Spiritual Guidance – Birthing Our Higher Self within Our Lower Mind

The idea of spiritual guidance is a little bit different for everybody because it’s based on what we’ve been taught and accepted as true, what we’ve come to believe about ourselves and the nature of reality, and our own personal style which simply emerges naturally through practice. When we bring an idea into practice, we not only develop our own personal technique for doing things, but we engage in the principles governing it, and naturally move through steps or stages of development that naturally ensue as a form of growth process. These stages of development come as an active and progressive process where we tune into the invisible realm of consciousness that underlies and operates through the physical realm, that develops an intuitive awareness around things that are normally hidden or not recognized, that tend to come more as signs, symbols, messages, coincidences, and synchronicities as a chain-of-association where we begin seeing the interconnectedness that underlies surface appearances.

This stage, usually brought on by tuning into a higher form such as God, our Higher-Self, Angels, Spirit guides, Masters, and so on, operates out of a basis of perceived separation (us and them), and usually involves “asking” of some form. This starts the ball rolling, and begins developing our intuition by recognizing and sensing invisible forces of consciousness, that bleed through surface appearances and comes as a “feeling” about things that connects it to other ideas through the “nature” of the feeling, or reveals to us hidden aspects being disguised in material objects, and more significantly, in people. This stage is very inspiring and motivates us through the sense of magic that it contains. It engages us in a mystery with a sense of curiosity that brings new realizations that forms a fascination around things. This is the stage where we begin connecting to the inner nature of things as a form of soul-to-soul communication that comes as direct experience that brings a realization as recognizing and perceiving its spiritual nature.

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Through this initial stage of praying and asking that brings answers through realizations that begin exercising and developing our ability to perceive things intuitively, introduces us to a whole new realm of reality. It also begins introducing us experimentally to the idea of interlaced parallel dimensions and a hierarchy as kingdoms, which define “whole” realities that are inherent within even greater realities. It initiates the realization that at a higher level of consciousness that sees the reality that we’re within as a “whole” rather than a segmented part, can also “orchestrate” the events of our life based on the principle of choice and will, which is really a form of vibration and resonance. We begin realizing that while we may view praying as an intentional act that we take a moment, stop what we’re doing, and concentrate on an idea that we’re dealing with or want, and consciously ask for it, in reality, we’re in a constant form of prayer through our very thinking, what we talk about and tell others, and most importantly through our emotional states and the behaviors they produce that not only form our interactive quality, but are also a form of cause and effect that draw to us direct, and often immediate consequences. The Higher Powers cannot act on our life by bringing us what is not equivalent to our quality and level of consciousness, but rather acts through us, as us. This usually comes as a notion about something, an idea that pops into our head that we start thinking about, a mental impression that starts coming to us on a regular basis, or we simply start getting a feeling about something, but either way, it’s up to us to allow it to come through us, and to act on it, rather than dismissing it or blowing it off, ignoring it, or changing it by adapting it to our story about things, or we doubt it as being a fantasy or “self-generated” thought born out of wishful thinking.



This stage, like all stages of growth, plateau’s, and seems to loose its punch. This usually comes as a feeling like we go through “dry spells” where we’re no longer receiving guidance, are no longer experiencing intuitive awareness, and life seems to return to it’s mundane and ordinary status as unremarkable. Sometimes people become dependent on what they experience as “spirit guides” of some sort that are separate from them and tell them what to do, or give them guidance as a communication of some sort. When this happens, and we become fully invested in a reality of “separateness”, where we continue to perceive ourselves and “another”, we either stay in this experience and become a form of surrogate or channel for another spirit to use in order to act and create in the physical realm, or we move into a stage where though the intuitive awareness remains and has become apart of our normal experience, we feel as if we’re no longer being “guided”. This is because we’ve developed our inner abilities as our higher capacities to realize what we need to guide ourselves through more of a willingness to act on our intuition with complete faith even though we often don’t know why or what it will result in, or where it will act to ultimately lead us.

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We are given the challenge of fully accepting the spiritual realm as the true reality that’s always transparent and never lies. It can also come as a void because what it shows us requires us to move beyond our comfort zone, act in contradiction to a belief we hold, or the fact that it only comes through being present and never shows us the outcome or holds the promise of a wish fulfilled, but comes as more of a momentary realization that requires us to act on it in the moment that it comes as an automatic response, by becoming one with it in motive and action, and in doing so, the next prompt or impression comes out of the experience of moving into ideas as the systematic unfolding of a larger idea given to us one step at a time. If we realize intuitive impressions but don’t act on them or willingly penetrate them by stepping into them, they don’t continue to unfold, because of course they can’t. We don’t use them as the guidance they’re intended for, because we’re not sure of where they’re leading us or why. Sometimes we can’t tell the difference between an actual “sign” and something that we’re simply making up in our mind as a form of fantasy because we don’t know how to discern the difference. Other times we don’t like where they seem to be leading us, and so we don’t go, and then continue to ask for more guidance.

At other times the reason guidance appears to stop is because it’s evolved beyond the idea of separation from ourselves, and into the idea of birthing our Higher-Self by becoming one with it in body and mind. Just as the subconscious mind emerges out of the higher conscious, and the self-conscious mind emerges out of the subconscious mind through a birth and growth process, our higher mind (re)emerges out of our individual mind as our “self”. It emerges as an aspect of ourselves that we allow to rise in us (by inviting it in), as us, and become us in consciousness and through an altered perspective. We fully allow our spirit to be “in us”, and acting as one with us. We create our “sense of self” as our Higher Self. In order to do this we have to become aware of the different aspects of our mind and how they feel as a mode of functioning.

The experience of our Higher Self has a very mature quality to it, that’s strangely non-personal, and has a distinctly objective holistic awareness that sees us as playing a part in a larger dynamic, and directs our awareness and behavior to serve the greater good of everyone involved, rather than our own personal needs. It takes on more of a parental perspective where we see our life as a movie or story being played out where we’re NOT the main character, but simply one of the characters playing a role in a greater idea. Because of this non-personal quality that’s not working out of a personal belief-system or agenda, it moves us into a role that we don’t normally know how to play. It has a feeling of absolute knowing as intuitive awareness of whole patterns where our actions are geared towards becoming a neutral and universal force that influences the greater drama being played out by how we interact with it and the quality of consciousness as a state of mind that we employ while doing so. It has a benevolent quality, not as emotional sentiment or piety, but in terms of recognizing the karma being played out and honoring people as they are within our own life, without imposing our will on them, but rather by acting on them in a way that encourages insight as self-awareness of the consciousness they’re living out as patterns. It’s suggestive and demonstrative rather than opposing or challenging. It works through a masterful knowledge of the subconscious mind and how to introduce ideas like seeds that are willingly taken in, allowed to take hold, spawning whole thought processes as the formation of inner realities that shift their awareness, allowing them to see new things that alter and expand the patterns they’re currently acting out at the subconscious level.


We are brought to a point in our own development where we’re shown that the next step is to actively merge into and become with our Higher-Self, which is the source of our true spiritual guidance. This unity that no longer perceives it as “out there”, and therefore requiring communication as prayer and asking as a means of receiving, becomes instead about self-awareness, employing this higher level of consciousness, and experiencing it through a direct, heightened awareness of things that’s emerged in the present and never distracted or preoccupied with time as a constant engagement in imagined realities as thoughts of the past or future. In the spiritual realm time doesn’t exist as a property and our only awareness is in the present moment as a form of singularity that’s intimately connected to everything else. It doesn’t act by re-imagining the past over and over, detached from the present like our lower self which resides “in time” and lost in illusions of its own making. Our Higher Self doesn’t even necessarily “think” in terms of internal dialogue, but rather is involved in the experience of the present and our immediate environment. Its language is feeling oriented and emotional, rather than words and redundant dialoguing that consumes the imagination with fantasies rather than intuitive perceptions of the present.

Once we make this transition, and begin actively birthing and giving precedence to our Higher-Self, we no longer ask for guidance, but simply tune into it through our inner feelings about things, and we no longer allow other people’s emotions to enter into us and control us by altering our state to match them, but instead sense their emotions objectively as a form of realizing their quality of consciousness as their mental paradigm, where we can see them as they actually are, instead of blending with them by taking on their emotional charges and cooperating in acting out the drams that ensue from them. When we become immune to other people’s emotions, opinions, and projections, a whole new awareness and reality begins forming that creates a quickening as a transformation that changes forever how we perceive life and how we sense our self by way of our perceptions. We begin creating ourselves out of this higher, mature awareness, and as we identify with our own experiences, it transforms us from the inside out. Our identity is transformed through our experience of the outer world which gives us a new sense about things and our role in playing out a larger idea from a detached perspective, and we become a different person as a result. We become one with God, and become god-like. We lose our personal sense of the world and our endless struggle to find our place in things, and take on more of a non-personal, universal, and neutral position where we no longer identify with our body or personality, but form our identity as our Higher Self which resides predominately in the higher, spiritual realm. Through this process, we spiritualize our lower nature transforming it to a higher level of consciousness.


Dr. Linda Gadbois
Integrative Health Consultant and Spiritual Scientist





Our Network of Relationships Form Holding Patterns of Consciousness

“The Matrix of Relationships we Maintain keeps us in the Level of Consciousness we were in when we Established them”

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As we grow and become adults, we steadily form relationships along the way that are at once expressed patterns as an exploration of consciousness and ways of being in the world, that connect us to those patterns, often preventing us from growing beyond them. This not only strengthens and amplifies the quality of consciousness that both people share in common when the relationship is formed, but also holds us to that pattern as a level of consciousness. Because of this, once people have developed an interactive and supportive network of relationships, and they look at growing, healing, or developing themselves in new ways or to a higher degree, the relationship either acts to pull them back or hold them to the dynamic established in the relationship, or it no longer serves to naturally support and encourage the growth. For the most part, people want us to remain the way we’ve always been.

This is readily evident by anyone “changing their ways” by correcting bad behaviors, only to have their own family or friends not believe them, not trust it, and even when the old behaviors don’t naturally reoccur, they’ll act intentionally to provoke it. This is both frustrating and often confusing. People often change because they believe that’s what the people they love want, only to have it reestablished by those same people. This is because relationships are based on dynamic interactive patterns that act out a type of story or drama together. When one person changes and no longer cooperates in playing a complementary role, the relationship tends to not work anymore. They don’t know how to be in relationship with you any more. The pattern as a story the relationship was providing, now broken, the people in the relationship don’t know how to act to tell a new story together, and so they either lose interest in each other, or move on to someone who can tell the new story with them.

breaking tiesMany people actually realize this, and as a result refrain from any type of real growth because they don’t want to lose their relationships. But of course, some people have a deep compulsion towards growth and a courageous desire to heal themselves, and so choose to grow past relationships while anticipating new ones. They don’t really see an ‘option’ involved but rather a necessity. They become comfortable with change and accept it as an unavoidable part of an evolutionary flow.

This fact coupled with our society teaching us that once we’re married or establish long term relationships, that they should be “kept forever” or are a life-time agreement can send the further message that growth is not a good thing, and in many cases, even wrong or bad to do. Of course the ideal scenario is to enter into relationship with someone that we truly become one and they grow with us. Where we act to stimulate, encourage, and participate in the same type of growth. Because nothing acts to transform us like relationships, they should be seen and used intentionally for this purpose. Our true purpose as human beings is to undergo a steady and continuous form of transformation as self-development throughout our life. We’re not meant to become trained and habituated to a comfortable and mundane existence that seems content to be comfortable while passing time.

In our journey of personal transformation to become the best we can be, we need to take an attitude of only associating with those of a like mind who act naturally to stimulate our growth and bring us spontaneously into higher levels of awareness becoming more fully awake in our life. In order to use them as the tool they are, we have to gain awareness around the nature of our relationships and what effect they’re producing in us or what level of consciousness they’ll hold us to. Nothing is more important than our personal growth which simultaneously develops and evolves our soul. Our soul only grows by acquiring experience through the body which becomes memory.

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To begin participating consciously in our own growth and evolution is to become aware of our eternal self who also resides in us, and birth it within us by allowing it to take the lead and guide us into a higher form of experience that heals our insecurities and addictions, allowing us to become more of who we actually are. Anytime we stop growing, we begin dying. We waste this precious opportunity called life, and lay it to waste instead. Every human beings ultimate goal is to attain their own Nobility by developing their full potential for expression. Our ultimate goal is to develop ourselves to a high morality and virtuous state by recognizing our souls design as our true nature, and form a lifetime commitment to express our full potential. What we love and have desire for, along with our natural gifts, talents, and special abilities create our unique design providing us with everything we need to fulfill what we’re meant to do. It’s what shows us our life’s path which naturally fulfills our true destiny. But we have to choose it, and willingly participate in it’s creation as the means to self-create by way of the same actions.

Who we associate with influences us to be like them. Birds of the same feather flock together. We are ‘like’ the people we maintain ongoing relationships with. We can only create and maintain relationships with those we relate to – those of the same quality and level of consciousness. Those that we form relationship with at one stage in our life who don’t evolve with us or in the same manner, we let go of while steadily moving into new relationships that reflect our growth to a different way of being.

Marriage, in the true sense, is where two people blend in body, mind, and spirit and become ‘as one’, literally. Because they act as a single unit, they grow and evolve together through their shared life experiences. The desire of one is also the desire of the other. They share the same nature and are of the same ‘soul’. But unfortunately, that’s not what happens most of the time and marriages like any relationship have a time-frame involved as its life span. This time frame typically falls between 5 and 8 years, because humans tend to grow and evolve in 7 year increments as a general rule of thumb. Even relationships that stay together once the fires gone because of children or shared situations, usually die in the most basic sense within this time frame. The ones that truly become one and grow together through life can maintain the fire burning for as long as they both live while their love for each other steadily deepens.

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So take a close look at the relationships in your life that you participate in on a regular basis and reflect on the effect each relationship has on you, and what effect you have on them. When you interact with certain people, how does it affect or change your mood? What do you tend to talk about? How does it make you feel to be with them? What qualities and traits do they bring out in you? What type of activities do you do together? And once you get a good idea of the real nature of the relationship, simply ask yourself, do you like how it makes you feel, what it keeps you focused on, the activities you engage in, and the kind of person you become by way of the interaction itself? Set a policy with yourself that you’ll only maintain healthy and nourishing relationships that make you feel good about yourself, while letting go of unhealthy, emotionally toxic, and stressful relationships that leave you not liking yourself.


Dr. Linda Gadbois

Evolutionary Relationships

Transformational Coaching


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Sex – Why is the Topic of Sex so Taboo?


Why does the topic of sex make people so uncomfortable? We seem to have more issues, judgments and inhibitions around this area of our life than any other. Most of us have been raised with a repressed sex life. Religious icons have been presented as being pure in nature because they openly deny their sexual nature. Many have been told that sex, and even thoughts of sex, are basically sinful, and something you shouldn’t do or have. This not only creates endless inhibitions motivated by shame and guilt, but also set the premise for feeling ashamed of our bodies which is the vehicle through which we have sex, crave it, and ultimately feel satisfied by it.

Yet at the energetic level, as our primary nature, sex is our life-force energy. Our sexual energy is the energy of life itself. Sexual behavior governs all of life as we know it. Perhaps the real question is what you choose to do with your sexual energy. It is the intention which directs the behavior that defines the nature of the experience. You can certainly use it in sinful ways that breed the taboo aspects, or you can use it for the power it possesses to achieve the highest peaks of consciousness that we know of. Like all energy and natural forces that pervade all of life as the basic tools for self-expression, it all depends on how you use it. It is neutral and void of meaning until we shape and direct it with our emotional thoughts that motivate and imbue behavior with like qualities to create certain types of experiences.

Sex, in its primary state, is bioelectricity, and just as electricity exists as a neutral unconstrained force in nature – when contained, channeled and directed, it can be used to light a house, cook a meal, or cook a man – it’s the same force used in a different way, with a different intention. The intention that we embody while engaging in sex shapes its meaning and determines the nature of the experience we create as a result.

The first principle that must be employed is to not condemn it. Whatever we condemn we can’t use effectively or use as a creative force in an intentional manner. The intent for it, as well as the feelings around it become clouded and blocked, preventing its potential for higher forms of expression. The moment you condemn anything, you can’t use it – you set up a natural resistance to it – you create conflicting thoughts and emotions that serve to cancel it out, or corrupt its power by forming guilt and shame around it which are inhibiting forces. Negative emotions serve to contract, pullback, endlessly censor, and ultimately prevent.

Sex and our sexuality needs to be viewed as a perfectly natural part of life. It is through sex that extreme levels of fulfillment are possible through peak experiences. It should be viewed as a basic human need. Sex is love expressed with our whole body, our whole being. Sex when joined with meditation, changes the entire nature of the experience by concentrating it with extreme body awareness and presence. Sex without a concentrated mind, simply creates lust and bares children. Sex with meditation can birth you and your partner as whole new human beings. The sexual peak of orgasm formed the basis for meditation as an original practice by the Yogi’s who wrote erotic love poems to the Beloved (God) and coined the term “Bliss” as ecstasy. It is the most natural experience for achieving ecstatic emotion void of thoughts. It’s pure pleasure as experience.

Linda Gadbois

Relationship Coach