Personal Transformation – Breaking Perceptual Patterns by Learning the Lesson they Hold for You

All of what we traditionally refer to as “karma” comes out of our mental paradigm that forms our perception of the outer world and ourselves in relationship with it (as the creator of it) as a personal creation or variation of a more Universal theme. This imagined reality as a form of “illusion” that used in place of the “actual reality” is formed out of memories that we use to create our experience of events through how we interpret them to make them mean something. The foundation out of which natural patterns arise as our perception of reality is our mental paradigm, formed by accumulated experiences that are integrated as memories, which are at once produced by us as a mental projection, and then reabsorbed to act as the means for upgrading and modifying it through new aspects of the same idea.

Patterns inherent in our mental model are projected onto new and unique situations (used to perceive them through) that have the same potential inherent in them (vibrate at the same frequency) as a potential reality, and acts to organize them into the same basic patterns as an archetypal theme or life drama. Although it’s of the same pattern as a theme being played out with new people and elements that forms a variation through the process of adaptation and natural selection that serves to modify it, and through a form of “feedback loop” as the perception of our own creation, we use it to modify our mental model by integrating the new and diversified information we acquire from it. Because of this natural process of simply repeating the same perceptions over and over, differing only by degrees and the qualities new players bring into the equation, evolution in the most basic sense, can be a very slow and gradual process where we not only play out the same dynamics throughout an entire lifetime, but often throughout several lifetimes.

These perceptual patterns produced by our own mind as an interpretation and engagement with outer elements that lend themselves to the same patterns, can be broken or dissolved when we employ spiritual knowledge and the tools it provides for practical forms of self-creation that greatly facilitate and aid our soul’s evolution causing a form of “quickening”. Once we become aware of the fact that we are the ones creating how we experience others and the outer events of our life, and that these creations are the projection of our unconscious aspects playing out in our life without our direct awareness, and we “self-reflect” while engaged in them, we can come to recognize our own tendencies as patterns that we’re repeating. These patterns are dynamics of various sorts that act to play out dramas as story-lines that have a theme(s) inherent in them. These themes play out and give expression to underlying motives that shape and motivate all of our perception as an “interpretation” that forms the story we tell ourselves about them as the means of experiencing them, and creating ourselves by way of those experiences.

While we have a tendency to think that our perceptions are objective in nature and that we perceive others and our environment the same way everyone else is, in a neutral and unbiased fashion, the fact is our perceptions are formed out of our mind and are subjective in nature. This means that we’re creating a unique version of the same idea by abstracting only certain aspects, and organizing them in a way that matches our idea about it. We’re always remaking the objective, neutral outer world in our own image and with our likeness. We’re only capable of “seeing in others” what’s in us as a matching quality and characteristic. We form all of our interpretations of them based on the criterion inherent in our mental model as memory of some form, because our mind functions out of memory to run basic programs that create our experiences of the present to be the same as the past. We can only truly “see others” to the exact same degree that we can “see ourselves” in the other. All perception is projection of the subconscious mind as the perceptual lens formed by memories which produce the “illusion” of the outer world as being separate and a part from, and therefore independent of us. Yet, in fact, the outer reality as our perception of it is our own creation as an illusion that we superimpose over and use in place of the objective reality.

How we perceive ourselves creates the image we form of ourselves that only come from aspects of ourselves that we’re somewhat aware of, and exclude all aspects that we’re in denial of, have repressed and don’t “own”, or even recognize ourselves as having because they’re purely unconscious in nature as part of our formative conditioning. So how we imagine ourselves to be in our own mind, can be very different than how we “actually are”, so when “we say we only see in others what’s in us”, we don’t know for sure what that means, because we honestly don’t see ourselves as being the same way or having the same qualities and traits of others. This basic ignorance as a lack of awareness of ourselves usually comes because we don’t realize that we’re not conditioned to or composed of individual qualities that we express in a singular fashion, but to whole dynamics as patterns that require multiple roles to play out, where each role embodies an opposite yet complementary quality.

We’re conditioned to “whole patterns” that are played out as stories based on themes. We naturally attract to people and situations that are composed of the same patterns we are, and who can play an active and complementary role in that same dynamic, and the conditions, circumstances, and situations that set the stage for it as a joint reality. We naturally enter into relationships with people and situations where the same ideas can be played out, providing us with the opportunity to realize our own part in it, and what it’s showing us about ourselves in terms of aspects of our self that are actively creating in our life at an unconscious level. We act to initiate and cooperatively participate by playing a complementary role in the same story-line, and unknowingly create all of our relationships (with others and environments) and experiences out of the natural projection of unconscious aspects that are reflected back to us through our outer awareness.

Once we realize this and take an attitude of looking at any judgment, dynamic, or relationship as showing us parts of ourselves operating without our direct awareness, we can “learn the lesson” inherent in the experience. All lessons in this case is learning something new about ourselves and why we do what we do, so that we no longer need to “project it” onto others and our environment in order to see it. Once we realize whatever it is about ourselves that the situation is serving to reflect back to us, and through the realization of it, own and embrace it, we “heal” that aspect of ourselves as an unconscious impulse, and just through the awareness of it, we perceive the ability to choose. Once we know something, we can’t not know it. Once we see something about ourselves, we become aware anytime we’re engaging in it, and again, through awareness alone, the pattern is dissolved and no longer acts to hypnotize us. Once we see the truth, which is what the lesson is, we no longer unconsciously and automatically participate in creating it. We heal that unconscious complex in ourselves by integrating both the conscious (aware) and unconscious (unaware) aspects of the same mind, unifying it as the same perspective and perception, and we no longer act to project and perceive it outside of ourselves.

In this sense all true healing, which is of the mind, comes through self-awareness and realization based on that awareness. The entire outer world is created as a combination of known and unknown aspects of ourselves. The known ones we are conscious of expressing in an intentional and deliberate manner, the unknown ones we experience as “happening to us” or as the qualities and traits of others that we have a distinct “reaction to” and naturally enter into relationship with based on that reaction. The qualities, traits, and behaviors that others possess that stand-out and produce an immediate effect in us occur through resonance. This effect as a reaction (cause and effect) comes from resonance where we’re being vibrated by the same frequency outside of us.

The inner and the outer of the same frequency exist in polarity to each other as a relationship of complementary opposites that play opposite roles in creating the same idea. We only know ourselves in relation to and contrast with others. To perceive ourselves as “good” we have to position ourselves in direct contrast to “bad”. Good is defined by how it differs from bad. Yet both exist as opposites of the same idea, separated only by degrees necessary to stimulate and call forth its complementary opposite through an active state. So in order to see ourselves as good, we naturally attract to, notice, and interact with what we perceive as “bad” in order to create an experience of ourselves as “good” in comparison by aligning with and bringing into expression (acting as a channel for) what we imagine and consider to be the opposite qualities and character traits that make us “good”.

Our “theme” as a drama that’s played out through various relationships is a story about “good and bad”, where, depending on what role the other one naturally takes on, we play the complementary role, except when we play the “opposite role”, in this scenario of being “bad”, we don’t totally realize what we’re doing while employing the same “behavior” as what we normally call bad, because we’re telling ourselves a different story about why we’re doing it that makes it “seem good”, or in defense of ourselves as actually being good. So the “reason” that justifies and explains the action changes, but the action itself is the same. Again, same behavior, different interpretation.

Whatever pattern as a life theme and emotional drama we’re conditioned with, we can and do play every role in the drama, but only some roles consciously and other roles unconsciously. We judge others in the same way we were judged, but when we’re the one doing the judging we can justify and therefore prove them to be true, and when we’re being judged in the same way that we judge others, we disown and argue against having those traits. Or, we retaliate and judge them back in the same manner they’re judging us as more of a means of “giving them back their own medicine” (like begets more of what’s like it), which again, is the “same act” being justified and validated by a different reason.

When we realize that our judgments of others as “value judgments” (where we assign qualities and characteristics to them that they’re not outwardly demonstrating as a generic interpretation that makes them into a certain type of person) is a basic form of how we “don unto others what was done unto us”, and we self-reflect on the true nature of our perception of them and how that relates to our own experiences incurred during our formative conditioning, we can come to realize how we suppressed and went into denial about having those qualities, and we developed arguments against them as a self-defense mechanism that was designed to convince even ourselves that we don’t have them (because that would mean something terrible about us).

Being rejected as a kid for not being “good enough” somehow, causes us to judge others in the same way so we can contrast ourselves against them, making ourselves seem better than them, justifying our right to reject them based on the same reason we were rejected while exonerating ourselves. Again, the act of judging and rejecting are the same, only the reason and perspective is different. While we identify first with being the child in that idea, and being the one whose innocently being judged and rejected, as we grow into adults, we continue playing out that same dynamic while identifying with and taking on the role of the adult, where we now are the one doing the judging and rejecting. Likewise, a child that grows up being abused, as an adult, becomes the abuser and abuses others in the same way they were abused. And if their abusive behavior is identified objectively and pointed out, they deny having it by justifying it due to the fact that they were abused. All of this is done, usually without realizing what’s happening, and why.

Once we gain the capacity of the mind to self-reflect and become aware of our own tendencies, and where and why we acquired them, while recognizing what’s motivating our behavior as feelings and emotions that produce urges and impulses, we can resolve them just through the awareness itself. The only thing that keeps tendencies playing out as a major life theme that produces our reality, and our experiences as that reality, is our lack of awareness to the fact that we’re the one producing them while playing a key role in the dynamic itself. By realizing that we’re the one who’s creating all of our perceptions, born out of both conscious and unconscious aspects of ourselves, we can learn how to sense and recognize the “feeling pattern” that’s playing out in things. Once we realize our own part as the creator of our experiences by way of the events of our life, which are always showing us both conscious and unconscious aspects of ourselves, and we use all of our situations to become self-aware of our own hidden aspects, we dissolve the pattern of habitual perceptions that hold us captive to an illusion of our own making, and are free to create in a fully awake and intentional manner.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Self-Awareness and Realization – All Knowledge can only be acquired through Direct Experience

To fully grasp this idea, wipe the slate clean of all preconceived ideas of good and bad, right and wrong, should or shouldn’t, and move into a space of simply observing and realizing “what is”. Be present in your experiences by giving your full attention to them while stepping outside of your conditioned mindset and beliefs, and allow whatever is naturally being stimulated to rise up fully within you without squelching, resisting, censoring, editing or corrupting it with preconceived ideas and rules about it. Simply stay present and witness it from a spacious and wide open perspective. Allow it to “reveal itself to you”, and simply see what it is. Allow all contradictory feelings and ideas about things previously held as fact to freely express, giving them your full attention while relinquishing all judgment of them.

Create spaciousness around stuff as a kind of open arena where feelings, emotions, and ideas that normally arise in any situation, or do to any stimulus or activity, are allowed to freely express and reveal to you in very clear terms what they are and what they’re about. Resist the need to try and explain or justify them, and don’t label them as something that causes you to go into denial about having them, or that creates the need to repress and shun them out of shame and guilt of some kind, or without trying to ignore them all together. And in this spacious free flow expression of what you’re feeling and experiencing that’s coming from within you due to what  you’re observing from a neutral and unbiased perspective of witnessing it from a dissociated position, fully take in what its showing you that may offer evidence that contradicts or undermines long held beliefs that caused you to repress how you really felt, and be willing to consider that your beliefs may be inaccurate and need revising with new information obtained through direct experience.

As we grow and are conditioned by our family unit, authority figures, and everyday situations of our youth, we “acquire” and take on as our own the beliefs, values, and thoughts of others. As children we don’t have the mental ability to think for ourselves and rationally evaluate information we’re being taught and programmed with for accuracy or validity, and so our mental paradigm as our formative conditioning is established from a predominately unconscious state of hypnosis. The subconscious mind is passive and receptive in nature, with no active will of its own, and simply acts to take in suggestions as seeded ideas, that it then develops into a reality in the imagination, which is fully active and well developed at this age. By making the suggested idea into a reality in our mind’s eye, which provides us with an “experience” of it that makes it seem real, we form a belief around it. Likewise, whatever family model as a dynamic we’re raised and trained to play a role in as a kind of life theme or “type of story”, we’re not only trained to the same behavioral dynamic and the emotional states that naturally produce those behaviors, but we’re also conditioned with the same values and mindset that act to drive the dynamic.

Naturally, our values and beliefs, and the life theme as a dynamic we’re programmed (trained) with, produces a consistent version of reality that gives us a limited and “specific” sense of ourselves within that reality. If this model is inherently incorrect, which nearly all are, especially in a group dynamic that requires multiple roles and people to play those roles, all with their own personal models bearing an influence, then the reality perceived and experienced out of that model is also incorrect and merely acts to validate, support, and substantiate the model producing it. An incorrect model and version of reality that’s superimposed over the outer objective reality (looked through like a lens), changing how it appears, also gives rise to constant inner turmoil and conflict because often what’s being stimulated in us and wanting to rise fully in our awareness, directly contradicts or disproves our belief about it, which undermines it, and we’re either forced to maintain the value and belief by arguing to defend it and ignoring the evidence against it (with ourselves), or use the new information to grow and evolve our values and beliefs to more accurately match our experiences. The choice is always ours and is being made both consciously and unconsciously within us all the time. Do we pose ourselves against truth that comes as direct experience in order to maintain an idea that we were given by others, or do we open our mind around it, and be willing to consider whatever comes as a result?

Many people are afraid to trust their own thoughts and feelings that naturally arise in them through certain experiences that act to contradict what they believe to be right or wrong, and good or bad, which is how our values play into the picture in a big way. While we can say there’s no such thing as right and wrong, or good and bad, except as we make it up in our minds by assigning those values to an idea, we still have a tendency to use these ideas to direct and create our experiences by way of them. This imaginary component of reality is true in the most basic sense that we’re always the one “making up” everything in our reality by assigning it values, qualities, and characteristics that conforms it to our story about things. While we know (or believe), there’s what we can call an objective and neutral reality that we all share in common, often described as the “original creation”, which sets the stage and provides the foundation for us to continue creating out of, the fact is that all reality as we’re capable of knowing it is “subjective” and “personal” in nature as a product of our own mind.

When we go into a situation with any form of preconceived ideas about it (which we always do), we tend to only “see” what we expect to see, or what matches our belief about it and can be used to form the experience of our belief about it by how we organize the elements involved, and how we interpret it through the story we tell ourselves about it that gives it meaning. Yet often, at a purely unconscious level, we’re being stimulated in a way that naturally causes other ideas as possible realities to arise in us as new possibilities that don’t seem to be a part of “us”, and therefore feel a bit foreign and often taboo. Yet these ideas are very much a part of us because they naturally arise out of our subconscious which is a part of the collective unconscious, or the level of the mind we share with everyone and everything else in the natural world of the astral plane or Earth’s atmosphere. The subconscious, having no active will of its own, which is necessary to manipulate or corrupt ideas through an agenda of some kind, is innocent in terms of only responding to and acting as a vessel for “what is” in terms of vibration and consciousness.

The subconscious is primarily emotionally driven and is always picking up impulses as mental impressions that it turns into imagined realities as thoughts. As we’re stimulated with the “feelings” involved in any activity or event, they’re drawn into the energy field of our subconscious mind and translated into thought-forms. These thoughts as imagined ideas that come as an experience are showing us the latent potential inherent in the feeling as a possible reality. Whatever we can imagine as an inner experience, we can do or make real as an outer experience of a corresponding nature. Whatever we “acquire” through the direct experience of it is “real”, and therefore “true” in terms of the possibility it offers for creating ourselves by way of that experience.

When we’re having an experience that draws up in us contradictory possibilities that go against our values and beliefs somehow, we are faced with options and the need to make decisions based on those options. When what existed previously as a firm belief or “rule of sorts” that we used as the means of deciding what we allowed to arise in us and lend ourselves to express by “becoming it” in body and mind, is uprooted by a new possibility that contradicts its “truth” and validity as the only possibility, or certainly the one we “should” allow ourselves to consider, and we can tell by how it feels as it arises in us giving us a preview of sorts, that it’s not “bad” or “wrong”, but rather a new kind of experience from a new perspective that shows us something different as a new way of being, we’re presented with a choice as to whether we step into it and try it on, or whether or not we don’t like how it feels and what it would mean about us, and so we shun and negate it by withdrawing our attention from it, returning it to a latent state.

All ideas and activities energetically contain all possibilities for creating various realities out of it as latent potential. Our mind acts to “resonate” only with certain potential within an infinite number of possibilities, activating and bringing a possibility by drawing it in and allowing it to rise up in our mind as a kind of preview of the reality inherent in it as a means for creating based on us being the channel for it. Whatever we give our attention to we channel our life-force energy into and bring it to life in the sphere of our mind, which encompasses our immediate environment. By continuing to focus on and think about it we structure it into a complete detailed reality in our mind as an energetic template (vibratory frequency) for producing the equivalent outer reality through resonance. It exists as a transparent idea of a possible reality that is imbued with an electromagnetic field (life-force) the we “look through” as a lens that changes what’s active (brought out) and passive (ignored or not noticed) in the outer environment, changing how it appears to us. While simultaneously forming a gravitational field between us and the outer elements of its fulfillment, and we naturally begin having an analogous outer experience of our inner imagining. When we withdraw our attention from a possible idea for creating, it recedes from our awareness and returns to a latent, inactive state. The only things that are “alive for us” (within us) is what we willfully direct our attention into and remain focused on for an extended period of time.

Our power to create by learning how our mind and soul operates, and learning how to use it intentionally comes by realizing the nature of our conditioning and how we act to form and build our own mental paradigm. Instead of being locked into a belief system we acquired through systematic training and accepting other people’s ideas as our own, we can realize that our paradigm is just a foundation as a starting point that we can continue to design and develop ourselves through our ability to recognize and give rise to aspects of ourselves that hold a greater truth. By embracing this new truth we’re provided with a path  as evolution that we must undertake by utilizing our creative capacities of choice and free will in skillfully creating ourselves by way of our own hand.

Once we realize the nature and power of our values and beliefs, and we return them to a fluid, mobile state of growth and development, and we stay present in all of our meaningful experiences, always honoring how we feel, and freely giving rise to the thoughts and feelings we’re naturally being stimulated with while observing them from a dissociated and objective perspective to see the actual reality they hold and imply, we can choose which ones to adopt and step into as a means of growing ourselves to a specific means, and which ones to let go and not allow to take hold. As we do this more and more and become experienced, we realize that our decisions come with much greater clarity as to who and how we become because of them, yet the results become more vague and often slippery because we often change our position and perspective in terms of how we enter into relationship with everything else, that changes, often entirely, how we look at things that we previously had a very definite and limited idea around.

As we begin honoring our personal experience as the basis for all of our decisions, we notice that it requires us to develop different aspect of our character, and changes how we reference our source of power from an external one to an internal one. It requires us to trust ourselves to know right from wrong, what will be good and beneficial for us and what won’t, what hurts and reduces us, and what enlivens and expands us, and to honor always our own experience over the experience of others. As we develop the ability to realize the reality that rises out of our experiences in a direct and intimate way as feelings that are imagined as scenarios and movies that “inform us” through the direct experience of them, and our ability to consistently make good decisions based on them, we become more secure and confident in our ability to make decisions that will foster our growth and direct our development in the way we want, and in doing so, we will come to implacably trust and believe in ourselves.

All true knowledge only comes through the direct experience of it. It’s something that’s “in us” that’s stimulated and brought to life in the imagination by that same knowledge outside of us. We never acquire knowledge from without, but only from within as the experience of it. It’s awakened in us in relationship with its outer source that’s of the same nature (sympathetic resonance). We can never know the truth of anything by accepting someone else’s experience over our own. When we deny our experience in favor of others, we live a life of delusion and give our will and creative ability over to another, becoming formed and determined by them. When our experience contradicts the experience of another, and we “trust them” to know better than we do, and we doubt and discount ours in favor of theirs, we literally sell our soul and reside in a basic and all-pervading form of darkness as self-imposed ignorance. We choose to live unconsciously (like a trained animal) and live out of an illusion instead of the truth.

To take back, and step into our God-given ability to self-create through realization, choice, and free will, is to first realize what experience we’re having in an given situation or activity, without censoring, editing, or repressing it, what’s rising in us because of it, and step into it as a possibility in order to see its true nature, then, based on the information we derive from it as the reality and experience it offers, make a decision as to whether or not to step into it further by embodying it and cooperatively participating in the experience of it. In this way we’re never required to “believe in something” in order to make it real for us, but instead we can “know it as real”. We can come to realize that we have a direct method for accessing truth, and we can have faith in our ability to know the difference. By developing confidence in ourselves and skill at discerning the truth as it exists “within us”, we begin taking full responsibility for our own creation and truly become empowered in our own life.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

The Healing Power of Witnessing – Detachment, Relinquishing Judgment, and Mirroring

As a general rule, it’s very hard for us to ever really see anybody as they truly are, because just the act of perceiving another influences and distorts what’s being observed and interpreted as a means of creating an experience of it. All perception results from the relationship as an energetic interaction between the mind doing the observing and the object being observed. The mind of the individual exists as a vibratory structure of dynamically integrated patterns that forms a mental model (paradigm) that acts as the “lens” we look through to perceive everything else around us. As we observe something, we direct our attention onto and into it, and through a process of sympathetic resonance, influence it in terms of what’s stimulated and brought out in it in response to and relationship with us. As we conceive of something we act on it to alter how it “appears” to us, and by how we “remake it” by “blending with it” mentally and forming an interpretation of it that makes it out to be “like us” (of the same nature).

Our mind as a paradigm (dynamic model) is formed by the integration of all of our life experiences that together consistently produce a congruent reality that has a theme inherent in it as a “type of story” we’re always in the process of telling ourselves about everything as a way of understanding it, and through our understanding form our experience of it. While we can’t necessarily produce or outright change material reality in the objective and actual sense, we’re always changing how it appears to us as our experience of it. Our model produces a natural set of criteria for creating consistent experiences through our beliefs, values, memories, and what we accept as being right and true based on our conditioning and what dynamic we were raised playing a natural role in. This criterion becomes the filtering system we look through as a means of instantly interpreting things through generalizations that we apply across the board, robbing everyone and everything of their individuality and uniqueness, and reshaping them instead to fit into our judgments about them.

We form beliefs around our values that become preferences that act to distort and reshape everything we observe, perceive, and interact with to factually validate our judgments as being accurate and true. Because of our minds natural ability to transform reality through the simple act of perceiving it, we don’t realize that our most fundamental reality that we believe and imagine to be objective and fact based as neutral and a part from us, is actually a form of illusion as a distorted version of our own making. Anytime we interpret something to give it meaning, or tell a story about it that makes it mean something, we’re distorting facts and assigning the same qualities, characteristics and motives to others that we ourselves possess. The same criterion as a belief system formed out of values that we use to judge others, we’re simultaneously using to judge and shape ourselves in relation to our own projections and transpositions.

When we mentally and energetically merge into and blend with others, seeing them and their experiences through our own model and interpreting them accordingly, assessing them as being wrong, misled, or incorrect, and needing to somehow retell the story of their experience in terms of how we would have handled or went about the same thing, we never see others “as they truly are”, but rather as “we are” through them. We remake them in “our image and with our likeness” as a way of forming a relationship with unconscious aspects of ourselves in them. As we judge others through our values and beliefs about them, we simultaneously create an experience of ourselves in contrast to them, or as being just like them. What we find repulsive and antagonistic in others, that causes a distinct and pronounced reaction in us, is a quality or trait that we also possess that we’re not fully aware of and have denied having somehow, repressed and failed to acknowledge, of shaped ourselves through opposition to it. We naturally “react” to the opposite and complementary quality in others that we ourselves possess, which is why we’re reacting. It stimulates us, activating and bringing out in us the quality necessary to play out a joint dynamic as a co-creation. As a general rule, we typically create ourselves in two basic ways, by becoming just like someone else, or by contrasting and becoming the opposite. But either way, they’re both roles in the same dynamic, and we require that dynamic in order to “know ourselves” and actively continue to create ourselves through a role in that dynamic.

To detach from others, from our dependency on conditions, circumstances, and relationships as the means of knowing ourselves through others, and instead of projecting onto others by judging them then reacting to our own judgments, we self-reflect and become aware of the true nature of our judgments as something that’s alive and active within us, shaping who we are in a purely unconscious manner, we can begin gaining an awareness of aspects of ourselves that we’re normally not aware of. By withholding judgment and creating a sense of being separate and detached from others, while turning inward and observing the story playing out in our mind, we can begin realizing our own conditioning and the false illusions we’ve built around ideas that prevent us from seeing them in their origins as they truly are, without the need to transpose them onto others as a means of seeing what they are. We can know the hidden content of our own subconscious mind by realizing that it forms the basis of our perception of others and the world in general in terms of what we readily see, react to, and play an active role in mentally, emotionally, and behaviorally in co-creating.

The entire outer world in terms of our “perception” of it and what we naturally see (without conscious intervention), is created by the subconscious mind, whose content is predominately unknown to us, and only comes into our awareness as feelings, emotions, or impulses towards or away from things. It comes into our awareness through the memories that are referenced and drawn up in association to outer emotional stimulus of some sort. Through the memory the outer stimulus acts to naturally invoke, we can see how it was instilled in us and continues to live within us in an attempt to be resolved through our ability to “witness it” as it plays out in a variety of ways, both internally through our imagination (where memories play out), and externally through our perception (looking through the lens of the memory) and natural participation in the dynamic it implies, while remaining detached from it. All that’s really required to heal a dynamic as a tendency that’s of an emotional origin (which all are), is the ability to view and observe it as it plays out in you from a detached, dissociated, and third person perspective. Where you don’t need to explain or justify it as a means of defending it. The awareness alone brings self-realization as becoming aware of what was previously acting out without your direct awareness, and it loses its grip on you and resolves the unconscious tendency. Once we become aware of something that we were doing in an automatic fashion, we catch ourselves as we begin doing it, and no longer feel compelled to engage.

The conscious mind, which is the self-aware aspect of the mind that’s outwardly focused, has the ability to witness in a detached and objective manner, the mental impressions being reflected in the imagination, and the material manifestation of those memories being played out as unconscious motives in a variety of ways through our everyday life. By developing the aspect of ourselves that’s a part from the body and it’s emotional states, and isn’t dependent on the body for its identity, we can clearly see the illusions of the body as conditioned emotional states that keep us faithfully acting out formative conditioning in an unconscious and automatic manner as the very foundation of our experiences wrought through our perspective and perceptions of the outer world. Through the outward perception of our inward self, we form our “sense of self” within our own self-created experiences as a conscious relationship with unconscious aspects that together form our identity.

Once we learn how to detach from the judgments and perceptions of our conditioning, and no longer merge and blend into the perceptions of others, remaking them to be like us as a result, we can act as a witness for other people as well. By relinquishing and stepping outside of all judgments (good and bad) and conditioned beliefs as a way of experiencing them, we can see them as they actually are. We can listen to their story about their experiences without needing to change it in any way or form an opinion based on it, and in doing so act as a mirror to reflect back to them the reality of their own making that’s a projection of their subconscious mind, showing them in very direct terms what’s active and playing out in them as subliminal motivations that they’re primarily unaware of. By acting as a mirror and sounding board, where they can hear their own story, often for the first time with full awareness and no distorting influence, they too can become aware of unconscious aspects, and through the realization of what previously deluded them, a natural healing takes place as an alignment between both aspects of the mind.

The witnessing faculty of the mind is the aspect of ourselves that exists outside the consciousness of the body, both the subconscious and self-conscious, that’s not directly identified with the body and dependent on the body to know itself, and therefore can “see it” (the activity of the material mind) in a clear and objective manner. It “watches” the dynamic as a tendency played out in the imagination like a memory (movie), and how it manifests in a corresponding manner as external experiences. It’s the part of us that’s divine in nature and has its existence in the eternal realm outside of time and space, and acts to aid, guide, and comfort the lower self, confined within the body and determined by its unconscious conditioning as a form of bondage. This higher aspect of the mind provides us with the true means of healing when we employ it in an intentional manner.

By relinquishing the tendency as a perceptual filter for judging others as a means of creating our experiences of ourselves through them, and remaining separate and detached, no longer needing to change how they appear to us, we can see others as they actually are, and through this same awareness, see ourselves as we actually are a part from them. Through the higher faculties of the mind to witness the unconscious creations of the lower mind, healing spontaneously occurs for both people through the same act of awareness. The true key to all healing of the soul, mind, and body, is self-awareness and the realization it brings in terms of what’s really going on in every moment as a creation of the material mind. By using our higher mind to witness our lower mind, we act on ourselves to heal ourselves. The way to overcome the laws governing the lower planes, is to rise above it and work by way of the laws governing the higher plane, which serves to “orchestrate” and organize the activity of the lower planes.

By using this same faculty to witness the creation of other people’s minds, the realization it brings allows them to heal themselves, and heals those same aspects in us, because at the level of the higher mind, not located within a body, the “soul” exists in a unified state of shared memory as a part of the “collective unconscious” or “mass consciousness” based on archetypes that form the basis for all of our personal creations out of thematic ideas. Just through our ability to truly see an aspect in another from a detached and objective state, allows us to see that same aspect in ourselves, and again, through our ability to see it without the veil of an illusion, dissolves and resolves it “in us”. It only remains intact because we’re unaware of the fact that it’s a self-created illusion of our own making. The beauty of true healing, and how you know if it’s actually healing, is that it heals both people simultaneously through the same realization born out of a common ground.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

The Dual Nature of Truth – The Relative and the Absolute

Truth, like all ideas that prevail within the material realm, is dual in nature. The entire material realm is formed by a universal (common) and personal (individual) aspect that are complementary in nature. These complementary aspects are separated from each other by degrees that that form a scale as a range of possibilities between the two that ultimately connect them. Many people believe that truth, like reality, is always absolute and objective, meaning it’s the same for everyone, and that what we call “truth” in terms of what’s true for us, is also true for everyone else. Yet nothing could be further from the truth (pun intended). Just as we have both an objective and neutral (devoid of meaning) reality, and a subjective and relative one (based on meaning) as a “personal version” of reality, we also have what we can securely call a universal and absolute truth based on Laws and Principles that govern and operate to create the material world, and we have personal truth which, in the ideal situation comes as the result of identifying and working by way of law in the practical sense, comes as the result of how we perceive things, which is what makes it “true for us”.

What’s true in the ordinary sense, is whatever we say is true and can prove or validate somehow using our mental model of the world, which is what forms our perception that we then call “true”. Truth exists on a scale of “degrees of consciousness” that serve to facilitate our evolutionary growth process from childhood to maturity. This is easy to understand when we simply self-reflect and realize that what was true, and therefore “real” for us as a part of our perception of reality at 16, may not have been at all true for us at 25. Though at 16, that truth served our growth somehow and was a natural part of our personal evolution as the understanding we formed through an integrative learning process of acquired knowledge and experiences. Personal truth exists much like a belief in the sense that we structure our reality out of it (it forms our perceptual filtering system) and so it’s constantly being validated through our experiences, because we don’t fully realize we’re creating our experiences out of our beliefs and what we deem to be true.

Universal Law is what we actually call “absolute” truth, which means it’s neutral and non-personal in nature, and operates as natural laws equally for everyone and in every situation. Truth as Universal Laws, are the very foundation for all material creation and operations, and are the same creative laws that govern the mind, which has the ability to create unique versions of reality as a personal, subjective perception, by way of those laws. So the only actual truth in any situation is the recognition of the laws operating within it, which are working equally for everyone, and are eternal and unchanging in nature. Our personal truth comes more as an evaluation of what we imagine to be facts based on the appearance and behavior of someone or something, that’s being “interpreted” by us through our mental paradigm which is what evaluates it according to perceived attributes, qualities, and meaning that we ourselves possess. Only some of which we’re actually aware of and recognize as being “of us”. As we perceive everything else we shape-shift it to match our beliefs and thoughts about it. Anything that exists outside of our paradigm, we literally can’t see, and it’s therefore not real or true for us.

Our mental paradigm, which consists primarily of beliefs, values, preferences, decisions, and memories, all compiled through how we’ve integrated our experiences up to this point, serves as a “filtering system” that forms our perceptual lens that we “look through” in order to perceive everything else. We only “see” what matches (is of the same nature) and can be explained, described,  understood in the practical sense, and validated as being true or real through our model, which is our “criteria” for judging and interpreting everything to give it meaning. We judge, evaluate, and interpret everything to be “like us”, to have the same qualities, characteristics, to play a part in the same dynamics, and be motivated by the same reasons, as the means for interpreting their behavior and actions in order understand and experience them in a way that makes sense to us. We’re always reforming everything else to be of the same nature as we are through our very perception of it. We’re only capable of seeing in other what exists first in us, because our mind is what’s doing the perceiving, and we’re literally “creating” through our perception.

To project or impose our “truth” onto someone else, claiming it to be “the truth”, and therefore an accurate observation and interpretation or opinion as also being “their truth”, is a blatant misunderstanding of the nature of their own mind. What is true for me that I readily use to guide my life and conduct, may not be true at all for someone else who has a whole different version that naturally arises and is fully supported by their paradigm as their way of looking at things. We are all the ones responsible for not only producing and formulating our own truths, but also for evolving those truths with the introduction of new information that grows and expands on them, transforming them to a higher level of understanding that’s at once a demonstration of our growth, while simultaneously facilitating it by opening our mind to be able to behold new ideas. Relative truths are more like conclusions we naturally formulate based on the information we currently have and are working with. These truths, much like scientific truth and life itself, are in a constant state of growth, expansion, and evolution based on the realization and integration of new information that upgrades our mental model.

The relative nature of truth as a personal interpretation of a perceived reality follows along the same lines as the truth behind the fact that all of what we call reality is actually “subjective” in nature. This is obvious through a basic understanding of the laws of physics as the relationship between the mind (consciousness) and matter, where the material reality is influenced by the consciousness observing and interacting with it, and changes how it “shows up” in terms of appearance and behavior to match the intention and expectation of the mind interacting with it. So every “reality” being “perceived” by the individual mind is unique to that individual as a personal creation. It’s using the same “objective and non-personal reality” as archetypal forms to reshape into a unique version of the same idea. Even if we were all quantum physicists observing what we believe to be the same reality or phenomena, the only way we would have of knowing whether or not it was real and therefore true, is if two or more people “appear” to be seeing the same thing. And even then, we can’t be 100% sure.

What we call the Universal mind or objective reality as the original creation that we’re all a part of, is archetypal in nature, which means it exists as a dynamic theme in a purely “potential state” that contains within it every possibility for creating a variation of that same theme. The basic act and art of creation that’s always going on, is that the individual mind exists “within” the universal mind, which being archetypal in nature is void of meaning, and resonates with “certain aspects” of that whole reality, which activates some aspects (the ones that are complementary) while deactivating other ones, abstracting partial information that matches its internal structure, and uses it to compose a whole reality based on partial information. Truth, like all things is based on perception which is formed out of “everything we know up to this point”, and is evolved to higher truths through the induction of new information that wasn’t previously recognizable. Once new information is obtained through our ability to perceive and conceive of it, we integrate it into our model, modifying and upgrading it to be able to perceive greater and greater forms of truth. So truth in this sense, is a living and dynamic entity. It’s not stagnate and dead.

The Universal and Absolute truth involved in this equation is based on the laws governing energy as both consciousness and matter, one of which is active and the other passive, and together they form an imagined reality that appears equivalently and simultaneously inwardly and outwardly. It’s based on vibration as a frequency or range of information that “vibrates” that same information in everything around it, activating and “bringing it out” (to the surface), while failing to stimulate other aspects which recede and aren’t a part of our awareness, that it then “organizes” into a new pattern or theme of the frequency as a specialized version of a universal idea. Through sympathetic resonance we’re only able to absorb, imagine, and comprehend what’s of the same nature as we are. Once we absorb certain aspects of a whole reality or informational field, we organize it into a pattern that makes sense to us, forming coherence as harmonious, and we see, experience, and interact with the reality of our own making, perceiving it outside of us and therefore making it real and true.

The Absolute Truth are the laws operating in the situation which have nothing to do with the outcome involved in terms of the material manifestation, but rather forms the creative process that produces the personal reality as a unique creation. These same laws of vibration as frequency that tunes us to certain aspects of a greater whole, that has a “self-organizing mechanism” inherent in it that forms elements into a thematic pattern of the frequency, reshaping it into a coherent and cohesive reality that matches and is the product of our own mind. These are the laws involved that are eternally true, because they’re the same for everyone, and are always operating in any situation as the fundamental creative capacity of the individual mind.

By understanding the ability and natural tendency of the individual to create its own truths, we will never impose our truths on them again, and instead we can come to realize the nature of their minds structure in terms of why and how something is true for them. We can gain insight into the beliefs and values and how they apply those to form their perception of right and wrong, good and bad, and truth and lies. We can come to realize what’s true for them and how they conduct themselves as a result. We can also self-reflect and gain new insight into our own “professed truths” and begin opening our mind around them, questioning their origin and validity and become more open to considering new forms of information that return us to a growth and evolutionary process of becoming more, rather than stagnating on a personal creation that we mistake for being true that limits us in some way, much like a belief does.

Whatever we proclaim to be true for us becomes a self-imposed limitation (necessary for creating it) that can often be an illusion that prevents us from seeing the very thing that reveals its illusive qualities. Whatever we say is true, outside of universal law, is really more of an assessment and conclusion that we’ve drawn based on what we know and how we’ve integrated information into our mental paradigm up to this point in time. Once we learn something new through the experience or realization of something that contradicts it, and thereby proves it to not be entirely accurate, we evolve our perception to incorporate the new information and evolve ourselves and the world around us at the same time. This is how we grow in awareness and in doing so, expand on what’s possible, and hold ourselves to greater and greater forms of truth as our souls evolution through time located within a body posed to a limited perspective within certain conditions and circumstances.

Dr. Linda Gadbois



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Humility – Dissolution of the False-Ego and Masterful Liberation of the Soul

       What has historically been called the “ego” may be more correctly referred to as the “false ego”, because the term ego is synonymous with “identity” and is used in many spiritual texts interchangeably as meaning the same thing. Our identity is formed by whatever we associate with, and how we enter into relationship with everything else as a means of creating our experiences. As we create experiences, we simultaneously sense ourselves within or “as” those experiences, and we relate and identify with them. This doesn’t mean that we “are” our experiences, but rather that we are always the one creating ourselves by way of our experiences, which we also create as the means of self-creation. While we only have a limited control over the events of our life and other people, how we “experience” those events is something we have complete control over.

        What we call our personality is an aspect of the “lower mind” that comes more as our natural way of being, regardless of what role or position we hold, and our identity arises naturally out of our personality when we go out into the world as young adults and begin naturally falling into certain roles, social or professional positions, economic classes, begin acquiring material possessions, and maintaining relationships of various sorts. Our personality is something that comes in a completely natural and unconscious way as the natural expression of our subconscious mind, whereas our identity is formed when our self-conscious mind starts coming into play at puberty, when we begin separating from our parents and exercising our will by “thinking for ourselves”, and we begin taking an active role in our own self-development.

       Our identity is not something to be killed, shed, or let go of, but rather to be used as the tool it is for evolving ourselves through our natural ability to self-create through relationships and who and what we associate with. When we form our sense of self through our body by believing that we are a body, a real basic form of mistaken identity takes place, where the soul perceives itself as the body, and thereby “bonds” itself to the mortal life of the body, which lives a short period of time, then dies. Everything of the material plane is temporary, transitional, passes away, and exists as a basic form of illusion or dreamlike state that the soul partakes in as the means of self-creation. Our perception of what we call reality, is a product of the mind which acts as a transducer that turns a vibratory frequency into a holographic (Imagined) reality as a form of virtual simulation. Our perception and experience of reality is a product of the mind as fractal patterns played out on multiple scales and magnitudes simultaneously, creating a cohesive inner and outer reality of the same nature, character, and thematic storyline.

       Vibration has an auditory and optical aspect inherent in it and propagates through space as a wave of potential that has a self-organizing mechanism inherent in it as sound or words that divide and form an electromagnetic field as a holographic image of the ideas the words represent. Words contain ideas that are imagined as forms that produce a 3-D structure of that same idea on multiple scales as greater and smaller versions all interlaced and interconnected to form a biological system that produces a consistent experience as a background and setting for an idea to be played out by a character as a thematic story. Whatever vibratory frequency we exist as serves to completely produce the reality (both inner and outer) of that idea as the means of the soul experiencing itself within its own virtual creation. When the soul “forgets” or fails to realize it’s creating its own reality as a form of self-expression produced out of accumulated memory, it begins associating itself with its own imagined experience, and becomes lost in an illusion of its own making that’s attached to a linear time-frame.

       When we build our sense of self out of material things as a form of false-ego or mistaken identity, our ego as our soul dies (has the experience of dying) with our body and the dissolution of the material world it existed within. Once the body dies, leaving the soul without an identity, the soul remains within the Earth’s astral plane that it has become “one with”, and is left to seek out another body in order to create and know itself through or as a body. The ego identification with our material existence bonds the soul to the material plane as a form of “bondage”, or being held captive in a cell (confined to a body), as a prison of its own making. While in the material world all things exist as an established or created form of some kind, whereas in the spiritual world, all things exist in an energetic state as the potential for an “idea” or archetype without form, and is what serves as the basis for creating a form as its twin or reflection.

     When we become identified with material ideas, such as our race, gender, physical appearance and looks, ethnic background, family dynamics and ancestry, economic status, possessions, positions we hold, roles we play, our self-made image, and so on, we form ourselves out of something that can be lost, taken away, laid to ruin, or used to control us. We become determined by others and our life conditions, circumstances, and situations. When this happens, everything we built our life out of and around begins falling apart, and it throws us into a state of turmoil that produces a deep sense of insecurity and foreboding fear that can diminish and devastate us at the most primary level of our being.

        Once illusions are shattered, forming a kind of major and life-transforming crisis in our life, we come out of it seeing clearly what completely eluded us before. Things and people we believed in are no longer real, and the reality we thought we knew can no longer be felt or seen, and we become a stranger in our own life, unknown even to ourselves. The pain of loss can crush and diminish us, and the feeling of disdain weakens us to a point where it seems impossible to recover.  Appetites are ravishing and relentless while we’re starving, we painfully crave all that’s past, and a deep sense of remorse sets in as we plummet into the unknown depths of despair and loneliness, sinking well beyond the point of return. We literally have the experience of dying to our own false and self-made delusion.

       In a state of sheer humiliation and moral disgrace, all power from the outside cut off and no longer available, if we are to survive, we have to begin drawing on a different source. An internal source that’s active and always alive within us. Intimately real as an all-pervading and inclusive feeling that’s never lost, diminished, or taken away, and as we detach from the illusion of our perceived material needs, peeling the outer layers away, revealing the emptiness inside, it begins growing in intensity, softly whispering words of comfort, we turn to it out of sheer desperation and begin drawing on it as our only means of sustaining ourselves through the darkness that has consumed and annihilated us.

       A new awareness of ourselves starts coming into play through the intimate embrace of a higher power that we’d lost or forgot, and we feel strangely more alive and vital than ever before. We are no longer affected by other people’s perception of us, or their opinions and behavior towards us. We no longer see or evaluate and appraise ourselves through the eyes of others, but instead sense ourselves as we really are inside. We lose interest in fame, being popular or well-liked, we have no more need to be accepted as a part of a group or supported by others, and we begin living in a much simpler and stream-line fashion. We gain a clear and immediate realization around what’s essential and what’s not, we lose our appetite for excess and waste, and we begin operating as a neutral force in any situation without the need to control or manipulate as a means of fulfilling a need as an agenda of some kind. We no longer get our identity from other people or material things. There’s no more need for illusions as a way of embellishing an imaginary self-image, and everything takes on an objective, “matter-of-fact” quality, where there’s never an emotional reaction to it. We become self-centered in who we really are as a soul, and we easily maintain clear realizations around the true nature of things, and seldom have an attitude of needing to get something by exercising control over others and situations, because we’re exercising control over ourselves instead. In what seems like a quickening as a complete shift in awareness, we become morally purified and serve as a neutral force in the world that works in any situation for the good of everyone involved.

        For this reason, higher knowledge can only be accessed and absorbed by the humble. Those without pride or arrogance, greed or envy, that won’t be tempted to use it for personal gain or power, and will instead serve as a clear and pure channel for higher powers to flow into the lower regions of consciousness and illuminate it. A state of Being where we are fully identified with our divine nature that’s universal and powerful in an all-pervading, self-contained way, drawing all its power from within, and serving to neutralize the emotional energy as the magnetic, motivating force of the material plane. It’s the realization of being in this world, but not of it. Only then does the soul reside in its true domain of complete liberation from self-inflicted pain and the moral suffering that death on the lower planes brings.

        The path of initiation begins with death of the ego which is necessary in order to birth the Higher, Universal Self within the lower, animal body, which the soul only uses as an instrument and vehicle for actively expressing and self-creating within this domain, without losing its identity by mistaking itself “as” the animal body. To be an Initiate requires self-mastery as the ability to control the elements of the material world, which only comes by not being controlled and determined by them. The Initiate has to master their own emotions, realize the habitual and impulsive tendencies of the body driven by instinct, and the habitual patterns as dynamics being played out by soul as karma of some kind, while intentionally acting on themselves in a deliberate manner to dissolve and resolve the old, while initiating and giving life to the new. To self-create in a conscious and deliberate manner is to take on a position of being the initiator or “cause” of fundamental change by reprogramming the body (subconscious mind) to be a suitable vehicle for the Higher Soul, instead of letting the body degrade the soul to the status of a beast (animal driven by instincts) by taking control of thoughts and creating reality out of emotions that produce insane and perverted delusions, bonding us to the pain and suffering in a hell of our own making.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Integrative MindBody Health Consultant and Spiritual Mentor