Learning to become an Excellent Communicator – Self-Expression as Performance

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Knowledge originated as the “Arts and Sciences” in what most see as contrary ideas that are in reality extensions of each other. Knowledge as science can be thought of as an idea in theoretical form that can only be proved through experimentation or by applying it at the practical level to create living phenomena out of it as an experience of it. The application comes as a form of communication where we become the “channel” or “vehicle” through which the idea comes into physical reality by way of us. We act in some way by applying the idea to our life, and “act it out” or “perform it”. Because our method of application and style of performing is unique to us based on our personality, “how” we do it becomes a form of self-expression, where the science applied becomes an art-form.

 
Many of you may have seen the “communication pie” that reveals the components of communication as being 7% based on the words being used, 38% being the tone or quality of your voice in terms of “how” we say it, and 55% of the communication comes through our physiology as what we’re expressing by how we’re being. Naturally, many of the experts want to take this in a literal manner and begin breaking apart a whole expression into “body-language” as categories and labels in a way that can be standardized and therefore taught in a methodical manner, yet, what this is actually showing us is that we actually communicate by expressing with our whole being. Communication is a full body transmission that simultaneously reveals the inner state of the person communicating, while also revealing their mental paradigm that forms their unique perception and interpretive style. What this shows us is that we can never really hide how we’re feeling. Our attitude forms the greater part of our communication. What we value, believe, and have a preference for shapes our communication in subtle ways that while they may not be readily recognized in our attempt to conceal them, they are still fully conveyed in our energy, which is felt by others.

 
Communication is intuitive and being done all the time through our “presence”, regardless of whether or not we’re talking. People can sense our energy as our mental atmosphere, read our emotions being reflected in our body postures, gestures, and facial expressions, as well as biological processes such as flushing of the skin, tension in the lips, dilated pupils, shakiness in our voice, and so on. We also communicate in a basic sense by how we present ourselves, through our personal grooming, style, wardrobe, jewelry, etc. We create an image of ourselves that give people an impression of “who” and “how” we are, and what kind of person we are. To take up the study of body language that turns it into a mechanical, systematized process of categorizing and labeling specific postures and gestures as meaning this or that and applied to everyone equally, is like buying a book on “dream interpretation” that gives a universal interpretation of certain objects as if they mean the same thing to everybody, when in fact, nothing could be further from the truth. The message in the communication expresses not only the idea being communicated, but also the person doing the communicating. We can tell how they feel about what they’re communicating, what their perspective is, and whether they’re being congruent in terms of what they’re communicating being contradictory to how they actually feel. Whether they’re creating an illusion and lying, or whether or not they believe what they’re saying, and saying it out of honesty. What we’re doing with our body always matches our internal state. Always.

 
This gives us the tools we need for becoming excellent communicators by becoming aware of how we’re being as we communicate. By realizing that in order to communicate effectively, we have to first form the proper state or mood out of which we communicate, knowing it’s going to be the greater part of the communication. Cultivating the proper attitude through which we communicate is critical to the message or idea being communicated. Becoming aware of how we accentuate our voice quality through our tone, speed and hesitations as a form of timing, the rhythm of talking, what and how we emphasize words, what we’re doing with our body, our facial expressions, and gestures by how we use our hands, controlling the look in our eyes, and so on.


The basic dynamic always going on as the basis for our communication, is that whatever mood or emotion we’re embodying and expressing through, we stimulate that same emotion in others, calling it forth in response to us as the “connection” or “stream of communication” as an interactive flow of energy. We connect to others and the external world through feelings and emotions. Emotions connect us to things outside of ourselves that brings what’s inside, outside, and vice verse as a correspondence. Our action stimulates an equal reaction of the same emotional quality. How we act towards others by how we’re being, determines how they act towards us in a natural response to us. This is a fundamental form of “cause and effect”.

 
So all communication is in fact a “performance” where the words being employed are only a minute part of what’s actually being conveyed. To become an excellent communicator, you need to become an excellent performer. You take an attitude of expressing ideas by “embodying them”, creating the proper mood necessary for stimulating the same feeling-mood in whomever you’re communicating with. You do this by asking yourself, what feeling is necessary for the expression of this idea within the conditions and circumstances it’s being used to create? What is the purpose of the communication, and what effect or behavior is it designed to create? What emotion will give the proper emphasis and elicit the desired response as an outcome? Based on what you’re communicating and what result or course of action it’s meant to set in motion, what state do you need to cultivate in order to become the proper channel for expressing the idea that will elicit the same state in another? What part of the person’s imagination do you want to touch on through the nature of the communication, and what seed will the communication plant as a fertile idea in their mind that they will continue to grow through the emotion connected to it that it was delivered through, long after the communication is done?

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To plant a seed as a thought to be grown in the mind of another, we match the idea with the emotion. The emotion determines in what way the idea will be developed, and what kind of reality they will create out of it as a result. When inspiring and passionate emotions are coupled with an idea, it’s developed in a very positive way as the means for expressing the emotion through the idea. When negative emotions are applied to the same idea, it’s developed in a way that expresses that emotion and serves to create more of it. Thought and emotion are always joined to create experiences as the reality of the thought. The emotion is our “direct line” into another and the formative or creative factor that shapes the idea to be an expression of it. While our thoughts may be unique to each person, and the words we use form different pictures in each persons mind as an association, emotions are universal and shared by everyone in a congruent manner. Anger produces anger, and though how it’s expressed may be different from person to person, it still acts to stimulate and create more anger. The emotional component of an idea is what we connect to in others, and the idea as a thought is simply the form the emotion takes on as a vehicle to express as a reality. Whenever we’re communicating, the emotion “is” what’s actually being communicated through how we’re expressing ourselves. Our expression stimulates that same nature and expression in another and acts to multiply it.

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By learning to view how we communicate in a new light, we can not only become more self-aware, and perhaps realize why our communications fail to produce what we want them to produce, but through the awareness alone, we can hone our style for self-expression by learning how to perform much like an actor takes on the proper state and character traits to play a role in a convincing manner. Just as when we were kids and we modeled our hero’s and those we wanted to be like by taking on the same qualities and behaviors that served to develop us in those same ways by becoming the expression of them. When we learn how to communicate by performing, we develop higher forms of self-expression and become powerful creators in our own life. We learn how to “give” people ideas that we want them to develop and act to co-create with us by forming a joint reality out of them.

 

So as you think about communicating and what it is you wish to produce by way of the communication, think about what feeling or emotion as a state-of-mind that you want to elicit in them as the fertile ground for developing the idea you’re introducing into their mind as a thought that will be developed in their imagination into an internal experience. Then intentionally cultivate and take on that emotional state before you communicate the idea. Notice just how employing the emotional state changes how you form the communication in your imagination that changes how it delivered or expressed. Then, practice communicating in a way that consciously expresses the emotion by how you’re being. By your energy, your body posturing, facial expression, the tone and quality of your voice, and the rhythm in which you speak, and what you emphasize by “how” you say it. Communication is actually an art-form that’s performed. Like any performance based art, you have to practice to develop your style and your ability to become more expressive by learning to utilize your entire being as the basis for the communication.

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To produce new behaviors takes the firm decision to do so, and commitment to a dedicated practice that’s undertaken in a devoted manner. Once we choose what we want to change and the new methods to be employed in their place, and we start by imagining our selves being that way, and doing it that way, we begin using the creative aspect of our imagination to form internal representations of an idea as a reality, that we then use for acting out to produce the same idea as an outer affect. Imagining an idea gives us the basis for practicing it. By practicing we build knowledge into our muscle where it becomes natural and automatic. We begin transforming how we’re being in the world, and how we express ourselves as a result. We learn how to truly connect to others and share ideas that simultaneously allow for emotional expression that’s healthy and productive in nature. By expanding our ability to express ourselves more fluently and eloquently, we form a new kind of confidence and enhance our experience of living by enriching the meaning things take on.

 

Practice only makes perfect when you know how to practice in the right way. Otherwise, it simply propagates a whole series of errors.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Transformational Coaching

Personal Development

Professional Development

 

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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Conscious Programming – “The Art of Self-Creation”

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The conscious mind has the ability to program the subconscious mind, yet we have to first realize that they actually speak (work by) different languages. The conscious mind is abstract and thinks in terms of verbal language as words that lack behavior as actualizing, whereas the subconscious mind is experiential and emotional in nature and speaks in terms of pictures and sensory images as life-like realities that mimic actual memories. The conscious mind programs the subconscious (body awareness) through the imagination as an inner vision that transforms an abstract idea into a conceptualized reality. The imagination as the mind’s eye takes a basic idea, and through the process of applying it to a specific situation or set of circumstances, reinterprets it by personalizing it. We imagine it “as if” we were actually experiencing it as a real life situation. This creates the idea as a living pattern equivalent to a memory, which the subconscious uses to produce behavior that “acts out” the same scenario as a real life experience.

 
By imagining the desired idea as a reality, we not only create a pattern for application, but also create it as a believable possibility that we simultaneously identify with through the enactment. This creates the desired reality as an inner reality that the subconscious superimposes on the outer reality, organizing and reinterpreting it accordingly. The mind constructs realities by how it composes ideas to give them meaning. The meaning we give an idea determines how we experience it. Meaning shapes experience. It takes the imagined reality as an actual experience, which integrates and incorporates it through an accumulative effect that modifies the current paradigm as a system of beliefs based on memory (living realities) as a unification of the physical with the spiritual that provides a new template for generating thematic realities as analogous correspondences. It creates experiences that are of the same nature as a form of theme.

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We take an abstract idea as a universal theme, and create an inner reality as a template that produces a frequency that’s used to magnetize and organize the outer reality as being of a similar nature. It won’t be exactly the same as the inner imagining, because it can only use elements in the immediate environment that are of the same frequency and therefore lend themselves to telling the same type of story. The outer experience will be of the same nature and basic idea of the imagined reality based on what’s available in the immediate environment that can be used to orchestrate the experience as a congruent theme.

 
Ideas, as feeling experiences, represent a vibratory frequency that attracts what is of the same nature and therefore has the same inherent tendencies that can be used to express the same idea as a joint reality. Whatever is of a different frequency, likewise, is simultaneously repelled. We only “see” ourselves (what matches our paradigm) in others and our environment, even though many other possibilities coexist within the same space and time. What is of the same nature as us we not only notice and give attention to (it stands out), we simultaneously allow to enter into us (energetic sympathy), stimulating an inner reaction (resonance) to it as a result. This is what we refer to as chemistry that produces a natural interaction based on an affinity of sorts.

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When we allow ideas to readily and willingly be introduced into our mind, and take hold by thinking about them, we are allowing ourselves to be “programmed” by others or an external source. We then become subject to it because it acts to “tune us” to the same vibratory frequency as a joint reality that we create inward using our own mind. We allow ourselves to be determined – created – by outside forces. This is the result of the subconscious and passive aspect of the mind as our animalistic (body) nature that can be readily trained and domesticated by outside influences that we align with and allow to control us. We are influenced by another mind that imposes a direct influence on us, dominates by introducing an active force as an idea that’s willingly accepted by our passive and receptive mind, that controls us by absorbing and commanding our will.

 
When we give our will to the service of another by conforming to them, they act to control us and determine our behavior, which also shapes our identity accordingly. We enter into a sympathetic relationship with them, and through suggestion that acts to modify and manipulate our inner reality, we respond to them in a very predictable way. They train us to behave in a certain way by how they interact with us. Through the emotional quality of their communication, which acts as the hook for seating ideas in the imagination, allowing them to take hold long enough to develop them into personal realities by thinking about them in a compulsive manner. They “give us” emotional thoughts that are theirs, and we adopt them and then act to develop them as our own. This forms the basis of what we refer to as the “group mind” which is ultimately a form of subliminal mind entrainment designed to train people to certain types of behavior that they mistaken for their own.

 
Once we understand how we use our mind to self-create by creating internal realities that become the living patterns for outer realities of the same nature, we can withdraw our mental and emotional power from the group mind, and use our imagination to self-create in unique and individual ways instead. We can program our own mind and body by creating inner experiences of our desired reality, then enhancing them with sensory details, while infusing them with very positive emotions that magnetize them by making them compelling. Positive attracts and grows, negative repels and diminishes. To “become” by growing ourselves, is achieved through positive and active means, while allowing our negative, self-sabotaging aspects to fall away and subside, because we no longer keep them alive in our imagination. Fill your mind constantly with what you desire to experience and how you want to feel as a result. Sense yourself in very desirable ways that will shape your identity accordingly and will form your character as the means of bringing ideas into physical form as experiences that are self-perpetuated and performed by you!

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Transformational Coaching

Personal Transformation

Health and Well-Being

 

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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The Nature of Personal Power – “How to Become Empowered in your own Life while Empowering others in Theirs”

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The quest for personal power takes on many faces, and can present a real dilemma for many people, most of which induce an endless compromise as a negotiation between unconscious-feeling aspects of themselves, and conscious-aware aspects. Whether or not we “own” our power and employ it as part of our personality and normal ways of doing things is not based on our conditioning in the typical sense, but rather how we respond to the events and activities of our life that establish and develop our identity. Even our conditioning and how we’re trained to certain dynamics being acted out and what role in that dynamic we take on as a part of our natural personality, develops the story we begin living out of that gives us a sense of ourselves by way of that story. We begin taking on a position early in life of either defiance, or stubbornly standing our ground when others act to intimidate or exercise power over us, or we back down, submit, become meek and emotionally weak, and allow them to control us, and thereby determine us.

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Whatever role we take on in the dynamic we’re raised with develops us according to that role, and the story we begin developing in our minds as a way of understanding the way people are, and the way life is, also comes to define us in relation to it all. The story we begin telling ourselves as a way of making sense of it all, becomes the role we take on in general, and how we come to identify with our own story about things. We develop “interactive dynamics” out of our story about things where we are either in a position of self-control and initiation, or where we’re reacting to being controlled and manipulated by others through a reactive state.

 
When we feel powerless, there are typically a couple of ways we approach it, either succumbing to it and being a victim, helpless to change while suffering because of it, or we begin the quest of “getting” power by taking it from others. Some engage in a constant process of trying to exercise control over others or a situation by being manipulative, coercive or antagonistic. They’re always trying to figure out what they need to do to get others to do what they want them to do. They design their behavior strictly according to manipulative strategies that rely on a victim mentality that will give into them. In this dynamic, the person seeking power has to hook-up with the person whose willing to give up their power, and the victim who lacks power or looks to readily give theirs away, hooks up with the villain who gladly takes it. We always form relationships with our complementary opposite and continue acting out dynamics as a form of negotiation and soul-bartering.

 
You can always tell the difference between who has power and who doesn’t by their behaviors and what attitude they’re expressing and demonstrating. These same type of dynamics are being played out in all areas of our life, through various relationships, whether they be friendships, romantic, siblings, parent-child, social, or in the workplace. Whatever idea a person is imprinted with is integrated into their psychology and becomes a dynamic part of even their most basic behaviors. It becomes a natural part of who they are and how they’re being as a fundamental part of their personality and identity that they carry with them into all of their life-situations.

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All relationships involve an interaction of consciousness as energetic dynamics formed by complementary opposites, that act on each other, stimulating in each other the opposite expression of the same trait that they share in common, that together form the interactive roles necessary to act out a dynamic as a joint reality that reinforces and strengthens each persons role in that dynamic. In every relationship you have the attraction and interaction of opposites as active and passive, masculine and feminine, outer and inner, and dominant and recessive. When relationships first form, one person or element establishes dominance over the other, which sets into motion a larger dynamic that the relationship serves to act out. In a healthy relationship, the roles of dominance are shared and move back and forth depending on what they’re doing or dealing with, where each individual’s strengths and powers are utilized to serve the greater good of both as a unit or interactive whole. This “dynamic-duo” action utilizes the strength of both as a dance with life. Here power is shared and equally moves between them as a coordinated effort or psychological strategy. In unhealthy relationships that exist with a lack of balance, one person consistently dominates and intimidates the other into submission, even when they clearly lack knowledge and abilities in the area of life they’re dealing with. This is where one person wants to exercise exclusive control over the other through a form of dictatorship, that ultimately becomes abusive. In this type of situation, one is always in the process of trying to get power by taking it from the other, and a power struggle ensues. The other usually responds by retaliating and contesting, purposely deceiving them behind their back, or by becoming passive and weak while building resentment that turns into hatred.

 
In any situation or behavioral dynamic being acted out as a relationship, you can immediately establish who has power, who’s looking to get power by taking it, and who readily surrenders and gives up their power while succumbing to the will of another in order to be accepted, loved, or to be apart of things. A person who has power, and therefore doesn’t need to get it from others or establish it outwardly through station or status, is not only comfortable in themselves, but act to stimulate others through the demonstration of their own power, employing them in a sense through a form of shared power. When we outwardly demonstrate power, we inspire others to access their own power in relation to us. We don’t necessarily give our power to those who don’t have power of their own, but rather when we demonstrate power as confidence and clarity of mind and purpose, we give them an example of what power is, what it feels like, and how to recognize it in others and themselves. Just through the nature of our interaction we connect them with that same internal resource, activate it in response to us, and call it forth in them, while giving them an example as a possible means for expressing it by stepping into it and becoming it.

 
Because true personal power is the most valued human commodity, and so few people actually possess it, and even fewer people know how to openly and comfortably express it by demonstrating it, many have no role-model that gives them a clear idea of what power looks and feels like when you’re in the presence of it. This is largely because power is a self-contained quality that’s connected to and drawn on completely from an internal source and not sought outwardly through an interaction of some sort. When we’re in the “presence” of those who are powerful we form an immediate sense of admiration for them, that causes us to feel a certain way, where we naturally access those same qualities in ourselves by resonating with them and entering into a natural state of rapport with them. Because of this, we feel more powerful when we’re around them. By watching their behavior and attitude, we can model (imitate) it, and in doing so bring out in us the same feeling. We can acquire a behavior as a form of template or instruction for learning “how” to be in our power. We can then “practice” being in such a way that we connect to the inner resources of “being that way” becoming a channel for expressing that quality which reshapes our character according to it.

geneIn order to access and develop a quality, we have to have a behavior or means for “being it”, that through the practice, we become like it. If we don’t have a pathway or way of doing something, we often stop at the realization of not knowing what to do or how to do it. This is what many people experience as being “stuck” when they’re attempting to change and transform their ability to manifest new realities by expressing in new ways. When it’s demonstrated for us, it acts to stimulate those same feelings in us, while giving us a model to imitate. By embracing that feeling while employing the same type of behaviors, we become the same in mind and body, and cultivate the same feeling state as a way of being in ourselves.

 
Whatever “state-of-being” is around us, we feel it’s presence through resonance, which activates those same feelings and qualities in us, calling them forth in response to it. As we “observe” the outward behaviors that express and inward feeling, and we “enter into them” through a state of rapport as inspiration (admiration), we naturally take on the same type of behaviors, becoming the outward expression of the same feeling-quality, and in being “one with it”, become the same as it. We not only access the same feeling-state within us that’s comparable to the outer state stimulating it, but we become the vehicle for expressing that state, and cultivate ourselves by way of that state to “be” like it.

 
This is the phenomenon of the most basic laws that govern our mind-body system as resonance (like begets like), sympathetic induction (vibration enters into the same vibration in another and produces an effect), and coherence that reorganizes the similar patterns of both to form a new pattern as a new whole. Whatever quality as a state of mind being outwardly demonstrated, stimulates, awakens, and brings into active expression that same feeling-state in everything around it. As it activates it and calls it forth, it becomes the basis of their interaction, which is the interactive expression of that same shared quality in both people. As it’s expressed through the dynamic (behavioral pattern) being acted out as the means for expression, it’s developed and strengthened in both people, and develops our character and tendencies through the shared enactment. We become one with the quality itself as a power, and it acts on us to reshape us into a new form and gives us a new way of being as the channel for expressing that characteristic.

energySo the quest for power that’s always going on, even when we don’t realize it or recognize it as such, is always acting on us to shape us in response to it. We only grow by what we resist. By recognizing this, we move into a position of not being affected by it by reacting to it in an automatic fashion, and we realize in that moment of control that we can “choose” our response. Once we begin realizing what’s going on energetically, while actively choosing how or if we’re going to respond, we begin exercising the first stages of taking back possession of our power to self-create and become self-determined through masterful use of our will. We can begin taking an objective view of any situation, seeing the underlying dynamic going on, and interact with it accordingly, with full awareness of what we’re doing and why. In this way we can truly exercise our power over the emotions of others and the material world, not by beating it into submission, but by entering into it while still maintaining full awareness of what we’re doing, become one in mind and body with it, then introduce an influence that will naturally bring out different qualities in others, and in doing so, lead it in a whole new direction through a state of complete cooperation.

 
This ability to work with the energy and consciousness of a situation is the exercise of true power and psychological dominion over the material plane as the ultimate form of leadership, where people don’t even realize they’re being led, and where you act to naturally bring out the best in people that creates an activity that serves the greater good in the most beneficial way possible for everyone involved. In a business sense, the greater good is the vision and mission of the business, and in an intimate relationship, the greater whole is the best possible response that brings out the best in each other and develops it through a loving and intimate interaction.

 
When we are in full possession of our own mind and body and able to operate it with strategic intelligence, we simultaneously realize that our power over others comes as a direct result of our power over ourselves, and the most natural way we control others is by how we influence them through our own behaviors. Not by attempting to exercise power over them or by reducing them to an inferior status, but by becoming an example for them to follow. We lead them by inspiring them in such a way that it brings out the best in them through an elevated state of being, that we then enter into a concert with becoming an example for them to imitate. We first act to bring out the necessary qualities and traits in others by embodying them ourselves, then give them a pathway for expressing them through the example we set, that elevates their station, and develops them through higher character traits to be fully empowered in their own lives by using their will as it’s intended to self-create and become a productive part of a greater idea to which they resonate and aspire towards. This not only creates a state of cooperation and uninhibited participation, but a sense of enthusiasm and passion that forms a deep sense of complete and utter devotion to the greater whole of which they are now an active and important part. The best way we lead as a demonstration of our power is by eliciting “love” in others through the beauty of our expressive abilities to inspire and enlighten and calls them to rise to new heights as an equal response to us.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Innovative Management Services

Professional Development

 

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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Personal Transformation from your Lower-Self to your Higher-Self: “Striving for Self-Perfection”

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The idea of perfection has been greatly misconstrued, and has even in some cases been turned into a “bad” idea by some who use it in more of the sense of standards being placed “on us” by others, trying to live up to their ideas about us or please them in some way by changing our behaviors in order to win their favor and affections, or in an attempt to remedy the idea of “worthiness” by telling you you’re perfect just the way you are, and you need not do anything to be worthy of “God’s love”. All these concepts are built out of the idea that perfection has something to do with “someone out there” (others or God) that’s placing standards on you that have to be met in order to be considered perfect, and therefore worthy of their love and generosity, or to be included in their private circle. Yet, none of these have anything to do with the real idea behind “self-perfection”.

 
To be perfect is to be utilizing all off your talents, latent potential, inner qualities, knowledge, special abilities, and untapped inner resources to willfully modify and adjust, or rearrange your mental paradigm as your perceptual lens that identifies errors in your perception and dynamics you’re programmed with that are destructive, harmful, unproductive, sabotaging, and cause you misery and suffering somehow by way of your own tendencies. Perfection can also be thought of as creating an “ideal” for yourself that’s what you deem to be “the best you can be”, that create a life experience of being empowered in your ability to actively create it through mastering your will, and where you are fulfilled in the most ordinary sense, and able to productively create in your life in a way that creates health, happiness, and prosperity. Not by obsessively trying to change others so you’ll be alright to stay just as you are, but by working exclusively on yourself to recognize and address your own character flaws, false perceptions, and unconscious tendencies. All of which are acting together to cause you to express in a negative way producing your own suffering.

venturi manSelf-perfection is to look within, and through introspection (examining yourself), see what type of story you’re always in the process of living out, and what role you’re playing in that story that shapes you by way of it. We always start with a paradigm structured out of our accumulated experiences that are all interpreted through the same type of story-line, forming a consistent experience of our outer reality and the events of our life that are “produced by” our perception, then used to create our experience, which shapes and defines us by way of them. We are at once the author of the story being told by how we interpret everything, the main character in our story that everything revolves around having the experience of it as an actual reality, while watching it being played out as a reflection in others. We are the central point out of which our world evolves and is held into place forming a consistent pattern as a theme that forms the basis for all our experiences. We’re always the one causing our own suffering, emotional pain and unhappiness, by how we process information and what dynamics we naturally engage in and cooperatively participate in acting it out as a group scenario.

 
We are always the ones creating our own experiences. We have only to begin recognizing this while cultivating the ability to look at ourselves from an objective perspective so we can see our own tendencies and patterns without an emotional investment or need to justify it by how we explain it. When we can remove our attachments to our perceptions, and step outside of the emotional element that the story acts to express and create more of, and look at the story we’re living out from a dissociated position, we can begin “seeing” ourselves as we really are. It’s the emotional component that causes us to become unconscious of our own behaviors. It’s the emotion controlling our thoughts that “forms” the story we begin living out of. Emotions become the motivation for all our behaviors. Emotions are “energy in motion” that produces activity that controls our thoughts to form the story that expresses the emotion as a reality that amplifies and increases the emotion, giving us more of the same feeling through the telling. We are conditioned to certain emotions through our family dynamics that form the initial patterns for all our relationships that we continue to create out of throughout our life. Our conditioning is what establishes (or reestablishes) our mental paradigm as a mental structure of a whole series of congruent patterns, all of which act together to form a larger pattern as the “theme” that shapes all our events by conforming them to tell the same type of story. All our behaviors are unconsciously being produced in a natural, spontaneous, and automatic way by our mind as our soul.

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The transformative idea around self-perfection, is to become self-aware of what we’re normally not aware of that’s being acted out unconsciously, and in recognizing and forming awareness around it, we have the ability to begin working with it consciously in an intentional and deliberate way to “reform” ourselves by embodying new qualities that naturally lend themselves to new ways of being. In recognizing the dynamics we’re programmed to as life-patterns, we can also recognize the emotions that produce them and keep us actively engaging in them. Emotions are the common denominator that connects the inner to the outer through the same thematic patterning as a behavioral dynamic. By understanding the emotions we’re prone to, we can also realize how we’re being internally stimulated emotionally by other people and situations that render us unconscious (literally) and keep us involved in acting out the same dynamics. Again, just the awareness of what’s happening inside of us at any given moment, nullifies it, and brings it under control, providing us with the neutralized basis to begin actively working on ourselves to change our own internal dynamics, which produce a chain reaction that also begins transforming our outer experiences.

 
The ancient art of Alchemy as Personal Transformation is the secret to all healing that allows us to move from a personalized, unconscious status, to an elevated conscious and universal status. Through self-awareness that brings realization around unconscious and hidden aspects of ourselves, we can deliberately work on ourselves to “perfect” ourselves healing unconscious tendencies by integrating them. Awareness alone begins the process of integration which transforms it by what we “choose to employ” in its place. All healing, in the spiritual sense, is becoming aware of aspects of ourselves that operate below the level of consciousness, without our direct awareness, that keeps us living out of false realities as an emotional delusion. It’s being fully self-aware and therefore self-directed and self-created with full awareness and comprehension of what we’re creating.

 
To perfect, is to reconstruct in order to operate in a highly proficient and harmonious manner. It’s to create in a benevolent and productive manner as a true vessel for self-expression as love that brings a deep sense of contentment, inner peace, and emotional beauty. We have to first learn how to bring emotions under control, neutralizing their effect “on us”, disengaging negative ones, while strategically employing positive ones to use as the basis for our expression as our perceptions and behaviors, and the dynamics our behaviors create and participate in within the outer world. All of our life-dynamics and thematic stories emerge naturally from whatever emotions we’re experiencing and allowing to come “through” us. Thought exists in direct relationship with its emotional equivalent. What we’re thinking about and imagining as a preview for reality is formed by our emotional state. Our emotions control our thoughts keeping us “thinking out of” a predominately unconscious (repetitious) state. And likewise, our thoughts also have the ability to produce emotions in response to them that are their equivalent as the expressive component of the thoughts that produce behaviors that brings the inward reality of the thoughts outward as a congruent experience. On the material plane, thoughts are passive and emotions are active. On the higher, spiritual (invisible) planes, the opposite is true and thoughts as ideas are active, and emotions are a passive response to thoughts as their equivalent that form the physical channel for actualizing the thoughts as an experience of reality. The dynamic relationship between thought, emotion, and actions exists on all planes simultaneously through different orientations.

humanenergy-spiritual-beings-consciousnessTo self-perfect and therefore consciously create, is to work this formula from a higher perspective where you neutralize emotion and bring them under control, while activating original thought as the template for creating new experiences that match the emotion to the idea by stimulating it, becoming a vehicle for it’s expression by employing the behaviors that act it out. It’s only by letting go of our habitual emotional states that we can gain control over them and over our thoughts which are otherwise controlled by them. Once we neutralize the intensity and stimulating qualities of emotions, we can experience a kind of “freeing sensation” that creates a strangely objective feeling as a dissociated awareness. In this awareness that’s no longer controlled by our emotional states and the emotions of others, we become aware from a calm place that we have the ability to choose, not only what we think and why we’re thinking it, but also how we want to respond to any situation, not as an unconscious and automatic reaction being projected, but as a means of creating in the situation by redirecting it. We gain a position of being “at cause” rather than the “effect that then acts as the cause”, causing more of the same thing. In this strange new awareness of choice without any influences (making the choice for us) directing our choice, comes a sense of responsibility for what we want to create by how we interact and consciously move it in a new direction by not only deflecting the emotions of others, but intentionally introducing new ones that change their emotional state and serve to move it in a whole new direction, creating a new experience.

 
With knowledge and the creative ability to apply it directly on others to create in an intentional and precise way, comes a heightened sense of responsibility for our creation and the consequences we draw on ourselves as a result. This is why the prerequisite for gaining higher knowledge is moral purity that cleanses our character of undesirable traits that not only would cause us to use our power in a selfish and harmful way, but would also condemn the soul of the individual to the consequences of their own actions. Any act that hurts another person, hurts ourselves in exact measure. What we do unto others we also do unto ourselves by drawing to us direct consequences of our own actions. Those who look to control and manipulate others, are in fact controlled and manipulated by others in direct response to them. As we seek to manipulate, we’re being manipulated just through the seeking itself. Any action creates an equal or greater reaction of the same nature. The effect is always the equivalent or of the same nature as the cause.

 
So self-perfection comes as a heightened form of self-awareness that allows us to reverse the orientation of the lower-emotional mind controlling the higher-idea mind, by bringing emotions into a neutral state where we’re no longer reactive to them, and we intentionally choose what ideas we’re going to employ, that moves us from a unconscious personalized illusion of reality, into a more universal and creatively objective reality where our will and ability to choose are reinstated and we begin creating ourselves and our lives through a different relationship with our own mind and body. We become conscious creators in our own life by mastering our ability to control and direct the elements of thought and emotion. We step outside of our self, and see ourselves in an objective manner from the perspective of our higher-self, always witnessing the experience from a neutral state by remaining outside of them, unattached and without desire. From this higher and more objective perspective, we are unaffected by the elements of the material – Astral plane, and are therefore able to control and direct it by creating and utilizing it as our medium and tools for self-creating.

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To self-perfect is to honestly self-create with full awareness of what you’re doing and what reality you’re initiating that move you from being the effect of your conditioning to the one determining it. The soul is no longer control by the emotional states and behaviors of the body, and is free to use the body as a neutral conduit for creating within the material plane. By gaining control of the Elements, and stepping fully into our higher consciousness, we lose all personal desires born out of our identification with our body, and take on a position of serving the greater whole of humanity by acting always to facilitate their growth by moving them out of the darkness and into the light where they can see all aspects of themselves as they really are for the first time. In our perfection we ascend in consciousness to a higher plane that’s not personally invested in this plane, where we realize and can fully utilize our ability to deliberately express and create within this plane by first controlling and directing our own emotional thoughts, then being able to act as a mirror for others to become aware of their true nature and the delusions they create by letting their emotions control their mind and produce their experience of reality (and themselves) by way of them.

 
Self-perfection is gaining full control of your self within the material plane by stepping into yourself on the higher plane and being able to see everything in the light with eyes wide open. It’s to become self-aware, self-realized, and self-created. It’s to actualize latent potential, not necessarily as attributes and qualities that transform your character, though this may be how it starts, but by being able to take on a whole new perspective that sees your self “in this world, but not of it”, literally. Where you begin identifying more with your spiritual aspect than your bodily aspect. Where you return your body to a neutral vehicle for spirit to move through and create in the world masterfully using the very elements that shape it.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Transformational Coaching

Personal Transformation

Spiritual Sciences

 

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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Our Vibratory Frequency is our Soul’s Essence

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The term vibratory frequency is used a lot to describe ideas around ascension or spiritual awakening, without really explaining what it means or how to actually alter your vibratory frequency as an intentional act or form of self-development. In order to be able to work with anything in a conscious and deliberate manner we have to have a fundamental understanding of it in practical terms. Through an inherent understanding we can either employ methods or create methods of our own for working on ourselves to facilitate our own growth, and alter our level of consciousness which “is” our vibratory frequency.

 
In order to understand vibration, we have to look at the nature of energy itself, not as a form of electricity, although electricity is a form of energy, but in terms of the “subtle” energy that permeates all of life and the universe as a whole, which is a very dynamic form of consciousness, often referred to as “life-force” that forms a synchronistic step-down process that in-forms and animates matter through specific characteristics as a “quality” of consciousness. Consciousness itself exists as a dynamic configuration of various attributes and qualities that form characteristics. Vibration as a quality of consciousness forms patterns as a form of accumulated memory, that “in-forms” matter with corresponding qualities and behaviors.

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Vibration as a state-of-mind emanates corresponding realities through a form of projection and mental filters, as a natural expression of that vibratory frequency as a dynamic matrix of various forms of memory all created out of the same quality as a “theme”. The vibratory frequency as the core or essential nature emanates and projects onto the environment and others forming our perception of them through the filter of our mind, which reforms them into the same image (basic pattern) and likeness (dynamic qualities and behaviors) as itself (resonance alters vibration and restructures it forming coherence). In other words, we reshape others to be like us by how we interpret them through the story we tell about them. The “story” we tell is the offspring of a larger pattern as an “over-all theme” which “is” our vibratory frequency in the most practical sense. Vibration as a quality of consciousness forms our character which is ideal for telling certain types of stories, which are dynamic patterns that are altered forming endless variations based on how we adapt it to a variety of situations and circumstances. While the elements being used to tell the story may change, the story itself holds true to a consistent theme. Vibrations as states have whole realities inherent in them. These vibratory frequencies as living patterns are often referred to as “spheres of consciousness”, which symbolize the Monad.

 
Vibrationally speaking, we can only enter into other spheres of consciousness that are of the same vibratory frequency, and naturally lend themselves to forming the same thematic structures. We can only perceive ourselves (what’s of the same nature) in others. Resonance which awakens and vibrates the same frequency through energetic sympathy in others, enters into them and affects them by stimulating the same qualities and bringing them out through the nature of the interaction itself, which develops both people into a new pattern (interference pattern) based on the qualities they share in common.

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Vibration produces certain types of experience as it’s expressive component, that then become memory as a form of programming that builds itself out of more of the same vibration, amplifying and increasing it. Change the nature of the experience that forms a new kind of memory, which exists at both the mind and cellular level, and you form a new structure accordingly. We can only work directly with our vibratory frequency through our state of mind as a basic mood. All experience emerges as a direct correspondence to our mood. Our state determines what type of thoughts we think, what realities we form in our imagination, and the emotions we experience in reaction to our own thoughts. By cultivating and working intentionally to create the proper state of mind out of which we experience life through the stories we tell ourselves about it, we work directly to alter our vibratory frequency. By holding a certain state or mood consistently and creating our experiences out of that state, that we then identify with and become new memories which begin building up through an accumulative affect, we can literally alter, and hopefully raise our vibration through use of our will as intention action.

 
Because we are held within a certain vibratory range, most change comes in a gradual way as a form of progression. When we begin forming an awareness of what our state of mind is in the general sense, we can also begin realizing why our life is the way it is, and we can decide on what type of changes we want to make, and what mind-set that reality would naturally flow out of. Our state of mind is basically created three ways, each of which acts to unify the other two. Our state is created by what we focus on, what we tell ourselves about what we’re focused on that gives it meaning, and what we’re doing with our bodies as our physiology. These three aspects are always in-sync with each other. Change any one of these, and you change the other two automatically, to form a unified state.

 
If you feel as if you can’t control your thoughts and what you give your attention to, then you can work by way of changing the story you’re telling yourself about it, or by changing your physiology. Change what you’re doing with your body. Notice that the body is always a direct and proportional reflection of the mind. Positive states have behaviors inherent in them. Employ those behaviors, and you alter your state accordingly. By becoming active, energetic, expressive with your hands and body gestures, or how you hold yourself in general, your posturing, you feel different, sense yourself in a different way, and alter your state of mind to match it.

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So the most direct way to alter your vibratory frequency is by learning how to manage your own mind in terms of what you are focused on, channeling attention into, how your thinking about it in terms of what you’re telling yourself about it that makes it mean something, and how that’s reflected in your body language. While we may think that we have no control over these in the direct sense, because they are largely unconscious and automatic in nature, the fact of the matter is, we do have control. We just have to realize we do, and begin practicing “choosing” and intentionally creating our mood by how we’re using our own mind.

 
By becoming aware of our different moods, and what strategy we’re employing as a means of producing those moods, we can develop a strategy for intentionally producing whatever state of mind we want to based on what type of experiences we want to create. Then, by taking control of what we focus on, how we look at what we’re focused on, and what we’re doing with our body, we can intentionally control our own state of mind, and in doing so, work consciously with our vibratory frequency and the type of realities as our personal experiences that we live out of and act to create as a result. By recognizing our own tendencies and what type of story we’re always in the process of telling ourselves, and living out by how we act and how we influence other people to embody the same mood, we can begin working consciously in our own lives to learn how to tell a new story. One that we want to tell and one that we want to use to intentionally change our memories to produce a new way of being in our own lives. In doing this, we alter our vibration and evolve our soul into new forms of expression breaking old karmic patterns.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Integrative Mind-Body Medicine Consultation
Transformational Coach
Spiritual Scientist

 

 

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
To inquire, click here

 

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Vibratory Frequency as our Soul’s Essence

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The term vibratory frequency is used a lot to describe ideas around ascension or spiritual awakening, without really explaining what it means or how to actually alter your vibratory frequency as an intentional act or form of self-development. In order to be able to work with anything in a conscious and deliberate manner we have to have a fundamental understanding of it in practical terms. Through an inherent understanding we can either employ methods or create methods of our own for working on ourselves to facilitate our own growth, and alter our level of consciousness which “is” our vibratory frequency.

 
In order to understand vibration, we have to look at the nature of energy itself, not as a form of electricity, although electricity is a form of energy, but in terms of the “subtle” energy that permeates all of life and the universe as a whole, which is a very dynamic form of consciousness, often referred to as “life-force” that forms a synchronistic step-down process that in-forms and animates matter through specific characteristics as a “quality” of consciousness. Consciousness itself exists as a dynamic configuration of various attributes and qualities that form characteristics. Vibration as a quality of consciousness forms patterns as a form of accumulated memory, that “in-forms” matter with corresponding qualities and behaviors.

 
Vibration as a state-of-mind emanates corresponding realities through a form of projection and mental filters, as a natural expression of that vibratory frequency as a dynamic matrix of various forms of memory all created out of the same quality as a “theme”. The vibratory frequency as the core or essential nature emanates and projects onto the environment and others forming our perception of them through the filter of our mind, which reforms them into the same image (basic pattern) and likeness (dynamic qualities and behaviors) as itself (resonance alters vibration and restructures it forming coherence). In other words, we reshape others to be like us by how we interpret them through the story we tell about them. The “story” we tell is the offspring of a larger pattern as an “over-all theme” which “is” our vibratory frequency in the most practical sense. Vibration as a quality of consciousness forms our character which is ideal for telling certain types of stories, which are dynamic patterns that are altered forming endless variations based on how we adapt it to a variety of situations and circumstances. While the elements being used to tell the story may change, the story itself holds true to a consistent theme. Vibrations as states have whole realities inherent in them. These vibratory frequencies as living patterns are often referred to as “spheres of consciousness”, which symbolize the Monad.

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Vibrationally speaking, we can only enter into other spheres of consciousness that are of the same vibratory frequency, and naturally lend themselves to forming the same thematic structures. We can only perceive ourselves (what’s of the same nature) in others. Resonance which awakens and vibrates the same frequency through energetic sympathy in others, enters into them and affects them by stimulating the same qualities and bringing them out through the nature of the interaction itself, which develops both people into a new pattern (interference pattern) based on the qualities they share in common.

 
Vibration produces certain types of experience as it’s expressive component, that then become memory as a form of programming that builds itself out of more of the same vibration, amplifying and increasing it. Change the nature of the experience that forms a new kind of memory, which exists at both the mind and cellular level, and you form a new structure accordingly. We can only work directly with our vibratory frequency through our state of mind as a basic mood. All experience emerges as a direct correspondence to our mood. Our state determines what type of thoughts we think, what realities we form in our imagination, and the emotions we experience in reaction to our own thoughts. By cultivating and working intentionally to create the proper state of mind out of which we experience life through the stories we tell ourselves about it, we work directly to alter our vibratory frequency. By holding a certain state or mood consistently and creating our experiences out of that state, that we then identify with and become new memories which begin building up through an accumulative affect, we can literally alter, and hopefully raise our vibration through use of our will as intention action.

 
Because we are held within a certain vibratory range, most change comes in a gradual way as a form of progression. When we begin forming an awareness of what our state of mind is in the general sense, we can also begin realizing why our life is the way it is, and we can decide on what type of changes we want to make, and what mind-set that reality would naturally flow out of. Our state of mind is basically created three ways, each of which acts to unify the other two. Our state is created by what we focus on, what we tell ourselves about what we’re focused on that gives it meaning, and what we’re doing with our bodies as our physiology. These three aspects are always in-sync with each other. Change any one of these, and you change the other two automatically, to form a unified state.

 
If you feel as if you can’t control your thoughts and what you give your attention to, then you can work by way of changing the story you’re telling yourself about it, or by changing your physiology. Change what you’re doing with your body. Notice that the body is always a direct and proportional reflection of the mind. Positive states have behaviors inherent in them. Employ those behaviors, and you alter your state accordingly. By becoming active, energetic, expressive with your hands and body gestures, or how you hold yourself in general, your posturing, you feel different, sense yourself in a different way, and alter your state of mind to match it.

 
So the most direct way to alter your vibratory frequency is by learning how to manage your own mind in terms of what you are focused on, channeling attention into, how your thinking about it in terms of what you’re telling yourself about it that makes it mean something, and how that’s reflected in your body language. While we may think that we have no control over these in the direct sense, because they are largely unconscious and automatic in nature, the fact of the matter is, we do have control. We just have to realize we do, and begin practicing “choosing” and intentionally creating our mood by how we’re using our own mind.

 
By becoming aware of our different moods, and what strategy we’re employing as a means of producing those moods, we can develop a strategy for intentionally producing whatever state of mind we want to based on what type of experiences we want to create. Then, by taking control of what we focus on, how we look at what we’re focused on, and what we’re doing with our body, we can intentionally control our own state of mind, and in doing so, work consciously with our vibratory frequency and the type of realities as our personal experiences that we live out of and act to create as a result. By recognizing our own tendencies and what type of story we’re always in the process of telling ourselves, and living out by how we act and how we influence other people to embody the same mood, we can begin working consciously in our own lives to learn how to tell a new story. One that we want to tell and one that we want to use to intentionally change our memories to produce a new way of being in our own lives. In doing this, we alter our vibration and evolve our soul into new forms of expression breaking old karmic patterns.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois
Integrative Mind-Body Medicine Consultant
Transformational Coach
Spiritual Scientist

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
To inquire, click here

Creating Good Health is not Rocket Science – “The Art of a Healthy Diet”

It’s interesting that the idea of creating good health or being healthy is often perceived as difficult to do. This is probably due largely to the fact that much of our food supply is artificial, processed and loaded with unnatural chemicals, or is a strategic composition of products designed to be highly addictive and of course, taste good. Other programs approach healthy eating as the need to be a nutritional expert or involve elaborate tables for “calorie counting” and measuring fat content, gauging everything by a number system of some sort that makes the whole process tedious and cumbersome. Along with this dilemma, supplements presented as the answer to poor eating habits, are largely synthetic, and usually only abstract one chemical from a whole organism as a vitamin or nutrient, and for the most part, not valuable to our actual health outside of the placebo affect, and are thought, like all synthetic chemicals to cause cancer with prolonged use. This dietary nightmare tends to not only create poor conditions in the body, but also mental and emotional depression that’s low-grade and chronic in nature, and because people are accustomed to it and think of it as ‘normal’, goes unrecognized. Yet, creating good health can be accomplished by simply following a few basic principles.

 
These health promoting principles deal with whole ideas instead of fragmented ones and should be implemented in stages as small yet consistent steps with reasonable time frames allotted to each stage. Trying to do too much at once, causing a feeling of deprivation, withdrawal, and suffering, will only act to sabotage the overall goal, or simply replace toxic material chemistry with emotional chemistry which produces an equivalent affect. Also, anytime you’re “quitting something”, especially something you really like and are used to, still set reasonable guidelines for when you can have it that reduce it to only an occasional event. Usually, what actually makes a product bad is the frequency of consumption, and anything only eaten occasionally probably isn’t going to hurt you or produce a pronounced affect. Being extreme in any area should always be avoided and a sense of moderation employed instead. You don’t want to take the attitude of correcting one imbalance by producing another.
There are three basic natural substances that are addictive by their very nature because they’re stimulants, and should be recognized as such.

These three products are:

Sugar (or artificial sweeteners)

• Salt – sodium

• Fats (of any kind)

 

All of these derived from natural sources and consumed in moderation can be healthy for the body and serve to promote overall health. Sugar obtained naturally from fruits and vegetables that the body converts to glucose, unless you have diabetes or a health condition where all sugar intake has got to be monitored, is probably going to be fine. The energy obtained from natural, plant based foods, gives you the same sugar boost without the crash. Salt, again, is actually a necessary mineral, is important for thyroid health, promotes alkalinity in the body, and is only harmful because the modern diet of highly processed foods uses gross amounts of it not only as a flavor enhancer and preservative but also ‘because’ it’s addictive. Just eliminating processed foods and minimizing the use of table salt will probably remedy and restore balance to your system in regards to salt intake.

 
Fats are a bit trickier, because we have “good” fats and “bad” fats, but as a general rule of thumb, stay away from any foods that are cooked in ‘hot oils’, which are extremely carcinogenic and known to cause cancer. As a general rule, pick oils that remain liquid at room (ambient) or cold temperatures. Eliminate all forms of margarine which is a synthetic product, and if you need to continue using a similar product, use unsalted ‘real’ butter instead, and only occasionally. If you choose to eat animals, reduce consumption to one serving a day, approximately the size of your fist. Cheese, which is the highest cholesterol food there is, like milk and all dairy (comes from cows), causes mucous and congestion in the body, which is never good. So again, if you don’t eliminate dairy, definitely reduce your intake.

 
Other chemical additives, such as MSG, aspartame, corn syrup, along with numerous dyes, flavor enhancers, and preservatives, none of which are natural or good for you, can be eliminated for the most part by eliminating processed foods, which are loaded with them. Processed foods are not only boxed, instant powders, and prepared foods, but also any canned, frozen or packaged foods which are processed as a preparation and have chemical additives of various sorts. When considering packaged foods, always read the ingredients to see what’s in it. Always avoid any food that has a lot of ingredients as chemical additives (you don’t know what they are for sure) or that’s fortified with nutritional additives. The reason foods are fortified is because the nutrition normally found in that type of food has been destroyed through the processing and is enriched with vitamins that are synthetic (chemical) versions that your body won’t be able to properly assimilate.

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Also, anytime you’re choosing to eliminate one thing or a food group, you need to also decide what you’re going to replace it with. Work by the basic idea that all habits are not “stopped” they’re simply transformed from unhealthy to healthy habits. The adage that “nature abhors a vacuum”, means, that anytime you create a “void” something will automatically be drawn into that void, and knowing this and working with principles of Nature instead of against them, we want to “decide” what’s drawn in that’s replacing whatever we’re removing. By deciding ahead of time what you’re going to replace items with, the “on the spot decisions” are easy, pre-calculated and immediate. Ease is a key feature to change!

 
To form your initial plan, start with primary ideas, and implement them one at a time (unless giving up something is easy), and as a good rule of thumb, allow at least forty days for each step before implementing the next. It takes approximately 40 days of consistency to transform old habits and establish new behaviors that become natural and automatic. After approximately six weeks of doing something, it becomes natural and no longer requires any kind of effort or actual decision making process.
In selecting the items and behaviors we’ll look at transforming, we’ll naturally start with the worst ones, and work our way down. If any of these areas seem like a huge change (you eat them a lot), then break the area itself down into two or three groups that will make the transition gradual.

 

These are the areas we’ll start with:
• Soda pop – any carbonated sugary (processed) drink. The carbonation is as bad if not worse than the sugar content and is known to cause bone-thinning as osteoporosis. While water is always the best option, wean yourself off high sugar drinks.

 
• Deep-fried foods, or any food cooked in hot-oils. Any kind of oil heated is extremely carcinogenic and creates a ton of free radicals, which are detrimental to your health causing general deterioration and cancers.

 
• Sweets, candy, desserts, ice-cream, and artificially flavored foods. Sugars not only cause weight gain, but also bind to nutrients and carry them out of the body, causing nutritional deficiency.

 
• Processed foods – most fast food. These are laced with chemicals and the processing strips them of any real nutritional value. The body can’t assimilate synthetic foods. Many of the chemicals used are known to cause cancer as well as an array of health problems. Only eat what looks like real food – whole foods.

 
• Dairy products – especially cheese. You don’t have to eliminate necessarily, but bring down to one portion a day.

 
• Processed breads, cakes, and products made with white-processed flour. They contain very little nutrients and are fattening. Go for products that are “stone ground” or made of non-processed wheat.

 
• If you eat animals, regardless of what kind (including fish), reduce your intake to one serving a day, approximately the size of your fist. Avoid any meat that’s breaded and fried, seared over and open flame, or grilled using charcoal (petroleum based).
• Eat a reasonable portion of grains, seeds and nuts. Avoid salted and “roasted” nuts, as they contain natural oils which are heated through the process of cooking.

 
• Develop the habit of using healthy “oils”. Oils that remains liquid at room temperatures. Extra Virgin olive oil is a good choice because it’s derived from olives through a “cold press” method and doesn’t involve heating the oil. However cooking with olive oil makes it just as carcinogenic as all oils. For cooking, consider coconut oil, which remains fairly stable when heated. Otherwise, exercise moderation.

 
• Plant based foods – whole fruits and vegetables should consist of 50-70% of your diet. Keep in mind that grains, nuts and seeds are also plant-based foods. Fats contained naturally in plants (which are very little) have a different affect on the body than fats derived from animal products. So a plant based diet is typically low in fat and calories and high in nutrients and dietary fiber.

 

 

Again, when eliminating anything from your diet take an attitude of significantly decreasing while still allotting occasional use. What you’ll find is that in doing so, you lose your taste for it, and after a while, no longer crave it, or when you do eat it, you don’t like it or it makes you feel funny. Keep in mind that your body will grow accustomed to whatever you feed it on a regular basis. By eliminating sugar from your diet over a period of time, when you do eat it, it can seem to make you feel queasy. When eliminating fried foods for an extended period of time, just the smell of grease will turn your stomach. When eliminating dairy over a period of time, you lose interest in it and don’t really think about it.

 
Again, make sure that at no point you create a feeling of struggling or suffering. When this happens you produce body chemistry as hormones that can be just as harmful as the food chemicals you’re eliminating. If you get a strong craving, indulge it, and then go back to your practice. If you’re eliminating carbonated drinks, for example, allow yourself to have them on special occasions such as when seeing a movie, at a fair or carnival, at a social engagement or sports event, and so on, where you’re still allowed, but only occasionally. The toughest part is breaking the daily routine, not the occasional one. And again, you want to avoid becoming extreme or gun-ho in any area, which simply creates a new “imbalance”. The key to success is a preplanned idea of what you’re doing and why you’re doing it, coupled with an attitude of moderation.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois
Integrated Health Consultant

About the Author:

Dr. Linda is a Integrative Health Consultant, personal development trainer and innovative business consultant for Physician / Healthcare entrepreneurs. She conducts regular training events for Integrative Health, Mind Development, Personal Transformation, Professional Development, Communication Skills, and Enlightened Leadership. She’s available for private or public speaking engagements, and personal or group Mentoring sessions. To inquire or schedule a consultation, click here

A New Perspective on Sexuality: Love and Sexual Union as Energetic Fusion

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While we tend to look at our sexuality in terms of what we’ve been taught about our own morality, in the ultimate sense, anytime we’re talking about Spiritual ideas, we’re talking in terms of conscious energy that operates according to Universal Laws and Principles. Our ability to self-create by developing our moral character comes by way of how we understand these Laws, what they reveal to us, and how we utilize them as a result. They’re not based on man-made concepts of right and wrong, good or bad, but rather on how energy as qualities of consciousness form and evolve. Marriage, from a spiritual perspective, is only consummated through sexual union, regardless of whether or not a ceremony has been performed and a legal contract drawn up as a result. This is because sexual union is the act of energetic fusion where two people become “as” one.

Love as an energetic principle, is the most fundamental form of resonance and sympathy, where two people of the same “nature” (vibratory frequency), form resonance as an inner stimulus, where their energy enters into and effects each other. It enters into the lower chakras as sexual arousal bathed in feelings of love, adoration and admiration that have a distinct intimate and sensuous quality to them. This forms a chemical reaction which bathes the mind and imagination in a euphoric emotion that’s equivalent to the nature of the stimulation. This is the original “experience” of energetic mingling that acts to initiate an entire process. The sexual act itself, which is deepened when ensued with deep feelings of love and desire, induces a state of surrender as the release of resistance and inhibitions, which build in intensity and peak as an orgasm, is the literal spiritual fusion of two people. This means that we ‘take on’ the same consciousness as emotional qualities that form our perception and influence our behavior as a result. We become “like” each other in character.

Sex is the most basic form of energetic fusion that is not only represented in an analogous manner by the intimacy of the act itself, but by the further recognition that sex ‘changes’ the basic nature of the relationship, as well as both people involved. The same ‘qualities’ as an inner effect follows-through producing the same modifications on multiple levels and in accordance to the laws and principles that govern each level. It acts to not only ‘bond” the people energetically, but also morally – emotionally, psychologically, and thematically in terms of the relationship it establishes as an interactive dynamic and the vibratory make-up of both people as individuals functioning in roles within that dynamic. It’s very easy to see how people change, sometimes drastically, as a result of certain relationships. In some cases this can be so drastic that the individual as their original selves, no longer exist, but are transformed into a variation of some kind based on the combination. They are absorbed by another and become an extension of that person.

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Though energetically (soul essence as quality of consciousness) speaking, you always have a dominate and recessive vibration of the same frequency which allows for natural entrainment that operates according to the same principle as hypnosis, in some cases, the dominant person completely absorbs the will of the weaker, and readily commands it through the psychological undertones of the relationship that works through weaknesses, shortcomings, and vices of the individual. Relationships are always based on shared tendencies as behaviors that become the basis for the underlying interaction, which stimulates and brings forth the same qualities in both people, that are developed and strengthened through the interaction which creates a joint-reality out of them as an expression of the shared characteristics of both people. Whatever gets stimulated, called forth, and used to create, becomes strengthened as a fundamental character trait. When the dominant force absorbs the weaker force through the qualities they share – the stronger one is further strengthened by literally feeding off of the weaker through submission, depleting the weaker even further, deepening their weakness and increasing their ability to be controlled.

What this tells us, if we care to look at it from an objective perspective, is that anytime we have sex with someone, regardless of whether or not love is involved, we are ‘taking on’ the morality (energetic vibration) of that person, which will bear a direct influence of a similar manner on our quality of consciousness, and alter it accordingly. We acquire the same feelings, emotional states, perspective and perceptions, as well as behavioral tendencies of whomever we ‘merge’ with. This is why a Harlot is used to represent moral corruption brought on by ignorance of law and the inability to resist (weak willed) sexual temptation.

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From this perspective, everyone we have sex with, we form a union with, acquire some degree of their consciousness, and it modifies our soul as our energetic essence as a result, which changes how we express. We take-on the same qualities and become more like them, and they become more like us. And for this reason, sex represents a sacred union of Souls, who afterwards are considered – viewed as – one person (take the same name), of the same energetic nature. Furthermore, not only do we acquire the energetic essence of anyone we have sex with, but we acquire the residue of everyone they’ve had sex with, which is infused in their energy also. Like all things in life which operate according to law, it’s a building – accumulative process of growth as evolving through constant modifications that we create and bring on ourselves through our choices and actions.

When entering into a relationship of any kind, but especially a romantic one that could lead to sex, pay close attention to how you feel, what’s being stimulated in you and brought out through the nature of the interaction itself, and ask yourself, what is this going to develop in you, and how is it going to grow you accordingly? If it brings out fears and negative feelings that express as negative character traits, then that’s showing you the morality inherent in the relationship that you will not only acquire more of and will strengthened in you through interaction, but also the true character of the person themselves. Energy is known through feelings as states. States have whole realities inherent in them as thematic dramas that play out specific types of stories. Whenever two people come together and begin establishing a relationship, a pattern begins forming as the thematic dynamic that the relationship will naturally serve to act out. Therefore, it’s a good idea to withhold from having sex until you both know each other and have a real sense of the nature of the relationship and whether or not it will serve to grow you in desirable ways, or regress you by bringing out undesirable traits.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Relationship Consulting