (our own and others) and reformulates the appearance matter takes on accordingly. This is readily demonstrated in the “placebo effect” which works solely off the power of belief and our ability to direct and manipulate the biological world to produce the reality or effect of our belief. This is further demonstrated in what’s called “double blind tests” in which both people involved (doctor and patient) believe the same thing (that the placebo works), which increases its effectiveness. This is because the disbelief of one person (say, the administering doctor) is demonstrated and communicated through their subtle behaviors in stating what the placebo will do (is not convincing), and produces a subtle effect on the unconscious mind of the other person, introducing doubt, and thereby alters the overall outcome. Whenever an experience is being conducted involving the mind, it’s important that all people involved in the process are of an open mind or share the same belief, because at the invisible, energetic level of the mind, they will have a direct effect on the overall outcome.

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What we believe, and therefore perceive about others reveals to us what dynamic we’re programmed with as a vibratory frequency. It shows us what type of relationships we are prone to, and always acting at the subconscious level to attract and co-create. As children we’re imprinted with a dynamic as a behavioral theme. This imprinting is produced and seated through intense emotional interactions and events of some sort that have a strong impact on us. Because it’s a dynamic we “live within”, we’re trained to naturally perceive and play a role in the same dynamic. We form numerous responses to the behaviors being demonstrated by others, and because we form the same perceptions through the mental paradigm that forms because of the interaction, we naturally produce the behaviors that stimulate the pattern itself through the memory we acquire because of our experiences, and live within (act out) that same thematic pattern in all areas and relationships of our life in one way or another.

The family dynamic we’re trained to, even though as children we play only one distinct role (from the perspective of the child) in that dynamic, as we become the adult, we naturally take on begin relating to the adult position in that same pattern and continue acting it out by being able to play any role in it. What role we play depends on what role our co-star takes on in the same pattern. We can readily move back and forth between the passive role and the dominating role of the same idea. We’re always initiating it and reacting to it at the same time. We only enter into relationships with those who have similar imprinting and can participate in co-creating the same feeling experience as an ongoing relationship, expressed through a variety of situations and life circumstances. So even though the elements and people may change as circumstances, the “same idea” is being acted out in a new environment with new players as a slight modification.

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When we say that the mind “creates reality”, we don’t mean literally by producing something out of thin air, but rather that the mind can take any situation or circumstances, and through a sorting process of only abstracting and reorganizing certain aspects of it, makes it “appear” different. Our mind through our perceptual lens reinterprets a neutral reality of vast potential, into a possible variation as a personal creation. Everybody who’s apart of the same event as an objective reality, will view and experience it in a different and unique fashion from everybody else. No two people will experience it in the same way. Some people’s experience will be considerably different (of a completely different frequency), some will be kind of similar (in close range), and others will be along the same lines (of a similar vibration).

We rearrange the elements and qualities in any situation, by noticing some, and not noticing others, changing the active components, then interpreting the selected elements through a story we tell ourselves about it that creates how we experience it. So even though we all share the same neutral and objective outer reality, how we experience it by creating our own personalized version of that reality, is our minds natural creative ability. As we change our mind, how things appear to us changes accordingly. As we learn and incorporate new knowledge through an experience of some form, we alter our minds structure as a mental paradigm, and it changes how we see and experience everything else based on how the integration restructures our mind’s “patterning” as a shift in vibration. We only change our vibration by changing our mind, which changes how we see the world around us and how we experience it as a result.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

 

 

Understanding your Sexual, Life-Force Energy and how to use it Creatively

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Unfortunately, the most magical part of our mind-body system has been ruthlessly slaughtered with unclean and raunchy ideas that impose a form of moral conflict and endless confusion around how to use them to significantly enhance our creativity and improve the quality of our existence, while stirring a deep fire within us required to ignite the internal combustion necessary to clean our system out and keep it running in a constant state of equilibrium and emotional harmony. Like so many things, the ideas and activities we associate to “states of being”, determine how we present them to ourselves, and how we create our experience of them when we engage in them in a completely spontaneous and natural way. In no other idea is this truer than when freely exploring our sexual nature. Not that this energy is actually “sexual” in nature, but in the sense that we can engage in it without having sex or masturbating, even though it’s the main ingredient for those activities also.

 
What we refer to as our Life-Force Energy that animates our body in the most ordinary sense, is also our sexual energy in the fact that it arises out of the sexual and grounding organs of the body, and has a distinct arousing, pleasurable feeling that alters our state of mind, releases tension and inhibitions, and taps into our wild, free, and expressive nature. It has an expanding, inflating, and quickening feeling fueled by beautiful and erotic sensations that drive us to a state of ecstasy and bliss. This is the energy of the spirit that moves in the body, activating it, stimulating and awakening it, that’s used to work directly with all the other energy centers of the body to bring them into balance by “blowing out” blocks, dissolving tension and energetic congestion. In order to work with the energy of the body, you have to use energy in it’s polarized state.

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This is the same energy that’s referred to as the kundalini or serpent energy, which can be intentionally used by drawing it up to activate the other energy centers of the body through the nervous system of the spine in order to unite it with the higher energy centers of the third-eye, or imagination, to produce an incredibly enhanced and heightened form of creativity. When this arousing sensation that expands, quickens, and forms intense pleasure is united with thought and inner vision, we connect to our higher self through an altered state that’s very dynamic and expressive. We turn the body into a creative vessel for the spirit, which is ultimately mental and creative in nature.

 
Like all energies and natural forces, the Life-Force energy exist in a dual state of masculine and feminine, passive and active, and work together in a complementary fashion by rendering the body (feminine) passive, so the active energy (masculine) can move into and through it with no resistance, as a unified, graceful, and excited gesture. And of course, the reverse can also be true, where the body can become the active force that renders the mental force passive, and acts to control the soul’s will for the pursuit of purely physical pleasures. Our physical passions of lust can control our will as thoughts and desire, and the spirit can become the servant of the body’s primal instincts and be used instead to engage in promiscuous sexual behaviors and erotic fantasizing. The very energetic system that creates the artistic genius and god, can also create the twisted pervert and evil, regulated and determined by the soul employing it, and whether or not it’s being used intentionally and with purpose, or unconsciously through compulsive tendencies.

 
This same energy, which ignites matter and the Astral Light of the imagination, if not directed and used properly, can cause overwhelming anxiety and drive people mad (literally). This is largely due to the fact that it’s experienced as an intense emotion that rapidly expands giving us a feeling of being overwhelm while trying to hold it in our body, and the feeling that we’re going to explode, which is the arousing, growth nature of this energy that expands matter to create active life forms. This active, animated, expanding quality is what grows cells by regenerating and multiplying them, and animates the dormant information contained in a seed, stimulating it to grow and develop into a living form.

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When activated in our body it has a rushing, building up, and exploding with intense pleasure sensation that’s also experienced as an orgasm. It’s the same principle of love that operates as the sexual union of the masculine with the feminine, force with form, which fuses them together through a state of erotic intensity and insurmountable ecstasy that drives them out of their mind with intense pleasure, achieved only through their union. At the moment of an orgasm, we lose all sense of ourselves as being separate from our lover and what’s “lighting us up”, and go temporarily insane with sheer pleasure that we can’t contain within us, and so we have to let it go, and allow it to move through us by surrendering control and letting it have its way with us. We give ourselves to it. By freeing it to move through us, we free ourselves from all the trapped energy we’ve held in our bodies. It literally blows our mind, clearing our head, while relaxing our heart. We remove all blocked energy as psychological tension that acted as an inhibition to our own freedom. The more we move and release, the better we feel. We become completely present and intimate with it inside of us, and we enter into it with complete abandon, and relish in its erotic movement that delight and enliven every cell in our body.

 
In much the same way, this energy can be used to heal the body by producing the pressure necessary to remove blocks and congestion caused by tension and emotional suppression. Whatever emotion (energy) we hold in and don’t allow to freely move through us by expressing it, creates tension in our body as the means of holding it back, and creates blocked energy that forms psychological problems as the internalization of the suppressed emotion. From a purely psychological perspective, all our “issues” stem from denial or suppression of strong emotions, that we form imaginary realities around that are a form of delusion. In this way, negative emotions that are experienced as pain are married to our thoughts, and we develop complexes where our thoughts deliver more of the same pain. We act on ourselves to produce our own suffering. Whatever emotion becomes associated to a thought as a way of trying to hold it inside by trying to express it internally instead of externally, creates a energetic block in our body which inhibits our ability to express freely, robs us of vitality by depleting our energy supply, reduces our ability to experience pleasure, and eventually manifests as a physical malady.

 
By igniting our Life-Force energy, and drawing it up, into, and through us, uniting it with our thoughts and imaginings, acts to grow those thoughts through the pleasurable quality that demands expression as a sense of enthusiasm and excitement. It produces passionate thinking that inspires a sense of wonder and awe. It creates a feeling of fascination and magic around what was previously ordinary things. Our thinking becomes the vehicle for expressing the feeling which increases and reproduces it. The thoughts that come from a feeling of bliss and ecstasy, render ordinary things beautiful, and give us more of the same feeling when we think about them. When we allow positive and euphoric energy to exist in us and animate our thoughts with the same quality, we become a channel for the outward expression of that feeling, and we stimulate the same feeling through how we express it in others. This energy creates a feeling of inner joy, happiness, and exuberance. Notice that when you feel really good, you want to sing and dance, yell and play. It makes you active and expressive. You want to move the feeling that’s swelling inside of you outside of you.

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This creative Life-Force that’s sexually arousing is the foundation of all creative genius. This quality of consciousness brings ideas to life within the imagination. It’s through this life giving excitable energy that ideas come alive in us, and begin growing and evolving into numerous variations and possibilities through a kind of dynamic unfolding process. We can hold an idea in our mind, concentrate our attention on it, and it’ll become animated, and begin growing, expanding, and joyously “becoming” on its own. This is the way we “receive” ideas from out of the ether as knowledge that didn’t come from memory, but rather unfolds, revealing itself to us, while we act as the passive receptor for it to show itself to us. When we are actively thinking on our own, we render the spiritual force passive, and we only “see” in an idea more of what we already know through the memory we’ve built around it. We can’t grow or “invent” knowledge, but simply run through a repetition of what’s already been done. By becoming passive, stilling our thoughts and releasing our attachments and beliefs around an idea, and simply choosing the idea to focus on while allowing the active force to come alive in us and begin animating the idea itself, we “receive” knowledge by witnessing it as it unfolds before us in our imagination, and we have the experience of being “given” knowledge or ideas instead of producing them. This is the very foundation and secret of all creativity and invention. They’re ideas that “come to us” out of nowhere, initiated by an intense focus and a desire to know about them. This desire to know is a form of curiosity and innocence, where we draw ideas into us with a sense of anticipation and discovery, and we simply observe them as they come alive in us.

 
Self expression as emotion (energy), thought (form), and activity are the key to health, happiness, and creativity. By intentionally stirring this energy in us through a desire for it, and mentally drawing it up into us, allowing it to fill, animate, and “run us”, we remove all energetic blocks, emotional tension, and psychological complexes by flushing them out while in an excited state. We surrender to it, give ourselves fully to it without any resistance and through a joyful cooperation allow it to dance us, move us, think us, and “be” us. In doing this, we enter into proper relationship with spirit through our body as the Divine marriage, consecrated only through love and sexual ecstasy as the energy that fuses them together in a state of eternal joy where they move as one. We use our body in a passive state to become the channel for spirit to express in a state of pure joy and uncontained excitement that’s innocent and spontaneous. Movement that’s natural, immediate, and fluent. An expression that’s graceful, passionate, and eloquently alive, whose touch makes our heart skip a beat and leaves us reaching for more!

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

 

Evolutionary Relationships & Sacred Sexuality

Transformational Coaching

Spiritual Sciences

Mind / Body Integration

 

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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Transforming Systems – “Troubleshooting and Strategically Implementing Solutions”

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One of the problems people have in walking into (or being the one who haphazardly built it) a business as an operational system, is the we’ve been hopelessly trained to the left-brain function which neatly separates a whole ecological system into singular parts, then studies and analyzes the function of each part in an attempt to figure out “where the problem exists”, then isolate it, and either correct or replace it. Doctors can tend to be really prone to this approach because they’ve often been taught to practice medicine in much the same way. However, this hardly ever works, and often doesn’t even produce a temporary relief of the imagined problem, because the system, which has been trained to behave as a whole, simply recreates the same problem with a new employee by training them to the same behaviors.

 
If instead, we employ our right-brain ability to view everything in a holistic fashion as a living system that has numerous processes inherent within it that involve multiple people playing roles in a dynamic interaction that’s consistently producing an effect, we can recognize what process needs to be redeveloped because it’s not designed properly, or provide new methods and training processes that will enhance people’s ability to perform their part in a more proficient and congruent manner. Instead of looking at individuals, we need to look at processes and methods being employed, teams producing those processes, and departments within a larger process, and the entire nature and behaviors being displayed within that team who’s performing a dynamic process in an effort to produce a congruent and specific outcome.

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Change has to be introduced at the right place in a whole process in order to serve to transform how the process performs. If diagnosed incorrectly, replacing or retraining the person deemed to be the problem; the system will simply shape the new person back into the same pattern and reproduce the same basic problem. You have to be able to accurately determine what part in the process is causing the dysfunction and correct it as a whole process; meaning change introduced at one point in an existing system will have a ripple effect as a synchronization of how it acts to systematically modify all other aspects of the same process. Problems are hardly ever the result of one person (unless they’re the owner or boss), but nearly always the result of the relationships that exist between multiple people who interact as apart of a whole dynamic.

 
Likewise, when hiring new team members, you need to look at and take into consideration the team they will be apart of, what role they will play within that team, and what personality or natural tendencies will be best suited to enhance the performance of the whole team. Technical skills required for the job they usually bring to the table just through the job description or professional degree as the basic knowledge needed to perform the job, your job then becomes to pick the right personality that will fit into the team while providing them with the training necessary to perform at required standards, while giving them feedback from the very beginning that will serve to form the proper habits and rituals necessary to function proficiently right from the get go. Many put people through a standard training program that’s of poor quality, and let them go for a month or two (30-90 day probation period), allowing them to be poorly trained, then when problems naturally occur, get caught up in a form of ‘damage control’ by trying to figure out what the problems are, without ever identifying that the acquisition and training process being used “is” the problem.

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In other cases, I’ve seen people engage in endless turn-over at the lower ranks of the business, while incurring the same type of problem over and over, that eventually forms into a belief (you can’t find good employees), without ever recognizing that the problem is actually in the higher ranks, and is more of a trickle down effect, which is why they consistently recreate the same problems. The beliefs and paradigms of key people directly involved in the creation and maintenance of a business, act to consistently create and recreate the same type of realities by how they influence them through their daily interaction. They are also the ones who design, decide on, or willingly employ the processes and protocol that determine the daily operations from a developmental point of view, often without having the knowledge required to realize they have an inappropriate system because they adopted it from an “expert” or are using a conventional model for their profession laid out for them as a standardized method for operations. Yet any process employed in a specific situation with a specific group of people has to be customized to that situation in order to be truly creative. What works for one group of people in one situation may not work at all for another group in a similar situation. Cookie-cutter processes, taught in the same way across the board and delivered in a manual style, while they may provide a fundamental template to use as a guideline for redesigning and structuring a business model, are often meaningless, and even somewhat detrimental to individual Entrepreneurs running small businesses or Private Practices.

 
The business model is designed to act as a paradigm for the business as a separate entity that serves to consistently create the reality of that business, just like our individual paradigms determine what and how we create as individuals within our own lives. So the business model has to be an offspring of the model psychologically employed by the owner and key people within the organization in order for them to be able to naturally work in a way that consistently creates the same type of idea on a larger scale through the business. The business acts as the pathway for delivery of the service being offered by the professionals within that business. If the models between the business entity and the individual clash or serve to contradict each other, the personal model of the individual will always win out, because it comes naturally to the individual in charge of creating the essence of the business itself through daily activity. It’s the overall process or methods being employed in any given situation that should be examined as a whole when any part of the system isn’t functioning properly. Otherwise there’s a tendency to simply use the same process to recreate the same problem using a new personality.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Innovative Management Services

Professional Development

Transformational Coaching

 

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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Conscious Programming – “The Art of Self-Creation”

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The conscious mind has the ability to program the subconscious mind, yet we have to first realize that they actually speak (work by) different languages. The conscious mind is abstract and thinks in terms of verbal language as words that lack behavior as actualizing, whereas the subconscious mind is experiential and emotional in nature and speaks in terms of pictures and sensory images as life-like realities that mimic actual memories. The conscious mind programs the subconscious (body awareness) through the imagination as an inner vision that transforms an abstract idea into a conceptualized reality. The imagination as the mind’s eye takes a basic idea, and through the process of applying it to a specific situation or set of circumstances, reinterprets it by personalizing it. We imagine it “as if” we were actually experiencing it as a real life situation. This creates the idea as a living pattern equivalent to a memory, which the subconscious uses to produce behavior that “acts out” the same scenario as a real life experience.

 
By imagining the desired idea as a reality, we not only create a pattern for application, but also create it as a believable possibility that we simultaneously identify with through the enactment. This creates the desired reality as an inner reality that the subconscious superimposes on the outer reality, organizing and reinterpreting it accordingly. The mind constructs realities by how it composes ideas to give them meaning. The meaning we give an idea determines how we experience it. Meaning shapes experience. It takes the imagined reality as an actual experience, which integrates and incorporates it through an accumulative effect that modifies the current paradigm as a system of beliefs based on memory (living realities) as a unification of the physical with the spiritual that provides a new template for generating thematic realities as analogous correspondences. It creates experiences that are of the same nature as a form of theme.

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We take an abstract idea as a universal theme, and create an inner reality as a template that produces a frequency that’s used to magnetize and organize the outer reality as being of a similar nature. It won’t be exactly the same as the inner imagining, because it can only use elements in the immediate environment that are of the same frequency and therefore lend themselves to telling the same type of story. The outer experience will be of the same nature and basic idea of the imagined reality based on what’s available in the immediate environment that can be used to orchestrate the experience as a congruent theme.

 
Ideas, as feeling experiences, represent a vibratory frequency that attracts what is of the same nature and therefore has the same inherent tendencies that can be used to express the same idea as a joint reality. Whatever is of a different frequency, likewise, is simultaneously repelled. We only “see” ourselves (what matches our paradigm) in others and our environment, even though many other possibilities coexist within the same space and time. What is of the same nature as us we not only notice and give attention to (it stands out), we simultaneously allow to enter into us (energetic sympathy), stimulating an inner reaction (resonance) to it as a result. This is what we refer to as chemistry that produces a natural interaction based on an affinity of sorts.

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When we allow ideas to readily and willingly be introduced into our mind, and take hold by thinking about them, we are allowing ourselves to be “programmed” by others or an external source. We then become subject to it because it acts to “tune us” to the same vibratory frequency as a joint reality that we create inward using our own mind. We allow ourselves to be determined – created – by outside forces. This is the result of the subconscious and passive aspect of the mind as our animalistic (body) nature that can be readily trained and domesticated by outside influences that we align with and allow to control us. We are influenced by another mind that imposes a direct influence on us, dominates by introducing an active force as an idea that’s willingly accepted by our passive and receptive mind, that controls us by absorbing and commanding our will.

 
When we give our will to the service of another by conforming to them, they act to control us and determine our behavior, which also shapes our identity accordingly. We enter into a sympathetic relationship with them, and through suggestion that acts to modify and manipulate our inner reality, we respond to them in a very predictable way. They train us to behave in a certain way by how they interact with us. Through the emotional quality of their communication, which acts as the hook for seating ideas in the imagination, allowing them to take hold long enough to develop them into personal realities by thinking about them in a compulsive manner. They “give us” emotional thoughts that are theirs, and we adopt them and then act to develop them as our own. This forms the basis of what we refer to as the “group mind” which is ultimately a form of subliminal mind entrainment designed to train people to certain types of behavior that they mistaken for their own.

 
Once we understand how we use our mind to self-create by creating internal realities that become the living patterns for outer realities of the same nature, we can withdraw our mental and emotional power from the group mind, and use our imagination to self-create in unique and individual ways instead. We can program our own mind and body by creating inner experiences of our desired reality, then enhancing them with sensory details, while infusing them with very positive emotions that magnetize them by making them compelling. Positive attracts and grows, negative repels and diminishes. To “become” by growing ourselves, is achieved through positive and active means, while allowing our negative, self-sabotaging aspects to fall away and subside, because we no longer keep them alive in our imagination. Fill your mind constantly with what you desire to experience and how you want to feel as a result. Sense yourself in very desirable ways that will shape your identity accordingly and will form your character as the means of bringing ideas into physical form as experiences that are self-perpetuated and performed by you!

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Transformational Coaching

Personal Transformation

Health and Well-Being

 

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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Internal Dialogue – “Natural Form of Self-hypnosis”

Scorpio_KayagaMany people believe that self-hypnosis is a technique or process that has to be studied and learned in order to be proficiently practiced. Yet, in reality, we are always engaged in self-hypnosis as the most fundamental behavior of the mind that we naturally engage in without realizing it. All operations of the mind are not foreign ideas that have to be sought after and learned in order to be able to do, but rather simply becoming fully aware of how we use our mind in an ordinary and ongoing manner.

We are constantly engaged in a form of thinking as internal dialogue that’s always telling us stories about people and things, wondering about something, describing something, explaining things, and creating an internal reality out of feeling emotions. All of this is the most basic and natural way that we act to program ourselves by use of our own mind-body system. The foundation of hypnosis is a relaxed and therefore receptive state (no resistance or challenging (your own) ideas), while being given suggestions as dialogue that you simultaneously picture in your mind as a image or object, scenario, or living reality as the conceptualization of what you’re telling yourself. This is the most natural way the conscious (thinking – talking) mind gives directives as commands or imaginary prompts to the subconscious (feeling – experiential) mind, which turns them into realities that appear real and create an internal experience of the thoughts, which become a form of virtual substitute memory that acts like a template for creating outer experiences that match the internal ones.

The conscious mind programs the subconscious mind by giving it instructions for what type of idea to make into a reality. The reality is a self-creation that not only provides a memory-template for the subconscious mind (which operates through memory) to create instant realities of the same nature, but also acts to hone our vibratory frequency to that reality, while simultaneously revealing our vibratory frequency as an expression, while also “asking” for more of the same thing.

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Our internal dialogue as our most basic form of self-expression is also the most primary form of prayer that ‘asks’ for a certain type of experience through the universal language of sensory enhanced imagery formed in our imagination by us. We shape our own reality by how we use our imagination to first create it as on ongoing thematic story-line internally, tuning our vibration to that state-of-mind, which then acts as a mental filter or lens for restructuring our external reality to be ideal for telling the same type of story. We only ‘see’ and use the elements necessary for creating a story by how we interpret other people’s behaviors, situations or events. We reform our external reality to match our internal by how we interpret it to give it meaning. The meaning becomes the basis for the story that shapes the experience we create out of it. In any situation or event, we only notice and abstract what can be congruently used to tell the same type of story we hold as a life theme. Whatever doesn’t match or naturally lend itself to the telling of our thematic story, we don’t notice or react to.

Our subconscious mind, which is equivalent to our body-consciousness, produces behavior to act out whatever story as a reality it has been programmed with, through memory of some form. Whatever we think about that has strong feelings and emotions attached to it, which is why we keep thinking about it, while running it through our mind repeatedly and imagining it as different scenarios being played out in a variety of ways, is programming ourselves to naturally create those type of experiences as a general theme that’s congruent with our life’s story.

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We naturally engage in this process most of the time without direct awareness of what we’re actually doing. Naturally any experience that has a strong emotional impact anchors that memory in our body, making it compulsive. We tend to dwell in it, and think about it constantly throughout the day as normal random thinking and daydreaming. As we run thoughts through our mind repetitively we program ourselves to the frequency of those thoughts, not only seeing them readily and reacting to them in others and in our environment, but we also magnetize ourselves according to those thoughts (which are imprinted in our Astral (mind) field) and draw to ourselves people and situations ideal for creating more of those same type of experiences.

So the most basic form of self-mastery as self-realization and creation, is not only to master our own internal dialogue and what we focus on, think about and picture in our mind as a potential experience, but to use it intentionally and in a deliberate manner to program ourselves with positive ideas that strengthen virtuous qualities within our character that tell naturally express by telling beautiful, adventurous, and meaningful stories of your own choosing that enrich our sense of well-being and our ability to enjoy and relax into our own life. Whatever you tell yourself as an imaginary thought-process, you become. The trick to anchoring the thought is to imbue it with strong feelings and emotions that make it appealing and compelling. Feel the thought by shaping it with sensory definition (what are you seeing, hearing, feeling, telling yourself) creating it as a living experience in your mind’s eye, and begin programming yourself in a way that allows healing and a sense of empowerment within your own life. Take control of your life by consciously using your mind to self-create and become self-determined as a result.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Hypnosis and Guided Meditation

Transformational Coaching

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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Becoming Self-Aware: Spiritual Guidance is a Form of Hypnotic Suggestion

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By learning the principles of the mind involved in programming ourselves for certain types of experiences or as a form of ongoing storytelling that follows distinct themes, we can simultaneously realize that we exist in a primary state of hypnotic trance that connects us to multiple dimensions as inner and outer (parallel) and upper and lower (hierarchy). Through our self-conscious “thinking” mind, our subconscious “emotional-experiential” mind, and our higher “idea oriented” mind, when unified form holistic patterns that contain the full content of a living reality as a spontaneous unfolding that comes as a chain-of-association, where the subconscious exists as the passive and receptive medium between the other two aspects of the mind, where thoughts and ideas are readily taken in without editing or resistance and constructed into full imaginary realities.

 
What ties the upper plane to the lower is the subconscious which accepts patterns as programming from the upper plane and develops them into a form of memory as an actual (imagined) reality. Likewise, the conscious mind which is the offspring of the subconscious mind and exists (lives and dies) fully within the physical plane, also has the ability to program the subconscious mind through “thoughts” that become the basis for imagined realities that create virtual memories as templates for producing outer experiences of the same nature. The problem is it often doesn’t realize that it has this power, and so its thoughts are usually controlled instead by the subconscious mind through emotional states, and replaces what has the potential to be “original thoughts” with thoughts that are based on a series of associated memories. So while the conscious mind has the ability to create by forming original thoughts that it gives to the subconscious to create new experiences out of, instead, it tends to spend its creative ability thinking about the past and creating variations of the same type of experiences.

 
The self-conscious mind, which is the “local” mind identified with the body, birthed within this life and the conditions and circumstances of the body, is primarily held to the laws of the physical realm, and so tends to be logical, rational, and analytical, while lacking intuition. The conscious mind is also time bound (located) and spends most of its time distracted “in time” as thinking about the past, reliving memories over and over by bringing them into the present, or using the past to try and anticipate the future. The conscious mind is hardly ever present and therefore dwells in the imaginary realities of its own making that it uses in place of actual reality as a form of illusion or dreamlike state that forms a veil that conceals the true nature inherent in the “present” reality as objective, neutral, and non-personal. The conscious mind is the story-teller that reshapes objective reality into subjective experiences out of conceptualized representations that it then mistake’s for objective reality. It’s so caught up in the illusions build out of of its own memories, that it lives most of its life in a primarily unconscious, unaware, and delusional state. A true paradox, resolved only through awareness that brings self-realization of what we’re actually doing.

Even though the subconscious mind works out of memory, it exists outside of time, is always present, and perceives objective outer reality through actual emotions and sensations as a basic form of sympathetic resonance. It’s always interacting with other conscious energy in its environment, and though its programmed by memory to produce automatic behavior and regulate bodily processes in response to the information its constantly receiving from its environment, it doesn’t make up stories or think verbal, language oriented thoughts that serve to mask reality, and is always experiencing things as they actually are, instead of by way of a personalized perception (judgment) that distorts fact by telling a story about it that makes it mean something that transform it into a personal creation.

 
The subconscious is therefore never the “creator” of memory that distorts outer reality, but is “one with” the outer reality and sensing it as it really is. The subconscious forms memory out of “actual” experiences that are then utilized for practical use by recalling them in the imagination giving it a response pattern as an instant perception that produces automatic behaviors as the most appropriate response (instinct). The subconscious doesn’t know the difference between a memory created from an actual experience, and one created by imagining an experience that elicits a strong sensory-emotional response. This is because actual memory is recalled in the imagination as a means of “playing or reading” it, just as an imagined experience is played in the imagination as an actual scenario or living reality.

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Likewise, just as the conscious mind can give the subconscious a thought that it will turn into a reality as an imagined experience that converts it from a series of words into the native tongue of the subconscious as an archetype or holistic pattern that’s a universal memory, which can be introduced into the subconscious as a way of giving it a prime directive that it’ll convert into a memory which is recalled in the imagination and becomes the basis for producing a corresponding outer reality as a personal experience of that idea. The subconscious, which doesn’t think in terms of “stories” as reliving memory, and doesn’t “make up” the memory out of it’s own conditioning that it then uses to produce physical realities and regulate biological processes designed to maintain equilibrium between the inner and the outer, and the upper and the lower, is the “medium” which “receives information” as ideas and patterns, from either the conscious-thinking mind, or the higher-feeling mind as vibration that shapes light into realities by imagining them, is being programmed from outside its present state and readily produces the physical equivalent of the thoughts and ideas its given.

 
When directives come from the conscious mind as thoughts attached to intense emotions, born out of recycled memories from the past, they are often fragmented, sporadic, and incoherent. They lack consistency because they’re not based on the actual conditions and circumstances of the present, but an illusion that’s replacing them that are no longer real or alive except in the imagination. When ideas come from the higher plane of our spiritual parent, they are holistic, have all the components for producing a harmonious reality and are directly connected to larger patterns currently being played out on a greater scale as a cohesive orchestration that brings about synchronistic connections and opportunities necessary to fulfill them, creating a new pattern as a natural form of evolution. By creating experiences that grow and expand us into new experiences, we create new memories of those experiences that program and upgrade our existing mental paradigm to produce more of the same type of experiences as an outgrowth.

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Spiritual guidance, working by way of natural laws that govern the mind, work through the induction of ideas as feelings that produce strong emotional imagery as dream-like, virtual realities that act as “memory” for the subconscious, which connects to that same idea in the external environment through resonance, and directs (influences) the conscious mind which forms thoughts of the same idea, creating a unified affect. When the three minds are resonating to the same vibratory pattern for creating reality in a harmonious and coherent manner, a quickening takes place, and things can come by what feels like magical means. Things come as a spontaneous series of synchronistic coincidences that systematically unfold into a whole new experience, which comes easily because there’s no resistance counteracting it.

 
But what usually happens instead, because most people don’t understand the different aspects of their own mind or maintain an awareness of how they operate to produce their own life experiences, is spirit communicates thru feelings and mental impressions, that the conscious mind either ignores completely because it’s too caught up in its own illusion, or it resists by doubting it, arguing with it, or attempting to change it so it can keep telling the same story. If it doesn’t “fit into” our story, we change it so it does, distorting it. The subconscious mind is then caught in the conflict, one canceling out or contradicting the other, and so whatever one is more persistent or intense, wins out. Because the higher mind is not “of” the material plane and is “subtle” in nature and comes as intuitive notions or impressions around things, the conscious mind as the voice in our head usually wins out because its active on the material plane and is bound by the identity of its own creation, that determines what it can naturally align with and what it can’t. In order to tell a new story to create a new experience of ourselves requires surrender and self-sacrifice by the self-conscious mind of the identity and ego, which usually chooses to argue instead, and passionately defends its story while justifying its right to keep it. This self-made identity becomes the ego as the “false self” which creates itself purely by way of the physical realm and the story it tells itself about who it is and why.

 
The self-conscious mind, through self-realization and awareness, also has the ability to forfeit its illusion in favor of a new story that will evolve and grow it into new realities that offer brand new experiences that will transform and evolve the identity to a higher and new form of expression. But in order to accept the guidance of the Higher-self, we have to realize our story is a mere fabrication as a story we began telling ourselves in an attempt to make sense of things by making them “mean something”, that we then ultimately used as the basis for conditioning ourselves to that story. By giving up our story, we come face-to-face with our identity, and we realize that we don’t know how to tell another story. In opening ourselves to tell a new type of story we have to expose ourselves to being vulnerable and trusting that we’ll know what to do in a brand new situation, and embrace our creativity with a kind of enthusiastic anticipation of the possibilities.

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By embracing and standing in our creativity, while fully sensing the insecurity it brings as a lack of “knowing” and reassurance that everything’s going to be alright, and stepping wide-eyed into the unknown filled with a sense of anticipation, and a deep seated fear we struggle frantically to manage by containing it, we can return ourselves from a stationary redundant position of habitual routines, to one of fresh newness and intense stimulation, that courageously encounters and resolve our fears, and as a result evolving us into more and more expansive forms of growth that force us from our prison of fear by willfully transforming our limited beliefs. It’s our beliefs about ourselves that confine us to a mundane existence of struggling and suffering to desperately maintain boredom out of fear of change. Change brings growth and stimulates new qualities in us that transform us from the outside-in, and from the inside-out. The Spirit, which is pure potential as consciousness that shapes reality (astral light) out of ideas (vibratory patterns), exists in a fundamental state of creativity as an evolutionary flow that moves spontaneously from one idea into another. No resistance or containing, simply a joyful expansion into new parts of itself that it comes to know for the first time in a fleeting moment of unfolding and enfolding.

 
Spirit is always urging us to continue growing and expanding by returning our story to an evolving state of continuous growth and development. When we get stuck in redundant patterns and refuse to willingly move out of them through fear of not knowing who we are or if we’ll be okay, spirit is always gently prompting us to resolve patterns and reform into new ones. We often receive (are aware of) guidance at certain points, but are unwilling to utilize it or cling to the need to know how it will turn out before we’re willing to try, encountering first hand the very fears that limit us to those patterns that we consistently back-down to, each time, dying a little more, securing our prison wall formed of imaginary fears that only exist because of the power we give them in determining us. After denouncing creative ideas and refusing to act on them as the pathway to our destiny, we shut down communication, and resort to praying only in moments of desperation or mental anguish, and because we have become indifferent to the messages we receive as the answers that will require us to act powerfully in our own lives, we feel “no messages” are coming through, experience a form of disconnect, then imagine we’ve been abandoned by God. Usually, without ever realizing that it was us that first abandoned God and ourselves, all in the same act of choosing to ignore all the answers we don’t like, or that seem to difficult, and then resort to asking the same questions over and over, until we get an answer we want.

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Guidance, both from above and self-directed, serve to program the subconscious by giving it a pattern as a potential reality to create out of that produces our life story and how we experience the events of our life. When our Higher Consciousness introduces a suggestion as a seeded reality into the subconscious, that’s realized by the self-conscious mind, which chooses to align itself to the idea of the Higher Will, forming a cohesive harmony by using it to tell new stories about things, wrapping our identity around it, dreams come true, life appears magical, and things naturally come about of their own volition. When we receive an idea that we feel is “in us”, engrained in us as a kind of imprint, the only thing that prevents it from coming to be, or makes it seem impossible or a struggle to do, is our own resistance to it. Our resistance comes by what we tell ourselves “about” it, about what it’ll mean, or about why we can’t do it, or because it conflicts with other areas of our life that we’d have to give up in order to move forward into it, and so on. By simply examining your own thoughts around an idea, you can see how or in what way you lack congruence and act in a roundabout way to counteract or sabotage the idea, and miss the opportunity to use it as a life-creation tool that its designed for.

 

 

All guidance is a form of self-guidance (Higher self), and all problems with utilizing our own guidance for ourselves is the struggle that takes place internally in response to our own thoughts being delivered from different perspectives. The Higher Self sees and is always working with the “big picture” and overall patterns that involve long-term outcomes produced by strategic intervention that benefit everyone involved; the subconscious mind is in the present moment and seeks only self-preservation; and the self-conscious mind is looking at the future from the perspective of the past and can only see what matches it, and is unwilling to consider anything that’s outside of its present scope and identity, and fears the idea of growth as having to encounter the unknown, requiring trust, faith, and believing that where you’re being led is where you really need to go and is what will provide you with the lessons you need to systematically overcome your perceived limitations as fear, insecurity, and uncertainty, and instead embrace your true potential as internal qualities still waiting to be born and actualized by way of the proper stimulation that only comes through real life events. The conscious mind sees itself “as” the body (ego), and changing its identity is perceived as a form a death. Spirit is always acting to facilitate our growth by overcoming our imagined limitations and habituated patterns of perception. It’s always urging us to break free from our own illusions that act to imprison us in a mundane reality of overwhelming self-imposed limitations born out of forgetting “who” we actually are. It urges us to step into a fearless state of self-propelled evolution, and create ourselves anew in every moment by tuning into the intuitive impressions constantly whispering to us, and merging with them becoming the means through which they express and using them to recreate ourselves by way of them.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Transformational Coaching

Spiritual Sciences

Soul Sciences

 

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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Becoming more Conscious: Learning how to Listen to your Body

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As a society, we’ve been trained to dwell in a vast sea of distracted thoughts and engage in a random, scattered and often non-congruent form of thinking as a part of our daily communications with others. We live the greater part of our life without ever being truly present within ourselves and our immediate outer reality. We constantly look to other people’s opinions and experiences with things and adopt them as our own, often with complete trust that lacks the only form of validation there actually is, knowledge that comes to us through experience that brings self-realization. The only way we can truly know if something is “true” is through the experience of it. To have “knowledge of” something, is to be intimate with it as being the “same thing”.

 
Our body is always in the process of communicating with us and giving us a direct form of feedback. It’s always responding to the energy around us and how it feels, to what we just ate and the manner in which we ate it, and to what we’re dwelling in as the thoughts that prevent us from being self-aware, and keep us instead always residing in the detached space just outside of our body, and remain, for the most part, completely unaware of how we’re feeling. Yet our body is always in the process of interacting with the world around us in numerous ways, and is always providing us with immediate feedback, all we have to do is learn to calm our mind, focus our attention inward, and become aware of how we feel at any given moment.

 
While our body is most responsive to our own thoughts and imaginings, which actually act as a natural form of self-programming, it’s also giving us a constant form of feedback on the energy that exists in places, being radiated by the people around us, about the emotional state and underlying agenda’s of those we’re interacting with, the quality of the air we’re breathing, the food we just ate, and so on. Our body, which is synonymous with our subconscious mind, is a lot like a bio-electric antenna that’s always in the process of broadcasting, receiving, and processing information that exists all around us that we’re always interacting and exchanging energy with at the subtle level that lies just beneath our normal awareness.

 
The mind is the electromagnetic field that surrounds, envelops, and somewhat penetrates the body, shaped like a large revolving sphere of energy that pulsates in a rhythmic flow much like breathing. It unfolds and extends out into your immediate environment and forms resonance (magnetizes) with whatever is of the same vibratory frequency (within an acceptable range) or inner nature as we are, magnetizing and attaching it, then enfolding and bringing the information back into the  core of our body where it’s “sensed” and felt. The complementary aspects of the information being received that can be readily conformed to our existing model are synthesized into our overall system, altering it slightly (or sometimes drastically), shifting our frequency as an adjustment or modification, which becomes a new emanation of the slightly altered frequency. Likewise, any obsolete information is then discharged or pulsated outwards, using some to magnetize new information while discharging others, releasing it to be recycled. This constant flow and exchange is how the inner atmosphere of the body is always being adjusted to match the outer atmosphere as the most basic function of evolution.

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This same process of digestion and metabolism that the physical world is always undergoing, also governs the energetic realm of the mind that’s largely thought driven. Just as the molecules of the air we breathe becomes the molecules we use to build our body at the cellular level, which is in a constant state of regeneration. The energy as consciousness that exists all around us, is being magnetically digested and assimilated to regenerate our energetic matrix as our mental paradigm. This usually happens without our awareness because it’s subtle and gradual in nature and comes more as “feelings” that have an emotional quality to them, and when taken on, awaken those same emotions in us, creating the ideal conditions for their complementary thought-forms. Sometimes this is so subtle that we don’t readily recognize it, and at other times it’s quite pronounced and produces an emotional reaction that can be quite volatile.

 
The other reason it can seem so subtle that it goes unrecognized is because many people are consumed with the thoughts running through their mind that have nothing to do with what’s actually going on around them, and the imagined scenarios as story lines they’re always dwelling in that render them virtually unconscious to the present. While many bodily changes may be taking place in response to the energy around them, they’re so caught up in the body sensations taking place in response to their own thoughts, and so they fail to recognize them. Because of this tendency to be constantly distracted with thoughts that don’t pertain to the present, and being disconnected from our own body, much of the information our body is sending us goes ignored, until of course a state of emergency is reached and the body begins communicating in a different language, the language of physical pain, designed to get us to stop ignoring it and pay attention because a crisis is developing that could result in a life threatening event.

 
The primary difference between the two complementary aspects of the mind, the subconscious and self-conscious, is that the subconscious-body mind, doesn’t perceive “time”. It’s not distracted with imagined realities that aren’t actually real in the present moment. The subconscious is always present, always aware of what’s actually going on in its immediate environment, and making adjustments accordingly. It doesn’t create imagined realities of the past or the future that it lives out of in place of the actual present reality. The subconscious lives in the present and is “experiential” in nature, and emotionally connected to everything around it. It’s interacting with the “actual reality”, and is what produces automatic behaviors, that we do all the time without thinking about them.

 
The self-conscious mind is the verbal, language oriented, thought driven aspect of the mind that’s always distracted with its own thoughts about things that hardly ever have anything to do with the present moment. It’s the “living in your head” thing that most people do that exists “in time” (past and future), and is living an illusion in place of actual experience produced by being present. These thoughts and imaginings, usually as replaying memory, or projecting memory into the future creating a similar scenario as a prediction that forms an expectation of what’s to come, also act to provide the subconscious mind with a form of substitute reality that it perceives much like an actual reality, that programs it by providing it with a form of memory as actual information about the environment that modifies it in preparation for that reality. We are literally always in the process of programming ourselves through our imagined thoughts.

 
The imagined states we live out of as obsessive thoughts act to keep us prepared for that reality as an expectation that becomes our perceptual filter. The mind, which extends quite some distance from the body, is always gathering information from the environment and sending it back to the body, so the body can “prepare” for what’s coming. It adjusts to the perceived environment that it exists and needs to survive within. By closing down and clearing our mind of obsessive thoughts that aren’t real in the present, and turning our attention inward to our body, becoming aware of all the sensations and how we’re feeling, we can use our body as a means of measuring and interpreting everything around us in terms of how it makes us feel. We can sense whether we feel relaxed and calm, being stimulated with a distinct emotional sensation, or stirred with an inner turmoil, or have a sick and queezy feeling as an adverse reaction to something. While our body doesn’t communicate with us in words as verbal language, it does operate according to the law of analogies and correspondences, and if we concentrate on a feeling sensation in our body while in a passive mind-set, a natural mental impression will form as a reality associated to the feeling, which is a form of metaphor for understanding the nature of what’s causing the sensation. Our inner feelings are always interacting with the “inner nature” of everything else, and so reveal to us their “true” nature as their energetic constitution, regardless of what their outer appearance is like.

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When we become present in our life, form an awareness of our body and how we feel, we can use our body as a gauge or a form of navigation system. We can begin to realize what produces a “good effect” and what produces a “bad effect”, and what that’s telling us. We can realize the quality of consciousness present in different environments, in other people, in our relationships, in the air we breathe, in the food we eat and the water we drink, and so on. Our body is always giving us feedback about how things feel. All we have to do is become present in our body, form a relationship with it, sense and feel what’s happening within us, and use that information as a guide for what to do and what not to do. Our body let’s us know what to increase and have more of, and what to decrease or eliminate all together. It serves as a guide for what relationships to maintain, and which ones to let go. For what types of food to eat, and how to make health promoting, energizing dietary changes that will leave us feeling good.

 
Many of what we call illness and disease are actually direct feedback from our body about the lifestyle we’re living, in an attempt to provide us with what we need to make the changes necessary to restore our body to health, and a positive, high energy, feel-good state. For example, lactose intolerance is not something you should take a pill for so you can keep on drinking milk and eating cheese, it’s your body’s way of telling you it can’t digest it, and quit consuming it. Heart disease and hypertension is a condition caused by how you’re living, not only in dietary terms, but also your stress level and habitual emotional state that frames reality in a way that causes you to react negatively to your own thoughts about things. It’s your body’s way of saying you’re emotional thoughts and reactive behavior are destructive and will ultimately end up killing you if you don’t change it. Diabetes is calling your attention to the nature of your diet, and the state of your body in terms of being overweight, or not exercising. You’re maintaining a lifestyle and mental state that’s detrimental to your health. Again, it’s not warranting medication of some kind so you can keep on doing what you’re doing that’s killing yourself, it’s your body’s way of talking to you, providing you with evidence and feedback as direct and immediate affects, that also provide you with the information you need on how and what to change.

 
By becoming present in our body, and in our life in general, and removing our attention from unproductive emotional thoughts, and instead directing our attention to what’s going on within us and around us, we can realize what our body is prompting us to do by how we feel. When you choose a meal, choose one that you know is nutritious and will create a healthy happy body. As you eat it, think only about how healthy it is, and how you’re eating healthy because you love your body. After you’re done eating, sit quietly for a few minutes, and notice how your body feels in response to what you just gave it. Learn how to dialogue with your body through thoughts that form a strong feeling in your body. The “feeling” produced by your thoughts “is” the communication with your body, it’s an effect in the body as the equivalent of your thoughts. It’s not enough to go through the motions of saying it, you’ve got to mean it! You have to create the emotional expression of what you’re saying to yourself. Thought without feeling has no power to create.

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Likewise, when you go places, engage in activities, or are around certain people, calm your mind, become present and neutral, and notice how you’re feeling and what you’re sensing. Be present with the energy and see what emotional quality it has, and what mental impressions it naturally forms. Don’t force the interpretation or allow your normal judgmental mind to kick in and start running stuff, simply allow yourself to notice it, without needing to change it. Remain unattached to what you’re sensing. Don’t try and explain it or make it mean something, just sense it as it actually is. Then, see it for what it actually is, your body giving you immediate feedback as to the consciousness and energy of the person, people, or activity you’re engaged in. Use that neutral and unbiased information as factual and true to guide your decisions and how you interact. Don’t let your emotional mind come back in and start running your habitual mental script in the new situation, recreating it to mean the same thing.

 
By learning to relax, control our anxious thoughts always competing for our attention, and directing our attention instead into the present moment, and experiencing things by way of our body and the actual energy and consciousness that’s present with us, we can gain a whole new sense of ourselves and our relationship with life. We can become truly creative in the moment by directing our actions with full awareness and by interacting with what’s actually present with us. We can learn to see people and things as they actually are rather than as we reshape them to be like us through our biased judgments and habitual way of thinking and perceiving that creates illusions in place of reality.

 
When we walk into any situation with preconceived notions, and our perceptual lens rigidly formed by our judgments, that for the most part rob us of our ability to see others and reality as it actually is, apart from us, and unique unto itself, we simultaneously rob ourselves of the possibility for brand new experiences. By developing the ability to be present in our body and with the people and things around us, we can begin experiencing life and others in a whole new way. We can acquire the information and feedback we need to begin living our life in a much more conscious and aware fashion, and begin creating in a deliberate and precise manner as a result. We can learn how to live in our heart rather than in our head.

 
Simply begin observing your own mind, your own tendencies, and notice what you tend to think about in an automatic and habitual fashion, and what stories run through your mind that glaze over the present with memories of the past and keep you in a hopelessly distracted state, and recognize what it is that keeps you from being present . . . . and through this self-awareness, start practicing directing your mind to remain focused in the present and forming an awareness of how you’re feeling in relationship to your environment. Learn how to remain aware of your body and tuned into what you’re sensing through your body and what information your body’s always in the process of giving you. Tune out of the imagined reality and tune into the real reality. All opportunities only exist in the present moment. Tomorrow is being created today. You’re only ability to act, is in this moment.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

 

Spiritual Sciences

Personal Transformation

Transformational Coaching

LG lightAbout the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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The Transformative Power of Relationships and how to Create Healthy Ones

Of all the areas of our life that effect us the deepest and with the greatest range of possibilities, our relationships rate the highest. This is true not only in our relationships with other people, but more importantly, in our relationship with ourselves. The relationship we form with ourselves determines how we enter into relationship with everyone and everything else in our lives. The very foundation of life itself and all areas of self-creation and lifestyle are formed by how we relate to everything around us. Relationships are the greatest tools there are for transformation. When we know how to use them as tools for creating a healthy and fulfilling lifestyle, we embrace our true power and it ignites our life.

Of all the areas of our life and relationships we employ and develop, the ones that affect us the most while having the greatest transformative ability, is romantic-sexual relationships. These relationships bring us the greatest fulfillment and happiness, or the greatest stress and misery. Some start with a bang then fizzle quickly. Others build gradually, establishing the friendship aspect first that then deepens through the trust that’s established and moves naturally into much more intimate experiences. Others can start off romantic and evolve into more of a platonic, roommate situation that while the love may still be strong leaves you longing for romance, affection and sexual intimacy. Still others can come as an intense encounter of some kind that’s strange and somewhat perverted or twisted that’s also strangely gripping and magnetic . . .at least . . . for awhile.

Yet nothing serves more directly to shape us than our relationships with family and key people in our lives, whether good or bad. And at the same time, no other area of our life are we completely lacking in education and practical know-how and left virtually fending for ourselves with only the relationship modeled to us by our parents to guide us. No one actually teaches us about the nature of romantic encounters and how to have relationships outside of our friends (who are as clueless as we are) and the occasional lecture that comes usually when we’ve done something wrong or already experienced our first heartbreak.

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Most of us are simply conditioned to the relationships being demonstrated for us by our parents or extended family members, where we were also developed by interacting with that same family dynamic which set’s us up for similar types of relationships and experiences. In psychology we say, we usually become one of our parents and marry the other one. Usually by the time we’re teenagers and beginning to explore sexual relationships, we’ve already been conditioned to the primary relationship dynamic that we’ll spend the rest of our life repeating. Even when we become aware of the consistency that starts emerging, with periodic events that bring shocking insights into the nature of things or underlying emotions and agenda’s that become apparent in a way that we can no longer deny or explain away by telling ourselves a story about them that justifies them, we can still feel powerless to change them.

Every once in a while, people and situations come together that are truly meant for each other, and form real love for each other, and create a very positive influence on each other in their lives together, while having an attitude of growing together through their life experiences that they always approach as “us” and “we”. They see all of life as happening to “them” as a single-unit, and pull together and support each other through tough times, and grow in their love and respect for each other as a result. Some people are fortunate enough to have healthy relationships modeled to them by their parents, or have their parents openly and intelligently teach them about relationships and how to most appropriately conduct them.

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The biggest key for learning how to remain fully conscious (awake) in relationships, whether romantic or other wise, is to recognize your own tendencies in relationship with others, how you act “on them” to establish certain ideas and through your interaction bring out specific traits in them in response to you. Many times what we see as something they’re doing to us, is actually brought on by something we did to them that initiated a cause and effect pattern. Then, once its starts, we don’t know how to stop it or recant, and can’t seem to control our emotions which sabotage it even further. Naturally once you do or say certain things, there’s no turning back. They can’t unhear something that they’ve heard or felt. Even if forgiveness is offered, they never really forget, but simply push it to the background where it sits and festers until it starts coming up, more and more frequently as time passes until it becomes precedence. While we can say anything to someone, and think we’re doing it convincingly, we can’t hide the look in our eyes which is the window to our soul that always reveals how we’re feeling.

If we can learn to control that glazed over feeling of being ‘twitter-pated’ that takes place in the beginning as ‘love at first sight’ that marks the beginning of the “romantic phase”, and pay attention to the red-flags that begin popping up without explaining them away, and pay close attention to how we’re feeling in terms of how they stimulate us and what they bring out in us as a result, we can keep a clear idea about how the relationship is going to naturally act to develop us. Whatever mood we form when being with and around them that’s naturally created through the nature of the interaction or the feeling presence that they emanate that we’re always sensing, we can see how they’ll act to condition us to that same mind-set and attitude. People always act on each other to make the other person like them. We can’t help it. It comes from our mental and emotional paradigm that forms our behavior and how we act and treat other people. There’s always a form of persuasion and negotiation going on.

As a general rule, you should avoid any relationship that makes you feel bad in some way, brings you down by being around them, always reflects negatively on other people of situations, or stresses you out and invokes negative emotions on a routine basis. Don’t enter into and maintain relationships that bring out in you you’re worst traits. Over time these traits will become dominant and form habitual perceptions. When the red-flags come up, don’t glaze over or dismiss them, but openly acknowledge and talk about them. When weird behaviors begin coming out here and there, realize that you’re seeing something about the individual they normally hide. If you notice them but choose to ignore them, they tend to become a major issue further into the relationship, and you’ll kick yourself because you knew it was there all along. Realize that the emotional component in a relationship is the most important and will ultimately make or break the relationship.

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The most important component of any relationship, but especially of romantic-sexual-intimate relationships is trust. This forms the foundation that everything else relies on, especially the level of intimacy reached and how they respond to each other sexually. Trust must be established and maintained right from the beginning. Once trust is broken, it will never be fully established again. This is what I call a ‘fine line’ that once crossed, marks the beginning of the end. It creates a turning point in the relationship where things start noticeably changing never to be the same again. Even when forgiveness is implied, the thought and feeling never really goes away. It’s better to come clean with something you’ve done that you’re not proud of or know will upset them, rather than hide it or lie about it, only to be discovered later where it becomes lying, deceiving and betraying.

Also realize that when somebody accuses you of something that you haven’t actually done and is not in your character to do, it not only shows you what their issues are, but also what they have a tendency towards themselves. Learn how psychology works in terms of whatever it is we’re doing we assume or suspect the other person is doing as well. We project onto other people what’s actually in us (as patterns) that we’re in denial of somehow and not owning. What we “see” in others (how we interpret their behavior) that produces a strong emotional reaction in us, is showing us aspects of ourselves and what our own tendencies are that we normally remain largely unaware of. This is easy to see when you’ve not only haven’t done what they’re accusing you of, but it’s not within you to do that, and so you feel surprised or dismayed when they accuse you of it. You may even feel somewhat confused by it or realize that they don’t even actually know you. This is what lets you know that it’s “their stuff”. If however you have done it, and hid it for whatever reason, then you need to see it as “your tendency” and work with it accordingly.

Relationships have the power they do because they stimulate in us complementary aspects that aren’t normally being stimulated and called forth, and mirror back to us our own character. Romantic and intimate relationships tend to immediately bring our deepest issues right to the foreground, and we find ourselves dealing with parts of ourselves that we didn’t really know for sure we had. Nothing makes us more vulnerable or represents the greatest possibly of loss, than love. It’s either what heals us through another, or what further traumatizes us. Because we have a natural predisposition to play out all of our conditioned tendencies in our relationships that we’re not fully aware of, and so they remain active and creative in our life, by realizing this and seeing it for the healing and personal growth it truly offers, we can grow exponentially by way of our personal relationships.

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Many people live with the belief that in order to heal yourself of your own hidden aspects you have to endlessly rehash them, go over and over what happened to you that caused them through some form of therapy, but actually, this isn’t true. In fact, this type of therapy usually only acts to seat the problem deeper by reliving it and continuing to identify with it. The plain truth is all we really need to do is become fully aware of what our tendencies are without needing to justify them (what we argue to defend is ours to keep), self-reflect and gain realization around how we do it, and what tends to stimulate it, and actively choose not to do it anymore while simultaneously deciding what we’re going to do instead.

All unconscious (or semi-conscious) tendencies are patterns we’ve been conditioned with that have themes in them, usually something like: rejection, abandonment, betrayal, not being good enough, and so on. These themes form the stories we live out as if they’re real and true. They’re a form of illusion as an imagined (and often embellished) memory or handful of memories that forms our perceptual lens and reshapes what is in fact objective, neutral reality by selecting only the components that can be used to tell our story by how we combine them and interpret the behaviors others are displaying. A person whose theme is rejection for example, can interpret just about any behavior to mean they’re “being rejected”. Our perception ‘is’ an interpretation as the ‘meaning’ we give things by the story we tell about them. While we transform everyone else to fit into our story, we also tend to think others are seeing and living out of the same story as a reality that we are, when in fact, they’re doing the same thing, and have a whole different story going on than we do. Everybody’s walking around in the same outer reality which provides the elements they rearrange by way of the inner reality they’re actually living out of by how they’re creating their experience moment by moment as they go through the day.

By realizing this and intentionally taking a detached or disassociated perspective while self-reflecting, we can identify our own story as the basic idea we’re always using to interpret everything giving it the meaning it has for us. Nothing means anything until we make it mean something by the story we tell about it. All of reality as a personal experience is reformulated in our mind by how we perceive it as an interpretation. This basic psychological process forms all outer neutral realities into inner subjective realities of our own making. The mind is a reality generating machine. We are subject to our own reality as our creation, because our mental model is what created it, and we have natural behaviors we systematically employ as routine and habitual tendencies that act to stimulate and form that same reality for others by how we communicate and interact with them.

Through self-awareness and learning to recognize our own story always playing in our head and heart, and what tendencies they promote, as well as what acts to trigger them, we can not only control our reactions when being triggered, but when we start into the behaviors themselves we catch ourselves doing it, and in that moment of realization as to what we’re actually doing that we normally remain unaware of, we realize we have a choice as to what to do instead. We can choose a new response to an old stimulus and employ new behaviors that break old patterns and begin forming new ones. We can choose with full awareness what type of story we’re going to tell by how we act and how we live our lives. When we move from an unconscious habitual state into a conscious and creative state we heal ourselves through self-induced transformation.


The biggest key to cultivating healthy relationships is by recognizing your own tendencies as “issues” and complexes, and through this awareness “choose” to give up your story and your need to defend your right to have it, which keeps you identifying with it, and choose to live a new kind of story instead. Self-reflect and recognize your own character flaws or tendencies that are destructive and hurtful, and work ‘on’ your self to transform them into positive traits that are creative and health promoting. Only by correcting in yourself the issues you tend to act out in relationships will you not only be able to attract a new kind of partner (that’s living the same pattern) but also won’t be unconsciously acting in a way that stimulates that old pattern in them. It’s only by working on healing and growing ourselves that we’re able to form new and healthy relationships. If we see ourselves as innocent while putting the blame for the relationship going bad on others, then nothing changes. We keep attracting and being attracted to the same type of people who are living out the same type of story with complementary roles in the same type of behaviors. This is like doing the same thing over and over while expecting a different result.

 

When we work on ourselves and develop ourselves in new ways while letting go of the past and healing ourselves of psychological patterns, we’re no longer attracted or attractive to the same kind of people. We’re no longer stimulated by them. We don’t feel any chemistry with them or get easily drawn into their melodramas. The old triggers simply don’t affect us any more. They’re easy to walk away from and no longer create an instant engagement. Once we decide how we want to grow and what type of story we want to live, and we develop the necessary character to tell that story, we’ll start forming an attraction to different kinds of people. We’ll act to stimulate them in new ways, and they us, and a whole new reality will be birthed thru the transformation itself.

The process for beginning your healing transformation will go something like this:

 

 • Self-reflect on your own tendencies in relationships (past or present), and what issues tend to become prevalent for either one of you, what behavioral pattern formed in the relationship, and what it seemed to be about as it played out. What issues kept coming up?

• Identify your own theme that you’re always living out of that becomes played out in your relationships as a co-creation. Such as: feeling rejected or not wanted, not loved or cared for, betrayed, abused, abandoned, cheating, excessive drama, and so on.

• Recognize your own part in creating that pattern. What behaviors started taking place between you and them that formed that pattern? How are you acting to support it?

• Recognize what feelings and emotions tend to trigger undesired or destructive and damaging behaviors. What events take place that acts to first start forming the pattern? Such as: you catch them in a lie, or you lie to them, they talk to you in a condescending manner, they attack or turn on you for no reason, they openly flirt with somebody else in front of you, they start (or you) accusing you of something, they belittle you, correct you a lot, or even physically strike you or you them, you fight a lot, and so on.

• Gain realization around your own attachments to the story being played out in terms of how you identify with the meaning of your own story about things, and be willing to quit needing to tell that story. Then decide what type of story you want to tell instead with the awareness that it’s going to make you feel different about yourself, and may seem awkward or “not true” at first. You may become aware that you really don’t know how to feel different or tell a different type of story. But get clear on how you want to shape yourself through a new story and keep working at it. Conditioning comes through steady practice.

• What character traits would you need to develop in yourself in order to naturally tell the new story? How would you have to be? What traits do you currently possess that would act to prevent it and how do you need to transform them into positive and supportive traits? What emotions would you need to embody to create the right state of mind? How would you need to behave and conduct yourself? Determine what these are and again gain clarity around them while practicing them until they become natural.

• If you find yourself falling back into old behaviors, stop as soon as you realize it, withdraw from the situation before you begin creating out of it, and self-reflect on what’s happening inside of you and why. Gain realization around whatever it is you still haven’t resolved and willingly let go of it, while continuing to practice until relapses diminish.

• Make a vow to yourself that you’re going to always honor your own intuition and when red-flags come up or strange feelings, you won’t ignore them or explain them away, but penetrate and investigate them instead. Decide you’re not willing to compromise things that are important to you.

 

• Set standards for yourself and others for the relationship, and do not compromise or negotiate them away once you get into the relationship. Identify what are “deal-breakers” and if they should become apparent or start to arise, don’t stay in the relationship. It won’t be good.

• Identify what parts of yourself you want to grow and develop, and what states of mind and traits you want to strengthen and condition yourself to, and cultivate and maintain only relationships that stimulate and influence you in those ways. Let go of any relationship that’s negative, toxic, abusive, dysfunctional, or mentally and emotionally painful. Do not stay in relationships that destroy your self-esteem.

 

These basic practices may seem like a lot to do all at once, but what you’ll find is that they’re interlaced, and one will naturally lead to the next forming a whole process. The object of this process, as with any healing process, is self-awareness, and self-realization. You want to shed light on all areas of your self that are currently shadowed, areas where you’re not aware of what you’re actually doing and the reason you’re doing it that come about more through automatic behaviors that are triggered emotionally. We don’t ever have control over other people, but we have full control over ourselves. While we can’t change other people, we can always change ourselves and thereby change how they respond and interact with us. By changing ourselves to be the person we want to be we find that the relationships in our life changes accordingly.

Relationships of all kinds hold us to interactive patterns that were established in the relationship itself. When we change and grow and others don’t, the relationship tends to pull us back into the old way of being. People seldom let us transcend our past but act instead to hold us to it. You have to realize this and be prepared for it so it doesn’t catch you off guard or you fail to see it for what it really is. Relationships that don’t grow with you or naturally stimulate in you you’re new way of being and support it through the nature of the interaction will “leave your life” or simply fade into the background while new ones begin emerging with new people who share the new pattern and ways of being are established that foster your growth and act naturally to promote it through the nature of your interaction.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Transformational Coaching

Evolutionary Relationships

 

lgAbout the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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