Relationships: Looking for Patterns in the Chaos – “Recognizing Dynamic Themes as Interactions with Ourselves in Others”

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When we realize the true nature of the individual mind as the electromagnetic field that is grounded in, permeates and envelops the body, that is comprised of a dynamic network of interwoven patterns as memory of some sort acquired through various levels of experience which become our “psychology” as our perceptual lens that works through interpretation to restructure all external and objective reality to be of the same nature (patterning) as we are, we can realize we’re always seeing in others the same qualities that make up our constitution, and how we “act on them” is actually acting on ourselves “in” them. The confusion seems to come around two ideas, one as what do we mean by “aspects of ourselves” as qualities, and a lack of actual awareness of qualities we possess that we are in denial of, have repressed and suppressed that we don’t “own” or actually know we have as a result.

 
Aspect of the self, are qualities that form characteristics with behaviors in them as dynamic patterns that are thematic in nature, and contain opposite roles (or variety of roles) that are necessary to act out the theme as a drama of some sort to create an experience as a joint-reality of that characteristic expressed through a story. Everything in life exists as patterns (form as function) as whole ideas that have natural behaviors in them that create specific “types” of realities. We attract to, and draw to us, those who are ideal for acting out the same story as a joint experience that expresses the shared qualities of their character. So we naturally enter into relationships of various sorts where they possess the opposite and complementary qualities played out through “roles” to tell the same type of story as a co-creation that validates and supports both people’s belief-systems as a shared illusion (imaginary reality). For example; a person who continually perceives themselves as being a victim of some sort, naturally attracts to and enters into relationship with those who will “victimize them”. A “victim” needs a “victimizer” in order to act out a dynamic together that result in them feeling like a victim. All qualities are natural forces that exist in polarity as opposites that are complementary in acting out the pattern they both share a complementary role in.

vesicaLikewise, whatever qualities and character traits we deny in ourselves, and therefore repress by not owning (recognizing) or acknowledging them, we simultaneously project onto others, by assigning those same traits to them by how we interpret their behaviors, then we form a strong reaction to them based on our own interpretation. By this means we see our repressed qualities that we’re not directly aware of because we formed an illusion around them as a story we tell ourselves that serves to deny it, or make it out to be something entirely different than it really is. When we realize the laws governing the mind and the fact that all perception is a form of projection created by looking through the “lens” of our mind we can realize what our own hidden qualities are, often referred to as our shadow aspects, because they live in the dark within us without any clear recognition, and are projected onto others as what we see in them that’s of the same nature (vibratory frequency) as us. Perception operates according to the principle of resonance. We literally can’t see in others what doesn’t first exist in us. What’s “of” us, we react to (resonate with), and what’s not, we don’t even notice (have no reaction).

 
Intuitively, we’re always tuning into the feelings (vibrations) of the heart, which senses and understands everything around it as an inner knowing, and sees (perceive) only that which we also “feel” by the spiritual (energetic) intelligence (patterning) of the mind through the imagination, which reforms them through an adaptation process as an interpretation that forms an illusion around them as a personification of what is in reality, a neutral and separate person, place, or thing. We then begin to speculate within the realm of our own illusion (imagining according to us) distorting the truth and behold instead our own hallucinations that we mistaken for being “real” or factual”, when in fact, they’re pure fiction.

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This is why we say that “what a person thinks of you, has nothing to do with you, but simply reveals who they are”. Because we’re never really seeing others as they truly are in the objective sense, but through our own interpretations that make them fit into our story about things in a way that makes sense to us as a means of creating our experience of them. And likewise, the same holds true in reverse. Our opinions of others seldom have anything to do with them, but rather express our judgments of them in terms of the same judgments assigned to behaviors that we also possess, and often repress because we judge ourselves just as harshly for the same tendencies, which is why we come to deny them in ourselves. So for the purpose of self-preservation, we distort it with a story that makes the same behavior out to be something entirely different. While the actual behavior is the same, our “reason” for doing it is different than we imagine another persons reason for doing the same behavior is. We create a reason for it that justifies it while simultaneously validating our right to judge others for what are in reality the same behaviors that we demonstrate.

 
All perception is in fact . . . self-perception. How we experience someone or something, is completely an inner creation that’s expressing our model of the world, while simultaneously revealing it. This is the minds way of showing us parts of ourselves that we can’t ordinarily see, because the primary basis for all healing . . . is awareness! Once we realize this fact, we can use it to identify hidden aspects within ourselves that we have repressed, and by becoming aware of and acknowledging them we can begin working with them in an aware and intentional manner.

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The most basic process for bringing this idea into practice within your daily life is to allow your mind to think about others as you normally do and simply take on an altered, second-person perspective of observing your own thoughts. Don’t judge yourself for having those thoughts, or begin justifying them in some way, but simply notice what they are, and notice what the central theme of them are. As you get a clear idea of what or how you’re evaluating the person or behavior as a “value judgment” (bad, wrong, stupid, mean, asshole, jerk, slut, etc.), abstract the behavior being demonstrated that warrants the judgment, separating it out from the meaning you’re giving it, and ask yourself . . . how am doing the same thing in my own life? Where and when do I display the same tendencies, while perceiving them in a different way? And what am I telling myself when I do these same behaviors that justify my right to do them? What story do I tell myself that makes the same type of behaviors seem different?

 
Self-reflection through an understanding of resonance and projection allows us to identify tendencies within ourselves that we are in denial of, fail to recognize or own, or that we have build defense mechanisms around. What we defend ourselves against, we readily “see in others” and tell ourselves a story about it that exonerates us by persecuting them in the same manner that we have been persecuted. A person who has always been made to feel as if they’re not “good enough”, for example, will have a tendency to make other people feel the same way in relationship with them, by acting to “lower” them somehow, or make them feel inferior to them. They’ll do it in the same way (attitude and behavior) that it was done to them. If they we’re constantly criticized, then they’ll do it by having the same tendency to criticize others. If they we’re constantly corrected with an attitude of frustration or intolerance, then they’ll do it to others in the same way.

 
Our conditioning programs us with whole patterns as interactive dynamics where we are conditioned to the behavioral dynamics we’re raised with, and continue to act out those same dynamics as we go through life in numerous ways. What was done unto us by others, we in return, perform those same behaviors in how we perceive and treat others, giving them the same feeling that we were programmed with. Because these “programs” are apart of our unconscious make-up, and we’ve built illusions around them that prevent us from seeing them as they really are, we can use our knowledge of projection to recognize hidden tendencies in ourselves as our unconscious programming, and in becoming aware of it, we can begin to work with it in a conscious manner, to change our own mind-set about things and begin developing new patterns of perception and behaviors by actively choosing instead unconsciously reacting. We can begin realizing that the only way the “world changes” for us, is by changing ourselves, because our perception is what creates the world around us. The outer world is transformed inwardly. Our outer world is produced by and equivalent to our inner world.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

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About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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Development is based on Growth that Activates Latent Potential – “What we speak to, we call Forth in Others”

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“What we speak to, we call Forth as a Joint-Reality”

In any person or entity (group, business, or organization) we can only grow or increase what we already possess in terms of latent potential that’s not being utilized. We don’t grow or expand our range of expression by figuring out what we don’t have or what’s missing, then trying to figure out the means to acquire it. Everything we need to fulfill our destiny, is already present in us, and simply needs to be awakened and developed through practice of some sort. When trouble shooting a situation, it’s not about finding what’s wrong and fixing it, which always introduces doubt and undermines confidence, it’s about finding what talent or ability is inherent in the situation (or person), that’s not being fully utilized. In utilizing the untapped potential as action and behavior that the potential implies, the problems simply go away and don’t even need to be pointed out or addressed.

 
How we orientate ourselves in any situation determines our process. Perspective always determines approach. What we look for we find. What we expect, we act unconsciously to create. What we talk too, and talk about, we create as a joint reality. What we talk “to” in others, we stimulate, bring out in them as mental and emotional impressions, that call forth the reality in them as a means of planting a seeded idea in them, that we then grow and develop into a certain dynamic through our interaction with them that shapes it into an idea or belief that becomes a story of some kind. Usually without ever recognizing that they didn’t naturally perceive that reality and wasn’t acting to create it until we suggested it, and convinced them to agree with us. Once we give the suggestion as an idea, and begin growing and developing it by how we interact with them by how we present the idea, we get others to agree with us by being able to see the same thing the same way we do, and they begin unknowingly cooperating in creating the same reality as a joint experience.

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We’re always acting on others to shape them according to us. Teaching them how to be like us, and to share in our story about things. To buy into and agree with our psychology by sharing our reality as a means of validating and supporting it. Our paradigm as our model of the world, determines what we see, and also what eludes us. We can only “see” what’s of the same nature and can be explained or meaningfully interpreted using our model. What’s not the same we either transform by how we interpret it or we fail to recognize it all together. We only see aspects of ourselves in others, and act through resonance to stimulate and make active in them the same aspects by how we interact with them. By how we behave, what we say, and how we say it. The attitude we employ at any given moment, effects everyone around us by first awakening the same emotional state in them as a correspondence to us, then how we treat them that stimulate mental images as memories that work together to form an inner representation as an experience of us associated to a past experience of some sort. How they experience us forms an association that serves to trigger an automatic reaction anytime they’re near us, or at the mere thought of us. If the association is positive, they gravitate towards us and feel better when we’re around. If the association is negative, they try to avoid us, and become anxious or uncomfortable when we’re around.

“A person may not remember your name or what you do . . . but they’ll always remember how you made them feel”

When we approach people and situations with an attitude of fault-finding delivered as some form of criticism or pointing out their errors (according to our opinion) it always undermines confidence and introduces self-doubt that will actually act to perpetuate the problem. Psychologically this acts to increase the tendency to make errors through second-guessing themselves, or out of fear of trying. If instead we identify the error and what should be done instead as a solution or what will naturally resolve the error as a correct behavior, and we take an attitude of teaching by demonstrating the desired behavior, with an attitude of creating understanding, we create a positive experience that reinforces confidence and improves performance. By creating positive growth-oriented experiences, we bond with others in a way that instills trust and a deep sense of loyalty.

 
Through a fundamental understanding of psychology and the creative process indicated through natural laws of the mind (reality), and our ability to apply that knowledge to our everyday situation by how we conduct our lives, we can create and deliberately construct instead of acting in a destructive manner without any direct awareness that that’s what we’re actually doing. True intelligence is the understanding of law as patterns with distinct behaviors in them that function in predictable ways and give us a process for creating by working in the world by way of law strategically building them into our psychology through the dedicated practice that develops our style in accordance to them. To align with the greater will, is to operate through law which governs all life within the physical domain, and creates intelligently as a result.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Personal Development

Business Psychology

 

About the author:
Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
To inquire, click here