Self-Mastery: Learning how to not be affected by others

Many of us spend our whole life a slave to the attitude, behaviors, and opinions of other people. We’re in a constant form of reaction from one moment to the next, beings jerked around like a puppet on strings, often crushed by a rude comment. If someone is hateful or sarcastic in some way towards us, it can throw us into a tailspin that can last for days, weeks, or even months. Someone with a bad attitude that’s also aggressive can outright terrify us, especially with all the mass shootings being staged and publicized around the world. Most people spend their entire life being shaped and determined by other people and the rules of society, usually without any direct awareness of how it’s happening or the reason why. Many people have completely lost touch with their soul and their real power to create in their life, and don’t even realize it.

One of the most basic forms of empowerment comes from a fundamental understanding of psychology and what it is that drives people’s behaviors. By coming to understand what drives other people’s behaviors, we can gain a better understanding of our own behavior in response to them. We’re all only capable of “bringing out in others” more of what’s “like us”. Whatever qualities we embody and express outwardly act to stimulate and bring out those same qualities in others as a natural response to us. Energetically, we’re always vibrating the same state of mind in everyone we interact with. We’re always in the process of mentally and emotionally influencing others to become more like us by how we perceive them and treat them accordingly.

Anyone who has been beat down and criticized as a child, either grows up to beat others down with the same type of criticism and mental attitude, or they remain super sensitive to anyone who has an attitude of criticizing them. The act of criticizing produces an equal and complementary reaction. The effect produced is always an expression of what caused it. There are no exceptions to this rule. The confusion tends to come when we only look at one side of the equation, instead of recognizing that everything operates as a whole pattern. All patterns form as a “dynamic” that’s holistic in nature and played out unconsciously through our basic perception, attitude, conditioned tendencies, and automatic behaviors.

Most people when being criticized or dealing with a sarcastic or mean person, focus almost exclusively on the person they perceive as doing it “to them”, rather than focusing on what’s happening inside of them as their own reaction. All energy, which is what emotional expression is, exists in a fundamental state of polarity as complementary opposites that move in-sync with each other. Anger, for example, provokes either and equal or greater response of anger, which escalates and intensifies it, or it causes a fearful response that backs down and becomes submissive. Any emotional response, whether sympathetic or antipathetic, nurtures and sustains the anger/emotion because both people are cooperating with each other in co-creating a joint reality out of the “active force” of anger. Any “reaction”, which comes in an immediate and automatic fashion that matches the energy being projected, is a basic form of control. Anytime we’re reacting, we’re being controlled by whatever it is we’re reacting to. The easiest way there is to control someone is through their emotions and the sensationalized realities they create internally.

 Every human being develops their own “mental paradigm” based on their formative conditioning. All of our initial conditioning takes place while we’re in a primarily unconscious state, and acts to literally “program” our subconscious as the “model” of reality we form from it. All of our values, beliefs, preferences, and initial (developmental) memories are instilled in us as kids through our family dynamics. As we become adults our basic personality and way of perceiving others and the world around us has been firmly established and we simply continue to live out of the same perceptions, tendencies, and relationship dynamics that we were a part of as kids. We continue to view the world and others the same way we were taught. In psychology we say that “we become one of our parents, and we marry the other one”. Whatever type of relationships was modeled for us as kids and that we played an active role in, becomes the same type of relationships we enter into and maintain romantically, socially, and professionally. We play out the same ideas over and over with different people and situations.

These dynamics become the themes that serve as a metaphor for our life. They usually involve ideas around our self-esteem (image of ourselves), such as not being good enough, not being worthy, not loved or wanted, being stupid, bad, ugly, and so on, which is why they ultimately serve as self-fulfilling prophecies that we wrap our identify around as adults. We “become” whatever we’ve been programmed psychologically to become by what we were told, heard being said about us, and how we were treated by those we cared about the most. These life themes become what we refer to psychologically as “core beliefs” that are like the nucleus of our mental model and spawn all of our other beliefs as being correlated to the same basic idea.

Dissecting Our Experience

In order to really grasp the significance of this idea, let’s take a moment and examine how it is that we create our experiences. While we tend to think that others are capable of doing something “to us”, when we examine the process closely, we can realize that we’re actually the one doing it to ourselves. We are in fact the sole creator of all our “experiences”. This idea is often confused as being our “reality” in the objective sense of what happens outside of us, when in fact how we experience what happens to us is an internal process that we perform and conduct “on” ourselves using our mind. Creating our experiences comes initially as an “unconscious process”, which means we do it naturally without any “direct awareness” of the fact that we’re actually the one doing it to ourselves. Due to the naturalness of the process, it usually completely eludes us. Yet in order to gain control over our own natural and unconscious processes, we have to form an understanding of them as a mental concept. So let’s turn our full attention inward and become aware of how we form our reactions to others.

When someone says or does something that’s offensive, hurtful, sarcastic, or mean, something that’s designed to get a rise out of us and place us in their control, we experience it as an intense internal stimulus that comes as an “emotional charge”. Once you experience the emotional stimulus, you instantly associate it to a memory where the same type of emotion and behavior was involved. Through association to a past event of the same kind, the same emotion and state are awakened and made active in you, bringing it out in you as a natural reaction. Your mind interprets “this” to mean the same thing as “that”, and you react in the present with the same emotional behavior as the past. We then act out the same behaviors and dynamics, and begin telling ourselves the same type of story about what it means about them and us in relation to them.

The story we tell ourselves as our thoughts and internal dialogue follow the same theme as our memory of the past. Emotions are always associated to memories we formed while in the same emotional state. Emotions are what drive and produce all of our natural and automatic behaviors. We’re most naturally and easily made to behave in certain ways through our emotions. Emotional memories give our subconscious the “pattern” it needs for producing automatic realities and behaviors that don’t require any thought, appraisal or decisions.

When we live out of our emotions we live out of the memories and conditioning of our past and continue to create more of the same type of experiences. We repeat the same patterns with the same type of people and relive the same type of experiences in new ways over and over. As we create our experiences, we simultaneously identify with them, and shape ourselves “through” our experiences. We once again replay the broken and worn out record that says we’re not good enough, worthless, stupid, not wanted, loved, blah, blah, blah, and due to the fact that we produce an “experience of ourselves” out of the emotional charge, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

From a purely psychological perspective, we only “react” to and feel hurt or threatened by those who are conditioned to the same type of dynamics as we are, and therefore naturally play the role necessary for acting it out. Whenever we’re triggered by someone’s behavior towards us, it’s actually providing us with a mirror to learn how to see things in ourselves that we’re normally not fully aware of. It’s showing us where we’re still living out of the illusions and pain of the past that we never came to terms with, identified accurately, or put to rest. It’s still alive and active within us because we haven’t gained any real awareness around it that brought self-realization. Due to the fact that we still maintain a belief around it as being true, we continue to faithfully act it out over and over with the right people.

A person’s attitude and behaviors stem from their mental paradigm and psychological complexes, and in reality, have nothing to do with us. When someone calls us stupid, it doesn’t mean that we are in fact stupid, but shows us that they were made to feel stupid as a kid growing up, and are now compensating by trying to make others feel stupid in order to somehow elevate themselves above them. The lower they make someone else, the higher they become in comparison. They’re unconscious beings who are used to verbally attacking others in the same way they were verbally abused. Their opinion, perception, attitude and conduct only serves to “reveal” who “they are” and says nothing meaningful about us . . . unless, of course, we let it.

When we take what others say and do personally by internalizing it, we actually believe what they’re saying and accept it as being true about us, especially if we grew up being called the same names. The reason we “react emotionally” is because we’re used to it and we’ve been treated that way in the past. When we react by being hurt or offended, we’re actually agreeing with them and may secretly feel it’s somehow true. That’s what a reaction is. We know how to play a role in the reality they’re creating, and so we cooperate by participating in making it real. For example, if you know you’re not stupid or dumb, and someone calls you that, it has no effect on you in the most basic sense; outside of the fact that you may think they’re being rude. Nothing gets stimulated internally and there are no memories of the same type that are necessary to produce and automatic and immediate reaction. Anytime we react to being called a name it’s because deep down inside we think it may be true.

Self-Observation and Realization

In order to understand this psychological process, simply observe your own reactions from a neutral and unbiased standpoint. Start by finding a place and time where you can have privacy, and sit calmly and fully relax. Then recall an event where you felt hurt or upset by something someone said or did to you, and reflect on it in slow motion. Slow it down and review it step by step. Recall what was said or done, how it was said or done, what attitude, emotions, and behaviors were involved, and what it was regarding. Then turn all of your attention inward and focus exclusively on your own internal process.

Recall the emotional charge as it entered your body, and notice where in your body it lodged and stimulated you. Notice the nature of the stimulus by describing it in sensory terms. Was it sharp and stabbing, did it give you a sinking feeling, or did it cause you to feel afraid or scared? Notice what emotion was activated in you, and while refraining from going into a reaction again or telling yourself a story about it that justifies your right to react the way you did, just notice and witness what you’re thought process was and what it seemed to be about.

Allow yourself to notice what it brought up for you. What memory of the past started playing out in the background of your mind. What is it that you begin telling yourself about what it “means”? Then allow a natural chain-of-association to form as any other related or similar memories or scenario’s that it acted to prompt. Notice and become aware of anything that arises in relation to this event. Resist the tendency to repress it in any way, explain it away, or justify your right to be hurt or upset, and just observe your own internal process from a neutral and unbiased perspective. Then allow yourself to realize that you’re actually the one “creating” the state of being hurt or upset. No one is thinking your thoughts or feeling your feelings for you. You’re actually the one “doing it” to yourself by how you’re using your mind and body. It may feel as if you can’t help it (which is what unconscious means), but just notice and watch what’s going on inside of you.

Once you gain true self-awareness around what’s happening and why, and you bring what’s happening unconsciously into conscious awareness, this awareness alone neutralizes its effect. At the same time, you can become aware of what it is in you or about you that you need to heal and transform. All true healing is psychological in nature, and comes only by shedding light on the hidden aspects of your own psyche. We naturally act to heal ourselves by becoming aware of the patterns as memories we incurred as children that are continuing to act out in our life by forming all of our natural perceptions and reactive behaviors. Through awareness of the fact that we’re the one creating the reality of our memories, we dissolve them, and they no longer play out in an automatic fashion. We can be around the same person doing the same thing, and it no longer bothers us. We perceive it in a matter of fact way and no longer engage with them in co-creating that reality for ourselves.

As a general practice, if you do this process of self-reflection anytime you’re being triggered into a reaction of some kind, it’ll help you to become self-aware and resume conscious control of yourself and what it is you’re acting to create. You can begin healing yourself and taking back your power to create in a more aware and responsible manner. As you begin neutralizing your emotional reactions to others and the events of your life, you take back control of your own life. As you start remaining calm and clear headed in relation to others, you can begin developing skill in using your mind and imagination in a more deliberate and purposeful way. As you begin creating from a conscious and self-aware state, you take over the process of facilitating your own growth and development. You take back and begin utilizing your soul’s ability to create yourself from a fully awake and aware state and in whatever way you want and decide to.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

The Shadow and the Ego – Self-Creation and the Art of Personal Transformation

The soul exists essentially as threefold in nature between multiple planes, and as “dual” in nature within the material plane.  All of life as we know it is comprised of both masculine and feminine energy as an inner and outer aspect of the same mind or idea. This same principle is playing out in the dual aspects of the conscious and subconscious mind, the Cerebellum and Cerebrum, the right and left hemisphere of the brain, and in sexual gender. The soul, which is archetypal in nature, is always acting “on itself” to “create itself”. It’s essentially comprised of both a higher and lower nature that it brings together as an integrated “whole”. The Soul self- creates using both the subconscious and self-conscious mind, which together as a whole create our entire experience of what we call reality as both an inner and outer experience of the same nature and thematic idea, symbolized in Sacred Geometry by the Monad.

The most fundamental form of self-creation comes through the feminine and masculine process of “relating and contrasting”. We can only “know ourselves” as something specific by how we enter into relationship with that same idea in everything else. All ideas (archetypes) are dual and polar in nature and form “extremes” as opposites aspects of the same overall pattern that are complementary to one another. One acts to provoke and call forth the other one, where it shapes and defines itself in contrast and comparison to the other. All ideas are created through combinations that form a dynamic chain of cause and effect, where every idea requires a cast of stars and various personalities in order to play out as an experience of themselves “being that way”.

The higher soul, which possesses and operates both the subconscious and conscious aspects of the same material mind, divides and creates itself as two separate entities; one known and accepted as being desirable, the other sealed in darkness and judged as being evil and therefore unwanted and rejected. These two aspects of us form almost entirely different “personalities” whose existence depends on one another. By revealing and acknowledging one, we simultaneously undermine, contradict, and dissolve the other one. Both of these aspects form a “false image” because they’re based on partial information and don’t include the “whole person”. They’re articulately shaped and developed through a process of discrimination, choice, and will, where through various forms of “judgment” that separate out what actually exists as a whole into individual parts, that it then picks and chooses what to include and what to leave out. What’s good and deemed worthy we keep and include, and what’s bad and deemed evil or ugly, we reject and ostracize. Through this process of self-judgment and natural selection, we begin neatly fashioning opposing aspects of ourselves as our ego and our shadow, both formed and developed through the same act.

The Nature of Judgment

The idea of judgment has a tendency to always be used in a negative way to indicate placing a value judgment on someone else for traits they don’t outwardly display, yet the act of using judgment is a fundamental process for making decisions and what we choose or don’t choose for ourselves, and how we ultimately shape ourselves accordingly. To use “good judgment” means you’ve evaluated the situation in terms of morality, actions, and the consequences it’ll produce, and are making an objective decision as a result. To be “judgmental” means that we project qualities and traits onto a person that they don’t actually have as a way of perceiving and experiencing them. We look “through the eyes” of our judgments as a way of seeing others, and as a result, never really see who they actually are as a person, but rather who we are as a person by how we make them out to be.

As kids growing up, we’re conditioned and “given” or trained to a “value system” that forms the basis of all discretion. We’re taught what’s good and what’s bad, what’s right and wrong, and what it is that if we do it makes us a “good person” and what it is that if we do it makes us a “bad person”. What will bring us the attention we desire, make us feel loved and adored, an accepted part of a group, or what will cause us to be disliked and ignored, ridiculed and criticized, and ultimately cast out and not wanted. As we encounter situations and ideas that appeal to certain parts of us, we contemplate those parts and what kind of activity is involved in them while simultaneously realizing what kind of person we’ll be if we embody and express them. We use the criteria we’ve been programmed with to judge ourselves according to those standards, and whatever we judge as being bad and evil, we refuse to express or be that way, and so we deny having those qualities and traits, disowning and repressing them where they still remain an inherent part of our subconscious makeup, and we begin fashioning another aspect of ourselves in contrast to it.

Creating the Shadow and the Ego

Many have been taught to believe that the idea of the “ego” is a bad thing that we should work at dissolving, getting rid of, or even “kill it” because it’s a false image of ourselves that we mistake for being real and create ourselves out of as a result. Yet the term ego is synonymous with “identity” which is something we’re always creating just through the nature of our experiences. Like everything else in the material world, it’s a product of our soul and mind, which is what’s producing the entire material world. We create experiences as the natural expression and operation of our mind, then “sense ourselves” within those experiences, and form an idea or image of ourselves “as” a certain type of person. As a soul we create ourselves to be an archetype (god) by how we combine universal archetypes as attributes, qualities, and characteristics to form a new and unique personality. Out of our personality comes our identity as a natural outgrowth. Our personality, which is a product of our subconscious mind as all our natural tendencies and behaviors that we’ve fully integrated up to that point, lend itself to telling a natural story as the “theme” of its very perception of the outer world. How we are inwardly forms and produces the world we see outwardly as its polar or complementary opposite.

As we begin picking and choosing which aspects of ourselves we’ll keep and allow, and which ones we won’t, we begin neatly fashioning both our shadow and our ego as opponents or natural enemies of each other. As we shape one, we simultaneously shape the other to be its opposite. Whatever we judge harshly in ourselves and deny having by refusing to express it as a way of creating our outer image of ourselves, becomes our shadow or hidden self as our “dark side”, and whatever we accept and consider good and choose to openly and outwardly express becomes or ego, both of which are “false images” because they’re both based on only partial elements of our whole makeup.

Naturally, because shaping one automatically determines the other, anytime we’re looking to transform one, we automatically transform the other one by the same means. Because the most primal motive of the subconscious mind is “self-preservation” (it maintains habits and well established patterns as a means of self-creating), and becoming aware of the shadow while embracing it instead of rejecting it can mean dismantling and dissolving the ego, there’s a lot of resistance from the ego to maintain the shadow instead. In this way, integration of the shadow can represent death of the ego. The ego is such a well-defined idea about ourselves that when it’s undermined, it can throw us into a form of identity crisis. The process of synthesizing our dark side into our self-made image causes us to undergo a natural process of transformation as self-awareness and realization that integrates and therefore dissolves the shadow while reforming the ego to a unified whole by bringing latent qualities into outward expression.

Identity Crisis and Death of the False Ego

An identity crisis comes whenever what we’ve used to build our sense of self around either ends, abruptly changes, or is transformed through natural means of some kind. This comes in the most natural sense through the roles we play in life and what it is that drives our behaviors and gives our life meaning. When we have a family, we play a role in that family and build our identity around and out of it. When we’re in a romantic, long term relationship or marriage, we build our identity out of the role we play and how we experience ourselves in that relationship. When we work a career or certain position for years, we create ourselves according to or by way of that activity. When any of these change, and we no longer play the same roles in the same type of situations, we go through a temporary phase of not knowing what to do, or who we are, and what it is that gives our life purpose.

As we begin establishing our ego out of the accepted and embraced parts of ourselves, convincing ourselves that we don’t possess the traits we judge as being “bad and wrong”, and we build our “sense of self” out of our self-created experiences by way of expressing only certain aspects of ourselves, we create what we can call a “false image” of ourselves because it’s only based on selected parts. As we begin becoming aware of our shadow aspects, and instead of judging and denying them, we acknowledge and embrace them; we begin naturally transforming the ego through their integration, which changes and enhances our ability to express ourselves, what we’re outwardly capable of, and how we create experiences of ourselves as a result. By creating new types of experiences, we simultaneously reshape ourselves according to those experiences.

When this is done with full awareness and in an intentional manner, we can use it as the means to invigorate the ego and expand our range of expression. Because these are aspects of ourselves that we’ve never actually expressed, we can feel very awkward and uncomfortable, as if we don’t know “how to be”, which can cause us to abandon the idea and revert back to our comfort zone of our known and integrated aspects. Yet, because our shadow was established as a child out of our formative conditioning, as adults revisiting the same idea, we may find very natural and healthy ways of expressing those same qualities in a way that’s entirely congruent with our perception of who we are. All qualities of being and personality traits have their appropriate expression in the right context and within the appropriate situation. If we’ve judged it to be bad and wrong, it’s because we were looking at it through the wrong context, or the situation we were contemplating it in wasn’t appropriate for expressing it. Under the right context, any idea and the actions that ensue from it can be considered appropriate and beneficial somehow.

We all have multiple traits and tendencies for a reason, and our job is to simply find the appropriate means of expressing them in a way that’s congruent with all other aspects of ourselves. As we refrain from some while indulging in others, we create a kind of gap and imbalances that can make them seem difficult to reconcile. When we perform the behaviors of our shadow aspects and create the type of experiences they bring, we judge ourselves as being bad and wrong for doing it and we’re filled with conflict, guilt and shame as a result. As we do behaviors that are “contrary” to our normal personality, it clashes with our self-image and we begin beating ourselves up for it. Guilt and shame is like a cancer that eats away at our soul, greatly affecting our ability to express ourselves in new and novel ways. They come as the result of us “judging ourselves” in the same manner we were judged by others. As we were judged, we in turn judged ourselves in the same way, and that became the basis for us judging others, all using the same criteria.

Projection, Reaction, and how we Judge Others

All perception comes by way of our “perceptual lens” which is a filtering system based on our mental paradigm. We are always looking “through our mind” as a way of perceiving the outer reality. Our mind is comprised of both subconscious and conscious content. So we not only see what we’re aware of and accept as being true, but we also see what we’re not aware of and deny as being real or true. Because we still “disown” and fail to recognize all of our unconscious traits, we project them onto and see them in others, and form a strong reaction to them as “judging them” for having the same traits that we ourselves have that we’re not aware of having. We judge them according to the same values and beliefs and in the same way we judged ourselves. Content that we’re aware of and accept without judgment is projected also, but we don’t have an adverse reaction to it, we see it as normal. So through this psychological process, we literally judge others as a form of self-judgment. We make them out to be bad for outwardly expressing the same qualities that we ourselves secretly possess.

The nature of reality is formed by the projection and expansion of the psyche as both known and unknown aspects of us. An “aspect” is referring to attributes, qualities, traits, characteristics, tendencies, and desires that all lead to “being and behaving a certain way”. Whatever aspect of ourselves we’re embodying at any given moment determines how we’re being, what we’re doing, and what type of activities we naturally engage in. All of which combined create our experiences as an ongoing storyline out of which we shape ourselves. As we create certain types of experiences, we sense ourselves within those experiences as being a certain way. We create ourselves as a soul with an ego and a shadow, a good guy and a bad guy, by what we willingly embrace, embody, and bring into expression as an experience of ourselves. As long as both aspects are maintained through a lack of awareness and conscious use of will, we are never expressing to our highest potential or “becoming” our true, whole self as our soul. In order to embrace and utilize our full potential as a soul, we have to integrate all aspects of ourselves into the same idea and identity in a way that’s congruent and harmonious, eliminating all inner conflict and judgment of others. This self-awareness and process of synthesis produces a natural form of transformation that moves us from a fragmented state to a state of wholeness.

The Law of Vibration

One of the most basic ways to understand the nature of subtle energy (Soul) is to look at it in its most basic essence as vibration (our mind is a field of information vibrating at a certain frequency). All vibration has a “pattern” inherent in it along with a “self-organizing” mechanism that automatically organizes all essence, light, and matter into holographic structures as ideas of some kind. These ideas exist as what we commonly call “archetypes” which are not only ideas as a prototype or template for producing material forms, but also have active and passive properties that “animate them” with a certain type of personality or way of being. All archetypes are portrayed as mythological gods that are a natural part of our psyche. Each archetype has a personality as a combination of both positive and negative traits that serve to naturally express as a certain type of story that births or produces their identity as the “type of person” they are and what type of experiences they create by living them through a natural and spontaneous form of self-expression. Certain traits give us certain tendencies that we automatically act out under certain conditions and circumstances, and form certain types of operations or functions.

Likewise, our mind and soul also vibrate at a certain frequency producing a holographic structure that’s the dynamic integration and of all experience to produce memories as an accumulative summation. Because we look through and use this mind-field to perceive and interpret the world around us, we only see in everything else what exists as an essential part of our own psychological makeup. Because all of reality is produced through a form of “projection” and is organized to the same vibratory pattern as the mind viewing it, we can only serve to produce what’s of the same nature as we are.

What we refer to as the “mind”, which like the soul is also threefold in nature, exists on multiple levels and scales of existence at the same time and act to produce the same cohesive and coherent reality. The higher soul uses the vehicle of the mind to create the entire lower material world. It does this using both the conscious and subconscious aspects, where the subconscious is a part of the entire material realm of the plant and animal kingdom, and is what gives rise to the entire outer reality that’s then viewed by the conscious, self-aware aspect of the mind as an experience of itself in an expanded and more diverse form. So whatever is a part of the mind, whether conscious or unconscious, is what goes into creating our entire experience of what we imagine to be the outer reality of our inner world.

Using Spiritual Knowledge to Transform Yourself

Once we realize how this principle operates in our everyday awareness, we can use it as a tool for transforming ourselves. We can realize that anytime we’re having a strong reaction to someone and judging them as a result, that it’s showing us our shadow self. It’s allowing us to become aware of what lies within us, still actively expressing in a subliminal way to create us. Knowing this, we can turn our attention inward and examine our own judgments while allowing a natural chain of association to form that will lead us to the events of our life where we initially formed those judgments. We can sense those same aspects in ourselves that brought us the pain that caused us to disown them and repress them so far down within us that we forgot we had them. By becoming aware of the same qualities within us that formed the same judgments that we’re having towards another person, we can understand how we shaped ourselves according to those judgments.

The true secret to psychological healing is to bring what’s operating and creating in our life in an unconscious manner into conscious awareness. Just the awareness itself begins the process of integrating those aspects into our mental paradigm in a way that they can be congruently expressed in a healthy and beneficial way. All qualities, traits, and actions have an appropriate expression within the proper set of circumstances and situations. As we revisit these same ideas that we were trained to resist and repress as children, we can see them in a new light and use our discretion to determine how to embody and express them in such a way that it enhances and expands our range of expression to create new and unique types of experiences. As we relinquish judgment of ourselves and embrace our shadow, we simultaneously release those same judgments of everyone else and no longer have an adverse reaction to them. They become a natural part of our awareness, and they no longer stand out, and so we quit thinking about them because they no longer affect, and therefore determine us.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

 

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Spiritual Guidance – Psychics, Spirit Guides, and Our Higher-Self

The idea of spiritual guidance, like all things, means different things to different people, so in order to talk about it in a meaningful way, we have to start by defining it. Spiritual guidance indicates receiving information about something that concerns us from a non-local source other than ourselves. We’re asking for guidance from what is sometimes an unknown or somewhat ambiguous source. In the most natural sense of what we could call “ongoing guidance”, we’re always resonating with and drawing in information as ideas from the ether as the unified field that we’re all submersed in and an active part of. This information in the truly spiritual sense exists as archetypes (whole ideas) that come as scalar energy (unified form) that has both acoustic and optical (dual) properties, and as it enters into our mind, unfolds as a feeling that spontaneously  produces an inner voice and mental impressions as expanding on an existing idea, revealing what was previously hidden aspects, that come as the result of a “transmission of information” as realizations of some sort. In the purely spiritual sense, we are given the ability to self-create through choice and free will, and are we are ultimately fully responsible for all of our own creations. The individual right to make decisions and willfully bring them about as a reality that provide us with experiences of our own creation are NEVER violated in the spiritual sense because they can’t be. We are only capable of “accessing and drawing in” information that we act as a natural receptor for through resonance. All information from the spiritual realm of pure energy as archetypal ideas in their potential state, come as realizations around ideas that present us with new opportunities to decide for ourselves. It (information as an outside source) never makes decisions for us, “tells us” what to do, or gives us “point blank answers” to questions. Answers as guidance come through a form of coincidence, introspection, and synchronicity as a chain-of-association, that provides us with new insight around something that brings what was previously unknown elements into full awareness where we gain instant clarity around them, and through the newly acquired awareness we naturally decide. Any questions and inquiries are directly linked to the answers in the environment around us. Just by wondering about something and thinking about it in an in-depth manner, forms a kind of gravitational field to the answer in everything outside of us. Inquiring about something internally as a true desire to know, sets an intention in place as a vibratory frequency (all thoughts form electromagnetic fields) that resonates with that same idea in everything else, giving it prominence where it stands out, we notice it, and as we place our attention on it we draw it into our mind by thinking about it, and as a result gain new information regarding it. Everything in what we call the “spiritual realm” is energetic in nature (pure consciousness) and requires a local mind and a material body in order to be “received and interpreted” as a coherent part of our personal reality. We can’t act as a conduit for something we don’t honestly have a desire for, what our mental paradigm won’t allow us to comprehend, or that doesn’t already exist as a form of memory. Whatever we have memories around, we think about and create as conceptualizations in our imagination (memories are replayed and relived in the imagination), programming us to the frequency of that idea as a form of theme, and we become magnetized to it in everything around us, drawing in and interacting with that same idea as it exists in our environment. We can’t obtain or act as a channel for anything we can’t conceptualize, comprehend to the point of forming and internal representation of, or that’s not a part of our soul’s memory in terms of similar experiences. The only thing that can “come to us” is what’s of the same nature (memory) as we are. When something doesn’t come naturally, it’s because it’s not meant to. It’s because we’re not ready for it in terms of maturity and growth, or where we’re at in a greater process as a phase and stage of our life, or we’re simply not of the same idea in terms of our constitution (frequency), and therefore don’t act to attract and absorb it as an idea that that has the potential for becoming a reality. We only “receive” what we ask for through a desire and imaginary thought process. We only find what we “look for” and intentionally seek out. We only penetrate an idea, or open closed doors through a constant form of action taken on an idea that we’re presented with. When we sit back in a state of limbo not taking any affirmative action because we’re not sure of anything, waiting for stuff to magically come to us, we don’t act as a magnet for anything. All things only come to us when we decide and take action on those decisions, which opens up a means for new things to come into play through the activity itself. All knowledge is acquired through a desire and connection to it and through constantly pursuing and engaging in the activity of acquiring it by becoming one with it experientially. We only obtain what we have a love for, connection to, and strong desire for. Whatever we form an internal representation as living concept, becomes a frequency that we act to program ourselves with, and we become an antenna and magnet for it. A thought that’s imagined with intensity (turned into a sensory reality) forms an electromagnetic field as a vibratory frequency that has a self-organizing mechanism inherent in it. This organizational mechanism acts to attract and naturally bring about more of that idea as an experience that allows us to gain deeper and deeper forms of self-realization. We don’t need to ask “anyone” for our own answers, we simply have to tune into our own thoughts and feelings regarding it, form a strong desire for it by associating positive and compelling emotions to it, setting an intention and desire for it, then pay attention to any form of associated ideas that come to us from a variety of sources in our immediate environment. As associated ideas come to us we intuitively recognize them as a form of inspiration that brings realization into the true nature of the idea. This realization “is” the guidance. When we turn to other people as professed “psychics” or clairvoyants, asking for information about ourselves and our life, we’re opening ourselves to a large array of what can be very deceptive or incorrectly interpreted information. Psychics work by reading the energy around you which comes as feelings that form a mental impression as symbolic metaphorical images, which are sometimes accompanied by a voice as the meaning of the images. These mental impressions are a form of memory that’s imprinted in your aura (mind-field) as thoughts that you dwell in repetitively with strong emotions or that are of an intense nature. While it’s possible for anyone to literally “read someone’s mind” by forming rapport with them, and seeing their mental impressions or “hear” thoughts as more of a feeling, it still has to be interpreted in terms of what it means, and when this happens, you’re now working out of the psychics mental paradigm, and who knows if the interpretation is going to be accurate or not. As anyone knows, observing a situation from a detached perspective and not really able to identify with it, as opposed to being “in the experience” having it as a part of a larger congruent reality, can be very different. When you rely on someone else to tell you what your answers are and what your direction in life should be, or what decisions you should make in different situations, you’re literally letting them take control of your will, your life, and your soul’s destiny. You’re relying on someone to “know” for you, instead of knowing yourself. The entire goal of the soul within the material realm is to become self-aware, and to gain deep realization into its true nature and ability to willfully self-create. This only comes by self-reflecting, turning inward and recognizing your own feelings, becoming aware of your true nature, what you feel a strong love for and connection to, and making decisions based on that. True inner guidance comes by connecting to our self on a higher plane, through what’s called our “Higher-Self” or “Superconsciousness”. This aspect of ourselves (notice this is always plural) exists on a higher plane that’s “above this plane” and therefore able to see it in its entirety, while simultaneously acting as the choreographer for it. Our Higher Self communicates with us through our own inner voice that’s being used by a different authority, and nearly always takes on a parental attitude of teaching us by discussing things with us, allowing us to gain deeper insights into them, or as a lover that’s exceedingly intimate and is a fundamental part of us that always has our best interest in mind, while knowing everything about us. In this relationship there’s never a self-serving agenda involved, no errors in thinking or perceiving, and all guidance as answers to our inquiries come as experiences that expand our awareness around things, providing us with the information we need to make a clear decision with full accountability as to what they’ll produce. All of our actions, which come as a continuum of feelings, thoughts, and emotions that create a reality by living out a story about it, are creative in nature and we incur karma because of them. All actions produce an effect of an equal or greater magnitude. The decisions we make, and what we do because of those decisions, form who we are as a person and imposes a direction on our life. Whenever we look outside of ourselves to someone or something else, whether an actual person or “spirit guide”, looking, not for insight around ideas, but for a decision to be made for us, we throw fate to the wind, and sell our soul by becoming a channel for others to command our will. As a general rule, we should NEVER give our will over to another by letting them make decisions for us, or tell us what to do, and therefore “control us” as a result. What’s commonly referred to as “spirit guides” or “ascended masters”, can mean a variety of things based on what system a person has been trained under, and what they’re actually “connecting with and accessing” as a result. But all are “entities” of various sorts that are usually metaphorical in nature as mythological gods, wise people who have gone before us, or even animal spirits that represent qualities and characteristics as behaviors that are ideal for performing natural operations. Angels and daemons, for example, represent individual qualities and characteristics that only perform certain operations, and are not composite beings that have free will. Humans are the only beings within the material realm that are imbued with the ability to choose and the will to actualize that choice as an experience of reality. As we choose, we set a reality into motion that creates and gives us a certain type of experience as the result of our choice. If we don’t like it, we’re free to make alterations or new decisions to change it, and if we do like it, then we keep going and continue creating more of that reality. Either way, the choice is ours. What many people refer to as “God”, is in reality, our Higher-Self on a higher dimension, that we’re intimately connected to, and who knows the divine plan of our life that was laid out as a pattern before we were ever born into a physical body. The whole purpose of our physical existence is to live out as an experience the pattern of our karma, which was created in whole before we were ever born. Choice and free will is not a fact or an illusion, but rather something that was decided and willfully set into motion from a higher plane as the enactment of our accumulated decisions as an ongoing creative process. Karma, is what we call the “absolute law” because it works out of vibration, which automatically produces the pattern of that vibration as a reality that provides us the experience of it. We only truly learn (form and develop) through experience, which forms all of our memories. Our paradigm as our mental structure or “model of the world”, is formed through accumulated memories that are all integrated to form a harmonious cohesive whole. This life and all that proceed out of it are based on vibratory frequency as an indigenous pattern. There’s no getting around or side-stepping this. Whatever frequency we vibrate at determines the pattern we naturally form as our “perception” of ourselves, others, and the world in general. Our life is the way it is because it’s how we perceive it, and the relationship we form with ourselves in everything else, that forms a consistent story line, that we live as a consistent outer experience. Every decision we make, moment by moment, that determines our actions, is creative in nature. We willfully (intentionally) act out our decisions, turning them into reality as the expression and experience of them. When we give other people the right an ability to make decisions for us, we surrender our creative power within our own lives, and give it to others to create for us. Any decisions and action taken on that decision renders karma (cause and effect). Only humans are gifted with the ability to self-create by making decisions for themselves and acting out those decisions to produce an experience of reality that simultaneously creates them by way of that experience. The animal kingdom, and even the divine kingdom outside of humans (as far as we know), don’t have the ability to choose and self-create through those choices to develop new qualities and characteristics that alter or determine their destiny. This is purely a human gift based on the “fall of angels” who acted collectively to create the human race, giving us multiple qualities and composite characteristics. We are complex beings formed out of “unique combinations and dynamic formulas” that we are in charge of producing, rather than singularities as single qualities that always act to perform the same operation in an automatic and routine fashion. We are composite beings who can direct our own development and how we naturally express to create realities based on the accumulative experiences gained from our choices and the reality those choices produced as an experience that forms our soul’s memory, out of which we continue to make decisions and form similar experiences as an ongoing evolutionary process. Dr. Linda Gadbois Integrative Mind-Body Health Consultant and Spiritual Mentor Save

How to not be Affected by Others – Learning how to see Things as they Really Are

All Perception is Self-Perception as an Outer Reality

One of the greatest powers we can learn in life is how to gain full control over ourselves and our perception of others. By becoming aware of how we form perceptions, and act to create our experiences, we can simultaneously realize the true nature of other people’s perception of us. Through self-awareness of how our mind works to shape our experience of reality and of others, we can become clear on the reality of other people’s perception of us. All perception is a product of the mind forming it as a form of self-perception. We only see and experience in others and the material world around us what’s of the same “nature” (frequency) as we are. We’re only able to perceive in others the same qualities and characteristics that we ourselves possess. To perceive is to (re)create in our image and with our likeness. Perception is an interpretation that reformulates basic qualities into a new pattern or idea, changing how it appears, and creating our experience of it which is “subjective” in nature. All reality as we’re capable of knowing it is subjective, which means we create it as a personal version out of our feelings that we then use to create ourselves by how we experience our own creation. Every function of the mind is an act of self-expression and self-creation.

All experience is formed through a relationship between our inner self and our outer world. The inner self as the subconscious mind is comprised of a dynamic network of values, beliefs, preferences, attitudes, fears, desires, emotional states, conditioned patterns, and memories that form our paradigm (mental model) as a “filtering system” that we use to view and interpret life with. As we place our attention on something, we’re filtering the information received through our mental model, and we change how it appears to make it “like us” (of the same nature). We conform everything to be a reflection of ourselves. To be what we believe about them instead of what they actually are in the objective sense as being “a part from us”, and therefore different from us. We change how everything seems to match our feelings, beliefs, values, preferences and attitude about them.

Our mind as a vibratory energy field blends and merges into everything around us through resonance, and only “sees” what’s of the same frequency or nature as we are. Perception is a form of interpretation that uses our model as the basis for explaining, describing, and understanding things. What’s different from us, or outside of our range of vibration, we don’t notice, and literally can’t comprehend. Our energy as an electromagnetic energy field merges into theirs, activating and bringing out what’s of the nature as qualities and characteristics, while causing other aspects to become inactive and recede, reshaping them to be of the same frequency or nature as we are. We “remix” everything by rearranging the attributes, qualities, and characteristics it outwardly displays. We energetically reformulate everything to be of the same vibratory pattern, nature, and behaviors as we are. We are all ingrained with certain dynamics as conditioned life themes that we use to interpret other people’s behaviors.

Attention is an active and antagonistic force that vibrates some aspects but not others. This is self-evident in the realization that we’re always acting on others through the relationship as an interaction we form with them to bring out certain qualities and ways of being. Paying attention to them, or just being in near proximity of another energy field forms a subliminal interaction as a “stimulus-response” mechanism, that merges into an alters the vibration of both through shared qualities that become amplified and accentuated, while others recede and become temporarily dormant. Energy is always interacting subliminally in the same way an actual interaction works. We’re always stimulating others, affecting and influencing them to become more like us. We’re always acting on everything else energetically creating them and everything around us to be of the same nature (vibration) as we are. Like always begets more of what’s like itself. Subtle energy as consciousness works in an unconscious as well as direct manner to vibrate and bring into an active and expressive state what’s of the same nature as it is. Whatever is different from it, isn’t recognized or activated, and returns to a passive state, all of which change how it appears, behaves, and expresses as a “way of being”.

Once we understand this basic law of the mind as resonance, sympathetic induction, and coherence, we can realize not only the true nature of our own judgments and what they reveal about “us”, but also the true nature of other people’s perception of us. How they “see us” and the interpretation they form of us, in reality, says nothing about us, but simply reveals who and how they are. Its shows us their mental paradigm that reforms us according to their own beliefs, fears, desires, preferences, and so on. We see the world through the dynamic patterns of our conditioning which forms the vibratory structure of our mind as our paradigm or “model of the world”, that we use to form ourselves, others, and the world at large to all be of the same nature as a thematic idea.

One of the things that makes this difficult to fully grasp in the practical sense, is that our “nature” as qualities and characteristics that we possess, are dual or polar in nature and have both conscious and unconscious aspects to them. A pattern as a dynamic that plays out an idea both inwardly and outwardly, is created through multiple roles that oppose yet complement each other, and act to stimulate and interact with each other to create the same idea as an experience of reality. So what we “see in others” is a projection of our own unconscious aspects that have a complementary role in playing out the same idea as a theme, as our conscious (aware) aspects.

All of life consists of patterns that form both inner and outer realities as a thematic idea. A person who is consciously expressing the mentality of being a “victim”, also possesses the “victimizer” at the unconscious level, because it’s a role in the same pattern, and projects onto and sees the qualities and tendencies of the victimizer in everyone else, while simultaneously attracting (resonating) them. When they encounter those qualities of a victimizer in another, they’re stimulated (resonate with) by them, and experience “chemistry” with them, and they enter into relationship with them based on their shared frequency, and together, through the relationship that’s formed, together as a form of partnership, act out the same idea playing opposite, yet complementary roles. Because we possess the “whole pattern” as a dynamic or frequency of victim / victimizer, or abused and abuser, with one being conscious and the other unconscious, we actually move back and forth between both roles, and act to be abusive also as unconscious tendencies or behaviors, while perceiving it as being something else based on what we tell ourselves about why we’re doing it that makes it seem different. Because of this, we remain unaware of our own tendencies that we imagine instead exist in the other person and a part from us, or see them as being of a different nature than we are.

Our vibratory frequency as indigenous emotional states and conditioned patterns as life dynamics, form our perceptual lens as a filtering system that sees in others and everything else what’s of the same dynamic and inner nature as the one we’re programmed with. How we see others is a direct reflection of our own unconscious aspects as a mental projection that acts like an activating system. We change how others are being, what qualities they express, and how they appear through an energetic interaction of consciousness as vibration that acts to vibrate the same frequency in everything else. All reality as we are capable of knowing it is subjective in nature, meaning it’s based on and influenced or formed by personal feelings, tastes, and opinions, and is a product of the mind creating it as a vibratory match. While we know (or think we know) there’s an objective reality, because we all appear to be seeing the same fundamental elements and objects, how we experience them, what we notice or don’t notice, what we emphasize or ignore, are all different as a match to the mind sensing and viewing it.

So what this tells us, is that someone else’s perception, interpretation, or opinion of us, says nothing about us in the real sense of things, but simply reveals who and how they are. It shows us, if we care to know, what their model of the world is and their formative conditioning as issues and tendencies. All we’re ever actually doing is expressing who and how we are as a person. We see and interact with complementary components of our own vibratory patterns as life dynamics and emotional themes. Our unconscious aspects are always being projected onto others and reflected back to us, which is what allows us to identify our own unconscious and hidden nature. Whatever we’re acting out intentionally with full awareness, we also possess the complementary opposite, and see and interact with that in everything else as a means of creating our experience of reality.

In a like manner, we can look at our own judgment with the same awareness, and self-reflect to realize what they’re showing us about ourselves. Whatever value judgments we place on others and see them through, are showing us unconscious and hidden aspects of ourselves. Aspects that we’ve been conditioned with, that were repressed in some manner due to guilt, shame, rejection, or some other bad feeling, that we began denying we had while building up a defense around them, and so they remain fully operational internally as unconscious aspects forming the perceptual lens we look through to see others. The perceptual lens we look through to perceive others assigns those same unconscious qualities to them, that we then contrast and compare ourselves to be “different” and not of the same nature, and therefore qualified to judge and persecute in the same manner we were judged and persecuted.

This law works both ways, as the means of understanding what other people’s model is through their perception of us, and as a means of recognizing our own unconscious aspects through our perception of them. In knowing this, and fully understanding it, we’ll never again be affected by someones opinion of us. Unless of course, we choose to be. We’ll realize that we can’t be hurt by another person because we’re the ones creating the experience as an inner reaction of being hurt, by what is in reality an illusion as a mental projection. We’ll be able to stand in the face of criticism, blame, and antagonism while remaining calm, unaffected, indifferent, and in control. When we don’t let someones projections enter into and affect (infect) us, we serve as a mirror that reflects back to them the true reality of what they’re doing. It’s only when we allow them to influence us by investing a belief in their illusion of us, and we react in kind by energetically absorbing it, that we validate them and make it real by participating in the reality of it.

Through realization we create an energetic barrier that prevents their energy from entering into us, infecting us with a mental delusion, and controlling us by altering our state to match theirs. By realizing what’s really going on, we are no longer controlled by the opinions and behaviors of others, and maintain a sense of inner calm and peace. We can remain in full control of ourselves while deflecting and reflecting back to them, in very clear terms, their own unconsciousness. This is the true meaning of compassion. Remaining separate from other people’s illusions, not forming any kind of sympathy or reaction to them, which is what allows them to see that they actually are, an illusion of their own making. Nothing is real unless two or more people appear to be experiencing the same reality.

Self-mastery is obtained by gaining a thorough understanding of the universal laws of the mind and using them through practical application to become mentally and emotionally invincible, while gaining deep forms of self-awareness and self-realization that empowers us to correct our own errors in thinking and perceiving. We can only work in a conscious and intentional manner with what we’re aware of and understand in practical terms. Through self-awareness we can begin working with ourselves to resolve and transform our own unconscious tendencies and bring shadow aspects hidden deep within the darkness of our own mind out into the light where we can see them for what they are, a part of our own creation as a delusion. In healing our own unconscious tendencies through awareness of them, we alter the vibratory structure of our mind, reforming our paradigm, and change how the outer world appears to us, and how it influences and affects us as a result. We can come to know ourselves through the world we live in as our perception of it, which contains both conscious and unconscious aspects of the same reality.

Dr. Linda Gadbois

Integrative Mind-Body Health Consultant and Spiritual Mentor

Forgiveness – The Key to Spiritual Healing

The most basic principle that’s operating all the time, in every aspect of life, is that whatever we “blend with energetically” (mentally, emotionally, or physically) we “take on” and integrate as a form of “shared” consciousness. We most often take on other people’s energy due to the fact that it impacts us in some way. The nature of the impact it has on us determines what type of story we start telling ourselves about it as a way of making it mean something. As we give meaning to our experiences we begin building our identity around and by way of them. We’re always in the process of shaping ourselves by way of what we think about, dwell in obsessively, and give life to inside of us by replaying it in our mind as a memory. As we co-create an experience with someone or an event of some kind, we form an interpretation of it through our very “perception” of it. As we think about something creating an inner reality out of it, we’re simultaneously creating our “self” through that reality by identifying with our own self-created experiences.

How we interpret something gives it the meaning and significance it has for us, and forms the basis for what type of reality we create in our mind that replaces the “actual” objective reality with a “subjective” one, making it personal. Reality itself, as events, behaviors, dramas, situations, conditions, and so on, have no meaning in and of themselves, but merely become the basis for forming meaning by how it’s interpreted by the individual perceiving it as a means of “experiencing it”. While we can reasonably conclude that we don’t create or manifest other people or outward situations, we absolutely create “how we perceive and thereby experience them”. Our experience of reality is a personal creation formed exclusively in our mind as the natural creative power of our soul.

All of our experiences that have a significant emotional impact of some sort, become our primary memories as interpretations of the events of our life. As we create our own memories, we simultaneously create ourselves by way of our own creations. The memories we accumulate over a period of time become “themes” out of which we create all of our present experiences to be of the same nature and meaning as our past experiences. This “theme” as a certain “type of meaning” forms the basis for our perceptual lens that we consistently look through in order to see the same thing in everyone and everything by how we interpret it. As we consistently form the same type of  experiences over and over, we continue telling the same type of story about things, and create a consistent and congruent version of reality as a result. As we perceive and experience the outer world by processing it internally through the commentary we form around it as imaginary thoughts,  we create a “sense of ourselves” through our own story, and shape ourselves by way of it.

Whatever we continue to give life to by replaying memories over and over, we continue to use to define ourselves, and we tune and magnetize ourselves to that theme as a life-drama, where we’re constantly attracting it and being attracted to it. This “attraction factor” isn’t a product of the conscious mind, per say, but rather of the subconscious mind, which means it’s energetic in nature, based on vibratory frequency and operates in our life without our direct awareness. Whenever we meet someone of the same vibratory frequency, who will naturally act to co-create more of the same type of experiences, they stand out, we notice them, and have a reaction to them. Due to this, we naturally begin gravitating towards each other, and eventually end up in an actual interaction of some sort where a relationship forms – as a friend, colleague, companion, lover, etc. – and we act together to form a joint experience of the same thematic nature that we share in common.

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The meaning we give things, like the mind itself, is 3-fold in nature, and creates on three levels and scales simultaneously. Whatever meaning we give something, means something about others, the way the world is in general, and about us in relationship with it. As we perceive and form an interpretation of other people’s behavior, we’re perceiving ourselves through or by way of that same interpretation. As we perceive others to be, we simultaneously perceive the world to be the same way as a larger version or as the stage in which it all takes place. Whatever it means about a specific person it means about “the way people are”, and about the way the world is in general. As we form “generalizations” about the meaning of life it serves to form our expectations and what we naturally look for in all situations. We form mental and emotional filters that skew our ability to accurately see in an objective manner. We only see and respond to what matches our model of the world, and fail to recognize what doesn’t. All the while, because these are our own creations as our thoughts and emotions, we’re forming ourselves to be of the same nature and likeness, as a response or defense, and as an interaction where our themes are always playing out at the unconscious level. Our perceptions form our “criteria for judgment”, and are used equally to judge ourselves through our perception of ourselves within our own story about things.

So when we enter into a relationship or become a part of a situation, where natural events and behaviors take place, and we filter them through our mental paradigm and interpret them to mean something so we can experience them through a story-line, we act “on ourselves” through another or greater reality, and continue shaping ourselves through a primary for of self-expression produced by our mental paradigm as a filtering system. Through mental and emotional filters, we sort through and select only some of the elements involved, while completely excluding and ignoring others, we embellish and accentuate some, while downplaying and explaining away others, and change what’s emphasized based on the means we’re shaping it to, and by completely reorganizing and reformulating it, we create a personal version of what happened and why, that we live out of as a means of using it to define and determine us as a certain “type of person”.

Because this is a natural function of our mind, and we do it automatically without intentional awareness, we form an idea that others are doing it “to us”, instead of “cooperating and participating” in helping us do it to us. Relationships we form with others provide the basis for acting out certain types of drama that are self-perpetuated at the subconscious level, and act as a mirror for allowing us to see what’s operating in us that we’re unaware of. Not as singular events within larger ones, that we grab onto and begin obsessing over as what we imagine we need to forgive in the other, but as dramatic life themes that we’re always in the process of playing out in all areas of our life without actual awareness of what we’re doing and why. So to think that someone “did something to us” that we’re having trouble moving past because we can’t seem to let it go and continue dwelling in it as a form of suffering and mental anguish, and fashioning ourselves by way of it, is a self-created illusion that’s delusional.

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We are the sole creator of all of our experiences. We attract to us the fulfillment of our own thematic dramas in others and the conditions and circumstances that are ideal for playing them out. As we play them out, both unconscious and conscious aspects are at work, and we’re constantly sensing the underlying motives at play, and making constant decisions as adjustments based on what we’re sensing is necessary to keep it playing out. As we sense the underlying motives of others, we realize those same motives in ourselves as the complementary component which is what keeps us drawn in and actively participating in it. We justify things in whatever way allows us to “glaze over”, ignore, or build it into an “agreed upon lie”, and we keep on going with it. We agree to maintain the relationship knowing, that in order to do so we have to compromise ourselves, agree to ignore or accept certain things that we shouldn’t, and continue allowing certain things that we don’t like, and we keep telling ourselves whatever it is we need to in order to do that through a form of negotiation. We begin lying to ourselves and building an illusion as a lie in place of the actual reality as the objective truth.

Then an event of some sort with a strong emotional realization takes place, and shatters the illusion to the point where we can no longer maintain it, and we have to face it. We can’t pretend any more. We can’t call it what we wish or want it to be, but rather have to accept it as it actually is. This moment of shattering a lie, comes as betrayal, disappointment, dishonesty, violence, grief, shame, disgust, and so on, that not only reveals the truth we sensed and negotiated all along, but also as what breaks the bond and creates a disconnect that can no longer be remedied by pretending. In these moments we have to face the truth, but the truth is not what we think it is, the truth is coming face to face with the truth about ourselves. The realization that we we’re sensing what was going on all along and chose to negotiate away our integrity and lie to ourselves in order to maintain it and willingly continue playing it out. We come to the realization that “this type of stuff always happens to me”, because this is the way people are, and the way the world is. Usually, without ever realizing that it came about because it’s the way we are. We were willing to participate by compromising ourselves, not through clear rational thinking and objective observation, but through emotional attachments, inner compulsions, and a strong sense of need that we blindly mistook for love and trust.

The only actual betrayal was to ourselves by our self. The only real dishonesty came by first being dishonest with ourselves. The wounds we encountered were ultimately self-inflicted. The only disgust and hatred was because of what this means about us. But all of this is very hard to accept, and even harder to own, and thereby realize that the only forgiveness involved, is our ability to stop projecting onto others, and use it instead to gain self-realization of our own unconscious tendencies, and begin working on ourselves to rectify and redeem ourselves. The only person that truly needs to be forgiven in our own life creations is ourselves, because we’re the ones negotiating its terms within ourselves.

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In this sense to forgive is to forget, not only the other person involved in the co-creation of a self-produced drama, but also to quit living out of memories that act to ultimately produce our experiences in the present to be of the same nature as our experiences of the past. To realize that relationship of all kinds between our inner self and the outer world simply acts to show us parts of ourselves that we’re normally unaware of. To gain knowledge of ourselves as it’s being reflected back to us by others as an interaction that’s of a “cause and effect” nature. To see in ourselves our own methods for negotiating away our morality in favor of a desired illusion about things. To be able to realize our own motives for “selling our soul” to another, submitting and allowing ourselves to be controlled by agreeing to remain unconscious in order to maintain the relationship.

Everything we perceive as happening to us, is actually happening “by us”. We are always creating our experiences by how we look at, interpret, and cooperatively participate or contrast and refuse to participate. We’re only attack-able or able to be hurt to the exact extent that we attack and hurt ourselves by not being willing to see the true reality going on beneath the surface, and therefore never learning from our own experiences. All experience is designed to bring self-awareness that allows for deeper realizations around the awareness. To perceive needing to forgive another for what they did to you, is showing you that you’re choosing to remain unconscious of your own creative power and part in things.

When we learn to use all of our experiences as a mirror where we remove our focus from the other person or event, and examine ourselves in relation to them, we become more aware of our own internal processes and what it is that motivating those processes. We can come to realize how we negotiate and manipulate situations as a way of co-creating them. We can come to realize in very definite terms, that the very people we imagine we need to forgive for the pain and suffering they caused us, we should actually thank for the realization they allowed. We can come to realize the truth about ourselves and begin embracing our creative power to effectively bring what we were previously unaware of into the full light of day, where we can begin working with it to correct it, not in the outer situation, but in the inner situation producing it. In the spiritual sense of the mind and soul, those who cause controversy and serve to challenge us in very distinct ways, are worthy opponents that cooperate in creating the joint experiences necessary to learn by. As we learn, and we apply what we learn to create, we grow and develop ourselves as the means for spiritual healing.

Dr. Linda Gadbois 

Integrative Health Consultant and Spiritual Mentor

Karma and the Law of Cause and Effect – Changing Reactive Behaviors

Becoming Self-Aware

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Karma can probably be most clearly understood as the law of cause and effect, or action that produces an equal or greater reaction. Karma is the fundamental activity of our life, which is either repeating a pattern as a natural tendency or unconscious behaviors, which produces a like effect as a reaction or immediate consequences to our actions, or it comes as a willful and deliberate act that we’re fully aware of and do intentionally. Most karma originates from conditioning of some form, where we’re trained to behavioral dynamics of some sort as the emotional dramas being played out around us that we’re a part of, and ultimately learn to participate in and cooperate in repeating as a kind of life theme that produces a consistent experience of reality. Once conditioned with a thematic life pattern as a type of experience or story that we naturally act to tell by the perceptions and relationships we form with everyone and everything else, we go through most of our life (or lives) forming and playing a familiar role in the same dynamics, over and over, through all areas of our life, usually without any real awareness that we’re the ones creating it.

 

The patterns we form as a thematic story is a natural product of our mental paradigm, and the emotional states we live out of as a general rule. All patterns are the result or expression of “states of consciousness” or mind-sets that form our everyday thoughts, and determine what we’re capable of seeing (perceiving outwardly) in any situation, and what we’re not. Those who share our thematic patterns and behavioral dynamics (of the same frequency) standout, we notice them, gravitate towards them, and they effect us or cause an internal–emotional reaction in us. Those who are of a different frequency or behavioral dynamics, don’t stand out, we don’t really notice or pay attention to them, and we can exist in near proximity of them for extended periods of time without ever interacting with them. Anyone that we share karma (life patterns) with, we tend to easily form a relationship with, and they participate in acting out the same type of story with us. While we can play any role in a dynamic, we tend to favor one while remaining largely unconscious of the others, and are most compatible with those who will play the complementary role, allowing us to remain largely unconscious of what we’re cooperating in creating.

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Anytime we get caught up in a strong emotional charge of some kind, and have a strong reaction to something, we’re in the process of acting out karma as automatic and repetitive behavior that we do without thinking about or having any realization around before we do it. It’s thoughtless behavior produced by an emotional charge, which literally renders us unconscious. When we live out of a volatile sea of emotional states that keep us in a constant reactive state, or always thinking about and dwelling in what “someone else is doing”, while losing all awareness of what we’re doing instead, we can live the better part of our life out of an unconscious state, and simply repeat past patterns over and over. This is the fundamental nature of karma.

 

To get off the “karmic wheel” of fate and fortune as haphazard, knee-jerk reactions and mindless emotional drama, we have to begin gaining control over our own mind and senses, and refrain from emotional reactions of all kinds, while self-reflecting instead. As we refrain from outwardly reacting, which keeps us only conscious of the other person, and we become aware instead of what’s happening inside of us “as” the reaction itself that produces automatic behavior by accessing a memory associated with the emotion that’s activating it, and the type of behavior being displayed outside of us. It’s the emotion that enters our body, stimulating us with that same emotion, and the memory as a similar event that we have directly associated to it, that basically says “this (the present) is the same as that (the past)”, and we react in a like manner.  By doing this, we create in the present the same realities and experiences as the past. We act the same way, and create the same behavior, which not only produces the same type of experience again, but draws to us the same consequences or reactions to our behaviors. Once we “do something”, we can’t undo it, and it sets into motion a whole series of consequences, some of which are immediate and intense, others which extend over longer periods of time and are more subtle and gradient. Some consequences we recognize and own, others come later and can mystify us.

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To break the patterns that bind us, we have to become fully present in the moment, become aware of any emotional charges while refraining from reacting to them, then shift our attention inwardly to observe what’s happening inside of us. Notice what the emotion is, where and how we feel it in our body, what memory immediately comes to mind in response to it, and the story we start telling ourselves about what’s happening. Because like always stimulates what’s like it, we can become aware of aspects of ourselves that we normally aren’t fully aware of or are in denial around for some reason. When we remove our attention from the outside stimulus, which is merely serving to awaken the same reality within us, and we pay attention instead to what’s happening inside of us, and we simply self-reflect on what process begins simultaneously unfolding as a whole idea, and we realize the nature of our reaction, and we “observe” our own inner experience. Just the awareness alone brings what we are unconscious of into conscious awareness. The awareness alone is enough to break the reactive pattern as a tendency, because we can catch ourselves as we’re doing it. Once we become aware of our own tendencies, and no longer react to them when being displayed by others, we can consciously choose our own behavior in response to them. We can decide what to do from a calm and relaxed inner state. By doing this, we transform old karma by producing new karma in its place as new patterns activated by the same outer stimulus.

 

When we’re in full control of what we do, and we’re not being controlled by outside forces, we become conscious creators in our own lives, and we respond from a thoughtful place that acts to cause an entirely different reaction. We can neutralize a strong emotion being projected towards us by another by deflecting it instead of absorbing it, while simultaneously initiating a new one to take it’s place by counteracting it, and changing the persons state to match ours. In this way, we can become self-determined and act as a positive influence for those who aren’t. We can transmute our karma as old reactive patterns into new patterns of awareness and intentional action that’s aware of the consequences our reactions produce and as a form of consciously creating.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

 

 

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Life Lessons that Form the Opportunity for Healing – “Fragmented and Integrated Aspects form the basis of Karma”

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The idea of Karma can be difficult for many to understand in its most basic sense, because they try to imagine and make sense of it through their conscious mind, when its actually a natural part of their subconscious mind, which is comprised of and operates out various levels of memory. Karma is formed out of experiences of life as an interpretation that only sees the significance of things from a limited perspective that interprets events to give them meaning, which turns it into a personalization as a perception, that becomes the nature of the memory. The memory that’s formed by how we interpret life events, forms the programming of the subconscious mind as an accumulative process that forms a dynamic structure of interrelated patterns that produce a coordinated movement (frequency) as a mental paradigm or “model of the world”. This model is the structure of our mind as a pattern that forms our perceptual lens as a filtering mechanism that structures our experiences.

 
Our subconscious mind is the aspect of our mind-being that forms all of our natural assumptions, expectations, and perceptual lens that’s also directly connected to and a fundamental part of our environment – the greater mind of the collective unconscious – and produces all of our natural and automatic behaviors, while producing the emotions that drive and govern our thoughts. Our subconscious mind exists in the realm just outside of time, and is always “present” and in the process of transmitting and receiving information from everything around us. This information is transmitted as vibration that produces sensations as feelings that stimulate our body, producing chemistry as emotions that alter our body’s state (frequency) to match our environment, which also alters our state of mind, as the unification between our conscious thinking mind, and our subconscious feeling-emotional mind. It’s also how we’re always blending into and becoming an essential part of our outer environment through an equilibrating process that’s a fundamental law of evolution. The inner and the outer exist in an intimate relationship with each other, and are always exchanging information both energetically and physically. The exchange of information as a relationship adjusts the outer to match the inner, and the inner to match the outer to form congruence and continuity. We only “receive” and are able to integrate the information from the environment that’s of the same frequency as an essential part of the same paradigm or that can be adjusted to fit into our model and can be perceived through our normal way of interpreting things to give them meaning that allows us to tell a story about them as a way of understanding them.

vesicaThis “style” of interpretation becomes what you could call our “signature” as a universal theme with a personalized twist, developed in a unique fashion by how we integrate “known” properties in our experiences, while failing to integrate “unknown” properties in our own make-up, which, even though we’re not aware of them, and don’t recognize the quality in ourselves (because we’re interpreting it negatively and don’t own it as a result) because they’re a part of us at the unconscious level, we continue to think the thoughts that promote them, while acting them out in a natural and unconscious way, and connect to those same behaviors and tendencies all around us. We are connected to, act as a magnet for, and are an inherent part of our unconscious aspects as we are our conscious ones, the ones we have an actual awareness of. This produces behavioral patterns as life-dynamics that we’re always involved in, that are actually acting to show us the unconscious aspects at play in creating our everyday reality.

 
As long as we continue to remain unaware of them, while still attracting and actively participating in them while projecting them onto others and our life circumstances, “seeing” them in others while forming a strong reaction to them, then we continue to live out of these same patterns as a life-theme, often without ever realizing our part in it. This is karma as “whole patterns” that contain both our conscious-aware aspects and our unconscious-unaware aspects. Our karma brings life-lessons as repeated themes played out in different ways, within different scenarios, and with a variety of people as a way of “revealing to us” what we’re unaware of in ourselves. By recognizing the patterns we consistently play out as dramas of some sort that are created by how we enter into relationship with those of the same tendencies that will actively participate in acting out the same dynamic allowing us to recognize ourselves being reflected back to us in them in terms of how they’re playing the opposite role in a complementary dynamic, provides us with the means to recognize our own tendencies that come more as impulses and emotional charges of some form.

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Our life-dynamics as the storyline we’re always in the process of living out come as lessons in the sense that they provide us with the means to begin recognizing our own thematic patterns, what our part is that pattern, and what unconscious aspects we are responding to and interacting with in others by acting out the same type of reality. We can begin seeing what behaviors and false beliefs we hold about ourselves and others that are based on false assumptions as a form of denying aspects in ourselves that we don’t like or deem bad, and therefore build illusions around that make them “seem” different, while still outwardly displaying them through our behaviors, the mental scripts we run through our mind, and the nature of our interactions.

 
As long as we remain unaware of our own tendencies that are actively producing our life experiences, we keep acting them out, while imagining that we have nothing to do with them, and they’re actually being done to us by others or through the situation taking place of which we have no control. The lesson being offered as more of an opportunity for growth is to become aware of ourselves as the creator of our own life experiences. This is often because we don’t realize that there’s a difference between the outer, objective events of our life, and how we use those to create our experience of them. Many imagine that their “experiences” are actually a neutral and objective interpretation where everyone is having the same type of experience as they are by way of the same outer events. Yet in reality, nothing is further from the truth. The fact is we are all creating our unique experiences of everything around us that’s entirely different from the next person. Everybody experiences the same outer reality as a unique form of self-expression as “how” they form their experience of it that interprets it to give it meaning through their personal paradigm. Everyone notices different things, and abstracts different aspect of any given situation as a form of resonance that acts as a filtering mechanism. Our mind filters through all the information available, only selecting what aspects match it in terms of the interpretation it forms as it’s perception that tell a story of some sort.

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When we can see and realize what we’re doing in any situation that’s actively participating in creating it, and “own” all aspects of ourselves by realizing them, without judging them, needing to explain them, or justify them somehow, then we can start becoming self-aware. When we begin recognizing our role in things, what part in our own story we’re playing, and what we’re doing to cooperatively engage and act them out as a part of a storyline, and what it is that draws us into them emotionally, we can begin seeing the dynamics we’re conditioned to. It’s always easier to recognize and accurately describe tendencies in other people than it is to recognize our own tendencies. The only reason we continue to participate in creating experiences that cause us pain and lead to suffering somehow, is because we’re unaware of what we’re doing. Just the recognition and awareness alone, begins dissolving the pattern by breaking the hold it has over us. Once we’re able to “see” what we’re doing and the reason for doing it, it loses its grip over us because we’re now awake in moments we used to be asleep in, and we no longer need to project it in order to see it. In this, the lesson offered is learned and we no longer create it without awareness of what we’re doing. All lessons in life are setting the stage that allows what is unconscious to become conscious. Shining a light into the dark areas of our inner being so we can see what’s normally hidden from us.

 
How we experience the events of our life by how we perceive it, and how we interpret it in order to make sense out of it, is entirely a personal creation as a projection of our inner reality onto our outer reality as “looking through our perceptual lens” which reorganizes the outer to match the inner by the story we tell ourselves about it that makes it mean something that births a unique reality as the unification between the inner and the outer, the universal and the individual, the conscious and the subconscious. Our mental paradigm connects us to that same paradigm in everyone and everything around us, attracting and entering into relationship only with what’s complementary to us.

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Through the relationship we form, we stimulate in each other our shared qualities and establish a behavioral dynamic as the story lived out through the nature of our interaction. While we tend to identify consciously with one role in an interactive dynamic, the fact of the matter is, we’re developed by that dynamic, and can naturally play any role in it, and often do by moving in and out of multiple roles by how we interact. The role in that dynamic we don’t like, we deny in ourselves, and though we continue to faithfully act them out, we tell ourselves a different story about what we’re doing and the reason for doing it that makes it seem different, yet it’s producing the same response in the other, and they in return “do unto us as we have done unto them”. Then, because the illusion we’ve created around it prevents us from seeing what we’re doing that’s “causing” the same type of behaviors in others to take place all over again, we imagine it’s being done to us unfairly and without us warranting or deserving it, and so we justify our right to respond by giving them back their own medicine, without realizing that that’s what they’re doing to us, or by using it to move directly into the role we’re familiar and comfortable playing in a dynamic we are actually programmed to and acted to initiate through natural behaviors that are produced in a predictable manner by our subconscious mind.

 

For example: Those programmed with a pattern of “being rejected” (which is a universal theme), formulate this theme with twists as a particular way of being rejected, why or what it is about that causes them to be rejected, what behaviors mean rejection, what tone of voice is used and what words are specifically spoken that tell them they’re being rejected, and what behavioral dynamic is being acted out by their parents and peers that caused them to feel rejected by what story they started telling themselves as a way of making sense of it. They develop behaviors that are defensive, adaptive, and a form of self-fulfilling prophecy by what they come to believe about themselves that shapes who they become and how they create their relationships that act out the same type of dynamic over and over.
They defend themselves against whatever is the reason for being rejected, projecting and returning to others the same judgment by how they perceive them, behave and treat them that give the other person the same feeling of as the trait they were rejected for, or they over-compensate somehow and take on dramatic behaviors, or reject others before they have a chance to reject them. Some form behaviors that retaliate and fight back with anger and hostility, which of course not only rejects the person it’s being projected towards, but makes them feel uncomfortable around them and avoid them as a result, which again creates the experience of not being liked or wanted. Sometimes they continue acting out whatever behavior as the reason for being rejected in an attempt to make people accept and love them in spite of these behaviors. Or, they’ve failed to identify the behaviors that cause them to be rejected and so keep acting them out without realizing that they’re promoting their own rejection.

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Other times, we continue to act out in ways that other people perceive as being rejected by us, causing them to feel rejected, and they act in response to us by rejecting us back. All without us realizing that we were the one that rejected them first. All patterns are self-organizing and self-perpetuating become self-fulfilling. What this means is that we actually play an active role in initiating the pattern that then becomes played out that ultimately results in our being rejected or not wanted. We either do things that initiate behaviors that start the ball rolling, or we interpret their behaviors to mean we’re being rejected when that’s not at all what they mean for them. We can interpret any behavior to mean “rejection”, create the illusion of it happening (all over again) then act as if our illusions are real and a factual and objective reality that we’re accurately evaluating.

 
Other times, we interpret positive behaviors that actually are loving and affectionate in a negative way, and shun them as a result. Behaviors that might be an expression of love from another, such as touching, cuddling, openly displaying affection, telling us how much they love and care about us, becomes interpreted by us as being clingy, needy, smothering, controlling, rushing into things, or pressuring us in some way. Or we don’t trust it, and feel as if we’re being manipulated, coerced, or used somehow. Because we don’t have a model for what it feels like to be loved, desired, wanted, valued, or appreciated, we don’t know how to act in response to these, and we don’t know how to perceive then for what they are, and so we begin by perceiving them incorrectly then responding inappropriately and sabotage a situation that would have given us the experience that would have contradicted our belief about ourselves and others. In this way, we get stuck in our own patterns and just keep acting them out because they form our very perception, how we interpret things to give them meaning and form appropriate responses, and what behaviors we know how to do and do automatically.

 
Because we tend to act out the same behaviors born out of the same perceptions as a defensive mechanism, while telling ourselves that when we do the same behaviors we imagine are being done to us, we have a different reason for doing them, or because we expect to be rejected and act as if we’re being rejected even when we’re not by how we interpret their behaviors. We remain unaware of what we’re doing that’s causing us to be or feel rejected. So we keep acting out the same tendencies because we don’t realize what we’re doing, and continue to create the same experiences over and over, often throughout our entire life, without ever realizing that we’re “at cause” within our own lives, and act as a magnet for attracting those who will cooperatively act out the same dynamic with us, each time giving us the opportunity to see what “we’re” doing and what story as a theme we’re always in the process of creating through our natural way of perceiving the world and others, and how we behave as an interaction based on those perceptions.

 

Dr, Linda Gadbois

Alchemy of Consciousness – Light is the Essence of All Creation

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What has historically been referred to as Alchemy, isn’t the transmutation of ordinary metals to gold in the most obvious sense, but this process forms the analogy that represents the same fundamental laws that are at work in all forms of “transformation and evolution”. The process being communicated through this analogy represents the process of personal transformation as spiritual enlightenment. It’s referring to the transmutation of the body using the higher-mind of pure light. This is not “light” as many have come to know it, but light as consciousness itself that forms and organizes matter into patterns while simultaneously animating them with a kind of personality.

 
The very essence of all matter in the most fundamental sense is photons, which is light. Everything exists as an “interference pattern” (Dyad) created between “observer” and what’s being “observed”. The observing mind perceives matter as its own interpretation of it by “mingling” with it, and re-organizing it to be of the same basic nature (programming as patterning) as the mind itself. It doesn’t change matter as a neutral and objective fact that’s “a part from” the observer, but rather changes how it appears (or reappears) in the mind of the person perceiving it, which conforms it to the same basic patterning as the “meaning” it gives it through the nature of its interpretation as a means of experiencing it. For this reason, the transformation is referred to as changing how ordinary minerals appear, making them appear to be gold. When the mind of the individual changes, how the world outside of them changes correspondingly.

 
The meaning we give things, which we use as the means of interpreting it, determines how we “see it”. How it appears to us. Attention is an active self-organizing field, and whatever we place our attention on, we act “on it” to reorganize it to fit or match our organization as a pattern or composition of meaning and significance. This is done through a “filtering mechanism” that activates and deactivates, pulls some things out into the foreground, while pushing others aspects into the background where they’re not noticed or used to form an interpretation as a personal perception. This reorganizing mechanism as a reformulation of matter as light, happens automatically in a systematic fashion through resonance. Our field of attention is a projection and extension of our own mind that “turns on” (vibrates) certain aspects that correlate (resonate) with it, while “turning off” what doesn’t. Then, out of a fragmented, new selection of inherent information organized into a new pattern that conveys meaning (same as the mind is programmed with), it experiences it as a natural part of it’s “story about things” in a way that makes sense and acts to support and validate its story. All interpretations are a fundamental form of self-expression that reshapes everything into our “image and with our likeness”.

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All energy as consciousness is comprised of active and passive forces. Our mind is an active force that enters into the passive aspect of everyone and everything around us (matter) and activates in it the same qualities that are in us, impregnating it, giving rise to an offspring of our model as a fractal pattern or holographic image. This is done not in literal terms of changing the object itself, but as a perception that forms a new image as a reflection of itself in another. Resonance is the basic law governing consciousness as “perception”. All perception of the outer world is a form of self-perception as projection of the inner onto the outer. We project our image (paradigm) onto them, and reshape them to be “like us”, and we experience them through the same qualities that we ourselves naturally possess. We change how things appear (to us) by the model and perceptual lens we use to look at it through. We can only see what can be explained, described, given values and attributes, or validated and justified using our model. Everything in the outer world that exists “outside of our model”, is unperceivable to us. We literally can’t see it, even though we’re looking right at it.

 
Alchemy, works by changing the “inner substance” as the mind-body system of the individual, rather than changing outer substances. It doesn’t change the actual substance of someone or the outer world of matter, but how it “appears” to the individual changes. It works by changing the mind as the “model of meaning” which is being used to perceive things that changes their appearance to match the model. By changing our vibratory frequency as the self-organizing system based on meaning, we change the structure of our mind as our paradigm or “model of the world”, which modifies our perceptual lens – that we look through and perceive everything with – and as a result, things appear different to us. We can see in things what we didn’t notice before. We see ordinary things in a brand new light. We see everything from a brand new perspective, and through a brand new attitude. Not because it has actually changed, but because we’ve changed. We have changed our form and structure as the patterning of our mind, which is the “invisible” aspect of ourselves that has the ability to shape and reshape matter based on how it observes it and energetically interacts with it.

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Our attention is a field of energy that’s an active force as a self-organizing mechanism that enters into and directly affects matter by changing how it appears to us – to the mind interacting with it. In this way, the observer and the object being observed are not separate from each other, but are an interactive whole. Whatever we look at and consider, we enter into relationship with, blending with it energetically and restructuring it to appear to us the way we need it to in order to match our story about things. Everything around us is perceived as an image that’s reflected on a glass-like screen in the mind’s eye of the imagination, and becomes a transparent image that’s superimposed over the outer reality, where the outer is transformed to correspond with the vibratory patterning of the mind. An active force (directed attention) enters into the same passive force in everything around it, bringing it to life, and their integration forms a new version of both as a perception of reality as the “self” being perceived in another.

 
Once we understand this, we can use it as a tool of self-discovery that reveals to us aspects of ourselves that normally lie outside of our awareness. We can realize that how we judge others in terms of what we tell ourselves about them as an interpretation of their behaviors or what they’re saying, has nothing to do with the person themselves in terms of honestly seeing who they are as a person, but rather shows us what our criteria for judgment is and our “story about things” where we evaluate everyone to fit into and play a role in our story. We look at others in their behavior and how they’re being, and we say to ourselves . . . when they do this, it means that. When they say this, it means this about them. When they act this way, it means this. And so on. Usually without ever realizing that the reason for their behaviors may not have anything to do with what we think they mean, but rather are being expressed out of a completely different model than ours, one that we don’t have an accurate interpretation for. Yet, by recognizing this, we can begin to observe ourselves from a neutral and objective perspective where we can see what our own tendencies are. We can see what story it is as a theme that conveys meaning of some sort that we’re always in the process of telling ourselves and as the means for creating a consistent interpretation of everything around in order to understand it and know how to interact with it.

 
By recognizing our perceptions as a window to ourselves, we can bring into light what normally remains outside of our awareness. We can see what our own paradigm is that contains hidden aspects of ourselves that we’re not aware of because we’ve repressed them or are in denial about them, because when we expressed are true nature, we were harshly judged by others, and so we disowned them by denying them, even to ourselves, and began judging those same traits in other people in the same way we were judged. Because of this, we can recognize our own judgments of others as being about the same things we were judged for, which produced hidden aspects of ourselves that we pretend we don’t have. Once we realize that whatever we’re seeing in another is the same traits we ourselves possess, we can become aware of parts of ourselves that we’re not normally aware of. In becoming aware of them, and allowing ourselves to “own them” without judging, explaining why we have them, or attempting to justify them and our right to keep them, we integrate them into our mind, bringing them into balance within the rest of our personality, and quit “seeing it” in others. In this way, people appear different to us, because we ourselves are different, not so much in how we appear, but in how we think, feel, perceive, emote, and behave. The “being” inside the body changes how the mind and body functions, and through resonance, our outer perception of the world changes to match our inner perceptions.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

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Becoming more Conscious: Learning how to Listen to your Body

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As a society, we’ve been trained to dwell in a vast sea of distracted thoughts and engage in a random, scattered and often non-congruent form of thinking as a part of our daily communications with others. We live the greater part of our life without ever being truly present within ourselves and our immediate outer reality. We constantly look to other people’s opinions and experiences with things and adopt them as our own, often with complete trust that lacks the only form of validation there actually is, knowledge that comes to us through experience that brings self-realization. The only way we can truly know if something is “true” is through the experience of it. To have “knowledge of” something, is to be intimate with it as being the “same thing”.

 
Our body is always in the process of communicating with us and giving us a direct form of feedback. It’s always responding to the energy around us and how it feels, to what we just ate and the manner in which we ate it, and to what we’re dwelling in as the thoughts that prevent us from being self-aware, and keep us instead always residing in the detached space just outside of our body, and remain, for the most part, completely unaware of how we’re feeling. Yet our body is always in the process of interacting with the world around us in numerous ways, and is always providing us with immediate feedback, all we have to do is learn to calm our mind, focus our attention inward, and become aware of how we feel at any given moment.

 
While our body is most responsive to our own thoughts and imaginings, which actually act as a natural form of self-programming, it’s also giving us a constant form of feedback on the energy that exists in places, being radiated by the people around us, about the emotional state and underlying agenda’s of those we’re interacting with, the quality of the air we’re breathing, the food we just ate, and so on. Our body, which is synonymous with our subconscious mind, is a lot like a bio-electric antenna that’s always in the process of broadcasting, receiving, and processing information that exists all around us that we’re always interacting and exchanging energy with at the subtle level that lies just beneath our normal awareness.

 
The mind is the electromagnetic field that surrounds, envelops, and somewhat penetrates the body, shaped like a large revolving sphere of energy that pulsates in a rhythmic flow much like breathing. It unfolds and extends out into your immediate environment and forms resonance (magnetizes) with whatever is of the same vibratory frequency (within an acceptable range) or inner nature as we are, magnetizing and attaching it, then enfolding and bringing the information back into the  core of our body where it’s “sensed” and felt. The complementary aspects of the information being received that can be readily conformed to our existing model are synthesized into our overall system, altering it slightly (or sometimes drastically), shifting our frequency as an adjustment or modification, which becomes a new emanation of the slightly altered frequency. Likewise, any obsolete information is then discharged or pulsated outwards, using some to magnetize new information while discharging others, releasing it to be recycled. This constant flow and exchange is how the inner atmosphere of the body is always being adjusted to match the outer atmosphere as the most basic function of evolution.

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This same process of digestion and metabolism that the physical world is always undergoing, also governs the energetic realm of the mind that’s largely thought driven. Just as the molecules of the air we breathe becomes the molecules we use to build our body at the cellular level, which is in a constant state of regeneration. The energy as consciousness that exists all around us, is being magnetically digested and assimilated to regenerate our energetic matrix as our mental paradigm. This usually happens without our awareness because it’s subtle and gradual in nature and comes more as “feelings” that have an emotional quality to them, and when taken on, awaken those same emotions in us, creating the ideal conditions for their complementary thought-forms. Sometimes this is so subtle that we don’t readily recognize it, and at other times it’s quite pronounced and produces an emotional reaction that can be quite volatile.

 
The other reason it can seem so subtle that it goes unrecognized is because many people are consumed with the thoughts running through their mind that have nothing to do with what’s actually going on around them, and the imagined scenarios as story lines they’re always dwelling in that render them virtually unconscious to the present. While many bodily changes may be taking place in response to the energy around them, they’re so caught up in the body sensations taking place in response to their own thoughts, and so they fail to recognize them. Because of this tendency to be constantly distracted with thoughts that don’t pertain to the present, and being disconnected from our own body, much of the information our body is sending us goes ignored, until of course a state of emergency is reached and the body begins communicating in a different language, the language of physical pain, designed to get us to stop ignoring it and pay attention because a crisis is developing that could result in a life threatening event.

 
The primary difference between the two complementary aspects of the mind, the subconscious and self-conscious, is that the subconscious-body mind, doesn’t perceive “time”. It’s not distracted with imagined realities that aren’t actually real in the present moment. The subconscious is always present, always aware of what’s actually going on in its immediate environment, and making adjustments accordingly. It doesn’t create imagined realities of the past or the future that it lives out of in place of the actual present reality. The subconscious lives in the present and is “experiential” in nature, and emotionally connected to everything around it. It’s interacting with the “actual reality”, and is what produces automatic behaviors, that we do all the time without thinking about them.

 
The self-conscious mind is the verbal, language oriented, thought driven aspect of the mind that’s always distracted with its own thoughts about things that hardly ever have anything to do with the present moment. It’s the “living in your head” thing that most people do that exists “in time” (past and future), and is living an illusion in place of actual experience produced by being present. These thoughts and imaginings, usually as replaying memory, or projecting memory into the future creating a similar scenario as a prediction that forms an expectation of what’s to come, also act to provide the subconscious mind with a form of substitute reality that it perceives much like an actual reality, that programs it by providing it with a form of memory as actual information about the environment that modifies it in preparation for that reality. We are literally always in the process of programming ourselves through our imagined thoughts.

 
The imagined states we live out of as obsessive thoughts act to keep us prepared for that reality as an expectation that becomes our perceptual filter. The mind, which extends quite some distance from the body, is always gathering information from the environment and sending it back to the body, so the body can “prepare” for what’s coming. It adjusts to the perceived environment that it exists and needs to survive within. By closing down and clearing our mind of obsessive thoughts that aren’t real in the present, and turning our attention inward to our body, becoming aware of all the sensations and how we’re feeling, we can use our body as a means of measuring and interpreting everything around us in terms of how it makes us feel. We can sense whether we feel relaxed and calm, being stimulated with a distinct emotional sensation, or stirred with an inner turmoil, or have a sick and queezy feeling as an adverse reaction to something. While our body doesn’t communicate with us in words as verbal language, it does operate according to the law of analogies and correspondences, and if we concentrate on a feeling sensation in our body while in a passive mind-set, a natural mental impression will form as a reality associated to the feeling, which is a form of metaphor for understanding the nature of what’s causing the sensation. Our inner feelings are always interacting with the “inner nature” of everything else, and so reveal to us their “true” nature as their energetic constitution, regardless of what their outer appearance is like.

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When we become present in our life, form an awareness of our body and how we feel, we can use our body as a gauge or a form of navigation system. We can begin to realize what produces a “good effect” and what produces a “bad effect”, and what that’s telling us. We can realize the quality of consciousness present in different environments, in other people, in our relationships, in the air we breathe, in the food we eat and the water we drink, and so on. Our body is always giving us feedback about how things feel. All we have to do is become present in our body, form a relationship with it, sense and feel what’s happening within us, and use that information as a guide for what to do and what not to do. Our body let’s us know what to increase and have more of, and what to decrease or eliminate all together. It serves as a guide for what relationships to maintain, and which ones to let go. For what types of food to eat, and how to make health promoting, energizing dietary changes that will leave us feeling good.

 
Many of what we call illness and disease are actually direct feedback from our body about the lifestyle we’re living, in an attempt to provide us with what we need to make the changes necessary to restore our body to health, and a positive, high energy, feel-good state. For example, lactose intolerance is not something you should take a pill for so you can keep on drinking milk and eating cheese, it’s your body’s way of telling you it can’t digest it, and quit consuming it. Heart disease and hypertension is a condition caused by how you’re living, not only in dietary terms, but also your stress level and habitual emotional state that frames reality in a way that causes you to react negatively to your own thoughts about things. It’s your body’s way of saying you’re emotional thoughts and reactive behavior are destructive and will ultimately end up killing you if you don’t change it. Diabetes is calling your attention to the nature of your diet, and the state of your body in terms of being overweight, or not exercising. You’re maintaining a lifestyle and mental state that’s detrimental to your health. Again, it’s not warranting medication of some kind so you can keep on doing what you’re doing that’s killing yourself, it’s your body’s way of talking to you, providing you with evidence and feedback as direct and immediate affects, that also provide you with the information you need on how and what to change.

 
By becoming present in our body, and in our life in general, and removing our attention from unproductive emotional thoughts, and instead directing our attention to what’s going on within us and around us, we can realize what our body is prompting us to do by how we feel. When you choose a meal, choose one that you know is nutritious and will create a healthy happy body. As you eat it, think only about how healthy it is, and how you’re eating healthy because you love your body. After you’re done eating, sit quietly for a few minutes, and notice how your body feels in response to what you just gave it. Learn how to dialogue with your body through thoughts that form a strong feeling in your body. The “feeling” produced by your thoughts “is” the communication with your body, it’s an effect in the body as the equivalent of your thoughts. It’s not enough to go through the motions of saying it, you’ve got to mean it! You have to create the emotional expression of what you’re saying to yourself. Thought without feeling has no power to create.

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Likewise, when you go places, engage in activities, or are around certain people, calm your mind, become present and neutral, and notice how you’re feeling and what you’re sensing. Be present with the energy and see what emotional quality it has, and what mental impressions it naturally forms. Don’t force the interpretation or allow your normal judgmental mind to kick in and start running stuff, simply allow yourself to notice it, without needing to change it. Remain unattached to what you’re sensing. Don’t try and explain it or make it mean something, just sense it as it actually is. Then, see it for what it actually is, your body giving you immediate feedback as to the consciousness and energy of the person, people, or activity you’re engaged in. Use that neutral and unbiased information as factual and true to guide your decisions and how you interact. Don’t let your emotional mind come back in and start running your habitual mental script in the new situation, recreating it to mean the same thing.

 
By learning to relax, control our anxious thoughts always competing for our attention, and directing our attention instead into the present moment, and experiencing things by way of our body and the actual energy and consciousness that’s present with us, we can gain a whole new sense of ourselves and our relationship with life. We can become truly creative in the moment by directing our actions with full awareness and by interacting with what’s actually present with us. We can learn to see people and things as they actually are rather than as we reshape them to be like us through our biased judgments and habitual way of thinking and perceiving that creates illusions in place of reality.

 
When we walk into any situation with preconceived notions, and our perceptual lens rigidly formed by our judgments, that for the most part rob us of our ability to see others and reality as it actually is, apart from us, and unique unto itself, we simultaneously rob ourselves of the possibility for brand new experiences. By developing the ability to be present in our body and with the people and things around us, we can begin experiencing life and others in a whole new way. We can acquire the information and feedback we need to begin living our life in a much more conscious and aware fashion, and begin creating in a deliberate and precise manner as a result. We can learn how to live in our heart rather than in our head.

 
Simply begin observing your own mind, your own tendencies, and notice what you tend to think about in an automatic and habitual fashion, and what stories run through your mind that glaze over the present with memories of the past and keep you in a hopelessly distracted state, and recognize what it is that keeps you from being present . . . . and through this self-awareness, start practicing directing your mind to remain focused in the present and forming an awareness of how you’re feeling in relationship to your environment. Learn how to remain aware of your body and tuned into what you’re sensing through your body and what information your body’s always in the process of giving you. Tune out of the imagined reality and tune into the real reality. All opportunities only exist in the present moment. Tomorrow is being created today. You’re only ability to act, is in this moment.

 

Dr. Linda Gadbois

 

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Dr. Linda is a Spiritual Scientist and scholar of Hermetic Sciences and Ancient Wisdom traditions. She’s a professional educator and trainer for all areas of personal transformation, self-creation, mind development, and soul/spiritual evolution. She practices Integrative Medicine with a special emphasis on Psychology and Creative therapies. She conducts ongoing classes, Playshops, and Adventure Seminars, and is available for private or group training, mentoring, and speaking engagements.
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