Self-Mastery: Learning how to not be affected by others

Many of us spend our whole life a slave to the attitude, behaviors, and opinions of other people. We’re in a constant form of reaction from one moment to the next, beings jerked around like a puppet on strings, often crushed by a rude comment. If someone is hateful or sarcastic in some way towards us, it can throw us into a tailspin that can last for days, weeks, or even months. Someone with a bad attitude that’s also aggressive can outright terrify us, especially with all the mass shootings being staged and publicized around the world. Most people spend their entire life being shaped and determined by other people and the rules of society, usually without any direct awareness of how it’s happening or the reason why. Many people have completely lost touch with their soul and their real power to create in their life, and don’t even realize it.

One of the most basic forms of empowerment comes from a fundamental understanding of psychology and what it is that drives people’s behaviors. By coming to understand what drives other people’s behaviors, we can gain a better understanding of our own behavior in response to them. We’re all only capable of “bringing out in others” more of what’s “like us”. Whatever qualities we embody and express outwardly act to stimulate and bring out those same qualities in others as a natural response to us. Energetically, we’re always vibrating the same state of mind in everyone we interact with. We’re always in the process of mentally and emotionally influencing others to become more like us by how we perceive them and treat them accordingly.

Anyone who has been beat down and criticized as a child, either grows up to beat others down with the same type of criticism and mental attitude, or they remain super sensitive to anyone who has an attitude of criticizing them. The act of criticizing produces an equal and complementary reaction. The effect produced is always an expression of what caused it. There are no exceptions to this rule. The confusion tends to come when we only look at one side of the equation, instead of recognizing that everything operates as a whole pattern. All patterns form as a “dynamic” that’s holistic in nature and played out unconsciously through our basic perception, attitude, conditioned tendencies, and automatic behaviors.

Most people when being criticized or dealing with a sarcastic or mean person, focus almost exclusively on the person they perceive as doing it “to them”, rather than focusing on what’s happening inside of them as their own reaction. All energy, which is what emotional expression is, exists in a fundamental state of polarity as complementary opposites that move in-sync with each other. Anger, for example, provokes either and equal or greater response of anger, which escalates and intensifies it, or it causes a fearful response that backs down and becomes submissive. Any emotional response, whether sympathetic or antipathetic, nurtures and sustains the anger/emotion because both people are cooperating with each other in co-creating a joint reality out of the “active force” of anger. Any “reaction”, which comes in an immediate and automatic fashion that matches the energy being projected, is a basic form of control. Anytime we’re reacting, we’re being controlled by whatever it is we’re reacting to. The easiest way there is to control someone is through their emotions and the sensationalized realities they create internally.

 Every human being develops their own “mental paradigm” based on their formative conditioning. All of our initial conditioning takes place while we’re in a primarily unconscious state, and acts to literally “program” our subconscious as the “model” of reality we form from it. All of our values, beliefs, preferences, and initial (developmental) memories are instilled in us as kids through our family dynamics. As we become adults our basic personality and way of perceiving others and the world around us has been firmly established and we simply continue to live out of the same perceptions, tendencies, and relationship dynamics that we were a part of as kids. We continue to view the world and others the same way we were taught. In psychology we say that “we become one of our parents, and we marry the other one”. Whatever type of relationships was modeled for us as kids and that we played an active role in, becomes the same type of relationships we enter into and maintain romantically, socially, and professionally. We play out the same ideas over and over with different people and situations.

These dynamics become the themes that serve as a metaphor for our life. They usually involve ideas around our self-esteem (image of ourselves), such as not being good enough, not being worthy, not loved or wanted, being stupid, bad, ugly, and so on, which is why they ultimately serve as self-fulfilling prophecies that we wrap our identify around as adults. We “become” whatever we’ve been programmed psychologically to become by what we were told, heard being said about us, and how we were treated by those we cared about the most. These life themes become what we refer to psychologically as “core beliefs” that are like the nucleus of our mental model and spawn all of our other beliefs as being correlated to the same basic idea.

Dissecting Our Experience

In order to really grasp the significance of this idea, let’s take a moment and examine how it is that we create our experiences. While we tend to think that others are capable of doing something “to us”, when we examine the process closely, we can realize that we’re actually the one doing it to ourselves. We are in fact the sole creator of all our “experiences”. This idea is often confused as being our “reality” in the objective sense of what happens outside of us, when in fact how we experience what happens to us is an internal process that we perform and conduct “on” ourselves using our mind. Creating our experiences comes initially as an “unconscious process”, which means we do it naturally without any “direct awareness” of the fact that we’re actually the one doing it to ourselves. Due to the naturalness of the process, it usually completely eludes us. Yet in order to gain control over our own natural and unconscious processes, we have to form an understanding of them as a mental concept. So let’s turn our full attention inward and become aware of how we form our reactions to others.

When someone says or does something that’s offensive, hurtful, sarcastic, or mean, something that’s designed to get a rise out of us and place us in their control, we experience it as an intense internal stimulus that comes as an “emotional charge”. Once you experience the emotional stimulus, you instantly associate it to a memory where the same type of emotion and behavior was involved. Through association to a past event of the same kind, the same emotion and state are awakened and made active in you, bringing it out in you as a natural reaction. Your mind interprets “this” to mean the same thing as “that”, and you react in the present with the same emotional behavior as the past. We then act out the same behaviors and dynamics, and begin telling ourselves the same type of story about what it means about them and us in relation to them.

The story we tell ourselves as our thoughts and internal dialogue follow the same theme as our memory of the past. Emotions are always associated to memories we formed while in the same emotional state. Emotions are what drive and produce all of our natural and automatic behaviors. We’re most naturally and easily made to behave in certain ways through our emotions. Emotional memories give our subconscious the “pattern” it needs for producing automatic realities and behaviors that don’t require any thought, appraisal or decisions.

When we live out of our emotions we live out of the memories and conditioning of our past and continue to create more of the same type of experiences. We repeat the same patterns with the same type of people and relive the same type of experiences in new ways over and over. As we create our experiences, we simultaneously identify with them, and shape ourselves “through” our experiences. We once again replay the broken and worn out record that says we’re not good enough, worthless, stupid, not wanted, loved, blah, blah, blah, and due to the fact that we produce an “experience of ourselves” out of the emotional charge, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

From a purely psychological perspective, we only “react” to and feel hurt or threatened by those who are conditioned to the same type of dynamics as we are, and therefore naturally play the role necessary for acting it out. Whenever we’re triggered by someone’s behavior towards us, it’s actually providing us with a mirror to learn how to see things in ourselves that we’re normally not fully aware of. It’s showing us where we’re still living out of the illusions and pain of the past that we never came to terms with, identified accurately, or put to rest. It’s still alive and active within us because we haven’t gained any real awareness around it that brought self-realization. Due to the fact that we still maintain a belief around it as being true, we continue to faithfully act it out over and over with the right people.

A person’s attitude and behaviors stem from their mental paradigm and psychological complexes, and in reality, have nothing to do with us. When someone calls us stupid, it doesn’t mean that we are in fact stupid, but shows us that they were made to feel stupid as a kid growing up, and are now compensating by trying to make others feel stupid in order to somehow elevate themselves above them. The lower they make someone else, the higher they become in comparison. They’re unconscious beings who are used to verbally attacking others in the same way they were verbally abused. Their opinion, perception, attitude and conduct only serves to “reveal” who “they are” and says nothing meaningful about us . . . unless, of course, we let it.

When we take what others say and do personally by internalizing it, we actually believe what they’re saying and accept it as being true about us, especially if we grew up being called the same names. The reason we “react emotionally” is because we’re used to it and we’ve been treated that way in the past. When we react by being hurt or offended, we’re actually agreeing with them and may secretly feel it’s somehow true. That’s what a reaction is. We know how to play a role in the reality they’re creating, and so we cooperate by participating in making it real. For example, if you know you’re not stupid or dumb, and someone calls you that, it has no effect on you in the most basic sense; outside of the fact that you may think they’re being rude. Nothing gets stimulated internally and there are no memories of the same type that are necessary to produce and automatic and immediate reaction. Anytime we react to being called a name it’s because deep down inside we think it may be true.

Self-Observation and Realization

In order to understand this psychological process, simply observe your own reactions from a neutral and unbiased standpoint. Start by finding a place and time where you can have privacy, and sit calmly and fully relax. Then recall an event where you felt hurt or upset by something someone said or did to you, and reflect on it in slow motion. Slow it down and review it step by step. Recall what was said or done, how it was said or done, what attitude, emotions, and behaviors were involved, and what it was regarding. Then turn all of your attention inward and focus exclusively on your own internal process.

Recall the emotional charge as it entered your body, and notice where in your body it lodged and stimulated you. Notice the nature of the stimulus by describing it in sensory terms. Was it sharp and stabbing, did it give you a sinking feeling, or did it cause you to feel afraid or scared? Notice what emotion was activated in you, and while refraining from going into a reaction again or telling yourself a story about it that justifies your right to react the way you did, just notice and witness what you’re thought process was and what it seemed to be about.

Allow yourself to notice what it brought up for you. What memory of the past started playing out in the background of your mind. What is it that you begin telling yourself about what it “means”? Then allow a natural chain-of-association to form as any other related or similar memories or scenario’s that it acted to prompt. Notice and become aware of anything that arises in relation to this event. Resist the tendency to repress it in any way, explain it away, or justify your right to be hurt or upset, and just observe your own internal process from a neutral and unbiased perspective. Then allow yourself to realize that you’re actually the one “creating” the state of being hurt or upset. No one is thinking your thoughts or feeling your feelings for you. You’re actually the one “doing it” to yourself by how you’re using your mind and body. It may feel as if you can’t help it (which is what unconscious means), but just notice and watch what’s going on inside of you.

Once you gain true self-awareness around what’s happening and why, and you bring what’s happening unconsciously into conscious awareness, this awareness alone neutralizes its effect. At the same time, you can become aware of what it is in you or about you that you need to heal and transform. All true healing is psychological in nature, and comes only by shedding light on the hidden aspects of your own psyche. We naturally act to heal ourselves by becoming aware of the patterns as memories we incurred as children that are continuing to act out in our life by forming all of our natural perceptions and reactive behaviors. Through awareness of the fact that we’re the one creating the reality of our memories, we dissolve them, and they no longer play out in an automatic fashion. We can be around the same person doing the same thing, and it no longer bothers us. We perceive it in a matter of fact way and no longer engage with them in co-creating that reality for ourselves.

As a general practice, if you do this process of self-reflection anytime you’re being triggered into a reaction of some kind, it’ll help you to become self-aware and resume conscious control of yourself and what it is you’re acting to create. You can begin healing yourself and taking back your power to create in a more aware and responsible manner. As you begin neutralizing your emotional reactions to others and the events of your life, you take back control of your own life. As you start remaining calm and clear headed in relation to others, you can begin developing skill in using your mind and imagination in a more deliberate and purposeful way. As you begin creating from a conscious and self-aware state, you take over the process of facilitating your own growth and development. You take back and begin utilizing your soul’s ability to create yourself from a fully awake and aware state and in whatever way you want and decide to.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

The Nature of Projection, Judgment, and Emotional Reactions

The idea that whatever we see in others and have a strong reaction to is something that we also have in us, can be difficult to understand because of course we don’t see ourselves as being anything like them and may even despise them for being that way. We’re not relating to them, agreeing with them, and don’t have any memory whatsoever of being that way ourselves. Many of the behaviors we react to and judge harshly are the same type of dynamics we grew up with or were subject to at various points in our life, and we actually fashioned ourselves by way of them to be the opposite. We put forth a conscious effort to make sure we were nothing like them and made sure we never behaved that way. So to contemplate the idea that we share the same traits can be confusing in the most basic sense and something that we refute through a form of “knowing ourselves”. Yet this idea comes from the fact that we actually have both a conscious and unconscious “self”, both of which are being projected all the time to make up our perception of others and our environment, and through an understanding of how we are always acting “on ourselves” to “create ourselves”. Our soul is comprised of both a conscious and unconscious mind, and we are always acting to create ourselves through both aspects of our mind, though we are only fully aware of the conscious aspects which are the ones that we willing choose, give expression to and use to form experiences of ourselves. As we create experiences of ourselves, we accumulate memories of “being that way”, and we begin building an image of ourselves out of only the aspects we’re aware of. This conscious self-image, referred to as the “ego”, or more accurately the “false ego”, is the image that we use as the means of sensing ourselves as a certain type of person based on what we know and accept about ourselves and what attributes, qualities, and traits we accept and freely express “as” our personality and basic ways of being. This idea we create about ourselves is a “false” idea because it’s based only partial information and aspects of ourselves and doesn’t incorporate aspects that we have while refusing to express them. There are two basic ways that we are always in the process of creating ourselves. We are either creating ourselves to be “like” others, or the “opposite” of others. As we encounter and experience and individual, activity, or idea, we enter into relationship with it and compare, contrast, and relate to it as the means of sensing ourselves by way of it. Energetically, we’re constantly being influenced and stimulated by others and our environment. Whatever qualities are being outwardly expressed in any situation, stimulate those same qualities “in us”, awakening and calling them forth into an active state. All energy has both dominant and passive aspects as inherent parts of it. As we’re being stimulated by something or someone, we realize it, sense ourselves through and “as” that quality of being, and we judge and evaluate it accordingly. If our judgment is favorable, and expressing it “matches” or is congruent with our idea about ourselves, we embrace it, allow it and freely express it, shaping ourselves by way of it to be “like it”. If however our judgment is harsh and negative, and doesn’t comply with what we accustomed to expressing, then we refuse to express it, deny to ourselves that we “have it” (the feeling, tendency, or behavior), and we repress it instead. As we deny feelings that are an active part of our psychological makeup, because we deem them bad or wrong somehow, they remain active in us and we continue projecting them outwardly, just as we do our conscious self-aware aspects, and they become an inherent part of others and our environment.

       As a quality and feeling is activated in us by some kind of stimulus, brought forth into our awareness where we “sense ourselves” as being like that and we judge it to be bad or wrong somehow, and as a result can’t find an appropriate means to express it because the situation that’s acting to stimulate it is also being judged as inappropriate, and so we refuse to, we simultaneously choose how to be instead and in what way we’re going to express ourselves in contrast to it. We develop ourselves to somehow be the opposite of it by what we actively choose instead. This “division of the self”, produced by a form of judgment births contrasting aspects of ourselves as our “shadow” or “hidden aspects” and our “ego” as our accepted and freely expressed aspects. The ego and the shadow are adversaries and mortal enemies, because the dissolution of the shadow through self-awareness and active expression means the “death of the ego” in terms of transformation. As we “judge” ourselves based on active qualities in us, which are what cause us to refuse and deny them, we then project those same qualities onto others, and as we “see those qualities” in them, we judge them just as harshly, and through the experience it brings us, we shape ourselves once again to somehow be the “opposite of them”. If we deem someone to be an idiot or asshole, we simultaneously produce an opposing image of ourselves as being wise, profound, and kind in contrast to them. If we see someone as being arrogant, selfish, or manipulative, we immediately produce a sense of ourselves as being whatever we consider the opposite to be. In this way, we are literally dependent on them as the means of creating ourselves to be their opposition. We first judge ourselves for having those same feelings, desires, impulses, and traits, which are universal in nature and a part of all humanity, causing us to repress and forget about them, yet we still have a pronounced “reaction to them” in others and all around us. The act of “judging” or discriminating is a natural part of the minds ability to reason, choose and willfully act out choices as the means of creating itself through its experiences. Most of what we refer to as being “judgmental” or as “judging others” is due to an incorrect use of judgment that’s a form of “value judgment”. The criteria that we use for judging ourselves is usually taught to us as a part of our conditioning through the group mind or mass consciousness, and is one of the most basic ways they or it plants the seeds that we use throughout our life to create ourselves and others to “conform” to the general consensus. We’re “taught” what good and bad are as values and beliefs of some kind, and we use this first to create ourselves initially, and then continue to create ourselves by way of it in relationship with everyone and everything else. It’s one of the most primary forms of mind control and brainwashing that’s conducted for the most part in a completely unconscious and automatic manner.

       It’s easy to realize that we only have strong emotional reactions to some people, ideas, and activities, while others we relate to, acknowledge as being good and right and feel at one with. All reaction comes from encountering outside of us what’s the complementary opposite of what’s inside of us. If it’s the same we barely notice it, it blends congruently with our experiences, and we don’t challenge it in any way. When it opposes us (or our self-made image of ourselves), it elicits an immediate and often intense emotional charge, and our thoughts about it that create how we experience it are highly judgmental in the sense of seeing them as bad, repulsive, and despicable somehow. As we judge them, it reinforces our judgment of ourselves, and we repress that idea even further, while still creating ourselves by way of it, as its opposition. All ideas of a moral nature have a very strong emotional component connected to them, just as all actual memories of any kind are formed into memories because of the strong emotions being experienced at the time they were created. An idea or actual memory is activated in us through an emotional charge that’s transmitted from one person to the other, or that we produce inside of us through our natural reaction to it. Our thoughts about things produce our own emotional reaction, and emotions being transmitted by others and received by us control our thoughts through the memories they elicit. All value judgments (right and wrong) have a strong emotional component to them that not only arouse us and drive our thoughts in a compulsive way, but are also the foundation out of which we created ourselves. So to “give up” our judgments, is to transform our ego and our “sense of self”, requiring us to acknowledge and bring into awareness aspects of ourselves that we’ve never outwardly expressed before. When this happens, we don’t know how to be and can feel torn with deep feelings of insecurity and the lingering residue of harsh judgments that we’ve used to shape every aspect of ourselves and our life. In the same manner, we form what we can call actual and objective judgments that are a form of accurate evaluation using “good judgment” and discretion that we have no problem not expressing because it’s honestly not “in us” to be that way. As we come across ideas through an experience of some kind, we’re always defining ourselves through contemplating them, trying them on, running scenarios of what they’d be like if we played them out as a reality, then, sensing ourselves in that situation as a way of realizing what’s actually in us as a part of our character and what’s not. We don’t necessarily judge them as right or wrong, but simply not who we are and not the reality we want to produce and play a part in. For example, sexual promiscuity or adultery may be an idea that’s playing out around us or is a part of our immediate environment, which, as we view it in terms of the reality and what it means about us as a result, what it would cause in other areas of our life, we may realize without doubt that there’s no part of us that’s like that. We’re not inclined to engage in those types of activities. Though we may find ourselves sexually attracted to others occasionally and the opportunities arise in which we could easily participate, or we feel “tempted” somehow, when thinking about the reality of it and how we’d feel being in it doing it, we realize we don’t want it, and so we decide not to. This is different than deciding not to because we feel like it would make us out to be a liar, cheat, deceptive, raunchy and bad person as what forms our decision not to. It’s all about what our “reason is” for making the decision.

       To encounter and become aware of our shadow, embracing it instead of denying it, brings us face to face with who we really are and why we became the way we did. If we admit to ourselves having a feeling and desire towards something that we judge harshly as being bad and wrong to do, and that we also have those same urges and impulses sometimes, it can cause us to go into a bit of an identity crisis. If we realize however that all qualities and traits have their appropriate expression under the right circumstances, and we realize that part of our judgment came from the situation or activity implied by them through association that was inappropriate for expressing that idea, and we look instead for how we could express it in a way that would enhance our current experience and expand our ego’s ability to create unique and diverse experiences of ourselves, we can find the means of expression that will create in a productive and conscious manner while bringing us some level of gratification and satisfaction. Even what seems like the worse traits and activity can be exactly what’s called for under the right circumstances and within the appropriate situation, and as a result, will be the best and most appropriate response. While most believe that the shadow is comprised of our “worst traits” or ones that are easily seen as bad, the fact is it’s comprised of any trait that we deem bad, wrong, weak, or that would somehow mean something bad about us if we were that way. For example, if someone has been led to believe that being “nice” is a form of weakness, perhaps because they were taken advantage of by someone whenever they were nice, they judge themselves as being weak for being that way, and will refuse to be that way and choose to act mean, harsh, or uncaring instead, perceiving that to mean that they’re strong and in control. Someone who’s very compassionate and caring may have ended up feeling like a doormat or as though they’re always being manipulated by those only looking to take, and will consider it a bad trait to openly express, and will become hardened in whatever way they feel they need to in order to suppress that tendency. So judgment isn’t just in regards to what could clearly be seen as a destructive way of being, but it’s formed by whatever we used as the means of creating ourselves by how we interpreted it and experienced it through our formative conditioning. Some people who are in reality exceedingly gentle and kind can put on the appearance of being rude, obtrusive, or tough, and ridicule those who are gentle and kind, as a means of protecting and shielding themselves from what they have experienced as being very negative consequences to being the way they “really are”. Once we realize what’s really happening whenever we are reacting and judging someone, and we choose instead to refrain from acting and turn inwards to see what it is in us that feels such a strong need to judge them, what is the reaction about, and we let a free-flow association of ideas take place where we recall memories that were of a similar nature, and times in our life when we had the same feelings and inclinations towards being that way, we can begin realizing a part of our nature that we convinced ourselves we didn’t have and as a result, forgot about having. We can come to realize that as children in our formative years we didn’t have the ability to reason, judge and choose for ourselves, and so we we’re told how to judge people and in what way to judge them. We we’re taught to be judgmental based on someone else’s opinions, values and beliefs, and criteria for using to shape ourselves and everyone else to be the same way. As children we don’t know who we are and we begin creating ourselves by default through the ideas and opinions of others that we’re taught and come to accept as our own. Once our “core beliefs” are established and our paradigm precisely structured, we continue creating out of it unconsciously, often throughout our lifetime, and as a result, create a false image in place of who we really are as an individual. We only break away from the group mind of the collective unconscious and begin truly creating ourselves by way of our own capacities when we begin gaining self-realization of our dual nature and we take the necessary action to integrate opposing aspects into a “whole being” that’s unified and coherent in all that we do. Through true self-awareness we can begin fashioning ourselves to be the unique individuals we are. We can break away from the mind training of the masses and become a self-referencing source of creative power.

Projection and Judgment as the Tools for Self-Realization Once we realize what’s really going on anytime we have an adverse reaction to someone or something where we’re judging them according to our own criterion and value system, we can see it as the tool it really is. All unknown content of our subconscious mind is constantly being projected and makes up a substantial part of our outer awareness. Anything we’re “reacting to” is because we have the same quality, trait, and tendency in us that we judged just as harshly as we’re judging them. We were conditioned somehow to the same dynamic as an interactive pattern where we took on the opposing role. All reactions form the basis for self-creation through the nature of the reaction and what we tell ourselves about them while contrasting and opposing them and shaping ourselves to be the opposite. We’re always shaping ourselves to either be just like others, or the exact opposite of them. But either way, we are dependent on the active expression of our shared traits as the basis for creating ourselves no matter what role we play in acting it out together. Because our perception of the outer environment is formed from the mental paradigm of the inner environment as a projection, we can come to realize hidden aspects of ourselves and the nature of our conditioning and why we believe what we do, and how we’re always using that to tell a story about things that shapes us simultaneously by way of playing different roles in the same story. We can realize that anytime we’re reacting and judging that we’re looking in a mirror and seeing the reverse image of the same thing. We can turn inwards, and through introspection, begin realizing our connection to the same idea and how it was that we formed our judgments that caused us to deny expressing certain parts of ourselves. We can gain insight into our early conditioning and how we were trained to the mindset that we used to create ourselves and others out of. As adults reviewing a process that was formed and set into motion as a child, we can reevaluate the same ideas with a renewed sense of clarity and see how they can be incorporated into our “known self” as the means to expand, enhance, and invigorate or ego, rather than shattering it. All transformation comes by way of incorporating new aspects into an existing model. By blending with and taking on new and diverse qualities, we can grow ourselves in new ways and expand our range of self-expression and what’s possible, creating a new array of novel experiences. We can learn and experiment with new ways of being. We can try on new ideas to see how we feel, and decide whether or not we want to continue into it, change and alter it somehow, or ignore it in favor of something else. We can come to know what’s truly “in us as us” and what has simply been taught and acquired along the way that we accepted in place of our true self. We can begin using our true ability to intuitively reason, decide and willfully act out our decisions as the means of true independent self-creation. As we come across traits that we definitely have that we associate with very distinct ideas that we honestly can’t see ourselves doing, we can ask ourselves how we can we express this same quality in another way that will be congruent with everything else and produce a desired overall result. We can begin challenging ourselves and developing our creative abilities to self-actualize in new ways. We can break patterns and conventional mindsets in favor of individuality and freedom of self-expression because we realize that as adults we have the discretion and reasoning powers to become self-directed and therefore self-determined. Dr. Linda Gadbois 

Emotions, Dynamics, and Reactive Behaviors – How we become Who and How we are

One of the easiest ways to understand how we become the way we are is to look at the natural relationship that exists between the inner and the outer, and between ourselves and another. We are all born into this world as a seeded inner core of qualities and characteristics that are “brought out in us” through interactions, relationships, and dynamics of some form as our formative conditioning (birth till around puberty) that form and establish our personality and natural tendencies that we continue creating out of throughout the remainder of our life in a purely unconscious and natural manner. As children, we don’t begin developing the ability to think and consciously make decisions for ourselves until around 10 to 14 years of age. We’re born into a fully active subconscious mind, which is passive (absorbs and processes outside information) and instinctual (automatic) in nature, emotionally driven, present in time, and “experiential” in nature. It doesn’t think in rational and logical terms (required to make decisions), but through pictures and scenarios as an experience. It’s fully present in the moment (no awareness of time), and isn’t distracted or consumed with thoughts of the past or future, like the conscious “talking mind”. It governs all of what we could call involuntary and some voluntary behaviors of the body through emotions and impulses of some sort, and based on suggestions given to it by other people.

In the most natural sense, we’re constantly being stimulated internally by everyone and everything around us. As we’re stimulated, it activates in us corresponding and complementary qualities that are of the same nature, bringing them out in us through an active state, where we “match” the state of the being or event we’re interacting with, and we express those qualities as a joint-reality through the dynamic that’s being played out. Whatever qualities are stimulated and brought into an active and creative state consistently and in an on-going manner, are developed as strengths while simultaneously acquiring the “dynamic” as a tendency. As we create experiences out of those qualities and dynamics, we “sense ourselves” through them, associate and identify with them, and “become them” as a natural part of our perspective, attitude, and behaviors.

The outside world can only act to call forth in us what already exists in us as a natural part of our constitution and predisposition. It doesn’t act to “give us qualities” that we don’t already possess, but simply develop the qualities that are of a similar and complementary nature that we share in common. Naturally, whatever qualities are consistently stimulated and used to express as a way of creating our experiences, become exercised, well-developed, and a dominate part of our character. Other qualities that aren’t stimulated very often are more subtle in nature, unfamiliar to us, and less developed. Still other qualities that are seldom ever or have never been stimulated in us, remain dormant in us as a form of latent potential.

As we go through life, because we’re naturally prone to repeating and living out of our conditioning and well-developed aspects of our character, we usually simply walk through life repeating patterns, naturally forming the same type of relationships that play out the same type of dynamics, unconsciously place ourselves in the same type of situations and environments, and act, for the most part, in a purely unconscious and habitual manner, without ever really realizing that that’s what we’re doing or that we have the ability to change it. Most live out of whatever comes natural to them and fail almost completely to recognize the patterns operating in their life.

Anytime we find ourselves in new and untried situations or relationships, we can feel awkward, unsure of ourselves, and overwhelmed with deep seated feelings of insecurity. We encounter a part of ourselves we’re not familiar with, and we don’t know what to do or how to be. We can fail to relate in the most basic sense, and not feel capable of playing the role we’ve been cast into. There’s usually two basic ways to interpret this, one is that the qualities necessary to participate in the dynamic or activity exist within us as potential that hasn’t been exercised, embodied, or developed, so it feels new to us, or, that we don’t possess the qualities and characteristics necessary, and so the situation isn’t stimulating at all and is not serving to bring anything out in us, and we don’t relate or identify with it in any way, nor do we want to.

For the most part we are all walking through life in a predominately unconscious state where we lack a fundamental awareness of the natural processes going on within us and around us as a natural part of our feelings, emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. Because all behavior is produced in a natural and automatic fashion by our unconscious mind as our personality, we often have no real awareness of what we’re actually doing or why. Emotions, which are freely being transmitted throughout the astral plane (atmosphere) act as a powerful stimulus that renders us unconscious, produce illusions as memories in place of objective neutral reality, and cause us to act and play out whole behavioral dynamics in an automatic fashion as a “reaction”.

Anytime we’re reacting to someone or something, we’re literally being controlled by it by becoming just like it. We instantly receive the emotional charge, have a strong internal reaction that instantly references and pulls up a memory formed out of the same emotion that becomes our perceptual lens as a template for producing an automatic reality that says “this is the same as that” (of the same emotion and meaning), and we act the same way as an automatic process. The subconscious is the aspect of the mind that produces, stores, and utilizes memory to produce instant interpretations of reality and automated behaviors. The emotion we were experiencing when we formed the memory is what gives the event the meaning it has, and is what connects the present to the past as being of the same meaning and idea. This memory, as a whole dynamic and reality, provides the subconscious with a pattern that it repeats and uses to create more of the same type of experiences. All reactive behavior is automated and we create out of a primarily unconscious state to create more of the past in the present.

Anytime we’re living out of our emotions, or are strongly affected by the emotions of others being projected at us or openly expressed around us, and dwell in emotional states inwardly by thinking and replaying memories associated with them over and over in a variety of ways, we’re literally being controlled and determined by others and our conditioning, and creating our life in a delusional manner. We’re tossed about and jerked around by the emotions we internalize as realities, and the will of others. The most predominate way we’re manipulated, seduced, and influenced by others is through emotions. As we’re stimulated and allow the emotions into our mind and body, allowing them to take hold and start running our thoughts, we form illusions out of them that we then relate and identify with, sensing our self as them, and they shape and determine us as a result. The patterns of our conditioning as dynamics, which are emotionally driven, have a very magnetic quality to them, and we can feel as if we get drawn into them even when intellectually we know we don’t want to. It’s as if we can’t seem to help it.

When we’re in a situation where we’re being stimulated by someone who’s outwardly being angry and hostel and is upset or attacking us, and we have that momentary realization of how they’re making us feel and what kind of person they are, and we’re on the verge of reacting by becoming just like them, and letting them “have it”, or “giving them back their own medicine”, we can also realize that in doing so we “become” just like them. We become the same type of person and behave (and self-create) in the same way. We bring the same qualities and characteristics into expression, invest in the same illusion, and create in the same manner. When this happens we’re being fully controlled and shaped to be just like this person. We give our will over to this person and give them free reigns in creating us to be the way we are. We “willingly create an experience of ourselves” as being the same way and the same type of person.

The more we willingly participate in reactive behavior brought on by emotional charges, the more we strengthen those traits and cooperate in co-creating the illusions that ensue from them, and we accumulate memories of ourselves being that way, and they become a natural part of our normal behavior where we begin playing them out more and more. The more we cooperatively participate in emotions and behaviors, the more readily and easily we’re stimulated by them and engage in a natural and unconscious way. We develop them into strengths and employ them as our normal emotional state. Our resistance to them lowers and we begin building their reality into our story about things in a way that makes sense and validates and justifies them as appropriate and rightfully warranted. Once this happens, they become a natural part of us.

Through the recognition and awareness of what’s actually happening and why, we can not only prevent the emotion being projected at us from ever entering and taking hold within us, and resist it by refraining from acting on it until it fades, and in the moment of calm that immediately precedes it, we can realize that we have a choice. We can either become just like this person in kind, allowing their mentality to infect us, or, through the awareness itself, keep it outside of us and not let it affect us. Anytime we don’t merge into the same emotional state as another, we act energetically to neutralize it. We don’t feed and amplify it by giving it our life-force energy. If we react and take it on, we amplify and multiply it. No matter what our choice is, and what actions we take based on our decisions, we create ourselves accordingly.

If you tend to be very sensitive and vulnerable to emotions (as most of us are) and have trouble resisting them, try a few practices that will allow you to become more aware of them in the sense of what’s actually happening when you’re experiencing them. There are two primary ways we experience emotions, one is because they’re being expressed, projected, and transmitted through the atmosphere and act to “enter into” and stimulate us internally, and the other is they come as a reaction to our own thoughts. In both instances, simply be present with what’s happening, and self-reflect or observe the process from a detached perspective of what’s happening within you and why.

When reflecting on emotions being projected at you, it’s best to start with ones that are mild to moderate (they’re not as gripping), and remove your attention completely from the other person or what’s being said or done, and simply turn your full awareness inward and become aware of how you’re being stimulated. Notice where the stimulus is located in your body (heart, stomach, sexual organs, etc.) and how its making you feel. Describe the feeling in sensory terms (buzzy, tingly, sinking, warm, stabbing, queasy, arousing, etc.) As you realize how you’re feeling because of it, become aware of how you want to react. Allow the initial impulse to momentarily play out in your mind. What behavior is it acting to produce in you in an automatic fashion? As you become aware of the behavior it’s acting to prompt in an impulsive manner based on how you’re feeling, notice what memory comes to mind or what past event you’re relating it to that was of a similar nature and caused you to feel the same way. Then allow yourself to play out the meaning of the memory in terms of what you told yourself about it, and what it meant about you and other people as a result. Your only goal is to gain a full awareness around the nature of what’s actually happening in you due to the stimulus. Awareness and self-realization is all it takes to bring it under control and refrain from reacting while maintaining a clear mind out of which you can calmly decide how you want to respond.

In terms of becoming aware of your own self-induced emotional states, realize that thought and emotion are always connected and of a complementary nature. We’re always either producing our emotions based on what we’re focused on or thinking about, or our thoughts emerge naturally as an expression of how we feel. Anytime a mood prevails or emotions swell up inside of you and starts consuming you, notice what it is you’re focused on and playing out in your mind as a memory or idea, and what you’re telling yourself about it. Then realize that if you simply change what you’re focused on and thinking about, the emotion associated with it fades and changes accordingly. Learn how to see the natural relationship that exists between feelings, emotions, thoughts, memory, and behaviors or activities. Notice that our state-of-mind is created by three complementary factors, what we’re focused on, what we’re telling ourselves about what we’re focused on that gives it meaning, and our physiology. Change any one of these, and the other two automatically change accordingly. If you feel you can’t control your focus or thoughts, change what you’re doing with your body. If sitting, get up and move around. If slumped over or feeling tired, sit up straight or get up and engage in vigorous activity of some sort. As you change what you’re doing, your mood, outlook, and thoughts change accordingly.

By becoming more aware of the relationships and operations of our mind and body, we can begin learning how to manage our own mental and emotional states. All abilities to utilize our own creative faculties comes through self-awareness and our ability to actively choose where we were once unaware, and willfully act out our choices to create new experiences of ourselves. In order to operate our own mind, we have to gain knowledge of our own subconscious mind and our ability to direct and guide it using our conscious mind. All unconscious and automatic processes can only be brought under control and utilized in an intentional manner by becoming aware of them. We can only work with what we’re aware of. Self-awareness is the key to life and the pathway to self-mastery.

In situations where we’re being stimulated by others or events, we have to notice what quality and “way of being” it’s acting to bring out in us, and who we become by expressing through it. Notice that people are always acting on us to influence us to become “like” them as a way of being and acting. All relationships we form at all levels of our life serve to naturally transform us by way of this process. It’s a fundamental process of cause and effect, stimulus that produces a like response, and action that produces and equal or greater reaction. At the energetic level of attributes, qualities, and characteristics, everything is produced, modified, and evolved through resonance, sympathetic induction, and coherence between two complementary systems. Once you realize it and form a fundamental understanding of it, learn how to use it consciously in a deliberate and intentional manner to develop yourself by way of it. Always work within the natural laws involved to create within the material plane.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Integrative Mind-Body Medicine Consultant and Spiritual Mentor

 

The Nature of Emotions and how to Consciously Work with Them

Illusions are Born out of the Realities we Create While in Emotional States

 

In order to work with something consciously and intentionally, we have to be able to conceptualize it in a way that allows us to gain a working understanding of it. It’s only when we understand how something operates that we can then begin working with it in a cooperative and deliberate manner. Nowhere is this truer than when working with emotions. Emotions are very powerful forces that when left unchecked, can completely run our mind and ultimately our entire life. Many people spend their entire life run almost exclusively by the emotional states that they entertain and engage in on a regular basis, and the emotional charges they absorb from those they live in relationship with and interact with on a daily basis. We become trained to certain types of emotions through our formative conditioning, tuning us to those emotional states in a habitual fashion,and we continue to act out the dynamics that evolve from those emotional states as their outward expression. These outward emotional expressions form our experiences of life.

Emotional charges are the natural forces within the astral plane, which is the material plane of light. The term astral means “starlight” which is the essence and substance of the material plane, which is ultimately comprised of “photons”. All of what we call matter, is in reality particles of light held together in energetic structures through invisible forces that produce a form of tension or stress as a vibratory field of energy. Emotions are the electrical charges as natural forces or Elements of the material plane that directly affect the composition and behavior of all living entities. The astral plane, which is equivalent to the Earth’s atmosphere, is formed out of “air” as illuminated water and dust formed by the combination of heat-light (fire) and water, the two primary Elements of the material plane that form air as a dynamic combination. The astral plane can be thought of as the invisible atmosphere of the earth, which permeates and envelops it, much like the auric mind field of the body. All invisible forces or planes of light go “through” matter, because of course matter is light that’s comprised of mostly empty space (subtle energy), and serves to “animate it” with automatic and natural behaviors. The astral plane serves as a medium through which emotions are readily transmitted, entering into living forms and producing automatic behaviors as a form of instinct, or behavior that’s unconscious in nature and comes without intention or a thought process.

Invisible forces as vibratory frequencies are what holds matter together in dynamic patterns as “form”. This form is then operated and animated by the same invisible forces that form it. Matter exists in what we call four primary states as charged-electrified plasma (the substance of stars as the fire Element), gas (air), liquid (water), and solid (earth). The entire physical plane is comprised of what we call the four primary Elements of Fire, Air, Water, and Earth, which form a dynamic series of correspondences to all aspects of both the mind and body, all of which operate according to and by way of the same set of laws. By understanding these laws, we can gain the knowledge necessary to work with all aspects of our material being.

All mastery and creation comes by working through law, rather than in contradiction to it. The mind as the invisible field of consciousness that vibrates at a certain frequency (is charged), is an invisible force that has the ability to organize, influence, and manipulate material reality through “emotional states” that it acts to produce. The mind, which is of the parallel mental plane, exists outside of or precedes the astral plane of light, and is what produces and determines it. The mind as “states of consciousness” operate as whole ideas that form thoughts as the reality of that idea, that then acts to stimulate an emotional response to the thought by producing the chemistry that’s of the same nature as the thought, which then produces the behaviors (animates matter) as the reality (organized movement) of the thought (idea). The emotion that’s married to a thought is what shapes it into a living reality as the experience of the thought.

The atmosphere of the astral plane acts as a medium for the propagation and transmission of both thoughts and emotions, where one always produces or is associated to the other as “thought-forms”. There are two basic ways we form emotions, the most primary method is in response to our own thoughts, and the other is as a projection from others that travels through the atmosphere entering directly into our body and stimulating a chemical reaction which alters our “state of mind” to match it. Emotions alter the physical state of the body to match the thought, and also alter the thoughts to match the emotional state. Emotions, which are the language and transformer of the material plane of light, act directly in and on the body through the chakra system, which then stimulates the endocrine glands to produce hormones as chemistry that transforms the vibratory state of the body while simultaneously regulating all of its biological functions. Emotions as conscious forces “pass through matter”, because they’re both comprised of the same thing. Light, in both visible and invisible forms (plasma and gas), acts as an electrified medium, which holds light substance (liquid and solid) together in vibratory patterns as living, animated entities.

Emotion is the main component of memory – we only remember events that had a strong emotional content – and the emotion associated with a memory serves as a “trigger” that activates the memory, which is what provides the “automatic behavior” as a pattern that’s acted out in a completely unconscious fashion. Emotions, as an electrical charge that activates and sets a memory into motion as outward behaviors that produces the physical reality of the memory through a form of cause and effect, is the same principle that governs and operates the entire animal kingdom as “instinct”. Humans are the only species that’s endowed with a conscious mind capable of “thinking” and therefore generating its own emotional state based on its own, self-induced thoughts. Yet most, forfeit this ability early in life through training of various sorts, and act instead to simply absorb and think the thoughts of others while living out of and being prone to the emotional states of those thoughts. Because emotions produce such a strong physical response when they’re allowed to “infect you” by entering into your body and stimulating a chemical reaction, they tend to completely control how you feel and think, and can keep you living out of a predominately “unconscious state” of automatic behaviors as a normal way of being.

Emotions are the language of the subconscious mind, which is also the aspect of the mind we share with the entire animal and plant kingdom, which operates as a motivating force devoid of thought. When we’re triggered with an emotion, we’re literally rendered unconscious and go into a whole dynamic set of automatic thoughts and behaviors, often without seeming to realize what’s actually happening and having no real control over them. The reality we create in our minds in response to emotions of various sorts are the reality of those emotions (emotions form realities as their expression) as illusions that are very convincing because they’re intense, and therefore mistaken as being real.

Emotions are the natural drugs of the body that produce “altered states”. As we allow an emotional charge to enter our body, it literally transforms us into the state (inner reality) that produces the (outer) reality of that emotion, and acts to control us in the most literal sense. The way to control anybody is to work through emotions to alter their state and cause a “reaction”. Anytime we’re “reacting” we’re being controlled by what we’re reacting to. All behavior is ultimately emotionally driven. How we think and behave, when residing in a predominately unaware state, is completely driven and determined by the emotional states we exist in on a regular basis. Emotions, like all drugs that are stimulating, are addictive, and we habitually maintain emotional states as a way of giving ourselves a “fix” of our favorite drug, which keeps us in an altered state and the illusion of that state as our experience of reality.

In order to begin intentionally working with emotions as energetic forces, we have to first realize that all energy as Elemental s, are influenced and directed by the mind as will, which is thought that imagined as an operation. Awareness is always the key to being able to consciously and deliberately work with something. We can only work with what we’re aware of. By becoming conscious of what was previously working at the unconscious level as automatic, we can “see” what’s happening and the effect it produces in us, and we can begin working with that process to redirect the energy involved through mental abilities. When we become aware of how we’re being emotionally stimulated by everyone and everything around us by how they feel, what they’re saying, and how they’re being, we can realize that we don’t have to allow ourselves to be blindly affected by it, but can instead keep their energy from “entering into us” and affecting us with the emotional charge it’s designed to create. Naturally, the stronger the emotion being outwardly expressed, projected, and transmitted, the more difficult this is, but only in the beginning when we’re still learning and practicing. The more we practice this, the easier it gets and the more natural it becomes.

All mastery comes through constantly practicing using your will to control your own reactions and perceptions. You have to first decide that you’re going to intentionally prevent energetic charges from entering your mind (electromagnetic energy field around and outside of your body), and therefore your body, and refrain from any form of “reaction” when being triggered, while simultaneously self-reflecting to gain an awareness of what’s actually taking place. The more aware we become of what’s actually happening when we “take on other people’s emotions”, the easier it becomes to prevent it. Emotions are infectious, and like an illness act to alter our entire state of being to become the vessel for expressing the emotion, while of course, creating the consequences that come from our behavior while in an emotional / unconscious reaction.

Likewise, when we realize that we produce emotions with our own thoughts, we can learn how to regulate our thoughts and redirect our attention to only think about things in a way that will produce the type of emotions we want to experience, or to neutralize them altogether. Because emotion and thought are always connected, the emotional state you’ve been habituated to through your formative conditioning also determine the type of things you tend to focus on and how you think about them to form internal realities as a “story” you start telling yourself about things that gives them meaning.

Changing your story about things may be a bit difficult to overcome in the beginning, because you’ve built your identity out of your story about things and the emotional states you’re addicted to. Like all addictions as habits, you don’t ever “stop them” or quit doing them, instead, you replace them with a different type of story and way of being. All habits are broken by being transformed into new and more productive habits. When you’re no longer “infected” and live out emotions being transmitted around you and as a response to your own thinking and perceiving, you’ll literally feel like and become a different person. So you have to be conscious of this, and embrace this new feeling of control and empowerment that emotional control brings. You’ll have to be prepared to begin telling a different type of story, and become a different type of person by way of your own story about things.

When we’re no longer controlled by the will and emotions of others, we can find ourselves in a strangely calm and peaceful place, unless of course we’re still caught up in thinking the type of thoughts that keep us in a constant reactive state to our own thoughts and imagining. Whatever memories we continue to live out of by dwelling in them, we keep ourselves in the same emotional state of those memories. We literally “tune ourselves” to the vibration of our thoughts and what we focus on in a continuous fashion. If a memory was sad or painful, as we think about it and relive it in our imagination, we produce a sad and painful state. We literally generate and experience the same emotions of those thoughts, and keep ourselves in a sad and painful state. This is because we have lived our life out of our memories of the past which we identified with while creating them (memories are interpretations that make events meaningful), and continue to build our identity out of and around by maintaining the same emotional states and thinking more of the same type of thoughts, while producing more of the same type of outer experiences. Through this process of living out of the past by dwelling in memories, we literally keep ourselves tune to and repeating those same type of experiences over and over, identifying with them deeper and deeper, until it’s the only state and story we know how to tell.

So in order to transform your own mental and emotional state and become a different type of person, you need to decide that you’re going to give up your story about things and step into a true sense of empowerment. A state where you’re not only no longer controlled by others and the whims of society, but you’re able to become self-directed and therefore self-determined. Only from this position are your truly embracing your true power of choice and free will to create yourself in an intentional and deliberate manner. However, empowerment brings a tremendous amount of responsibility and accountability. This new sense of responsibility can be a bit terrifying in terms of the insecurity it often brings, and the fact that you’re probably not going to be supported doing this in any way, shape, or manner by others or your life situations and circumstances. So you have to be prepared for this and employ a sense of mental fortitude and diligence. We only truly accomplish what we form devotion, commitment, and dedication to.

When stepping into your true power, you’ll have to learn how to cultivate other aspects of yourself you haven’t developed. You’re going to have to become very clear on who you actually are, and in moments that you normally spent reacting or being controlled by the will of others, you’re going to have to make new decisions as to how you’re going to be and what you’re going to say or do. Automatic reactions and unconscious behaviors are going to be replaced with thoughtful and deliberate actions. As we act in a deliberate manner and become truly creative in our life, we simultaneously become aware of the consequences it produces, and we can “adjust our response” in order to produce the proper influence that will lead to the desired outcome. When we’re no longer “being controlled by our emotions”, we suddenly find ourselves in a position of being able to directly and intentional influence others and situations to a difference means. By being in full control of ourselves, we’re able to remain aware and intentionally influence situations in a way that neutralize the emotion being expressed, and initiate a new emotion that leads it in a different direction. We can learn how to how not only not be affected by other people’s emotions, but how to use emotions deliberately to affect others and produce the type of thoughts that will be more productive and serve the greater good of everyone involved, instead of creating illusions as emotional dramas of some sort.

The key to all forms of mastery is awareness of others and the operations inherent in the outer world through self-awareness. We can come to understand everything around us by how we’re being stimulated, influenced, and affected by it. Through this awareness we can gain control over our own internal processes and reactive states. Once we are fully aware and have control over ourselves, we become a neutral force, and can act on ourselves in an intentional manner to regulate and maintain our own state of mind. We can detach from anything happening around us, and no longer being controlled by others and the events of life.

By mastering self-control we can become independent and self-reliant, and therefore able to truly create and alter the state of everything else by intentionally embodying different types of emotions that will influence and alter their state. It’s always a question of who has the stronger will and who’s the one acting to influence and direct who? In every situation you’re either being affected by the influence of others, or you’re the one who’s influencing and affecting them. By employing a completely neutral state, which is the desired state in personal terms, you act to neutralize whatever emotion is being expressed by not “taking it on” and responding in a like manner, which amplifies it, and you change the state of the other person, calming them down and relaxing them. Whenever we don’t react to someone by taking on the same emotions and reality as them, we act as a mirror that’s reflects back to them the illusion of the reality they’ve created out of their emotional state.

We only truly have the power to self-create and become self-determined when we can gain full control of both our mental and emotional states. By learning how to keep emotional charges from entering into and affecting us, while also learning how to direct our attention onto things that produce a positive and relaxed state, we step into a form of liberation as the true ability to create ourselves by cultivating different states in ourselves that develop our character and identity in an intentional and deliberate manner. When we can exercise control over our own mind and body, we exist in a calm state of inner peace, undisturbed and unaltered by whatever is going on around us. We come into a new sense of empowerment as our ability to truly be creative not only in our own life, but in the world at large. We embrace our true identity as superior beings with the ability to create within the material world by working with the natural laws that govern the Elemental world of feelings, thoughts, and emotions, that produce all actions as a unification.

By mastering self-control we gain the ability to achieve higher states of consciousness by existing in a passive and receptive state to the higher worlds by not being “active” (reactive) in the lower, material plane. Whenever we’re forming our identity out of our emotional delusions as the stories we tell out of them by living in them, we are bonding ourselves to the lower plane of our delusions. Out of our identification with emotional states of various sorts, we form attachments to those states as a need and desire for them, because without them, we don’t know who we are. By identifying with our higher nature, which exists outside of and above the material plane of astral light (emotions), and mastering our mental powers, we let go of material attachments and no longer form our identity out of material means, and we become a neutral force, which without personal motive or need, becomes a force for good in the world because it’s only desire and motivation is to serve humanity in whatever way is beneficial for everyone involved. We only truly have power in any situation when we’re free of it and not dependent on it to fulfill any need or desire of any kind. Detachment from material identification is the key to transcending the material plane to higher and more empowering states of mind. To become “godlike” is to become neutral to all delusions born out of emotional states, and cultivate instead virtues that allow us to govern and oversee the material plane.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Integrative Health Consultant and Spiritual Mentor 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

All Perception is Self-Perception – Projection, Energetic Entanglement, and Morphing

What we Think of Others is a Reflection of Ourselves in them

 

The true nature of what we refer to as “perception”, like consciousness itself, is still largely a mystery in scientific terms. We ask “what is perception”, and how do we form our perceptions? Perception is a product of the mind formed through our paradigm or the mental structure of our mind which is the lens we “look through” to “see”. Our mind literally reformulates everything to match our mental model, making it perceivable as a consistent version of an outer reality that’s translated through our inner reality to be of the same nature, meaning, and significance. We fit everything into a consistent theme as a way of making sense of the world. As a way of understanding it by how we describe it, explain it, justify it, and build it into our story about things in a way that makes sense to us.

The statement that we are one with everything around us, is a literal statement, but not in the way most think. While we share and are constantly exchanging the same particles, molecules, and substances with everyone and everything around us, we’re also exchanging consciousness, and energetically merging with it, becoming one with it, and reforming it through our mental perception of it. We never really see things as they actually are apart from us, but as we remake them through our experience of them. Each person that’s apart of the same event, situation, or observing the same object will experience it differently, and in a way that’s unique to them. This is because we only “see” and recognize in everything else what matches our paradigm, and is brought out in it through the resonating activity of our attention being directed at it, that only vibrates similar aspects of it, reordering it into a new form with the same qualities (consciousness) of our mind. Attention, as directed and concentrated consciousness vibrates at a certain frequency, and is always resonating with what is of the same frequency in everything else, and calling forth what matches it into an active state, while causing other qualities to recede, become passive and latent, reshaping the appearance of things. How things appear to us is a product of our own vibratory frequency as our mental paradigm.

The outer world shape shifts to match the inner world that’s perceiving it. All material matter has the energetic potential to appear different to everyone (the individual mind) that perceives it. Matter itself possesses consciousness as psychic qualities that are always interacting and transforming through induction and repulsion of everything else around it. We change the vibration of a substance just by observing it. Our vibration as a mental paradigm or pattern, enters into the same vibration as a quality in everything around us, and effects it by remixing it’s dominant and recessive qualities, changing how it appears by reformulating its inner state. In this way, the observer and the object being observed are apart of the same event, and can’t be meaningfully separated out. Our perception of others and outer events are a direct reflection and expression of our own mind. We “see” in everything else what’s in us, because our mind is the one doing the seeing. The qualities we see in other things are the qualities that we ourselves possess that we project onto them, then perceive them through. If they possess qualities that we don’t, we fail to see or recognize them, or make them out to be something else instead. We transform their character to match ours by how we reform them in our imagination. We describe, explain, and tell stories about them that have nothing to do with them, and everything to do with us.

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Likewise, every reaction we have to another, is an interaction with ourselves (same characteristics) in them. They possess the same qualities that we do as a dynamic pattern, and the “reaction” is the experience of resonance, or what we call stimulus. We only resonate (react) to the same vibration in another, which not only transforms us to that vibration by making those qualities active and dominant, but transforms them equally to the same qualities and behaviors, which form the basis for the interaction as the outward display of the shared pattern as a behavioral dynamic. Whenever we come into relationship with someone or something else, an immediate pattern emerges as a type of dynamic that becomes the nature of the interaction in an ongoing fashion. Once we realize this, we gain a valuable tool for self-recognition and realization. Anytime we’re forming a distinct interpretation of another person, we can ask ourselves simultaneously, what does this show me about myself?

Our mind, in the most basic sense consists of the conscious (self-aware) and subconscious (unaware) mind. As we go through life, based on experiences in which we were heavily judged in some way as being bad, wrong, not good enough, stupid, guilty, belittled, shamed, and so on, which causes us to deny the things about ourselves being used against us, while also repressing the memories associated with them. While these tendencies are being denied on the surface we still possess them internally, where they become internalized and formed into complexes that we continue to express by projecting them onto others (looking through them to see the same thing in others), and judging them just as harshly, if not more so, than we were judged. The dynamics of repressed issues continue playing out at the subconscious level where we’re not directly aware of what we’re doing, and we continue to produce the behavior and attract those who share the same issues and tendencies, and will cooperate in acting them out in a subliminal manner. Because they’re hidden from our own awareness through a denial of having or being them, they remain hidden from our own awareness of ourselves, yet we readily see the same traits and tendencies in others and continue living out the drama that ensues from them, we can become aware of them in ourselves through simple self-reflection.

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Once we become aware of the fact that we’re always projecting onto others and seeing in them the same character and tendencies that we have or were conditioned to as children that we’re in denial of, we can use it as the tool for self-development that it offers, and anytime we’re having a strong reaction to someone, or judging them harshly in some way, we can ask ourselves, “if I could see this same behavior, attitude, or tendency in myself . . . what would I see”? Why am I having a reaction, what emotion got triggered, and what idea or memory comes immediately to mind as I react to it? Why does it bother me so much? What is it “about them” that bothers me? If we refrain from actually reacting outwardly, and simply sit with the feeling we have inside and simply observe it, while allowing our reaction to continue internally playing out, we can begin seeing in ourselves what it is that we’re being shown through the other person or event that’s taking place. What are they acting as a mirror for?

Just as “what another person thinks of us, has nothing to do with us”, likewise, what we “think of another person has nothing to do with them, but is all about us”. Our reaction, shows us what our own issues are that’s causing the reaction. How we judge others (through the nature of the reaction) is in the same manner that we were judged. How we act, or treat them, is the same way we were treated while being judged in the same way. We employ the same emotional state, behaviors, tone of voice and attitude, and often even use the same words. As you witness your own reaction from a detached state, as if watching yourself from the perspective of someone else, who or what does it remind you of? If you we’re on the receiving end of your own outward behaviors and attitude, how would you perceive yourself? What kind of person would you see yourself as, and why? Learn to penetrate it through a raw form of honesty, and as you begin gaining awareness of what has been operating in you without your direct awareness, gain realizations around it. See it in yourself as clearly as you can, and “own it”. Don’t continue to justify it or try to explain to yourself “why” you’re like that (usually blaming it on someone else), and just be present with it.

Self-awareness is the beginning steps to healing at the spiritual and psychological level. To begin realizing how your own subconscious mind is operating, allows you to understand what’s happening and what you’re doing, and you can begin working with it in a conscious manner. Become clear on the fact that whenever you’re reacting to someone or something, it has nothing to do with them, but is being “created internally” by you. We can only change what we’re aware of and fully own. Just the awareness itself starts the healing process and begins dissolving your attachment to that memory or idea whenever it’s being played out in your present situation. Self-realization is the key to personal growth and emotional healing.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Personal Transformation Coach and Spiritual Mentor

 

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Karma and the Law of Cause and Effect – Changing Reactive Behaviors

Becoming Self-Aware

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Karma can probably be most clearly understood as the law of cause and effect, or action that produces an equal or greater reaction. Karma is the fundamental activity of our life, which is either repeating a pattern as a natural tendency or unconscious behaviors, which produces a like effect as a reaction or immediate consequences to our actions, or it comes as a willful and deliberate act that we’re fully aware of and do intentionally. Most karma originates from conditioning of some form, where we’re trained to behavioral dynamics of some sort as the emotional dramas being played out around us that we’re a part of, and ultimately learn to participate in and cooperate in repeating as a kind of life theme that produces a consistent experience of reality. Once conditioned with a thematic life pattern as a type of experience or story that we naturally act to tell by the perceptions and relationships we form with everyone and everything else, we go through most of our life (or lives) forming and playing a familiar role in the same dynamics, over and over, through all areas of our life, usually without any real awareness that we’re the ones creating it.

 

The patterns we form as a thematic story is a natural product of our mental paradigm, and the emotional states we live out of as a general rule. All patterns are the result or expression of “states of consciousness” or mind-sets that form our everyday thoughts, and determine what we’re capable of seeing (perceiving outwardly) in any situation, and what we’re not. Those who share our thematic patterns and behavioral dynamics (of the same frequency) standout, we notice them, gravitate towards them, and they effect us or cause an internal–emotional reaction in us. Those who are of a different frequency or behavioral dynamics, don’t stand out, we don’t really notice or pay attention to them, and we can exist in near proximity of them for extended periods of time without ever interacting with them. Anyone that we share karma (life patterns) with, we tend to easily form a relationship with, and they participate in acting out the same type of story with us. While we can play any role in a dynamic, we tend to favor one while remaining largely unconscious of the others, and are most compatible with those who will play the complementary role, allowing us to remain largely unconscious of what we’re cooperating in creating.

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Anytime we get caught up in a strong emotional charge of some kind, and have a strong reaction to something, we’re in the process of acting out karma as automatic and repetitive behavior that we do without thinking about or having any realization around before we do it. It’s thoughtless behavior produced by an emotional charge, which literally renders us unconscious. When we live out of a volatile sea of emotional states that keep us in a constant reactive state, or always thinking about and dwelling in what “someone else is doing”, while losing all awareness of what we’re doing instead, we can live the better part of our life out of an unconscious state, and simply repeat past patterns over and over. This is the fundamental nature of karma.

 

To get off the “karmic wheel” of fate and fortune as haphazard, knee-jerk reactions and mindless emotional drama, we have to begin gaining control over our own mind and senses, and refrain from emotional reactions of all kinds, while self-reflecting instead. As we refrain from outwardly reacting, which keeps us only conscious of the other person, and we become aware instead of what’s happening inside of us “as” the reaction itself that produces automatic behavior by accessing a memory associated with the emotion that’s activating it, and the type of behavior being displayed outside of us. It’s the emotion that enters our body, stimulating us with that same emotion, and the memory as a similar event that we have directly associated to it, that basically says “this (the present) is the same as that (the past)”, and we react in a like manner.  By doing this, we create in the present the same realities and experiences as the past. We act the same way, and create the same behavior, which not only produces the same type of experience again, but draws to us the same consequences or reactions to our behaviors. Once we “do something”, we can’t undo it, and it sets into motion a whole series of consequences, some of which are immediate and intense, others which extend over longer periods of time and are more subtle and gradient. Some consequences we recognize and own, others come later and can mystify us.

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To break the patterns that bind us, we have to become fully present in the moment, become aware of any emotional charges while refraining from reacting to them, then shift our attention inwardly to observe what’s happening inside of us. Notice what the emotion is, where and how we feel it in our body, what memory immediately comes to mind in response to it, and the story we start telling ourselves about what’s happening. Because like always stimulates what’s like it, we can become aware of aspects of ourselves that we normally aren’t fully aware of or are in denial around for some reason. When we remove our attention from the outside stimulus, which is merely serving to awaken the same reality within us, and we pay attention instead to what’s happening inside of us, and we simply self-reflect on what process begins simultaneously unfolding as a whole idea, and we realize the nature of our reaction, and we “observe” our own inner experience. Just the awareness alone brings what we are unconscious of into conscious awareness. The awareness alone is enough to break the reactive pattern as a tendency, because we can catch ourselves as we’re doing it. Once we become aware of our own tendencies, and no longer react to them when being displayed by others, we can consciously choose our own behavior in response to them. We can decide what to do from a calm and relaxed inner state. By doing this, we transform old karma by producing new karma in its place as new patterns activated by the same outer stimulus.

 

When we’re in full control of what we do, and we’re not being controlled by outside forces, we become conscious creators in our own lives, and we respond from a thoughtful place that acts to cause an entirely different reaction. We can neutralize a strong emotion being projected towards us by another by deflecting it instead of absorbing it, while simultaneously initiating a new one to take it’s place by counteracting it, and changing the persons state to match ours. In this way, we can become self-determined and act as a positive influence for those who aren’t. We can transmute our karma as old reactive patterns into new patterns of awareness and intentional action that’s aware of the consequences our reactions produce and as a form of consciously creating.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

 

 

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The Transformative Power of Relationships

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As we move through life, we’re always in the process of exchanging consciousness with everything around us. Just as we breathe and take in the air around us, using the molecules attained from it to replenish depleted molecules in our body, and rebuild our body by incorporating them into our molecular structure, we’re also taking in and exchanging consciousness with everything around us through resonance. We experience this exchange of energy as feelings in the indirect sense of just being around something, and as a direct stimulus when an actual interaction takes place. As we interact with someone, they directly stimulate us, and us them. This stimulating effect comes from what’s being activated between us, and brought out in us through the nature of the interaction. Certain qualities as a mood, attitude, and characteristics are called forth by what ever is being demonstrated, and then shaped into a greater pattern as a behavioral dynamic through the nature of the interaction itself as a cause and affect or action and reaction type of drama. We can only form an actual relationship with those who share the same qualities and characteristics as we do and who are conditioned to tell a similar type of story, necessary for the interaction itself, which begins co-creating a specific type of story-line as an ongoing interaction.

 
The people and situations we surround ourselves with, whether intentionally or unintentionally, become the building blocks of our consciousness. They act to transform us by taking on and making active within us whatever qualities we share in common. As these inner qualities are brought into an active state, they’re developed in us through the overall pattern as a dynamic being acted out, and they’re strengthened in us. We are then conditioned to the dynamic itself, and as we experience it we acquire memory of it, which serves as our basic mental and emotional programming. Whatever we have memory of we act out unconsciously in an automatic and natural fashion. As we co-create experiences by playing out certain dynamics, the memory of those experiences adjust and modify our paradigm to include them, and they become a part of our essential being.

 
This transformative quality of our relationships works for good or for bad. They either act to bring out the best in us, or they bring out the worst in us. We either like who we become when we’re with them, or we don’t like who and how we become. They make us feel a certain way, and that feeling is consistent whenever we’re with them. While we experience a range of emotions and feelings when we’re with them through various activities, the overall feeling that takes place forms a theme which remains constant throughout the relationship. The theme of how we feel is produced by the dynamic the relationship takes on. We can feel a deep connection that’s intimate and immediate, where we are valued, appreciated, wanted, desired, and we truly feel love; or we can feel used, not good enough, deceived or betrayed, humiliated, disappointed, where love is replaced by a series of toxic emotions that are painful and only act to reduce us somehow. You can tell pretty early in the interaction what it’s going to be if you’re willing to pay attention and honor your feelings.

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The key to mastering your relationships by seeing them as powerful “self-development tools”, is to remain present in your experiences, and always notice how you’re feeling, and how they’re being. Always remember feelings don’t lie, it’s only the outer appearance of things, or what we start telling ourselves about what’s going on as a means of justifying or denying it that can be deceptive. Words or what people say and do that are clashing with how you’re feeling are the illusion. This idea isn’t about right and wrong, feeling guilt or shame, or placing blame on the other person, it’s simply about recognizing with clarity that what they’re doing and how they’re being with you, causes you to feel a certain way. This feeling inside of you in response to them is what they will continue to bring out in you throughout the entire relationship. The feeling, not the outer behavior, is what sets the pace for the relationship and the theme it takes on by the dynamic that starts playing out.

 
Even when you realize that the feeling you have is about your own “issue”, because of how you were raised, also realize that this relationship is about that same dynamic and will only continue developing that feeling in you, and was more than likely formed because it was about creating more of that same issue, and will continue to be. The feeling and dynamics are a congruent component of a larger pattern, and one acts to stimulate and produce the other. The idea here becomes healing yourself of your “issues” before you get into a relationship. That way you know that the attraction wasn’t based on the shared issue, and you’ll attract and be attracted to a different kind of person who won’t serve to act out the dynamic of the issue with you, simply strengthening it and giving you more of it.

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The key to understanding comes through self awareness and realization. Devote yourself to becoming aware of your own issues and tendencies as “themes” you were conditioned with, and the behaviors you’ve acquired by way of them. Begin recognizing the tendencies you’ve developed that may be making the other person feel the same way as you feel when they simply respond to you in a like manner. For example, if your tendency is to not feel wanted and included in activities, that you act as if it’s an actual fact, may cause you to behave in ways that are stand-offish, distant, cold, or uninterested, that cause the other person to feel unwanted and excluded by you. They then react to you in a like manner and behave in a way that causes you to feel “unwanted and not apart of things”. We build behaviors around our issues as a way of defending or protecting ourselves against them that serve to actually produce them. Self-reflect and gain as much insight as you can into your own feelings and issues, and work on yourself to heal those issues before you look to get into a romantic and intimate relationship.

 
Cultivate in yourself the ability to stay aware of how you’re feeling in any given moment, based on an interaction of some sort. Notice what you’re feeling inside, what part of you it’s appealing to and bringing out, and who you start becoming because of the interaction. What persona do you take on? This shows you what the relationship will naturally strengthen and develop in you. If you simply “hold a feeling”, move into it and become fully present in it, and begin reflecting on it, what you’ll notice is that a whole idea begins playing out in your mind like a memory that’s inherent in the feeling. Regardless of how it plays out in terms of the scenario it presents itself through, the theme or main idea it illustrates is what’s showing you the reality inherent in the feeling. Feelings are an internal response to an outer reality as the experience of it. A inner feeling is always associated to an outer reality. The same types of events give us the same type of feelings. When you see into your feelings, you get a preview of the type of realities they produce, that will only act to give you more of the same feeling. It exists as a kind of circuitry as an inflow and outflow that’s constantly harmonizing and equalizing the inner with the outer.

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As you recognize how you’re feeling with someone, don’t get caught up in feeling bad about what you’re realizing, or making them bad or wrong somehow, where you start compromising your feelings or distorting them through a story you tell about them that makes them mean something, simply observe them in an objective manner “as” they are, and honor them as showing you the truth in a situation. Your inner feelings will always show you in very direct terms the true nature of any situation. It comes through resonance as an energetic interaction, and is neutral in nature. It only becomes subjective and distorted when you begin interpreting it to make it mean something. The interpretation and meaning is the illusion we build around things that prevents us from seeing the truth. The truth doesn’t come with a story attached to it, but as a direct and immediate inner stimulation that makes you feel a certain way. Honor that, and you’ll always be working with the true reality of any relationship or situation.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Evolutionary Relationships

Personal Transformation

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How to Begin Taking Control of your Emotional State

Emotional Intelligence as an actual Practice

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There’s nothing that controls us more than the emotions we experience or act to produce through the nature of our thoughts. One of the first steps to working consciously with anything is by gaining awareness around it and coming to understand how it operates. By becoming aware of what it is, how it works, the natural relationship it forms as a creative process, and what affects they produce when uncontrolled and haphazard. Emotions exist at the subconscious level of the mind, which means we engage in them, experience them, transmit and receive them, without direct awareness of what’s happening. When we enter into them, they produce pronounced and intense state of mind and bodily sensations and cause us to go unconscious while producing reactive behaviors. Our reactive behaviors create in our life and draw to us immediate consequences.

 
People who experience intense emotions are usually highly reactive, easy to control through their emotions, and prone to delusions formed out of thinking that’s driven by emotions. While in a reactive state we’re completely unconscious of what we’re actually doing and running on autopilot. Many, when they come out of an outburst or temporary loss of control, only vaguely remember it in terms of what they said and did, and once the realize what they’ve done, feel ashamed, embarrassed, guilty, or regretful. But of course, it’s too late, what’s done is done, and can’t be undone. During reactions, many honestly experience a form of black-out where they’re completely unconscious, and it’s as if something has “taken them over”, and only start coming back into awareness somewhere in the middle of what they’re doing, and so in a strange sort of way, actually aren’t fully responsible for what they say and do, even though it was still extremely destructive and damaging and came as the result of a complete lack of control. This can make emotionally reactive people very stressful to be around and unpredictable. You have the feeling of walking on egg-shells because you never know how they’ll take something or what will set them off.

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So to begin the process of learning how to control your self and avoid being infected by emotions is to approach them with an attitude of understanding them. This can be done through simple self-observation and reflection. We don’t need a scientific explanation in order to understand it in terms of working with it. Emotions are something we experience everyday in an intimate fashion. We first want to look at how emotions are transmitted and received. Notice that you can sense and perceive emotions being put off by someone experiencing them. This is a kind of emanation, projection, or transmission. You sense them because you feel them. You pick up on them as internal sensations located at different spots or areas of your body. While you may not know what caused them, or what thoughts they’re actually having, you know what “kind” of emotions they are – angry, sad, happy, scared, in love, heartbroken, and so on – because they make you feel the same way. You simply want to notice this “transmission and reception” of emotions.

 
Emotions are shared by the entire natural world, and are the primary “language” or communicative activity of the subconscious mind. You want to begin forming an idea in your mind that the very atmosphere of the Earth that surrounds us and that we’re apart of, is like a field of energy that acts as a carrier wave for the transmission of vibration as emotion that stimulates us producing “states of mind”. These vibrations as emotions are experienced as “qualities of consciousness” that move freely through matter, and are transmitted by “entering us” and activating the same feeling in us. These emotions, in the animal kingdom are designed to create automatic behaviors and activities in the animals as instinct, who, of course, don’t “think about things”, but act and react as more of a “cause and effect” type of relationship, where the information of their environment is apart of them, and acts to direct their activities. This transmission of energy designed to produce automatic behaviors affects us also, causing reactions, but the problem is we also form our “thinking” out of them, and as a result, create whole realities as an illusion that’s mistaken for being real or actual. We create whole realities out of emotional states that render us unconscious and cause us to act in a knee-jerk fashion.

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Notice what happens inside of you when you pick up on a strong emotion, one that’s being projected directly at you, or you’re interacting with someone who communicating through the emotion, or is in a reactive state themselves and unloading on you. Notice the intensity while refraining completely from acting on it, while letting it completely rise in you, filling you. Concentrate on being present with it by giving it your full attention. Don’t try to shut it down or suppress it through a feeling of overwhelm. You can hold the emotion fully within you without expressing it. Stay with it in it’s intensity until it peaks and starts dying down. Allow yourself to notice the thoughts you reference and think about as a form of memory associated with it. This usually comes as a scene that starts playing out, of either an experience you had while in this same state, or as the kind of experience this emotion would produce or come from. Whether an actual memory or an imagined one, notice that they come in the same way, as what seems like a memory.

 
Emotion as a state of mind is always intimately associated with all our experiences, and determines what kind of thoughts we form in our mind, or what previous experiences we continue to play over and over. Emotions have a very active component to them, and tend to make us act in some way according to them. When emotions are intense, behavior is immediate and often explosive or extreme. While we may not experience a clear thought process, the emotion does cause an instant behavior as a reaction that’s produced as a pattern for the body through memory of some form. Emotions not only keep us behaving in the same way, but living out of the same past.

 
Once you begin practicing this in your daily life, starting with the common emotions that are easy to control, then working your way up, you can begin consciously controlling not only your actual emotions, but your behavior and what you do or who and how you’re being. Because they no longer take place in an unconscious fashion, you don’t go unconscious when experiencing them. As you begin staying conscious and aware of them, from a disassociated and detached perspective of witnessing or observing them, you can literally begin directing and controlling them. You can create an imaginary boundary a couple of feet from your body as a bubble like sphere surrounding your body, that’s a shield where the emotion is experienced on the surface of this sphere and never allowed to penetrate you or produce and affect “in you”. When you keep the emotion outside of you, yet allow it to fully reflect on the outer boundary, much like looking at it through a lens, you can still see (imagine) the reality or memory inherent in it, while keeping it outside of you. You can look through the lens of the emotion as a perception of it, while never actually feeling it in your body or allowing it to become a part of you. This forms the basis for developing compassion. You may feel the residual affect of the emotion more like an echo or subtle sensation produced by the perception of it, much like your own thoughts elicit emotions in response to them, but it’ll have a distant feeling, and be easy to control and direct out of your body at will.

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As you practice and get good at the process involved, you’ll naturally be able to use it in emotionally intense or volatile situations, with equal ease. By being able to still have or see the experience of the emotion outside of your body, you’ll stay conscious and fully awake in situations you’d normally go unconscious in, and you’ll be able to see the illusion of the emotion as a delusion or false representation of reality, without partaking in the same illusion yourself. You can begin realizing how emotions skew and distort perception and replace objective reality with a false interpretation of a subjective reality. You’ll be able to realize how emotions control people and keep them locked into illusions of their own making. You’ll be able to realize that their reaction and behavior is based on a lie that they perceive as real and factual.

 
Once you can keep emotions from penetrating and infecting you, you can dissociate and detach from them and stay centered in an objective and actual reality that’s not based on a shared emotional illusion. By being able to see clearly, you can understand and therefore feel a deepened sense of compassion for other people who simply haven’t learned how to step outside of their own made-up realities long enough to see the truth. By being able to witness this reality with other people, you’ll be able to see your own illusions in an objective and neutral fashion also. By understanding emotions, how they work to infect us causing a kind of mental illness, we can begin working with them while remaining fully conscious and centered in an undisturbed inner peace and equilibrium that allows for an neutral and objection perception that shows us the truth hidden in the surface appearance of things.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Transformational Coaching

Mind / Body Integration

 

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Fate, Astrology, and the Seven Archons of the Material Planes

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The material realm of matter is governed primarily by the subconscious aspect of the mind, which is the aspects that governs all of Nature and the animal kingdom as the instinctual field of mass consciousness, or what some think of as the collective unconscious. This field of intelligent energy is also known as the Astral Plane of the Earth, and is populated with principles and archetypes, that vibrate at different frequencies based on kingdoms (mineral, plant, animal, human) as the level of consciousness that govern the different kingdoms, which is further divided into the species and types of that kingdom. This forms the classification system that organizes the consciousness of all living systems that make up the natural world.

 
Within the material realm, all living creatures, with the exception of man, only possesses a level and degree of consciousness that “thinks for it”, by providing it with automatic behaviors regulated intuitively through feelings, emotions, impulses, and natural reactions. No aspect of the natural world here on Earth has the ability to self-create or create in the general sense through novel inventions and engaging in creative mental processes, with the exception of humans. Their life in terms of what we would call destiny, is predetermined by their species and classification, their living conditions and circumstances, and so on. All of which are governed by the natural forces of Nature, symbolically represented as Archons (angels), Archetypes, astrological influences, and the Elements. Their fate is set at birth, and they don’t have the ability to willfully alter the course of their life by thinking for themselves, actively problem-solving and choosing, or through their ability to imagine as the precursor to actual creation. Because of this, the subconscious mind is referred to as the faithful mind because it’s only course of action is based on programming. It’s the mind of automatic actions that respond to the environmental influences which are considered fateful. Its fate, so to speak, is set by the stars as a fixed pattern and range of possibilities that influence the natural forces of the material world of which it is subject to.

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Man, born into the physical world through an animal body has the subconscious mind that’s natural to this world and governs all the natural biological processes of the body in an automatic and unconscious fashion, also possesses the higher aspect of the mind called the “self-conscious” mind and the Divine Soul that has free will and the ability to tune into higher forms of knowledge as the means of creating through original thought of some form. Through our inherent ability to develop ourselves through study and activities, and make decisions for ourselves hat actively impose a direction on our life and willfully determine our destiny. But only if we exercise our higher intellectual capacities of choice and free will. We only ever grow (break existing patterns) through striving and effort as willful action.

 
We are the only beings on this planet that have these higher capacities, but we have to realize it and actively choose to use our will in order to become an individual capable of thinking and doing for ourselves. If we don’t become self-aware and wake-up to our power to be self-determined, and live our life instead from a primarily unconscious state as the programming of our subconscious mind instilled through our conditioning, and instead allow ourselves to be pulled along and determined by our environment and the will of others, then we are subject to fate, and have the experience of life “happening to us” without any real control or say so.

 
When we live in a primarily unconscious state, unaware of our true identity, and act only out of natural, emotionally driven behaviors and reactions, easily directed and commanded by the influence of others, our lives are accurately predicted by our astrological birth charts, which govern the astrological influences of natural forces, cycles, and currents of the lower mind. Our life is then predetermined and prophesized by the automatic enactment of inherent tendencies and our basic predisposition. Throughout our life we’re governed by habitual and addictive tendencies, codependency of various sorts, and reactive emotional behaviors. Our emotions rule us and exercise constant control over us. Other people can easily exercise control over us by keeping us in an emotionally reactive state. Our life is lived from a primarily unconscious state where we live out the same tendencies over and over, in many different relationships through the various and evolving stages of our life. Our only thoughts are ones we received from others through some form of suggestion, education, reading, conversation, movie, song, etc. We stay in the same patterns formed and held into place by the same moods, feelings, emotions, thoughts, and actions. We can accurately use the events of the past to predict the future. We can look at the theme and path of their last relationship, and predict the future of their current relationship. No matter what they go through in life, they remain the same basic person.

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The only way to move beyond the laws of one plane is to identify with the higher plane that resides over and governs it, and work by way of the laws that govern that higher plane. We can’t get away from the laws that govern our physical plane, but we can transcend it, and work by way of the laws that create and orchestrate it. To transcend the fate of an unconscious existence, is to realize our true identity as beings that are not “of this world”, but rather of a world that resides over it, and by using our ability to think for ourselves, make conscious decisions for our life, and willfully bring them into fruition, we can determine our own destiny, what path our life takes, and who we become as a result. Our awareness of our true inner self, who we are as a soul inhabiting our body, and giving that “part of ourselves” precedence within us, gives birth to our higher self or soul within the body of our lower self. We then consciously fashion ourselves to be an individual, and are no longer subject to the will of others, or blindly pulled along the currents of life as the group mind, which pull us every which way.

 
By waking up, becoming self-aware and coming to know ourselves as we truly are, and recognizing how our mind works according to the universal principles that govern and operate it through a group will, we can learn how to operate our own equipment while employing the higher laws of the mind that shape identity through individual will. We can separate ourselves from our emotions and the emotional charges and willful projections of others, learn to maintain control over ourselves, and consciously make decisions that will break past patterns and set into motion a new reality of our own making. We can become the captain of our own ship and through a sense of confidence in our abilities and adventure, and chart new courses never before experienced. We can regain our ability to not only be self-determined in every moment by how we’re being, but also through our ability to control ourselves, no longer be influenced by others, and instead directly bear an influence on them.

 
The natural forces that govern the material realm and act through the lower subconscious mind, commonly referred to as the Elements, are controlled by the higher mind through active use of the will and imagination. Through our will we can command and direct the energies of the natural world. When we recognize and step into our Divine birthright, and become as the gods we are kin to, and take possession of our power to willfully create our destined adventures by taking decisive actions and believing in ourselves and our ability to create new worlds. The right to choose our destiny is the birthright of every person. When other people, corporations, governments, or civilizations try to take that right away from us and we willingly cooperate, we accept the fate of whatever they offer, and lend our will to their creations by cooperating and complying to their will for us. Even in this situation, we are willingly giving them our life by allowing them to command our will and determine our actions. We act cooperatively to fulfill their ideas for us, and become as herded and caged animals when we do. Whatever we equate ourselves to, we become like in body and mind. Whatever we relate to and identify with, we align with, merge into, and become one with.

 
Either way, whether willful creation or blind submission . . . the choice is always ours!

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Spiritual Sciences

Transformational Coaching

 

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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Internal Dialogue – “Natural Form of Self-hypnosis”

Scorpio_KayagaMany people believe that self-hypnosis is a technique or process that has to be studied and learned in order to be proficiently practiced. Yet, in reality, we are always engaged in self-hypnosis as the most fundamental behavior of the mind that we naturally engage in without realizing it. All operations of the mind are not foreign ideas that have to be sought after and learned in order to be able to do, but rather simply becoming fully aware of how we use our mind in an ordinary and ongoing manner.

We are constantly engaged in a form of thinking as internal dialogue that’s always telling us stories about people and things, wondering about something, describing something, explaining things, and creating an internal reality out of feeling emotions. All of this is the most basic and natural way that we act to program ourselves by use of our own mind-body system. The foundation of hypnosis is a relaxed and therefore receptive state (no resistance or challenging (your own) ideas), while being given suggestions as dialogue that you simultaneously picture in your mind as a image or object, scenario, or living reality as the conceptualization of what you’re telling yourself. This is the most natural way the conscious (thinking – talking) mind gives directives as commands or imaginary prompts to the subconscious (feeling – experiential) mind, which turns them into realities that appear real and create an internal experience of the thoughts, which become a form of virtual substitute memory that acts like a template for creating outer experiences that match the internal ones.

The conscious mind programs the subconscious mind by giving it instructions for what type of idea to make into a reality. The reality is a self-creation that not only provides a memory-template for the subconscious mind (which operates through memory) to create instant realities of the same nature, but also acts to hone our vibratory frequency to that reality, while simultaneously revealing our vibratory frequency as an expression, while also “asking” for more of the same thing.

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Our internal dialogue as our most basic form of self-expression is also the most primary form of prayer that ‘asks’ for a certain type of experience through the universal language of sensory enhanced imagery formed in our imagination by us. We shape our own reality by how we use our imagination to first create it as on ongoing thematic story-line internally, tuning our vibration to that state-of-mind, which then acts as a mental filter or lens for restructuring our external reality to be ideal for telling the same type of story. We only ‘see’ and use the elements necessary for creating a story by how we interpret other people’s behaviors, situations or events. We reform our external reality to match our internal by how we interpret it to give it meaning. The meaning becomes the basis for the story that shapes the experience we create out of it. In any situation or event, we only notice and abstract what can be congruently used to tell the same type of story we hold as a life theme. Whatever doesn’t match or naturally lend itself to the telling of our thematic story, we don’t notice or react to.

Our subconscious mind, which is equivalent to our body-consciousness, produces behavior to act out whatever story as a reality it has been programmed with, through memory of some form. Whatever we think about that has strong feelings and emotions attached to it, which is why we keep thinking about it, while running it through our mind repeatedly and imagining it as different scenarios being played out in a variety of ways, is programming ourselves to naturally create those type of experiences as a general theme that’s congruent with our life’s story.

Mental freeflow

We naturally engage in this process most of the time without direct awareness of what we’re actually doing. Naturally any experience that has a strong emotional impact anchors that memory in our body, making it compulsive. We tend to dwell in it, and think about it constantly throughout the day as normal random thinking and daydreaming. As we run thoughts through our mind repetitively we program ourselves to the frequency of those thoughts, not only seeing them readily and reacting to them in others and in our environment, but we also magnetize ourselves according to those thoughts (which are imprinted in our Astral (mind) field) and draw to ourselves people and situations ideal for creating more of those same type of experiences.

So the most basic form of self-mastery as self-realization and creation, is not only to master our own internal dialogue and what we focus on, think about and picture in our mind as a potential experience, but to use it intentionally and in a deliberate manner to program ourselves with positive ideas that strengthen virtuous qualities within our character that tell naturally express by telling beautiful, adventurous, and meaningful stories of your own choosing that enrich our sense of well-being and our ability to enjoy and relax into our own life. Whatever you tell yourself as an imaginary thought-process, you become. The trick to anchoring the thought is to imbue it with strong feelings and emotions that make it appealing and compelling. Feel the thought by shaping it with sensory definition (what are you seeing, hearing, feeling, telling yourself) creating it as a living experience in your mind’s eye, and begin programming yourself in a way that allows healing and a sense of empowerment within your own life. Take control of your life by consciously using your mind to self-create and become self-determined as a result.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Hypnosis and Guided Meditation

Transformational Coaching

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
To inquire, click here